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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Women delete messages without even reading them after you take ages writing them and posting what pics are appropriate without knowing what the lady would find offensive. Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 19/07/16 23:27:21]

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

They look at the message, check out your profile and delete if it's a no thank you.

See FAQ section at the very bottom of the page

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not the man they are looking for and don't write a no thank you message. It's quicker to delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some read profiles before they even read the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll get used to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 19/07/16 23:27:21]"

Very clever indeed..

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

And sometimes your inbox is so full you do a mass delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And welcome to Fab. You'll get used to it. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think, unless they state on their profile that they want to see a penis picture you should assume that most women don't. A face picture and a full body picture with your message should stop anybody getting offended by anything.

I insist on a face and penis picture and it's on my profile, whatever someone has written on their profile that's the most important thing(s) to them. Look at mine for example, a guy is more likely to get a response if he is the things I'm asking for on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I have so many messages it feels overwhelming so I bulk delete. Many of them won't even have been seen!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Women delete messages without even reading them after you take ages writing them and posting what pics are appropriate without knowing what the lady would find offensive. Why?"

I look at the profile before I open the message. If that's not worth reading I'm pretty sure the message won't be much better.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House


"I look at the profile before I open the message. If that's not worth reading I'm pretty sure the message won't be much better. "

This. Also I find that men usually can't read. My profile says couples or black guys. Most messages are from single white guys so I delete those instantly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like most of these other ladies I read the profile before opening the message and a lot of the time I'll delete without even looking at the profile if the distance is too far. Seems harsh but the volume of messages can be overwhelming x

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"Women delete messages without even reading them after you take ages writing them and posting what pics are appropriate without knowing what the lady would find offensive. Why?"

Why invest in writing long messages that you know 9/10 times will be delete or left unread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women delete messages without even reading them after you take ages writing them and posting what pics are appropriate without knowing what the lady would find offensive. Why?

Why invest in writing long messages that you know 9/10 times will be delete or left unread."

this basically.

your profile should hold all the info to let people know if they'd like to meet you or not. your message should just be the best way of introducing yourself to someone you'd like to meet.

that's not a critique, i haven't looked at your profile, but this would make it a lot easier for women on here to reply or browse guys themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they're not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women delete messages without even reading them after you take ages writing them and posting what pics are appropriate without knowing what the lady would find offensive. Why?"

Most women only require a face pic with first message. What's offensive about that? Or are you sending pictures that maybe considered by some offensive?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Women delete messages without even reading them after you take ages writing them and posting what pics are appropriate without knowing what the lady would find offensive. Why?"

*sings*

"Why? Oh Why? Delilah!"

Does it matter, OP? What would you did you knew the absolute real reason? Nothing. There is nothing you can do. They don't want to have sex with you. That's as good a reason as any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile says Im looking to meet women at the moment so I bulk delete daily. No offence meant but the sheer volume of messages I do not have the time to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women delete messages without even reading them after you take ages writing them and posting what pics are appropriate without knowing what the lady would find offensive. Why?"

I think there are as many answers to this as there are women

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By *amelhunterMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"And sometimes your inbox is so full you do a mass delete "

I've seen woman saying they do this. And I've seen times when I have gone to message someone, and get that, you have already messaged user thing.

That's where it gets confusing, should I take chance and message, just in case previous message was among mass delete. Or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women delete messages without even reading them after you take ages writing them and posting what pics are appropriate without knowing what the lady would find offensive. Why?"

because the ratio of men to women is about 100/1 so most women are getting 100+ messages a day if they were to tailor a response to every message they would spend all day on here don't take it to heart take it as a "no thanks your not for me"

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By *lack RoccoMan
over a year ago

London

Its flamming rude and annoying. In return instant block. Just shows they aint been raised right in my book. Courtesy and manners goes a long way. And if you ever stumble accross this types at pvt parties or a club. And you recognise each other. It can be the most upsetting and awkward being in their presence

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By *lack RoccoMan
over a year ago

London


"Women delete messages without even reading them after you take ages writing them and posting what pics are appropriate without knowing what the lady would find offensive. Why?

Why invest in writing long messages that you know 9/10 times will be delete or left unread."

Its like one cant win. If you write one line you are considered by most women to be boring unless u got a 8pack with a 20 inch cock write a engaging sincere msg and it's still an issue... lmfao. More pathetic and confusing

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"[Removed by poster at 19/07/16 23:27:21]

Very clever indeed.. "

Made me smile too

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Women delete messages without even reading them after you take ages writing them and posting what pics are appropriate without knowing what the lady would find offensive. Why?

Why invest in writing long messages that you know 9/10 times will be delete or left unread.

Its like one cant win. If you write one line you are considered by most women to be boring unless u got a 8pack with a 20 inch cock write a engaging sincere msg and it's still an issue... lmfao. More pathetic and confusing "

The message needn't be long or detailed, just specific and engaging.

It's the quality of the profile that counts and which attracts the necessary attention.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"Women delete messages without even reading them after you take ages writing them and posting what pics are appropriate without knowing what the lady would find offensive. Why?

Why invest in writing long messages that you know 9/10 times will be delete or left unread.

Its like one cant win. If you write one line you are considered by most women to be boring unless u got a 8pack with a 20 inch cock write a engaging sincere msg and it's still an issue... lmfao. More pathetic and confusing "

It doesnt matter how good your message is if when they check your profile and you are not what they are looking for.Delete and crack on with the other 100plus messages from all the single guys..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its flamming rude and annoying. In return instant block. Just shows they aint been raised right in my book. Courtesy and manners goes a long way. And if you ever stumble accross this types at pvt parties or a club. And you recognise each other. It can be the most upsetting and awkward being in their presence "

How many messages per day would you be prepared to write a written rejection message to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women delete messages without even reading them after you take ages writing them and posting what pics are appropriate without knowing what the lady would find offensive. Why?

Why invest in writing long messages that you know 9/10 times will be delete or left unread.

Its like one cant win. If you write one line you are considered by most women to be boring unless u got a 8pack with a 20 inch cock write a engaging sincere msg and it's still an issue... lmfao. More pathetic and confusing "

I don't think anybody complains about receiving an engaging sincere message.

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

Allways read and reply its called being nice' but wont fall into the trap of replying message after message from the same guy x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Its flamming rude and annoying. In return instant block. Just shows they aint been raised right in my book. Courtesy and manners goes a long way. And if you ever stumble accross this types at pvt parties or a club. And you recognise each other. It can be the most upsetting and awkward being in their presence "

Why would receiving 16 messages all saying, in various ways "I don't want sex with you" make you feel good? The sites FAQ state quite clearly that it's NOT rude to ignore any message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some read profiles before they even read the message. "

I do this...

Although after I read the message I always respond ... usually with a 'no thanks'

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By *s ParisWoman
over a year ago

My Dungeon Room

I don't get many messages but I do reply if the message is from someone I'm interested in. But my profile states I'm currently looking for ladies only at the moment, and I get messages from men those I delete as they can't be bothered to read my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its flamming rude and annoying. In return instant block. Just shows they aint been raised right in my book. Courtesy and manners goes a long way. And if you ever stumble accross this types at pvt parties or a club. And you recognise each other. It can be the most upsetting and awkward being in their presence "

i've got 383 unread messages. i'm not on here a lot and tbf i don't bother replying to most messages anyway.

please do messages yourself 383 times to reject yourself to get a clue about what it would be like to be female on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its flamming rude and annoying. In return instant block. Just shows they aint been raised right in my book. Courtesy and manners goes a long way. And if you ever stumble accross this types at pvt parties or a club. And you recognise each other. It can be the most upsetting and awkward being in their presence

i've got 383 unread messages. i'm not on here a lot and tbf i don't bother replying to most messages anyway.

please do messages yourself 383 times to reject yourself to get a clue about what it would be like to be female on here."

and i do avoid most clubs because i know half the guys who have pestered me for sex on here and do not fucking go away when rejected are club goers.

at least you feel safe enough to go to clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i read profiles and delete the messages if are to far or not wat im looking for if they attach pics i then have a look to see if they attached dick pics then if they have i delete then if they carry on msging me i block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a message has been deleted can you tell if it's been read before hand or not?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Women delete messages without even reading them after you take ages writing them and posting what pics are appropriate without knowing what the lady would find offensive. Why?"

I look at the profile before the message. When visible my profile clearly states what I'm looking for and I won't respond to anyone outwith that.

The message could make Shakespeare envious, if they don't meet what I'm looking for: delete!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause many don't read profiles so why should we read messages - ignorance

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"[Removed by poster at 19/07/16 23:27:21]"

I see what you did there

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By *layboi69Man
over a year ago

alfreton

Because half of them on here say dont just give a 1 liner lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So why is it so important to so many guys to receive written rejection messages as opposed to not replying at all. What difference does it make when people don't know each other?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women delete messages without even reading them after you take ages writing them and posting what pics are appropriate without knowing what the lady would find offensive. Why?"

No worries... Women usually get 300 messages when they sign up. Just hope you're in the first 50 to message. Also always send cock pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its flamming rude and annoying. In return instant block. Just shows they aint been raised right in my book. Courtesy and manners goes a long way. And if you ever stumble accross this types at pvt parties or a club. And you recognise each other. It can be the most upsetting and awkward being in their presence "

Why is it rude, that's a bad attitude. We are not professional message answers, we answer who we want to answer. Nobody is obliged to reply to, chat to, meet or fuck anybody who fancies doing so with us XXX

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