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what's the biggest reason for deleted messages?

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By *hemonkeyhead OP   Man
over a year ago

Reading

seems like anything i type gets deleted - not knowing why's the worst part, i guess

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The person isn't interested.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"seems like anything i type gets deleted - not knowing why's the worst part, i guess"

Why torture yourself? Just send it and then forget about it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The person isn't interested. "

I would say this is the only reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably the fact we read profiles and it says u cant axc could be part of it or u haven't read their profile

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

I delete messages from people I am not attracted to or are one word/line.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Some people delete most of there messages straight away. Saves their mailbox being cluttered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"seems like anything i type gets deleted - not knowing why's the worst part, i guess

Why torture yourself? Just send it and then forget about it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's one hundred reasons why. What ever the reason the same conclusion arrives that you just have to move on.

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By *amantha girlyWoman
over a year ago

london

Most likely havent read profile. Honestly - nice tits or wanna fuck is going straight to delete and block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forbus, negativity on profile is a big one for me (mrs), saying your bi in messages but straight on profile, no profile content, no pics, being rude or ignorant. Those are most common plus just not being interested.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"The person isn't interested.

I would say this is the only reason "

I agree!

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Don't think anything of it.. It happens to all of us.

In all honesty, sending mail is a waste of time.. Your email is no different from a ppi phone call on a Sunday evening...unwanted.

Just get yourself out there, get known and build a reputation..

If you build it, they will cum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who clearly haven't even skimmed my profile, or have nothing on their own page, no pics, no description etc.

People who have obviously forgotten that they sent me the same crap message three days ago and received a polite "no thanks".

And often it's just a vibe ... I read a message and it triggers zero response in me.

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

I tend to read messages,reply but knowing I will get replies after a while I bulk delete due to the fact I tend to lose mail, plus if you really want to stay in contact with certain people save one message that way unless it's not a new message you will get the full conversation.

But I always need to tidy up but always remain in contact

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

That read a bit wrong..

Not your mail personally, mail in general to the overwhelmed inboxes of the females of these sites.

Showing your personality in the forum or chat will get you much further than an unsolicited email.

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By *is_Collared_SubWoman
over a year ago

London

I try to respond to everyone who reads my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Forbus, negativity on profile is a big one for me (mrs), saying your bi in messages but straight on profile, no profile content, no pics, being rude or ignorant. Those are most common plus just not being interested."

I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a vaguely related topic, what I don't get is people who send a message then block me three minutes later before I've even read their message. At least I assume it's a block, "user no longer on site".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On a vaguely related topic, what I don't get is people who send a message then block me three minutes later before I've even read their message. At least I assume it's a block, "user no longer on site"."

That usually means they've left fab, rather than blocking you.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On a vaguely related topic, what I don't get is people who send a message then block me three minutes later before I've even read their message. At least I assume it's a block, "user no longer on site".

That usually means they've left fab, rather than blocking you.x"

Thank you : )

I don't lose sleep over it but it happens quite frequently and I'm always fascinated by why people do what they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of interest. Not one person here can appeal to everyone that catches their eye

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Too many messages and nothing eye-catching for me. Or if they've blatantly not read my profile - big wind up.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact they obviously havent read the profile. It says certain things VERY clearly. Sending a message anyway just reeks of desperation and disrespect.

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By *otnolongerwifeCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I have a feeling when that happens, they have been booted off the site by admin. I suspect that they have messaged a fair few people in those few minutes, and one of the recipients has taken the time to report them for some various infraction. My theory, at least.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

No profile, no pics, FAF or one word messages tend to get deleted

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By *otnolongerwifeCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Whilst we are on the subject (and I'm in a ranty mood) here is tip for free. If your message starts "I know you won't be interested/I know I'm not what you said you were looking for..", please save both of us some time and rethink hitting the send button.

Not aimed at anyone in particular, of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pushy people and people who don't read our profile and actully understand it lol x

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port

The obvious lack of reading my profile ( yes, men get the occasional unwanted items of mail ) normally gets me hitting delete.

I'm not particularly keen on appalling English either.

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By *razy dancerMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Stupid 1 line 3 wòrd sentence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst we are on the subject (and I'm in a ranty mood) here is tip for free. If your message starts "I know you won't be interested/I know I'm not what you said you were looking for..", please save both of us some time and rethink hitting the send button.

Not aimed at anyone in particular, of course "

A very sweet "rant" indeed but I'm sure the many thousands of well deserved fabs you have received for your sumptuous photos are a small measure of compensation !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accidentally delete mine ...my phone is tempremental and even if i hover over a message to reply it can delete .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Forbus, negativity on profile is a big one for me (mrs), saying your bi in messages but straight on profile, no profile content, no pics, being rude or ignorant. Those are most common plus just not being interested."

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile not being read, the one liners and "fancy a fuck" and such variations. If my profile has been read and it's referred to, has a good chatty start then I will reply. I'm at a point now where I just get regular messages from people rather than lots of new messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me its being send cock pics

instant turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get quite a few that just say things like 'nice cock mate'...or 'sissy boy here for you'...delete delete.

Always answer a message from a lady

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax


"seems like anything i type gets deleted - not knowing why's the worst part, i guess

Why torture yourself? Just send it and then forget about it."
best thing to do a guy who I know deled the msgs he sends so he don't know what he is missing and if he dose get a msg back it's treat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you phone your local takeaway and say sorry I got your mailshot through the post but I don't want to order from you?

No you wouldn't, if you read the menu and like it you would order from it, if not you bin it.

Same as on here, someone doesn't fancy what you have on offer.

But don't take it personally, someone might have kept you in their drawer looking to order for another time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get quite a few that just say things like 'nice cock mate'...or 'sissy boy here for you'...delete delete.

Always answer a message from a lady "

This for me.

I'm guessing for ladies the main reasons are:

Shit message......crap profile (if they bother to look)....don't match age/criteria (you've not read profile).....woman already sorted (you were too late).......fake profile (you just messaged another guy)..... They have 367 messages and do a mass delete......BECAUSE THEY CAN.

So best advice you have been given here is...don't bother checking if read or deleted. Just be delighted if you do get a reply.

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By *heartsasoneCouple
over a year ago

outside of plymouth

We will delete if it does not have the correct title in subject line it's instant delete.

If we have opened it and then look at the profile description it could be deleted if not we look at photos if they are not clean shaven or smooth where it counts will be deleted without answer as they have failed to read our profile as to our wishes.

We did have a incident at Abfabs where a guy said I sent you 5 messages and you didn't reply to any guess what he had not even read profile just looked at photo's and he did not meet our profile wishes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One liners/one word messages, faf, cock pic avatar or cock pic attached and all those that have not read my profile. In other words the majority of messages.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"The fact they obviously havent read the profile. It says certain things VERY clearly. Sending a message anyway just reeks of desperation and disrespect."

A badly worded message with bad grammar and spelling. Don't know what it is it that really turns me off.

And couples sending messages saying we are in so and so hotel. Sometimes I wonder whether if I send them the same message, they'd like it. The irony is completely lost on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we send messages/party invites etc and they get deleted

Without answer we Block the person too just incase we mail them again by mistake, also stops others asking if they can Bring them to a future party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i delete messages from people who obviously haven't read my profile... rude messages.. if they have nothing on the profile and sometimes just because i cant be bothered to read all so i bulk delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"seems like anything i type gets deleted - not knowing why's the worst part, i guess"

Yep not interested is the reason anyone would delete a message! The reason their not interested you will never find out....

But id say concentrate on the positives.

Ps your straight but your only published verification is from a TV....mixed messages and not really a true representation of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not read the whole thread other than your opening post so I'm sure this has been said many times before but I guess there's a few possibilities:

- they're inundated and do bulk deletes so yours get deleted along with loads of others

- they look at your profile and you're not their type

- your messages are not what they're looking for (do you read their profiles and check for compatability, are you happy you're selling yourself in a way they works for THEM?)

People have their own reasons for deleting, the often quoted reason is that people haven't read and matched to their profile.

Keep trying, keep positive and hopefully more meets will come. Good luck fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi?

Shall I come and bruise and mark you?

That's why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Ps your straight but your only published verification is from a TV....mixed messages and not really a true representation of you "

Ah yes, and this too! From the veri you're clearly not straight so if you're transparently not truthful about that, then why else should they trust what you say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"seems like anything i type gets deleted - not knowing why's the worst part, i guess"

Whining that people delete your message becauss of the colour of your skin is probbaly your biggest one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's twofold really }

Haven't read the Profile properly.

Not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Ps your straight but your only published verification is from a TV....mixed messages and not really a true representation of you

Ah yes, and this too! From the veri you're clearly not straight so if you're transparently not truthful about that, then why else should they trust what you say? "

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By *atietvsheffTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

Skool gurl outfit requests from guys who want younger than Katie's 16th birthday role play , just GO AWAY ........

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By *atietvsheffTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield


"seems like anything i type gets deleted - not knowing why's the worst part, i guess

Yep not interested is the reason anyone would delete a message! The reason their not interested you will never find out....

But id say concentrate on the positives.

Ps your straight but your only published verification is from a TV....mixed messages and not really a true representation of you "

95% of guys who hit on Katie are "straight" and "married" totally agree with misrepresentation and I do point it out to guys that it's not fair on single women and Cpl's that they may meet if they don't let them know they want to or have fucked a tv, tell them, give them the choice,lots of Cpl's have veri's from TV's so while it may limit some potential meets its not a red flag for everyone

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

For us its being rude and excluding one of us,or.not reading our profile.Miss,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me? Outside of Wales. Instant delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me? Outside of Wales. Instant delete. "

Even just compliments or forum based messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me? Outside of Wales. Instant delete. "

Liar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the main thing is they don't read my profile, if they have and attach a face pic I try to reply politely to them even if I'm not interested. If it's a one word message/dick pics/new user etc I tend to just delete - If they can't waste time reading my profile why should I waste time replying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me? Outside of Wales. Instant delete.

Even just compliments or forum based messages? "

Yep. Replying to compliments leads to unwanted conversation. And if people want to reply from the forums, they can do it publicly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me? Outside of Wales. Instant delete.

Liar "

I winked you, there's a difference. Only cos I'd definitely do you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me? Outside of Wales. Instant delete.

Liar

I winked you, there's a difference. Only cos I'd definitely do you "

When and where ? I'd gladly let you do me ^_^

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By *reamweaversCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"seems like anything i type gets deleted - not knowing why's the worst part, i guess"

A profile cock pic...instant delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me? Outside of Wales. Instant delete.

Even just compliments or forum based messages?

Yep. Replying to compliments leads to unwanted conversation. And if people want to reply from the forums, they can do it publicly. "

Alright then gorgeous, I'll keep that in mind

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"The person isn't interested. "

In a nutshell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"seems like anything i type gets deleted - not knowing why's the worst part, i guess"

I suspect the biggest reason would be that someone pressed delete

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

No public pics for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's obvious that someone hasn't read our profile, then deleted straight away for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"seems like anything i type gets deleted - not knowing why's the worst part, i guess"

They just don't like how you look

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