FabSwingers.com forum: Let downs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've had a bad week this week with 3 let downs! Do people find that they just don't turn up or do you get a message to say they can't make it!! It is very frustrating. I do ok on here so but it's annoying when you put so much effort in only to get let down at the last minute.

What are people's thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at it this way, people have lives outside of fab and for most they come first, like family, kids and such like.

You just have to live with it.

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

We've never been let down but have met mostly in clubs, then arranged a few repeat meets off the back of that. Obviously it must be frustrating to be let down but things *do* also genuinely crop up at the last minute which can't be avoided ... I guess my annoyance would depend on how much effort they'd made to keep you informed, and how polite they were about it. To just not turn up without any explanation is pretty poor - but then if they're that ignorant and there hasn't been a dire emergency then sod them, you probably had a lucky escape.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I look at it this way, people have lives outside of fab and for most they come first, like family, kids and such like.

You just have to live with it."

They should send a message as soon as they know they can't make it though. Ok, it's not always possible but usually it is.

Late notice is better than just not turning up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We've never been let down but have met mostly in clubs, then arranged a few repeat meets off the back of that. Obviously it must be frustrating to be let down but things *do* also genuinely crop up at the last minute which can't be avoided ... I guess my annoyance would depend on how much effort they'd made to keep you informed, and how polite they were about it. To just not turn up without any explanation is pretty poor - but then if they're that ignorant and there hasn't been a dire emergency then sod them, you probably had a lucky escape. "

I agree. The thing is some of them are repeat meets. I find the lack of simple manners very annoying!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

OP, if someone has arranged a place and time with you and not shown up, report their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look at it this way, people have lives outside of fab and for most they come first, like family, kids and such like.

You just have to live with it.

They should send a message as soon as they know they can't make it though. Ok, it's not always possible but usually it is.

Late notice is better than just not turning up."

Yes agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, if someone has arranged a place and time with you and not shown up, report their profile."

Even if it is their house? I was sat there for an hour on their drive!! After many phone calls they finally answer to say they were in town and couldn't meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without a terribly good excuse, I'd feel

let down. They would be on a last chance.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"I've had a bad week this week with 3 let downs! Do people find that they just don't turn up or do you get a message to say they can't make it!! It is very frustrating. I do ok on here so but it's annoying when you put so much effort in only to get let down at the last minute.

What are people's thoughts?

I dont mind as long as they let us know,tgings can get in the way.I got stood up as a single once that wasnt good.Miss,

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I had one let down this week for a social with a local guy. I luckily checked my messages to see if he had given me his mo no only to see he had gone 'unlos'. We had arranged a time and a place, I obviously didn't go. What is that all about anyway?? Grrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had one let down this week for a social with a local guy. I luckily checked my messages to see if he had given me his mo no only to see he had gone 'unlos'. We had arranged a time and a place, I obviously didn't go. What is that all about anyway?? Grrrrr

He'd best turn up with a bunch of flowers next time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If I had something arranged with you I would move everything to make it! Xx

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

He'd best turn up with a bunch of flowers next time. "

There won't be a next time even if he rejoins. I need someone who is reliable as well as h.o.t.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He'd best turn up with a bunch of flowers next time.

There won't be a next time even if he rejoins. I need someone who is reliable as well as h.o.t.

Pm me and let's arrange something! Looking at your pics we have a lot in common! Xx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

3 in one week seems particularly dreadful and very unlucky!

I'd expect people to let me know with as much notice, if they had any issues. I also ensure that there is pre-confirmation, rather than just assuming that everyone remembers and bothers to inform others, as soon as they know they can't make a commitment. So a succession of pre-meet communications is ideal - at the time that you're getting to know someone, then later on and upon the day itself, to confirm the specifics of the meet.

I'd also be wanting to analyse what potential pattern there may be, should I have had a succession of failed meets. Then seek to avoid any of the possible causes. It may be the type of person selected, how it was arranged, how the communication was undertaken etc.

Good luck with your next meets!

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"OP, if someone has arranged a place and time with you and not shown up, report their profile.

Even if it is their house? I was sat there for an hour on their drive!! After many phone calls they finally answer to say they were in town and couldn't meet. "

Yes, they are still a no show. They made an arrangement but didn't see it through or cancel. Report and block

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, if someone has arranged a place and time with you and not shown up, report their profile.

Even if it is their house? I was sat there for an hour on their drive!! After many phone calls they finally answer to say they were in town and couldn't meet.

Yes, they are still a no show. They made an arrangement but didn't see it through or cancel. Report and block"

Thanks xx

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

"3 in one week seems particularly dreadful and very unlucky! "

Three in one week sounds like the OP's selection process isn't working. For a single man to manage three agreed meets (with strangers) in one week is an astonishing *success* rate. OP, have a look at your selection process - the common denominator in all three meets is YOU, so think about what YOU can change, to ensure you pick more reliable potential partners.

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