FabSwingers.com forum: The imperfect man

By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

One that goes on about what makes for a "perfect" (insert woman's body part), often telling us what's "imperfect" at the same time.

It creates insecurities.

Stop being arses.

And before men start moaning that we talk about what makes a perfect penis, check and you'll find men start most of those threads too! (And incidentally, I feel just the same about threads about hairy/not hairy, cut/uncut, tall/short and all the threads that make men feel inadequate. Though again, many are started by men).

Shag who you want to shag. If someone doesn't float your boat, move on. There's really no need to go into detail about exactly how they are inadequate, particularly if they neither contacted you for a meet nor asked to be judged.

We are what we fucking well are.

And with that, I'm going to bed because I've read enough about the ways in which people, particularly women, can be physically imperfect for one fucking day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as woman can cook, woman is perfect for man.

#sarcasm before the feminists jump on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as woman can cook, woman is perfect for man.

#sarcasm before the feminists jump on me "

I have no problem cooking, so long as he has no problem washing up!

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

"As long as woman can cook, woman is perfect for man.

#sarcasm before the feminists jump on me

I have no problem cooking, so long as he has no problem washing up!

.... and do DIY ....

.... gardening ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as woman can cook, woman is perfect for man.

#sarcasm before the feminists jump on me

I have no problem cooking, so long as he has no problem washing up!

.... and do DIY ....

.... gardening ...."

And put the rubbish out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure it creates insecurities,I'm thinking they are already insecure. I'm not,which means when a man states a preference I read it and it doesn't affect me in any way at all. It's just one man's preference. Maybe if no man was attracted to me I'd be insecure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as woman can cook, woman is perfect for man.

#sarcasm before the feminists jump on me "

I can cook. Can you fuck?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"As long as woman can cook, woman is perfect for man.

#sarcasm before the feminists jump on me

I have no problem cooking, so long as he has no problem washing up!

.... and do DIY ....

.... gardening ....

And put the rubbish out

And spiders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're prone to insecurity, is a NSA sex site the best place to be?

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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"If you're prone to insecurity, is a NSA sex site the best place to be?"

We now live in a society in which 6 year old girls think they are fat and go on diets; in which teenage girls (and to a lesser extent boys) want cosmetic surgery because they don't feel attractive; in which eating disorders are a huge problem for women and increasingly in men.

I very much doubt those people are all on fab. The children certainly aren't!

The sort of comments and judging that goes on here is not limited to this site. It's a societal problem, not just a site problem.

There's no need for it.

Besides, why should wanting NSA sex go hand in hand with having to be happy to read/hear constant criticism and judgement on the ways in which one is physically perfect/imperfect?

Sure a lot of it comes down to attraction but why not just get on with meeting those with whom there's mutual attraction rather than endlessly discussing and comparing what is best, what is perfect and what isn't?

As for the comment that they were already insecure, very possibly. How did they get that way? Nobody is born insecure.

The attitudes and behaviour some display on here with the constant comparing and measuring and judging are what make people insecure. So yes, it causes, as well as worsens, insecurities.

I've no doubt that those who do it here, do it in the world outside fabs too.

Who knew it was possible, for example, to have imperfect nipples?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One person's imperfect is another person's perfect.

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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"One person's imperfect is another person's perfect. "

Bloody good job too, since the number of ways in which we can be judged imperfect seems to be growing by the hour.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If you're prone to insecurity, is a NSA sex site the best place to be?

I very much doubt those people are all on fab. The children certainly aren't!

The sort of comments and judging that goes on here is not limited to this site. It's a societal problem, not just a site problem.

There's no need for it.

Besides, why should wanting NSA sex go hand in hand with having to be happy to read/hear constant criticism and judgement on the ways in which one is physically perfect/imperfect?

As for the comment that they were already insecure, very possibly. How did they get that way? Nobody is born insecure.

The attitudes and behaviour some display on here with the constant comparing and measuring and judging are what make people insecure. So yes, it causes, as well as worsens, insecurities.

I've no doubt that those who do it here, do it in the world outside fabs too.

Who knew it was possible, for example, to have imperfect nipples?"

I agree. I watched an episode of Come Dine With Me in which a 24 year old woman had lip and cheek fillers, botox twice yearly and wore a waist trainer daily. Her diet was very rigid too and she claimed that her body was a temple and put nothing in it that wasn't good for it. Nobody mentioned the irony of injecting botox

. She was in pursuit of perfection, it was very sad to see.

For myself I'm just happy that what I've got works after a fashion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as woman can cook, woman is perfect for man.

#sarcasm before the feminists jump on me

I have no problem cooking, so long as he has no problem washing up!

.... and do DIY ....

.... gardening ....

And put the rubbish out

And spiders."

Oh my god, what have I started !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as woman can cook, woman is perfect for man.

#sarcasm before the feminists jump on me

I can cook. Can you fuck?

a lit bit

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

I'm not 'perfect' (Mrs) but now older I am so much happier with my body and my attitude to my body. I have always loved mens imperfect bodies ( I adore love handles, a tummy etc) but took years to love my own. I'm just very thankful it 'works' scars and all

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't stress about the people who don't like my body. I've been thin,voluptuous,curvy,shapely,badly underweight and at no time did I feel insecure. I do think it's a personality trait that we are born with to let other people's opinions of us get to us. Nothing anyone has ever said about my body has affected me and I've had abuse from strangers and my husband and ribbing from family. I don't care because I was born not to care.

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

"As long as woman can cook, woman is perfect for man.

#sarcasm before the feminists jump on me

I have no problem cooking, so long as he has no problem washing up!

.... and do DIY ....

.... gardening ....

And put the rubbish out

And spiders."

Bloody hell if Id known that sooner I'd be inundated with offers.

I'm off the update my profile

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"One person's imperfect is another person's perfect. "

One person's imperfect is another person's couldn't-give-a-shit.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"For myself I'm just happy that what I've got works after a fashion "

I require empirical evidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as woman can cook, woman is perfect for man.

#sarcasm before the feminists jump on me

I can cook. Can you fuck?

a lit bit

Better than nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One person's imperfect is another person's perfect.

One person's imperfect is another person's couldn't-give-a-shit."

You mean me don't you...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"For myself I'm just happy that what I've got works after a fashion

I require empirical evidence."

what I have isn't quantifiable so empirical is the only way forward

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"One person's imperfect is another person's perfect.

One person's imperfect is another person's couldn't-give-a-shit.

You mean me don't you...

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"For myself I'm just happy that what I've got works after a fashion

I require empirical evidence.

what I have isn't quantifiable so empirical is the only way forward

I'll have my people get in touch with your people.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"For myself I'm just happy that what I've got works after a fashion

I require empirical evidence.

what I have isn't quantifiable so empirical is the only way forward

I'll have my people get in touch with your people."

The only fly in that particular ointment is that I don't have people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sure it creates insecurities,I'm thinking they are already insecure. I'm not,which means when a man states a preference I read it and it doesn't affect me in any way at all. It's just one man's preference. Maybe if no man was attracted to me I'd be insecure. "

I agree with this.

I get that people enjoy talking about what they like and that will mean excluding those they don't like. i hardly fit into any categories being discussed on here but don't really care. Sometimes i find it funny to go into the big tit threads but that's only if i'm bored...

If people are listening to the negative more than the positive then that is their problem. They need to work on the fact that not everyone will find them appealing, that sexually they will be excluded by some people, and that they will be perfect (or enough) for someone.

Only problem i do have is with those appreciation threads what are made to appreciate people and someone will go in to say they don't like whoever is being appreciated. Don't actually see any point to that at all. If you don't like them then why go to where people want to discuss liking them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with this.

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