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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am naturally more submissive and have had several relationships with dom men.

Chatting to a dom man atm who wishes to see his sub fucking other men. i would view that as a cuckold which I would tend to see as more submissive than dom.

Anyone a dom cuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience it's quite usual for a Dom to instruct his sub or arrange for his sub to play with other men.

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"In my experience it's quite usual for a Dom to instruct his sub or arrange for his sub to play with other men."

I know a few subs that have been instructed to fuck other men by their dom. It has been more of a humiliation thing rather than the Dom being cuck/sub/switch. He has wanted her to feel used.

Not my thing at all. I like belonging to just my Dom and choose Dom's that are on the same page.

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

As a cuck I want a woman to see men when she wants to and on her terms.. That's different to being instructed to see other guys..

A difference but your right that its a subtle one.

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By *auradCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

The most important thing is not how it looks to those outside it is how it feels to those inside the relationship.

If they think it is Dom Sub then anyone else's view doesn't matter.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

It is (to me) about control of her sexuality and her sexual boundaries.

Don't need lamppost pissing wrong focus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I'm probably in that category but at the moment I prefer to be part of it. I'm not a watcher I'd prefer to be doing anything else but just watch.

I'm a Dom in our relationship, Mrs likes rough and pain but also some of it only with me (at the moment) it takes a degree of trust to allow someone else to do the same level of, I guess you could call it, tortue she appreciates.

Some day...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is an extension of the doms power and the subs submission, as he decides who the sub sleep with or does sexually. The sub has no decision in the matter. It is a dynamic l have seen mainly with doms that swing. Personally l always think that unless the dom is helping the sub let out her own desires, in my view, the woman is being used as a sex toy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been a sub alis and witness a so called 'Dom' with his new sub. He made her sleep with 5 different guys in a week and took her to a club and chose who she would go with and what she would do to them.

This is so wrong on so many levels. He wa like her pimp. A real Dom wouldn't allow this to happen to his sub. She is his special girl and he should respect her to gain respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been a sub alis and witness a so called 'Dom' with his new sub. He made her sleep with 5 different guys in a week and took her to a club and chose who she would go with and what she would do to them.

This is so wrong on so many levels. He wa like her pimp. A real Dom wouldn't allow this to happen to his sub. She is his special girl and he should respect her to gain respect."

Some people want to push their boundaries and ask and trust their dom to help them carry out certain desires they would not do alone. So l know a sub who wants a session of sensation and impact play and then to be gang banged. This is the sub's desire, people watching would not know this and could assume the sub is being used. But it is entirely the sub's choice.

However, if the desire to do the act does not come from the sub then unless it is a consent non consent situation, l think it is wrong. But then uber doms would disagree.

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

You can't really know what's going on in the relationship unless you are in it.

My Dom allows me to be played with by other Doms and sometimes swingers with him watching protectively. I'm certainly not being used and it fulfils both of our desires. As he won't play with others in a swinging environment to protect my feelings it's a way of us getting the more sexual vibe into our kink play.

You don't really have to understand it if you're not involved in it.

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

PS....isn't it also called "hotwife" which is the same but without the humiliation element?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing wrong with this type of domination as long as it takes place within the sub's agreed and discussed boundaries. A sub should have hard limits that the Dom does not go beyond, and he should only push her boundaries at a rate that she is ready for. In a balanced D/s relationship, from a sexual perspective, the sub hands the responsibility of her pleasure over to her Dom, and he make decisions for her with the ultimate goal of her enjoyment. Of course it is open to abuse, but if done properly it us a partnership entered into consentually. It us not uncommon for a Dom to take charge of who his sub plays with as part of their agreed arrangement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is nothing wrong with this type of domination as long as it takes place within the sub's agreed and discussed boundaries. A sub should have hard limits that the Dom does not go beyond, and he should only push her boundaries at a rate that she is ready for. In a balanced D/s relationship, from a sexual perspective, the sub hands the responsibility of her pleasure over to her Dom, and he make decisions for her with the ultimate goal of her enjoyment. Of course it is open to abuse, but if done properly it us a partnership entered into consentually. It us not uncommon for a Dom to take charge of who his sub plays with as part of their agreed arrangement."

I think this pretty much hits the nail on the head. Well explained!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The essence of it all is consent. The Sub consents to cede control to the Dom within the boundaries they have agreed.

Great fun for both!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is nothing wrong with this type of domination as long as it takes place within the sub's agreed and discussed boundaries. A sub should have hard limits that the Dom does not go beyond, and he should only push her boundaries at a rate that she is ready for. In a balanced D/s relationship, from a sexual perspective, the sub hands the responsibility of her pleasure over to her Dom, and he make decisions for her with the ultimate goal of her enjoyment. Of course it is open to abuse, but if done properly it us a partnership entered into consentually. It us not uncommon for a Dom to take charge of who his sub plays with as part of their agreed arrangement."

The point I should have made more clearly was they had only met a few days before.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

To me a bond has to form, others work in different ways. The sub sets the hard boundaries the Dom pushes her sexuality within those boundaries.

It's not a one size fits all relationship in my world.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"To me a bond has to form, others work in different ways. The sub sets the hard boundaries the Dom pushes her sexuality within those boundaries.

It's not a one size fits all relationship in my world."

Think hard limits would be a better phrase.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust is essential to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a cuck I want a woman to see men when she wants to and on her terms.. That's different to being instructed to see other guys..

A difference but your right that its a subtle one."

yeah this is the difference. i'm in charge of who i fuck and when, i'm also wanting to be dominant/a domme to my cuckold.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the thoughts and opinions. He isn't wanting to choose the men for me.... I am free to choose when and with who I meet. But I guess what he is looking for is as a dom he is allowing me this freedom.

The only terms seem to be that he gets to watch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep dom/cuck here. This is quite normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in a similar relationship. It was more the Dom organising men and groups to use me while he watches which turned him on

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