FabSwingers.com forum: Are we doing something wrong?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are starting to feel like we are doing something wrong. We read peoples profiles, write polite messages which often refer to something on their profile but we seem to keep getting ignored/deleted.

Are we doing something wrong or are people really that ignorant and rude?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the world of (most) of us men!

Maybe do as men are told - go to socials, visit clubs etc

Keep being positive and I'm sure the meets will follow!

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

You two look fun to me!

I cannot see anything wrong with your profile but nothing sticks out as being special, including the photos.

Also wondering if you are mostly writing to single ladies, they are often inundated with messages and are too busy to reply to all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks.

We do message some women but couples too. Unsure what we could put to stand out really, we are just a genuine relaxed couple but seems not many people want that these days

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Have you tried going to clubs? It gets you known and helps you pick up verifications.

Possibly the male being bi might put some couples off. It's a shame but some guys don't trust bi men and some ladies are turned off.

Good luck...you look like a fun couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have talked about clubs but have not been yet.

We were thinking that too, don't understand the bad stigma that bi males in couples seem to get, yet we very rarely see people complaining about bi women in couples.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

It is a double standard. Bi ladies are considered hot. Bi men are sometimes considered icky. Just look at how many clubs love FF action but not MM action.

If you guys were closer I would suggest a social

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

It just means they aren't interested.

As it says in the site FAQs -

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally i'm not a fan of your pics and they'd put me off, many people, women in particular, like more suggestively sexy rather than in your face, but other will like them i'm sure, just my opinion.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I would suggest dropping the pics that mostly feature genitals. Most people prefer to see bodies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the feedback everyone. I dunno maybe it's just us, we generally reply to every message except for "hi" even if it is only with a polite not interested.

Will look at getting more body pics and keep the others for friends or if asked for.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

That is a good idea, keep the close up pics for friends. Try to take some clearer, better lit body photos. Consider full length shots with your faces obscured if you don't want public face pics.

You seem polite and can spell, which is half if the way to success.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are starting to feel like we are doing something wrong. We read peoples profiles, write polite messages which often refer to something on their profile but we seem to keep getting ignored/deleted.

Are we doing something wrong or are people really that ignorant and rude?"

Welcome to Fab. You'll get used to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we doing something wrong or are people really that ignorant and rude?"

Hello, sorry to hear of your troubles, this is something I can relate to a lot - I also put a lot of effort into a message by making it polite, well thought out and spelled correctly without the use of text speak, and the usual result is deleted without reply.

It is easy to fall into the trap of thinking people are rude when this keeps happening but this isn't the case, and a lot of the time it's down to individual preferences.

I always reply to my messages (because I hardly get any lol), even if I'm not interested, but some people do get that many that it physically isn't possible for them to reply!

I'm sure you will get some interest soon - remember it could be worse, you could be a single guy who is only 5ft 5in tall and not that good looking.....like me!!!!

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"Personally i'm not a fan of your pics and they'd put me off, many people, women in particular, like more suggestively sexy rather than in your face, but other will like them i'm sure, just my opinion.

I agree. Too in your face for me. Also couldn't work out what a couple were. Definitely better pics needed to attract women in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What would you suggest? Also what do you mean by couldn't figure out what a couple were?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

My suggestion would be more photos like 2 March. It is suggestive without being "in your face" it is well lit and in focus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you are not going to be to everyone's taste and meeting other couples you have to have 4 peoples having a mutual attraction.

Your photos aren't great but you have had some meets. I would say go to clubs where there are all sorts of shapes and sizes and can be very sociable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think most of them are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Again thanks for the feed back all, we have had a little reshuffle of our pics and reworded our profile a little.

We generally like to just show who and what we are as we know our bodies are larger and it isn't to everyone's taste and want people to know what they are getting in to but I guess there is no reason we can't do less provocative shots and more teasing shots

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"What would you suggest? Also what do you mean by couldn't figure out what a couple were?"

It's probably because i am looking on a small screen phone but Feb 13th just looks black to me.

Full body, sexy lingerie, most women who I know like to be teased rather than have it all on display

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be creative - use pretty underwear, interesting props, do the most with what you have available.

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By *ilthyjackcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

"It is a double standard. Bi ladies are considered hot. Bi men are sometimes considered icky. Just look at how many clubs love FF action but not MM action.

If you guys were closer I would suggest a social

Ohh.. can I play?

H x

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By *tonercouple24Couple
over a year ago

Bradford

We've had a couple of social meets but when it comes to the main meet we keep ending looking like wet dish because people cancel or don't get back to us we've even been stood up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a double standard. Bi ladies are considered hot. Bi men are sometimes considered icky. Just look at how many clubs love FF action but not MM action.

If you guys were closer I would suggest a social

I know I never understood that

Why is it ok for two women to play in an open room any night but not two men?

I don't want to see two women licking each other out but if I walked into a room and saw it I would simply walk away and look in another room, why can't people who don't like bi men do that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is just how it goes. People say all the things they like in a profile and you probably tick all boxes, but if they dont like your photos then its not gonna happen and you wont get a response.

All FAB users go off physical. If they say other wise they are lying. lol

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Why is it ok for two women to play in an open room any night but not two men?

I don't want to see two women licking each other out but if I walked into a room and saw it I would simply walk away and look in another room, why can't people who don't like bi men do that?"

I don't know, and I really wish I did. As a mature adult, if I am at a club and I see an activity that I dislike, I look the other way or walk to another area...as long as the activity is legal and consensual. But man-on-man action is frowned upon and even banned at some clubs, while others will offer a specific bi guy night...whereas girl-on-girl is always OK.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Ohh.. can I play?

H x"

H...you know you can

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