FabSwingers.com forum: Something that I've always wondered

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is how do couples not feel jealousy when they swing? Especially if in the same room.

I'm not sure I could do it with a partner without feeling very jealous. Just wondering..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is how do couples not feel jealousy when they swing? Especially if in the same room.

I'm not sure I could do it with a partner without feeling very jealous. Just wondering.."

You and so many other singles say the same thing .

If a relationship is solid , the sex that one another have with others is just that - sex .

A relationship is built in so much more than sex . And sex with more than two people involved can enhance the fun . We have no jealousy issues at all because we are madly in love with each other , and both love sex in all its guises

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Is how do couples not feel jealousy when they swing? Especially if in the same room.

I'm not sure I could do it with a partner without feeling very jealous. Just wondering..

You and so many other singles say the same thing .

If a relationship is solid , the sex that one another have with others is just that - sex .

Could not have put it better.. Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is how do couples not feel jealousy when they swing? Especially if in the same room.

I'm not sure I could do it with a partner without feeling very jealous. Just wondering..

You and so many other singles say the same thing .

If a relationship is solid , the sex that one another have with others is just that - sex .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is how do couples not feel jealousy when they swing? Especially if in the same room.

I'm not sure I could do it with a partner without feeling very jealous. Just wondering..

You and so many other singles say the same thing .

If a relationship is solid , the sex that one another have with others is just that - sex .

Definitely this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know. It just doesn't occur to me to be jealous. It's hot as hell to see Marc with another woman. I like seeing him give her pleasure. I'm not sure I can explain the lack of a feeling.

If I ever do begin to feel jealousy then I would have to seriously look at our relationship because it would mean we had bigger issues.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think once you realise that love and sex aren't the same thing you're fine.

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By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago

Lancaster area

I guess some people are cut out for Swinging and some are not. And if you're not, that's OK. There's nothing to feel bad about.

Me? I'm weird. I can share my wife no problem, but I don't get off on seeing her with another guy, nor do I need any details. She on the other hand, enjoys seeing me with somebody else.

-JD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think once you realise that love and sex aren't the same thing you're fine."

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By *r n mrs swingCouple
over a year ago

pontefract

I can't bare to see mr s with other women x he however loves it so we only meet single guys now that works for us x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for explaining. I guess I'll never know unless I was to meet a fellow swinger & fall madly in love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't ever do it . When I was in a relationship we only met t girls together and that was horny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day it's just sex. Like a one night stand, but with 2 of you there.

What we have is a completely different thing, and if that ever changes, then we'll reassess the situation.

It's certainly not something we could do if we weren't in such a committed and completely honest relationship x

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

This was something i wondered until i had my first mff with an ex of mine (very recently split at the time) and i honedtly thought i would feel extremely jealous watching him with another woman, however to my suprise there was no jealousy there. It really turned me on and the whole evening was very relaxed, comfortable and lots of fun

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Also, we don't "swap".... we share. It's really not a case of having sex with someone else instead of each other, we have sex with others AND each other.

If that makes sense.

We wouldn't do seperate rooms, that would defeat the object for us.

Cal

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"Is how do couples not feel jealousy when they swing? Especially if in the same room.

I'm not sure I could do it with a partner without feeling very jealous. Just wondering..

You and so many other singles say the same thing .

If a relationship is solid , the sex that one another have with others is just that - sex .

We couldn't say it any better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is how do couples not feel jealousy when they swing? Especially if in the same room.

I'm not sure I could do it with a partner without feeling very jealous. Just wondering.."

To me it's because I have nothing to feel jealous of. It's not like I'm going without anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we do it together

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"Is how do couples not feel jealousy when they swing? Especially if in the same room.

I'm not sure I could do it with a partner without feeling very jealous. Just wondering.."

I wouldn't get jealous if it was me it would be a turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly that love and sex are very different things .

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

"I think once you realise that love and sex aren't the same thing you're fine."

This..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is how do couples not feel jealousy when they swing? Especially if in the same room.

I'm not sure I could do it with a partner without feeling very jealous. Just wondering..

You and so many other singles say the same thing .

If a relationship is solid , the sex that one another have with others is just that - sex .

Exactly this - with anyone else it's just sex.

For me (fem) I also love seeing my Mr aroused. When someone else is tending to his needs or he is focusing his attention on another sexy fem, I get to appreciate the full extent of his arousal (which I can't do when it's just us). This sight is enough to satisfy me with no involvement

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By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago

Lancaster area

There's also a totally different mindset that Swingers have that non-Swingers do not. It's not just as simple as 'sex is just sex'....if it were that simple, almost everybody would do it and it would cause no trouble in relationships.

Almost all of us know somebody who was cheated on, and they definitely do NOT look at it as 'just sex'.

-JD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's also a totally different mindset that Swingers have that non-Swingers do not. It's not just as simple as 'sex is just sex'....if it were that simple, almost everybody would do it and it would cause no trouble in relationships.

Almost all of us know somebody who was cheated on, and they definitely do NOT look at it as 'just sex'.

-JD"

When I say just sex I mean the love is not present like with partner just a friendship and interest in same things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are only new. Been to an amazing event where we played solo but publicly and now we have our first meet planned. Jealousy has not reared it's head yet. But it will. It's natural.

We have spoken about it a lot. We have rules in place now to help eliminate the situations where jealousy can arise.

On a meet my first obligation is to make sure she's enjoying herself. And vice versa.

We will do it together or not at all.

We cannot hide our emotions from one another. We need to have lots of trust in each other especially at the start.

As I see it if we are both having fun and getting attention then we both will be happy.

jealousy will arrive but we will deal with it together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just sexy fun. We wouldn't do seperate rooms as we prefer to see and make sure we're both having a good time.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

some men act differently when they are with their wives so their wives wont get jealous. just because people are turned on by swinging doesn't mean they don't get jealous sometimes as well.

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