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Met a guy who doesn't want me to play with anyone else

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Feel a bit unsure if I should see him again as I travel with work and post meets in other areas - mainly social. However he noticed I had one posted and said he was very hurt and thought I obviously wasn't keen enough on seeing just him.

Not sure if I should tell him to sod off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your single so isn't up to you what you do and who you meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it have to be 'sod off'?

Why not decide what you want and tell him and give him the option to decide whether it's for him or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it seems strange that he should assume exclusivity! Your verifications point to a free spirit so he should make the most of it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, OP, he is still on here, so ask him why?

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose


"Feel a bit unsure if I should see him again as I travel with work and post meets in other areas - mainly social. However he noticed I had one posted and said he was very hurt and thought I obviously wasn't keen enough on seeing just him.

Not sure if I should tell him to sod off. "

Is *he* implying he's seeing you exclusively?

If so, he thinks you're his girlfriend.

If not, he's just a massively controlling dick.

Either way, think seriously about fleeing.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Does it have to be 'sod off'?

Why not decide what you want and tell him and give him the option to decide whether it's for him or not

"

Yes, I was just going to say this. There does seem to be a bit of a climate of aggression on here about things like this, though reading the OP's profile it looks like that is definitely not what she wants and I would just say 'Sorry, that's not what I want'!!.

I have been exclusive with people on here - if they fulfill my needs that that suits me fine, each to his own.

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

If your both on here then you both have your own reasons for being so,if you want to be exclusive or not,again you can choose

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

As everyone else has said, there's only one person can choose whether you play with others or not OP, and it's most definitely not him!!

Mr G

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

There are male bunny-boilers aboutas well as female.

Looks like you've found one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its call a swinging site for a reason , ? am i right ?????

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Someone tried dictating to me what I should be doing only after two meets once. Now I wasn't actually interested in meeting anyone else at the time and told him I was on the forums just to chat,but when you have some one saying well why do you want to speak to stranger's on a forum alarm bells started ringing. We hadn't agreed in anything. I don't need someone being possessive after only two meets,we went around in circles so it ended before it had even begun.

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By *parkle LoungeWoman
over a year ago

Cornwall

I had that and ended up having a 3 year relationship with him. He wants more than just a FB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's up to you if you want to have an exclusive relationship with him. Only you can make that decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You sound surprised op. Ive started to just meet couples as this is the norm with single fems on here ive found

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well it seems strange that he should assume exclusivity! Your verifications point to a free spirit so he should make the most of it! "

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did he have bad teeth?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Feel a bit unsure if I should see him again as I travel with work and post meets in other areas - mainly social. However he noticed I had one posted and said he was very hurt and thought I obviously wasn't keen enough on seeing just him.

Not sure if I should tell him to sod off. "

Tell him to sod off you can be more diplomatic but the end result should be the same. I bet he won't be shagging anyone else? Huh! Dream on....

Do what you want to and don't let insecure or possessive men dictate to you what you do.

*gallops off on his white steed*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this,

It wasnt pleasant to be reading messages having a go at me for uploading new photos without showing him first or publishing a verification of a cam/phone call/ social

He was extremely controlling and almost nasty when he spoke to me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Just for the record, I find ladies who have plenty of sexual partners and a healthy sex life are very sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would get rid now. I sense drama in the future if you give him a choice and he says he'll be happy for you to meet other men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He is on the wrong site....not you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just for the record, I find ladies who have plenty of sexual partners and a healthy sex life are very sexy. "

I don't feel this site is for one person to be faithful myself personally. I like to meet different people and some folk obviously can't handle that

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Feel a bit unsure if I should see him again as I travel with work and post meets in other areas - mainly social. However he noticed I had one posted and said he was very hurt and thought I obviously wasn't keen enough on seeing just him.

Not sure if I should tell him to sod off. "

Not necessarily. But you need to be absolutely clear about what you want and if that doesn't match what he's after then you're better off stopping contact now.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Just for the record, I find ladies who have plenty of sexual partners and a healthy sex life are very sexy.

I don't feel this site is for one person to be faithful myself personally. I like to meet different people and some folk obviously can't handle that"

It's good to handle two people at once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he's made this about him already, his hurt feelings, his ego, he isn't enough.

i'd probably tell him to fuck off, hate pity parties myself.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

There's nothing wrong with wanting to meet no one else. Not everyone wants to bounce all over the site, me being one of them. I'm sure he's not looking for a relationship but maybe he's comfortable meeting just one or 2 people. I'm the same. I like kinky/filthy sex so having 1 or 2 playmates is a good way to keep it dirty and risk free.

If you don't want that then tell him, I'm sure he's grown up and can handle it but the uncertainty is probably what's confused him.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

only (OP) can decide whats best for you but if you want to continue seeing others then you need to give him an ultimatun either accept or move on

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I personally would tell him that I am free to see others, as is he, and I will continue to do so. If he takes it well I would see him again. Should he start to strop like a 3yr old then that would be that.

But the choice is yours.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I think the op loves drama! Every thread is about some bloke this...Some bloke that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feel a bit unsure if I should see him again as I travel with work and post meets in other areas - mainly social. However he noticed I had one posted and said he was very hurt and thought I obviously wasn't keen enough on seeing just him.

Not sure if I should tell him to sod off. "

Tell him you aren't keen enough on seeing just him, then ask him when you said you was?

I'm assuming this wasn't an agreement you made by this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feel a bit unsure if I should see him again as I travel with work and post meets in other areas - mainly social. However he noticed I had one posted and said he was very hurt and thought I obviously wasn't keen enough on seeing just him.

Not sure if I should tell him to sod off. "

What part of swinging doesn't he understand. If it were me I would show him the door.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the op loves drama! Every thread is about some bloke this...Some bloke that! "

Nah...just like to hear people's thoughts...sadly I lead a very quiet humdrum existence! Not enough drama!

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