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By *layboi69 OP   Man
over a year ago

alfreton

More of a rant realy there is a lot of people on here that are just plain rude! How hard is it to either say yes or a no? I recieved a few messages now and once replied answering the questions and providing pics etc there is no further contact with them people like that get on my nerves. Whats the point of sending a message asking if im free on so and so date then fucking off reading the message then being blanked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More of a rant realy there is a lot of people on here that are just plain rude! How hard is it to either say yes or a no? I recieved a few messages now and once replied answering the questions and providing pics etc there is no further contact with them people like that get on my nerves. Whats the point of sending a message asking if im free on so and so date then fucking off reading the message then being blanked."

They messages to see if you were suitable

Decided you wasn't

Went onto look for somebody else

Though that would be obvious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not rude not to reply, just take it as a 'no thanks' and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FAQs state that no reply = not interested, and it isn't rude to not reply.

When a takeaway posts a menu through your door, do you contact the takeaway to say you're not interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FAQs state that no reply = not interested, and it isn't rude to not reply.

When a takeaway posts a menu through your door, do you contact the takeaway to say you're not interested?"

No but I always call them with a polite thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FAQs state that no reply = not interested, and it isn't rude to not reply.

When a takeaway posts a menu through your door, do you contact the takeaway to say you're not interested?

No but I always call them with a polite thanks "

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By *layboi69 OP   Man
over a year ago

alfreton

Still rude tho especialy when they are the ones asking you. Dont take 2 min of your time to type soz but changed our mind etc no manners cost fuck all

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop


"More of a rant realy there is a lot of people on here that are just plain rude! How hard is it to either say yes or a no? I recieved a few messages now and once replied answering the questions and providing pics etc there is no further contact with them people like that get on my nerves. Whats the point of sending a message asking if im free on so and so date then fucking off reading the message then being blanked."

People owe you nothing on here. And they don't have to reply.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Still rude tho especialy when they are the ones asking you. Dont take 2 min of your time to type soz but changed our mind etc no manners cost fuck all "

People deleting or not replying to messages is a common thing on here. I'd go as far to say, it's one of the most common complaints.

Rude or not, it's not going to change, so you just have to accept it. A delete or no reply = not interested. It happens to lots of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, and OP - you'll catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. Just saying.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If I ever get a 'no fucking chance! ' reply, my brain translates it as "OMG Steve, we sooooo want you for sex but we are too busy but we will contact you soon"

It makes for a happier fab experience.

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By *layboi69 OP   Man
over a year ago

alfreton


"If I ever get a 'no fucking chance! ' reply, my brain translates it as "OMG Steve, we sooooo want you for sex but we are too busy but we will contact you soon"

It makes for a happier fab experience. "

hahaha

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I have had to say no on 5 separate occasions this afternoon to 4 separate guys. As soon as you message they just keep coming g back at you.

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By *hynot5642Man
over a year ago

Southampton


"It's not rude not to reply, just take it as a 'no thanks' and move on"

If someone has contacted you and asked a question to which you have taken the trouble to reply to then, I would consider some sort of reply even in no thanks would be polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often if I reply no thanks, I get further messages, like ...why not....if say too far, get message....why it's only 25 miles.....

No reply is not rude....women get inundated with messages, whether they have messaged you first or not, it's still not rude.

XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More of a rant realy there is a lot of people on here that are just plain rude! How hard is it to either say yes or a no? I recieved a few messages now and once replied answering the questions and providing pics etc there is no further contact with them people like that get on my nerves. Whats the point of sending a message asking if im free on so and so date then fucking off reading the message then being blanked."

Can I ask, what came first, the ranty profile or the ranty thread? Coz honestly, one look at/ read of your profile and I wouldn't bother even messaging you once.

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By *layboi69 OP   Man
over a year ago

alfreton


"More of a rant realy there is a lot of people on here that are just plain rude! How hard is it to either say yes or a no? I recieved a few messages now and once replied answering the questions and providing pics etc there is no further contact with them people like that get on my nerves. Whats the point of sending a message asking if im free on so and so date then fucking off reading the message then being blanked.

Can I ask, what came first, the ranty profile or the ranty thread? Coz honestly, one look at/ read of your profile and I wouldn't bother even messaging you once. "
and vice verca but the profile was filled in after recieving messages and replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like i said before, send yourself 383 no messages.

to do this go to your profile, click send message. do this until you have 383 messages in your inbox.

come back here when you've finished and let us all know how easy that was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FAQs state that no reply = not interested, and it isn't rude to not reply.

When a takeaway posts a menu through your door, do you contact the takeaway to say you're not interested?"

It aeems men don't read profiles women dont read forum posts.

They messaged him first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"like i said before, send yourself 383 no messages.

to do this go to your profile, click send message. do this until you have 383 messages in your inbox.

come back here when you've finished and let us all know how easy that was."

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"like i said before, send yourself 383 no messages.

to do this go to your profile, click send message. do this until you have 383 messages in your inbox.

come back here when you've finished and let us all know how easy that was."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"like i said before, send yourself 383 no messages.

to do this go to your profile, click send message. do this until you have 383 messages in your inbox.

come back here when you've finished and let us all know how easy that was.

"

this should be the default answer for any guy moaning about not getting a no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"like i said before, send yourself 383 no messages.

to do this go to your profile, click send message. do this until you have 383 messages in your inbox.

come back here when you've finished and let us all know how easy that was."

Well if you have too many messages already perhaps don't message men asking if they're free on xyz dates then compalin youre too busy to read thier reply?

I swear its hilarious the people posting who've not read the ops post and just thenfirst line are the ones always complaining about profiles not being read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"like i said before, send yourself 383 no messages.

to do this go to your profile, click send message. do this until you have 383 messages in your inbox.

come back here when you've finished and let us all know how easy that was.

Well if you have too many messages already perhaps don't message men asking if they're free on xyz dates then compalin youre too busy to read thier reply?

I swear its hilarious the people posting who've not read the ops post and just thenfirst line are the ones always complaining about profiles not being read"

i haven't done that though.

my profile is really specific about what i'm looking for on here and all i've done is open my filters so men, women, and tv/ts can send me their kik if they want adding to my cuckold group.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"like i said before, send yourself 383 no messages.

to do this go to your profile, click send message. do this until you have 383 messages in your inbox.

come back here when you've finished and let us all know how easy that was.

Well if you have too many messages already perhaps don't message men asking if they're free on xyz dates then compalin youre too busy to read thier reply?

I swear its hilarious the people posting who've not read the ops post and just thenfirst line are the ones always complaining about profiles not being read"

sorry i get you now, yeah i'm kind of brain dead when on this site lately. oh well. fuck it OP, they just don't fancy you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"like i said before, send yourself 383 no messages.

to do this go to your profile, click send message. do this until you have 383 messages in your inbox.

come back here when you've finished and let us all know how easy that was.

Well if you have too many messages already perhaps don't message men asking if they're free on xyz dates then compalin youre too busy to read thier reply?

I swear its hilarious the people posting who've not read the ops post and just thenfirst line are the ones always complaining about profiles not being read

i haven't done that though.

my profile is really specific about what i'm looking for on here and all i've done is open my filters so men, women, and tv/ts can send me their kik if they want adding to my cuckold group.

Yes you have you've frequently made posts complaing that men dont read profiles.

Youve then completely ignored or miss read the op and made posts wholey out of line because of it."

yeah i think i need some sex to get my brain going again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More of a rant realy there is a lot of people on here that are just plain rude! How hard is it to either say yes or a no? I recieved a few messages now and once replied answering the questions and providing pics etc there is no further contact with them people like that get on my nerves. Whats the point of sending a message asking if im free on so and so date then fucking off reading the message then being blanked."

Some people try to be polite and explain why there wont be a reply......But most people dont read profiles....which is a bit rude lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More of a rant realy there is a lot of people on here that are just plain rude! How hard is it to either say yes or a no? I recieved a few messages now and once replied answering the questions and providing pics etc there is no further contact with them people like that get on my nerves. Whats the point of sending a message asking if im free on so and so date then fucking off reading the message then being blanked."

They were probably Time wasters and you saved yourself a no show.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don't mind no reply's, but I do wish they would delete the message, once its read and not deleted I think there still could be a chance that they have left it there to reply later, of course they never do!

Deleating the message would stop me checking a few times a day just in case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind no reply's, but I do wish they would delete the message, once its read and not deleted I think there still could be a chance that they have left it there to reply later, of course they never do!

Deleating the message would stop me checking a few times a day just in case "

I am terrible for this. I do often read a message and think I'll get back to him....then it gets lost.

I had to start a new email address when it got to 47,000 unread.....my mail boxes are very unorganised.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I don't mind no reply's, but I do wish they would delete the message, once its read and not deleted I think there still could be a chance that they have left it there to reply later, of course they never do!

Deleating the message would stop me checking a few times a day just in case

I am terrible for this. I do often read a message and think I'll get back to him....then it gets lost.

I had to start a new email address when it got to 47,000 unread.....my mail boxes are very unorganised. "

That explains why you've never replied

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind no reply's, but I do wish they would delete the message, once its read and not deleted I think there still could be a chance that they have left it there to reply later, of course they never do!

Deleating the message would stop me checking a few times a day just in case

I am terrible for this. I do often read a message and think I'll get back to him....then it gets lost.

I had to start a new email address when it got to 47,000 unread.....my mail boxes are very unorganised.

That explains why you've never replied "

You never messaged.!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"It's not rude not to reply, just take it as a 'no thanks' and move on

If someone has contacted you and asked a question to which you have taken the trouble to reply to then, I would consider some sort of reply even in no thanks would be polite."

So would I/we.

A lot of people find it easier just ignoring, deleting or blocking if they've changed their mind. ( Regardless of who made first contact)

As frustrating as it can be at times, that's life on Fab.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I don't mind no reply's, but I do wish they would delete the message, once its read and not deleted I think there still could be a chance that they have left it there to reply later, of course they never do!

Deleating the message would stop me checking a few times a day just in case

I am terrible for this. I do often read a message and think I'll get back to him....then it gets lost.

I had to start a new email address when it got to 47,000 unread.....my mail boxes are very unorganised.

That explains why you've never replied

You never messaged.! "

when you get through the 47,000 before me let me know, Ill fire over my "Hi, Hows the weekend going"

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

If I'm not interested then I won't waste my time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind no reply's, but I do wish they would delete the message, once its read and not deleted I think there still could be a chance that they have left it there to reply later, of course they never do!

Deleating the message would stop me checking a few times a day just in case

I am terrible for this. I do often read a message and think I'll get back to him....then it gets lost.

I had to start a new email address when it got to 47,000 unread.....my mail boxes are very unorganised.

That explains why you've never replied

You never messaged.!

when you get through the 47,000 before me let me know, Ill fire over my "Hi, Hows the weekend going"

"

Haha. That was on my normal email...I kept replying to spam and they kept sending replies to my replies...

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By *hynot5642Man
over a year ago

Southampton


"like i said before, send yourself 383 no messages.

to do this go to your profile, click send message. do this until you have 383 messages in your inbox.

come back here when you've finished and let us all know how easy that was.

Well if you have too many messages already perhaps don't message men asking if they're free on xyz dates then compalin youre too busy to read thier reply?

I swear its hilarious the people posting who've not read the ops post and just thenfirst line are the ones always complaining about profiles not being read"

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I don't mind no reply's, but I do wish they would delete the message, once its read and not deleted I think there still could be a chance that they have left it there to reply later, of course they never do!

Deleating the message would stop me checking a few times a day just in case

I am terrible for this. I do often read a message and think I'll get back to him....then it gets lost.

I had to start a new email address when it got to 47,000 unread.....my mail boxes are very unorganised.

That explains why you've never replied

You never messaged.!

when you get through the 47,000 before me let me know, Ill fire over my "Hi, Hows the weekend going"

Haha. That was on my normal email...I kept replying to spam and they kept sending replies to my replies... "

Cool, well here goes......

Hi, Hows the weekend going?

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"I have had to say no on 5 separate occasions this afternoon to 4 separate guys. As soon as you message they just keep coming g back at you.

"

I had one today.he kept asking why?and then got arsey.

In the end i told him it was because he was ugly as fk and had a small cock..i should have just deleted the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had to say no on 5 separate occasions this afternoon to 4 separate guys. As soon as you message they just keep coming g back at you.

I had one today.he kept asking why?and then got arsey.

In the end i told him it was because he was ugly as fk and had a small cock..i should have just deleted the message"

Haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind no reply's, but I do wish they would delete the message, once its read and not deleted I think there still could be a chance that they have left it there to reply later, of course they never do!

Deleating the message would stop me checking a few times a day just in case

I am terrible for this. I do often read a message and think I'll get back to him....then it gets lost.

I had to start a new email address when it got to 47,000 unread.....my mail boxes are very unorganised.

That explains why you've never replied

You never messaged.!

when you get through the 47,000 before me let me know, Ill fire over my "Hi, Hows the weekend going"

Haha. That was on my normal email...I kept replying to spam and they kept sending replies to my replies...

Cool, well here goes......

Hi, Hows the weekend going? "

It's not the weekend......did you read my profile?

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I don't mind no reply's, but I do wish they would delete the message, once its read and not deleted I think there still could be a chance that they have left it there to reply later, of course they never do!

Deleating the message would stop me checking a few times a day just in case

I am terrible for this. I do often read a message and think I'll get back to him....then it gets lost.

I had to start a new email address when it got to 47,000 unread.....my mail boxes are very unorganised.

That explains why you've never replied

You never messaged.!

when you get through the 47,000 before me let me know, Ill fire over my "Hi, Hows the weekend going"

Haha. That was on my normal email...I kept replying to spam and they kept sending replies to my replies...

Cool, well here goes......

Hi, Hows the weekend going?

It's not the weekend......did you read my profile? "

Ive not even opened your profile, that would just be like Bullseye

"Lets see what you could of won!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind no reply's, but I do wish they would delete the message, once its read and not deleted I think there still could be a chance that they have left it there to reply later, of course they never do!

Deleating the message would stop me checking a few times a day just in case

I am terrible for this. I do often read a message and think I'll get back to him....then it gets lost.

I had to start a new email address when it got to 47,000 unread.....my mail boxes are very unorganised.

That explains why you've never replied

You never messaged.!

when you get through the 47,000 before me let me know, Ill fire over my "Hi, Hows the weekend going"

Haha. That was on my normal email...I kept replying to spam and they kept sending replies to my replies...

Cool, well here goes......

Hi, Hows the weekend going?

It's not the weekend......did you read my profile?

Ive not even opened your profile, that would just be like Bullseye

"Lets see what you could of won!""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can answer this cos on my old Athena and Seawitch profiles I had all filters on, nobody could get through so I had to send all the messages. I'd see someone who would have a handsome public face picture but no public penis or a public penis and no face, I'd message them asking for more pics then not be satisfied with what I was sent. I'd feel like a dick head saying no then cos I initiated the contact. I just used to mark the message as unread!

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I don't mind no reply's, but I do wish they would delete the message, once its read and not deleted I think there still could be a chance that they have left it there to reply later, of course they never do!

Deleating the message would stop me checking a few times a day just in case

I am terrible for this. I do often read a message and think I'll get back to him....then it gets lost.

I had to start a new email address when it got to 47,000 unread.....my mail boxes are very unorganised.

That explains why you've never replied

You never messaged.!

when you get through the 47,000 before me let me know, Ill fire over my "Hi, Hows the weekend going"

Haha. That was on my normal email...I kept replying to spam and they kept sending replies to my replies...

Cool, well here goes......

Hi, Hows the weekend going?

It's not the weekend......did you read my profile?

Ive not even opened your profile, that would just be like Bullseye

"Lets see what you could of won!"

"

Out of your age range oh well....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"like i said before, send yourself 383 no messages.

to do this go to your profile, click send message. do this until you have 383 messages in your inbox.

come back here when you've finished and let us all know how easy that was.

Well if you have too many messages already perhaps don't message men asking if they're free on xyz dates then compalin youre too busy to read thier reply?

I swear its hilarious the people posting who've not read the ops post and just thenfirst line are the ones always complaining about profiles not being read"

Just coz we have loads of messages already doesn't mean we can't browse and message members ourselves. Kindly don't tell us what to do Sir. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had to say no on 5 separate occasions this afternoon to 4 separate guys. As soon as you message they just keep coming g back at you.

I had one today.he kept asking why?and then got arsey.

In the end i told him it was because he was ugly as fk and had a small cock..i should have just deleted the message"

lol i did that to a guy who asked why i hadn't replied to his messages asking for a meet now when i had a status up asking for that.

i said the other 40+ guys who'd replied in the past 2 mins were all better looking than him, then blocked him.

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By *litheroevoyeurMan
over a year ago

Clitheroe


"FAQs state that no reply = not interested, and it isn't rude to not reply.

When a takeaway posts a menu through your door, do you contact the takeaway to say you're not interested?

No but I always call them with a polite thanks "

FAB don't define the English language so despite what drivel they claim, it is rude to ignore someone who has taken the time and effort to make contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FAQs state that no reply = not interested, and it isn't rude to not reply.

When a takeaway posts a menu through your door, do you contact the takeaway to say you're not interested?

No but I always call them with a polite thanks

FAB don't define the English language so despite what drivel they claim, it is rude to ignore someone who has taken the time and effort to make contact.

"

and this is why i've had all men blocked for the majority of the past 8 months. so they cannot contact me and therefore also cannot expect anything from me.

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By *litheroevoyeurMan
over a year ago

Clitheroe


"FAQs state that no reply = not interested, and it isn't rude to not reply.

When a takeaway posts a menu through your door, do you contact the takeaway to say you're not interested?

No but I always call them with a polite thanks

FAB don't define the English language so despite what drivel they claim, it is rude to ignore someone who has taken the time and effort to make contact.

and this is why i've had all men blocked for the majority of the past 8 months. so they cannot contact me and therefore also cannot expect anything from me.

"

Excellent so you are not rude to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FAQs state that no reply = not interested, and it isn't rude to not reply.

When a takeaway posts a menu through your door, do you contact the takeaway to say you're not interested?

No but I always call them with a polite thanks

FAB don't define the English language so despite what drivel they claim, it is rude to ignore someone who has taken the time and effort to make contact.

and this is why i've had all men blocked for the majority of the past 8 months. so they cannot contact me and therefore also cannot expect anything from me.

Excellent so you are not rude to them.

"

yeah i am rude actually if my filters are off and i don't want to chat to someone who messages me at that time.

like i open them for arranging meets or new friends or for other specific reasons, but i'll choose who i want to chat to then put my filters back on...but if i'd replied to say "no thanks" to anyone they can get round those filters, see? i don't want that. the filters are not efficient enough for me to have manners.

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"I have had to say no on 5 separate occasions this afternoon to 4 separate guys. As soon as you message they just keep coming g back at you.

"

Agreed. Then they want to know WHY I am not interested. After which usually comes the insults etc....

Some guys don't accept 'no thankyou ' very easily.

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I had a bloke yesterday message me five times (before I had had chance to even read ONE message from him ) and when I said "sorry you're not what I'm looking" he said

"How can I change? I want to meet you. I'll do anything"

In disbelief I just blocked him.

So OP, it is easier to not reply. If I had to write "sorry you're not what I'm looking for" every time I had a message from someone I wasn't interested in, and they replied saying "thank you" or "why aren't I" I would lose the mail from people im actually interested in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind no reply's, but I do wish they would delete the message, once its read and not deleted I think there still could be a chance that they have left it there to reply later, of course they never do!

Deleating the message would stop me checking a few times a day just in case "

Be proactive buddy,

After sending a message, delete it from the sent folder.

If you get a reply, great! If not don't waste your time worrying about it by going back and seeing if it's read or not

I feel for single women on here and what they must endure, it's why I hardly ever message and just stick to clubs and socials instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a bloke yesterday message me five times (before I had had chance to even read ONE message from him ) and when I said "sorry you're not what I'm looking" he said

"How can I change? I want to meet you. I'll do anything"

In disbelief I just blocked him.

So OP, it is easier to not reply. If I had to write "sorry you're not what I'm looking for" every time I had a message from someone I wasn't interested in, and they replied saying "thank you" or "why aren't I" I would lose the mail from people im actually interested in. "

I can't believe how needy some guys are on here! If they pestered women that much in public, they would end up with a restraining order! Just because it is fab doesn't mean that everyone has abandoned their selection process. If you aren't what that person is looking for, then get over yourself! If all else fails try changing hands!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a bloke yesterday message me five times (before I had had chance to even read ONE message from him ) and when I said "sorry you're not what I'm looking" he said

"How can I change? I want to meet you. I'll do anything"

In disbelief I just blocked him.

So OP, it is easier to not reply. If I had to write "sorry you're not what I'm looking for" every time I had a message from someone I wasn't interested in, and they replied saying "thank you" or "why aren't I" I would lose the mail from people im actually interested in. "

But in this case youd have had to have messaged him first for it to be relevant.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I think it is a bit different if the other person initiated the contact them changed their mind.

I can see where the OP is coming from in some ways.

However, it's undeniably true that women and couples get a hard time if they do reply to someone who initiated contact. I suspect they've experienced that and think a "why not" or worse reply is even more likely if they change their mind with someone they themselves contacted first.

They probably think it's best to just leave it. Hard in a way, but seeing the messages women and couples get makes it understandable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"......I do wish they would delete the message, once its read .....not deleted I think there still could be a chance .......

"

I think thats a fair expectation and something we will do in future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind no reply's, but I do wish they would delete the message, once its read and not deleted I think there still could be a chance that they have left it there to reply later, of course they never do!

Deleating the message would stop me checking a few times a day just in case

I am terrible for this. I do often read a message and think I'll get back to him....then it gets lost.

I had to start a new email address when it got to 47,000 unread.....my mail boxes are very unorganised. "

I don't get that many messages, but I do get quite a few, some from people I am chatting to and more than a few from people who want to chat to me. I often 'lose' people in amongst the messages and have failed to remember to message them back. One guy recently (inadvertently) ignored, sent me a nasty one-liner and blocked me, which I think was out-of-order, all he had to do was send me a quick 'Hi, where have you gone?'. Guys just don't appreciate the burden that multiple messages are.

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury


"More of a rant realy there is a lot of people on here that are just plain rude! How hard is it to either say yes or a no? I recieved a few messages now and once replied answering the questions and providing pics etc there is no further contact with them people like that get on my nerves. Whats the point of sending a message asking if im free on so and so date then fucking off reading the message then being blanked."

Did you send a dick pic

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

I do not send many messages....but if I do send a message, I am really interested, so I take my time, read their profile and try and keep the message polite and with a 'funny angle!'

It is their (the ladies) choice, if they do not reply...respect that...it may be a swinging/sex site but respect is everything

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I had a bloke yesterday message me five times (before I had had chance to even read ONE message from him ) and when I said "sorry you're not what I'm looking" he said

"How can I change? I want to meet you. I'll do anything"

In disbelief I just blocked him.

So OP, it is easier to not reply. If I had to write "sorry you're not what I'm looking for" every time I had a message from someone I wasn't interested in, and they replied saying "thank you" or "why aren't I" I would lose the mail from people im actually interested in.

But in this case youd have had to have messaged him first for it to be relevant. "

Why? I don't get your point

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