FabSwingers.com forum: Things you have learned since swinging

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Most of my best meets have been after 12am

90% of the time you're speaking to the male half of a couple

Being successful in the lifestyle is more about being in the right location at the right time.

Being willing to travel and being able to accommodate will help your success rate 50%

Pictures don't always tell the full story

Never ask a woman her dress size

If meeting a couple for the first time and the husband says " MY wife is very nervous " always have a backup plan

All black guys don't have big cocks

DP / DV is not gay

Never ask for a verification

Always let the couple book the hotel room , then give them half the money when you show up.

Most couples are done with you after meeting 3 times for sex

Some husbands that take pics and videos of don't like to give you copies of the pics/vids

Don't get offended if a husband ask to suck your cock.

It's easier to swing as a single than as a couple.

Please feel free to add anything I missed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's easier to swing as a single than as a couple.

This surprised me. I was expecting it to be far easier as a couple than it was when i was single. In reality its far harder, especially when the girl is bi and you are only really looking for single females in the main.

You end up with two types of prospects:

1: The kind who seem perfect and flake at the last minute.

2: The kind who claim to be bisexual but are actually near enough lesbian and will sideline the male at the first opportunity.

As for what ive learned, well ive learned how to effectively communicate with my main partner, though i was a swinger before L so we've always had good and open communication. Ive learned not to pay any mind to other peoples judgements of me. Ive learned not to expect people to treat others as they want to be treated themselves.

Probably a lot of other things as well but those are the main ones

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

People lie.

A lot

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's easier to swing as a single than as a couple.

You end up with two types of prospects:

1: The kind who seem perfect and flake at the last minute.

2: The kind who claim to be bisexual but are actually near enough lesbian and will sideline the male at the first opportunity.

Probably a lot of other things as well but those are the main ones"

As a single it's easier because you have to get 3 people to get on the same page to have sex. When I use to meet as a couple , it's very hard to get 4 people on the same page.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People lie.

A lot

Yes don't believe anything you hear from swingers.

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By *elightfully Devilish xxxCouple
over a year ago

crazyland

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of men like to pretend to be woman for some reason...

Betty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading of the profile...

Rarely happens...

Betty

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Sex is not evidencing love or affection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many men masquerade as women/ couples in the hope that it gives them a better opportunity

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've learnt that I'm sexually adventurous and people like having sex with me, believe me, that was a welcome realisation. I'm not designed for celibacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1.Always trust your instincts

2.If they been here more than a month & no veris 90% chance fake profile

3.Be prepared 4 plenty of let downs & cancellations

4.Don't take swinging to serious! It's just bit of fun

5.If its stiff, stick it in

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If you don't talk to people at a club, you're 100% less likely to get a shag. That holds true for women too.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"If you don't talk to people at a club, you're 100% less likely to get a shag. That holds true for women too."
m

Agreed talking to people helps a lot

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By *rincessvenusCouple
over a year ago

Hull

you will meet every tosseer and fu k wit in the world dont get us talking about time wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you get caught in the act by the boys in blue don't ask if you can finish. They don't like it.

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By *elightfully Devilish xxxCouple
over a year ago

crazyland

"People lie.

A lot

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By *uck princess and himCouple
over a year ago

washington

I'm powerful

Princess x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People rarely look as good as their photos make out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expect to be treated with utter contempt even if you are actually, very nice.

Don't go by veris.

The women in couples profiles don't always know they're on here.

And finally,

There are some really great people on here who's company I've really enjoyed. And many more still to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People rarely look as good as their photos make out

Also for men add 5 years to their age and minus 3 inches from their height.

For women add 10 pds to their weight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's much easier to swing as a single than a couple but not as much fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you get caught in the act by the boys in blue don't ask if you can finish. They don't like it."

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"People rarely look as good as their photos make out

Also for men add 5 years to their age and minus 3 inches from their height.

For women add 10 pds to their weight. "

I am actually 35 and 6ft 1 and a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm also quite surprised at how a lot of the time there's a clique and whether online or at social events people can be quite intimidating and bully others

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I have found that you don't have to have a bigger cock than the hubby to be able to cuck him with his hotwife

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I have learnt that my women's intuition isn't as finely tuned as I thought it was.

That my bullshitomitter needs new batteries.

That there's not much point in writing a decent profile.

On a more positive note there are some lovely people on here.

I can be very social.

I'm quite good with a camera

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys from couples, in Scotland anyway, tend to be very pushy and assume because they are part of a couple nobody should turn them down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That peoples real personalities shine through in whatever they do even though many try to create a façade for fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found I like quite a few things I had never even considered doing before

And I am way more confident naked than dressed...go figure lol

And I rarely ever fancied both the male and female of a couple

Oh...and the older male halves would contact me without their younger wives, even tho it was only her that was young enough to contact me, and still expect to play

But mostly people on here have been brilliant and have made alot of lovely friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have learned:

1. Patience

2. Have no expectations of others, clubs, or the site

3. Don't tolerate expectations from others

4. Don't judge a book by its cover

5. Don't compromise your principles rules, it inevitably goes wrong when you do

6. Don't be judgmental, the swinging scene is massively diverse

7. The swinging scene is bigger and more popular than we ever imagined

8. Not to take the scene seriously

We're still trying to learn how to overcome our lack of confidence in a club and approach people to break the ice! Lol

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"People lie.

A lot

Yes don't believe anything you hear from swingers. "

Isn't that incredibly sad though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Negatives...

A worrying amount of men think 10 dick pics is a guaranteed entry to a woman's bed.

Just because a guy is older than my dad doesn't mean he won't react to rejection by acting like a child.

If you think people won't take dick pics while sitting on the toilet, you're wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positives...

There is WAY less competitive bitchiness between single women than I anticipated & I've made great friends.

Everything is someone's 'thing' so no matter how weird you are, you're normal on here.

Butt plugs are the best invention ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That men can think you are 'stunning' in one message then think you are a 'time wasting fat slut' who 'wouldn't even be noticed in real life' in the next.... Grumble grumble x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People lie.

A lot

Yes don't believe anything you hear from swingers. "
so if people lie a lot, I therefore should believe what I hear from swingers?

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Dont believe that anyone is out of your league, they might have a fetish for ugly people!

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

If you're in a club and see someone you like but can't think of what to say, the line "hi, we wanted to talk to you but didn't know what to say" will suffice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sort of knew most of the things posted on this thread already, Having a healthy interest in sex and life in general had already taught me most of what I needed/wanted to know,

Well apart from some of the facts and statements people come out with in the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don't talk to people at a club, you're 100% less likely to get a shag. That holds true for women too."
Couldn't agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People rarely look as good as their photos make out

I look much better

(joke btw!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it looks and sounds too good to be true...

IT USUALLY IS!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing we have learnt is don't close your account if there's a chance of you coming back!

We have been very lucky as in 2.5 years we have only had 1 fake couple and never had a no show! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That there are 10000 different degrees of male bisexuality and that single bisexual girls are much easier to find and meet !

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"People rarely look as good as their photos make out

I hope you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1.Always trust your instincts

2.If they been here more than a month & no veris 90% chance fake profile

3.Be prepared 4 plenty of let downs & cancellations

4.Don't take swinging to serious! It's just bit of fun

5.If its stiff, stick it in

I will go with 1,3&4

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By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago

Lancaster area

-Out of every 100 people on a Swingers website, there are 10 couples, 5 females, and 75 single guys

-About 98 percent of women claim to be bi-curious

-Compatible 4-way chemistry is almost as as rare as a living dinosaur

-Swinging involves much, much more time and effort than a person would imagine

-You should set your expectations below ground level

-As a man, go in knowing that most women have NO interest in you, but it doesn't mean anything is actually wrong with you

-Other hobbies can be far more rewarding

-JD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am very very bi

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I'm naughtier than I ever realised I was!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"-Out of every 100 people on a Swingers website, there are 10 couples, 5 females, and 75 single guys

-About 98 percent of women claim to be bi-curious

-Compatible 4-way chemistry is almost as as rare as a living dinosaur

-Swinging involves much, much more time and effort than a person would imagine

-You should set your expectations below ground level

-As a man, go in knowing that most women have NO interest in you, but it doesn't mean anything is actually wrong with you

-Other hobbies can be far more rewarding

-JD"

So the other 10 are ts/tg/cd ?

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

Not to believe anybody until they knock the door and you let them in!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It's ok to admit you like sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys are confused by the illusions some of us 'girls' create.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've learnt that there are plenty of great 'normal' couples on here that don't lie, don't mess you about and are as they say on their profile.

We've also learnt that there are plenty of complete fuckwits on here that lie, mess you about and are not even the person shown in the pics.

What we now need to learn is how to easily tell the two apart from stage 1.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

There is some sensual, sexual, stunning ladies on here.

And it works, if you masturbate before you make promises.

In some cases

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By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago

Lancaster area

"i am very very bi

Oh, I know that there are loads of Bi females out there. But in our experience, there have been many women who say they are Bi simply because their hubby has talked them into it.

-JD

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"We have learned:

1. Patience

2. Have no expectations of others, clubs, or the site

3. Don't tolerate expectations from others

4. Don't judge a book by its cover

5. Don't compromise your principles rules, it inevitably goes wrong when you do

6. Don't be judgmental, the swinging scene is massively diverse

7. The swinging scene is bigger and more popular than we ever imagined

8. Not to take the scene seriously

We're still trying to learn how to overcome our lack of confidence in a club and approach people to break the ice! Lol "

Couldn't have said this any better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more into men than women.

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

I've learnt that I can overcome and be who I want to be.

I've learnt that if messaging single women, be one of the first to get in there, or probably forget it because you'll be lost in the 100 messages per day.

I've learnt to be thick skinned and quickly move on when people mess you around or aren't as genuine as they make out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single women's profiles can consist of 'will fill in later' and have no pics, and will still receive 100's of messages a day

It is harder to find a decent,patient,respectful single male than you think..

The couple /couple dynamic is hard to get right

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