FabSwingers.com forum: Orgasm from penetrative sex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi All,

Not been active for a while as we gave the lifestyle a break. However we're back for some help and advice.

F has never been able to orgasm from penetrative sex, only clit stimulation. This is an absolute goal for her as she's always wanted to have an orgasm from penetration.

We've considered a yoni massage to see if that opens up some feeling and relaxation but not sure about it. Anyone tried it?

Does anyone have any advice for us on how to make this big O happen? Or we'd like to hear from couples who are skilled at it and can help us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've kind of learnt to do it over the past two years, though when it first happened it was a "OMG where did that come from" moment, but now I can make it happen every time I have sex

What positions have you tried it in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a few women that doggy or reverse cowgirl works well!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We've tried every position to be honest with no success. What positions do you recommend?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I only orgasmed through penetrative sex a few times and I find it incredibly embarrassing at times. I usually have to introduce toys to help me.

I'm keeping my eye on this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've tried every position to be honest with no success. What positions do you recommend?"

Well, the first time it happened to me, I was laid on my back, head, neck and the top of my head propped up on the headboard with my knees up and my legs spread which tilted my pelvis up, and the man was kneeling between my legs and thrusting. Now, if I'm using a phallic toy as it's easier to get the right angle with it, I can just do it laying on my back. It's a good g spot orgasm but I personally don't squirt.

The position that makes me squirt is when I kneel above a guy but it's not straddling. Google reverse missionary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife closes her legs part way through my cock then gives her clit and internal pleasure at same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bent slightly upwards cock works every time for me,or one that stimulates my cervix.

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

I can only cum through clit stimulation so I'm watching this with interest too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read that someone has done a piece of research on this (why didn't I think of this thesis?!). It concluded that orgasms through penetrative sex were directly linked to distance between the clitoris and the vaginal opening; in other words it's the stimulation of the clitoris during penetrative sex that causes the orgasm in the vast majority of cases.

However, I don't see how that works for doggy style, and that's the position I get most penetrative pleasure from. Never orgasmed just from penetration but hit the point where I say no more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We're glad there are a few others watching the thread with the same intentions, at least we're not alone. The position advice is good as there's no harm in practicing

Curved upwards cock is also an interesting suggestion to help stimulate the right bits. M has a very straight cock.

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By *ollypop2000Woman
over a year ago

Derby

I achieved it through orgasm denial! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Orgasm denial?

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By *ollypop2000Woman
over a year ago

Derby

"Orgasm denial?"

Yes it takes practice and patience but you take her just to the point of orgasm then stop, you can do this several times keeping her highly aroused (it can be very emotional so be prepared for tears and tantrums) then by time you've done penetrative sex is all you need x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sounds fun, and worth a shot along with the positions.

No replies about the yoni massage. Anyone had any experience with this?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

YorkshireRose - F wants to know if you would be interested in chatting to her privately as she likes your advice. No worries if not though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow . This is a revelation ! I thought I was odd because I don't orgasm through penetration , but I do feel as if I wamt to when a man has a little bend in his penis , I just can't manage it though.

I'll be keeping my eye on this just to see if there is a solution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's my lifetime ambition to cum through penetration! I always feel that perhaps I could given the right stimulation but I've always found with every partner that as soon as they start hitting the right spot in me, it turns them on so much they can't help cumming!

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

"Hi All,

Not been active for a while as we gave the lifestyle a break. However we're back for some help and advice.

F has never been able to orgasm from penetrative sex, only clit stimulation. This is an absolute goal for her as she's always wanted to have an orgasm from penetration.

We've considered a yoni massage to see if that opens up some feeling and relaxation but not sure about it. Anyone tried it?

Does anyone have any advice for us on how to make this big O happen? Or we'd like to hear from couples who are skilled at it and can help us

Cath had never orgasmed from sex till she met me(please form an orderly queue ladies).We are now at the point where she is so multi orgasmic we think she'll be able to black out from the endless orgasms she has.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"YorkshireRose - F wants to know if you would be interested in chatting to her privately as she likes your advice. No worries if not though

Sure, feel free to message me

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"A bent slightly upwards cock works every time for me,or one that stimulates my cervix."

I think I might add a line to my profile 'curvy cocks will have priority '

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Yes I have a lady friend whom cums screaming with clit stimulation but penetrive sex it takes ages to cum .

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

There aren't that many cocks that make me orgasm from penetration - but the ones that do... Wow. Assuming all else is good, I keep hold of those

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A bent slightly upwards cock works every time for me,or one that stimulates my cervix.

I think I might add a line to my profile 'curvy cocks will have priority '

Haha thinking the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"YorkshireRose - F wants to know if you would be interested in chatting to her privately as she likes your advice. No worries if not though

Sure, feel free to message me

We can't as not site supporters. Can you message us?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I orgasm from penetrative sex when I do reverse cowgirl and lean forward onto my stomach at the same time. Works for me....very slow syrupy orgasm which lasts longer and is multiple...of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The nerve endings travel all the way around, so it's really just about finding what stimulated you.

The more aroused you are, the more sensitive you'll be.

I'd definitely recommend gentle play and teasing, taking yourself (or whoever you choose to do it with you) to the edge then ease off and go again. Your state of arousal should be increased, and the potential for orgasm with it.

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By *roitwich44Man
over a year ago

belfast

Nitemare sex is all about orgasms...if you can find the gspot...youll find a cock with a good hemet should if girl on top be able to brush the g spot that is generally located at the front under the belly button..if hit right you will gush..even if never before...its awesome...you just have to find the right key for your lock....

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

Sex is all in the head.If you are convinced you cant orgasm through penetration then i doubt you will.Get your head,and body in tune with each other,and you'll cum eventually..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The nerve endings travel all the way around, so it's really just about finding what stimulated you.

The more aroused you are, the more sensitive you'll be.

Definitely this.

Also, doggie style seems to work on occasions for many people, probably something to do with the angle and speed of penetration against the g spot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nitemare sex is all about orgasms...if you can find the gspot...youll find a cock with a good hemet should if girl on top be able to brush the g spot that is generally located at the front under the belly button..if hit right you will gush..even if never before...its awesome...you just have to find the right key for your lock...."
not every woman orgasms from g spot stimulation or clit... some not at all.

its normally a case of dont try.... just enjoy. I rarely orgasm on a meet but do orgasm with my partner.... its nothing to do with the guys... i just dont mostly.. still enjoy it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also watching this thread with interest, I've never had an orgasm from penetration

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By *oojCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

A long slow tantric massage, followed by penetration can do the trick, but not a guarantee but maybe worth a try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

communication is important, if you are doing something good continue, do not be afraid to ask if something is not right. Positions, there are many the stallion is a good one. It does not need to be deep, the first two inches inside the vagina is the most sensitive place, concentrate on slow strokes first not putting the penis all the way for the first few thrusts then a deep thrust. Momentum, slowly build up, do not start going at it like its the grand national. Pleasure is derived from mutual satisfaction, your partner must also feel your enjoying it, not treating it like a sport. If you are ejaculating too early, consider learning how to do kegal exercises, if you close to cumming, try and stop, it leads men to having multiple orgasms, yes men can do it also.

Finally, it does not matter, if you place too much emphasis on producing a end goal, it only increases stress between the both of you, which can lead to hurt feeling. Sex is wonderful, it is not a chore, laugh and enjoy it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always been very satisfying that Clare can relatively easily orgasm from penetrative sex. Of course we do try other ways too!!

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By *untimes3000Man
over a year ago

Manchester

If she's laying on her back a pillow placed underneath pushing her pelvis up helps.

After that, finding the right spot, keeping a good rhythm and patience helps.

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By *rs DreamweaverWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I rarely orgasm through penetration. I never cum on meets with guys from clitoral or penetration. Only girls have made me cum other than Mr Dreamweavers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never orgasumed through penatrive sex

Everybody is different and not all women will

I know I never will regardless the amount of men who have said I haven't met the right guy and how they can, none of them have

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I have never orgasmed through vaginal penetration.

I doubt I ever will.

Don't anyone start that .. are you doing this way , that way stuff....

I come clitorally.

I don't chase a vaginal orgasm. Why spoil a great journey by wanting only the destination.

Plus I love a good fuck after a clitoral orgasm.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"If she's laying on her back a pillow placed underneath pushing her pelvis up helps.

After that, finding the right spot, keeping a good rhythm and patience helps. "

Patience ? You'd have a beard , everyone would be coffee coloured and genderless by the century I came vaginally.

Long live the clit kings!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never orgasmed through vaginal penetration.

I doubt I ever will.

Don't anyone start that .. are you doing this way , that way stuff....

I come clitorally.

I don't chase a vaginal orgasm. Why spoil a great journey by wanting only the destination.

Plus I love a good fuck after a clitoral orgasm. "

But...But..have you tried tilting your waist at 27.56 degrees to the left with your pelvis perpendicular to the right hip bone of your partner while shifting your upper body at an angle of 38.452 keeping one eye open and one eye closed?

No? Give it a try then let's us know how it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't believe there are so many with this problem , I say this with no ego whatsoever ....... I firmly believe that a real orgasm a deep proper orgasm is only really achieved through mental attachment and comfort with who the partner is ,,truth is that is extremely rare in this lifestyle ,

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By *revor1940Man
over a year ago

Near Haverfordwest

I find that fucking as deep as possible as you reach round and stiumulate the clit at the same time is good. Problem is keeping it going as I get near cumming, brain goes elsewhe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My wife closes her legs part way through my cock then gives her clit and internal pleasure at same time"

Yea this works for me. Like my legs are almost closed together. It's really good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't believe there are so many with this problem , I say this with no ego whatsoever ....... I firmly believe that a real orgasm a deep proper orgasm is only really achieved through mental attachment and comfort with who the partner is ,,truth is that is extremely rare in this lifestyle , "

It's not really a problem

Loads of guys claim they can't cum through a blow job

You can still enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can but don't always climax with penetrative sex but sometimes when he takes me doggy style his helmet tickles my walnut. Wow best ever feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I rarely orgasm through penetration. I never cum on meets with guys from clitoral or penetration. Only girls have made me cum other than Mr Dreamweavers"

You've made me feel so much better about myself. Was beginning to think something wrong with me as I'm exactly the same x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I achieved it through orgasm denial! Xx"

Me too! Also I never ever orgasam doggy style, when you hit that g spot it's amazing esp if you can master the art of multiple orgasms. Amazing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I rarely orgasm through penetration. I never cum on meets with guys from clitoral or penetration. Only girls have made me cum other than Mr Dreamweavers

You've made me feel so much better about myself. Was beginning to think something wrong with me as I'm exactly the same x"

Very rare I orgasm with a meet also, some of the best ones I've ever had have been through self exploration x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I rarely orgasm through penetration. I never cum on meets with guys from clitoral or penetration. Only girls have made me cum other than Mr Dreamweavers

You've made me feel so much better about myself. Was beginning to think something wrong with me as I'm exactly the same x"

You've only cum with Mr Dreamweaver too?

Nah seriously I rarely cum

I have never cum through penatrive sex and say out of every 30 sex sessions I have I may cum once or twice by other means, I find it very hard to cum

I know that makes me cum just very few guys can achieve it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think I can cum just from penetration, always have to get my hands down and rub my bean the same time. Sliced many bell ends in my time by catching them with my nails!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think I can cum just from penetration, always have to get my hands down and rub my bean the same time. Sliced many bell ends in my time by catching them with my nails!"

I don't even have a dick and I cringed when I read this...

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By *ndrew025Man
over a year ago

west lancs

I find a lot of women prefer to orgasm through oral anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am lucky I can orgasm from many different things but these are tips I have used and learnt that they always work for me.......

get to the edge of orgasm but not allow myself to come for several days - then during penetrative sex - me on top, slowly grating my hips until I come or him on top but my legs crossed tight at the ankles....enjoy.....m x

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

There's a position with woman on top, flick of the hips in a particular direction and BOOM.

Which is great for her.

But it tends to be a show stopper.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Glad this thread has generated so much interest!

So the recipe to try:

Long relaxing session

Orgasm denial

Guy with long bent up cock with big head to help get to the right spot

List of recommended positions and see which 1 she likes best

Anything missing?

No comments on the yoni massage yet. Think we might try this anyway and feedback on here

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By *andkCouple
over a year ago

Wisbech

Get your clit pierced, I never could, one piercing later and I Cum every time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get your clit pierced, I never could, one piercing later and I Cum every time

Sounds painful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get your clit pierced, I never could, one piercing later and I Cum every time

Had mine pierced about 15 years still never cum through penatrive sex

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By *andkCouple
over a year ago

Wisbech

Sure works for me, wish I did it years ago. Didn't really hurt, just for a fraction of a second, no sex for a week or two then good to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never through penitrive, getting a bit fed up of 'finishing myself off'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What an education this thread is

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I have never orgasmed through vaginal penetration.

I doubt I ever will.

Don't anyone start that .. are you doing this way , that way stuff....

I come clitorally.

I don't chase a vaginal orgasm. Why spoil a great journey by wanting only the destination.

Plus I love a good fuck after a clitoral orgasm.

No? Give it a try then let's us know how it goes

Nearly worked. Then I opened both eyes and thought my clit was better looking than he was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find if I'm on top and he's sucking and licking on my nipples I can orgasam if I'm on my back then slow long and stopping and starting again works well. However the climax or orgasam (never know the difference lol) is not as intense as clit stimulation.

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Both parties must have their brains stimulated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try pushing the hump above the vagina back so more of the cliterous is exposed. In that was when the penis is inserted there will be more stimulation. Against the clit during penetration

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By *hiterabbit6Couple
over a year ago

Sexytown, Moray

"I have never orgasmed through vaginal penetration.

I doubt I ever will.

Don't anyone start that .. are you doing this way , that way stuff....

I come clitorally.

I don't chase a vaginal orgasm. Why spoil a great journey by wanting only the destination.

Plus I love a good fuck after a clitoral orgasm. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Both parties must have their brains stimulated. "

Couldn't agree more. My fem comes 4 to 5 times in about 10 mins when we have penetrative sex, I'm not hung like half the guys on here, I'm only 6" to 7". She says it's all about being wanted and loved and the feelings she has for me. When she's with other guys, who fuck faster, harder for longer with bigger cocks she rarely comes but still enjoys it. Go figure?

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Personally I don't think that having a curved / right sized cock is a prerequisite, though it might work for some. I have managed to help all fems that I have had sex with to achieve it, though not every time. My advice:

The female needs to be in the right place in her head / emotionally and not have pressure of time.

Don't focus on achieving an orgasm.

Good foreplay.

In missionary position - hard cock and 'ride high', with the male pubic bone at the base of the cock (top side) grinding against the female public bone above the clit. The clit will inevitably be stimulated and I find that a slightly circular / upward motion works best. Sometimes the male raising his upper body with straight arms helps.

Respond to the female.

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By *oughnut and radoxWoman
over a year ago

Ashingdon

I have two problems one is I don't climax and most of the time men can't either. I put it down to having 5 children, I get very wet very easily and my body size size stops my clit being simulate with normal sex,but saying that I always make sure men climax one way and I have either already had my climax or I do it my self as I know the exact spot to touch and I think most men likes to watch

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By *oughnut and radoxWoman
over a year ago

Ashingdon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only orgasm by clitoral stimulation. It is not very common for a woman to orgasm by penetration only and those who can, lucky you

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

It can also depend how far a woman's clitoris is from her vagina...when it comes to penetrative sex....

the closer it is, then the higher the chance of it happening....

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By *ike_CampbellMan
over a year ago

Southampton

There's an element of male technique here. Before I was 30, I never, once, brought a woman to orgasm during penetration without clitoral stimulation. Then I changed the movement I was making and it's very much the norm now.

This is going to sound awful but go with it; the man can't just pump in and out. The secret is to move your penis as though you're trying to scrape something off the back wall of the vagina with the tip of your penis. Back at the root end of your penis, this increases pressure on the clitoris and surrounds. You're pushing somewhat downwards into the vagina in the missionary position.

Sorry if that sounds horrible but it's the best description I can manage. Rarely fails. I have, however, never made anyone orgasm during doggy style sex with penis alone, so I'm far from perfect!

(Obviously happy to demonstrate!)

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By *ike_CampbellMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Oh and I'm with everyone else. Mental connection makes up a HUGE part of it.

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By *icurguycovMan
over a year ago

Leeds

My wife likes to have 2 or 3 orgasms as she is sucking my cock and fucking herself with a dildo as I tickle her clitoris. Then I start fucking her as she's come and she just carries on coming until I come. It's incredible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

other than masturbation, mildred only cums with penetration in the cow girl position, it works so well she cums very quickly, she loves other positions but she cannot get over the edge with them ,

also very rarely with oral and it takes me ages if she does

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