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By *ubbykitten OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent

1st meets are always socials for me.

The tricky bit is....getting to a 2nd meet. Even when they are super keen when they meet me, seldom get that 2nd meet. Why?

Is it because I am ugly? Err... no

Is it because of my dull persona? Ha.... definitely not dull!

Did they simply not like me? Well if they didn't, they were bloody good actors! If that was the case, no problem. That would be easy!

But no. It's all the game playing and pussy (excuse the pun) around!

Guys. ...if you fancy her and want to meet again....just bloody well ask her! You don't need to make a dogs breakfast of it! Stop faffing around and get on with it!

Jesus! I am supposed to be submissive! Lol! But I can't be sub if guys can't even figure out the basics!!! ????????????

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By *lack RoccoMan
over a year ago

London


"1st meets are always socials for me.

The tricky bit is....getting to a 2nd meet. Even when they are super keen when they meet me, seldom get that 2nd meet. Why?

Is it because I am ugly? Err... no

Is it because of my dull persona? Ha.... definitely not dull!

Did they simply not like me? Well if they didn't, they were bloody good actors! If that was the case, no problem. That would be easy!

But no. It's all the game playing and pussy (excuse the pun) around!

Guys. ...if you fancy her and want to meet again....just bloody well ask her! You don't need to make a dogs breakfast of it! Stop faffing around and get on with it!

Jesus! I am supposed to be submissive! Lol! But I can't be sub if guys can't even figure out the basics!!! ????????????

If only every single woman on fab had your way of thinking . Fab would be a much better and happier place. Unfortunately. Not everyone will agree with the way you have simplified things..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When will I get the first meet though ?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I like second and more meets

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

The second meets are often the best ones. After a social and all that build up and anticipation between you both.

OP you are a beautiful lady perhaps the men you are meeting a bit intimidated by you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2nd meets are better for me. The 1st is just a starter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are these 'meets' that you are talking about ?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

When I have a social and it has gone well, I usually begin to bring it to a conclusion by saying "I have really enjoyed meeting you, and would like to do so again if you feel likewise?"

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"1st meets are always socials for me.

The tricky bit is....getting to a 2nd meet. Even when they are super keen when they meet me, seldom get that 2nd meet. Why?

Is it because I am ugly? Err... no

Is it because of my dull persona? Ha.... definitely not dull!

Did they simply not like me? Well if they didn't, they were bloody good actors! If that was the case, no problem. That would be easy!

But no. It's all the game playing and pussy (excuse the pun) around!

Guys. ...if you fancy her and want to meet again....just bloody well ask her! You don't need to make a dogs breakfast of it! Stop faffing around and get on with it!

Jesus! I am supposed to be submissive! Lol! But I can't be sub if guys can't even figure out the basics!!! ????????????

"

Social meet second date your clearly asking for more than most men are will to give .come on hows a poor man going to make his social check stretch that far

But in all seriousness I think its just a case of them not being sure if you felt any chemistry and because of that them fearing the rejection that may come about from asking you out right do you fancy another date .

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Until I chanced up on Fab I'd never heard of a 'social' -

"You meet and you don;t have sex?!"

Imagine my surprise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only had multiple meets with one person, yet it tends to be me who broaches the subject of my next meet with that person.

Be proactive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1st meets are always socials for me.

The tricky bit is....getting to a 2nd meet. Even when they are super keen when they meet me, seldom get that 2nd meet. Why?

Is it because I am ugly? Err... no

I'd love to get first meet with you, let alone a second xx

Is it because of my dull persona? Ha.... definitely not dull!

Did they simply not like me? Well if they didn't, they were bloody good actors! If that was the case, no problem. That would be easy!

But no. It's all the game playing and pussy (excuse the pun) around!

Guys. ...if you fancy her and want to meet again....just bloody well ask her! You don't need to make a dogs breakfast of it! Stop faffing around and get on with it!

Jesus! I am supposed to be submissive! Lol! But I can't be sub if guys can't even figure out the basics!!! ????????????

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By *parkle LoungeWoman
over a year ago

Cornwall

May be I'm just odd then, no second meets yet and first ones have not been social, just straight in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met most people more than once and all seems to go smoothly...I prefer 2nd meets too, when everyone is much more comfortable and relaxed, I find it flows better too

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By *espectful rogueMan
over a year ago

aylesbury


"1st meets are always socials for me.

The tricky bit is....getting to a 2nd meet. Even when they are super keen when they meet me, seldom get that 2nd meet. Why?

Is it because I am ugly? Err... no

Is it because of my dull persona? Ha.... definitely not dull!

Did they simply not like me? Well if they didn't, they were bloody good actors! If that was the case, no problem. That would be easy!

But no. It's all the game playing and pussy (excuse the pun) around!

Guys. ...if you fancy her and want to meet again....just bloody well ask her! You don't need to make a dogs breakfast of it! Stop faffing around and get on with it!

Jesus! I am supposed to be submissive! Lol! But I can't be sub if guys can't even figure out the basics!!! ????????????

"

They must not have somthing right in there head

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

As the OP is submissive, she is likely most comfy if the man takes the lead. Every dynamic is different, but where I have had a social meet with a lady who is sub, I am even more likely than usual to politely make it clear whether I want to take things further...while wording it in such a way that she doesn't feel bad if she says "no".

When you have a social, one of the participants has to say something.

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By *ubbykitten OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent

I find they TALK about meeting up again....a lot..... but never quite manage it

That is the confusing bit. If they didn't want to.... then it's easy !

Maybe I AM ugly! Lol!!! Bugger! Ha...

Or maybe they are scared??? As the first meet is a social...it's probably that?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

You are very attractive.

As for scary? We haven't met so I cannot comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find they TALK about meeting up again....a lot..... but never quite manage it

That is the confusing bit. If they didn't want to.... then it's easy !

Maybe I AM ugly! Lol!!! Bugger! Ha...

Or maybe they are scared??? As the first meet is a social...it's probably that?"

The problem might be that they can't get away from their wives or girlfriends. With school being out , it can be hard to get a free night.. Just wait until after Summer Holidays and the second meets will roll around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i started telling guys that 2 months (or longer) wasn't enough for me and that i didn't want to meet guys with such low sex drives. coz that's how long some guys take to ask for another meet.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

haha you'll find single guys will meet you a 2nd time if they don't get to fuck u the 1st time. Married/cheaters are less likely to want to meet a 2nd time especially if they didn't get to fuck you the 1st time. Those married ones who will meet 2nd time are just greedy (which is the ones I always get). Always come back for more haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"haha you'll find single guys will meet you a 2nd time if they don't get to fuck u the 1st time. Married/cheaters are less likely to want to meet a 2nd time especially if they didn't get to fuck you the 1st time. Those married ones who will meet 2nd time are just greedy (which is the ones I always get). Always come back for more haha"

ive found the opposite myself. that attached guys are more likely to want very regular meets (more than once a week) and will keep in touch when not wanting a meet.

i think they tend to prefer to meet less women but have more sex. and no i didn't know they were attached but when you meet that regular it comes out eventually.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Some of us married men are not cheating!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Why not message them yourself and just ask them, if they fancy arranging another meet?

Least that way, you'd know.

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