FabSwingers.com forum: bi female not men

By *ngSlutOlderGuy OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Why is it so hard to get a bi female to join a couple. But instead men bombard us with messages . Can't some people read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probbaly because your pics s5re very male oriented and are unlikley to entice any women.

Also just block men from messaging you problem solved

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By *ngSlutOlderGuy OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We shall adjust our photos today thanks for your advice ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea close up genital pics of both genders always seem to attract men.

Make sure youve got a good mix of both of you clearly showing your bodies (bi woman is going to have to be interested in both of you not jsut the wife).

Torso/bum shots work well foe the male of the couple.

B&W pics are good for a touch of class and hiding blemishes.

Especialy b&w with water (rain/shower etc) is a very good picture style

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard to get a bi female to join a couple. But instead men bombard us with messages . Can't some people read. "

Can't some people use message filters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard to get a bi female to join a couple. But instead men bombard us with messages . Can't some people read.

Can't some people use message filters? "

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because the 'unicorns' are called unicorns for a reason - rare!

You have to stand out from all of the other couples looking for a bi female too - they're probably the most sought after category on the site! Literally the category that can pick at choose who they meet at will.

What have you got over and above all the other couples looking for them? Make sure your USP stands out and you're the ones they want to meet!

Good luck!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Why is it so hard to get a bi female to join a couple. But instead men bombard us with messages . Can't some people read. "

You are also competing for the attentions of the most "in demand" members on FAB. Almost everyone on here is looking for single ladies.

As mentioned earlier, if you were to stop single guys from messaging you (using message filters) then you'll not be bothered by these unwanted advances any more.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard to get a bi female to join a couple. But instead men bombard us with messages . Can't some people read. "

Same old couple "we want" profile.

We want a couple to explore " her Bi side" ect ect. Nothing about what you want to do for the female.

So you are looking for a very young 18+ female who wants to play with a 19 year old female and a 50 year old man. That's rather a big age gap isn't it. You sound like an older man taking advantage of a very young female, and encouraging her to do what you want. If she was Bi she would not be wanting to try Bi stuff. You want to perv yourself by watching 2 young ladies play and fk them.

There was a thread on forum by a 19 lad, that got a lot of "too young" attention.

There are far more men than lady's in here, as people say do your homework use the filters.

You sound perverted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could meet a young woman alone to explore your bi side with.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Probbaly because your pics s5re very male oriented and are unlikley to entice any women.

Also just block men from messaging you problem solved"

Are they?! I know I'm straight but I'm not sure I agree

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Probbaly because your pics s5re very male oriented and are unlikley to entice any women.

Also just block men from messaging you problem solved

Are they?! I know I'm straight but I'm not sure I agree"

Maybe already changed,I didnt read the whole thread...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard to get a bi female to join a couple. But instead men bombard us with messages . Can't some people read. "

The OP question is one raised loads of times and although not directly linked to the whole "Bi" debate, it stokes up feelings all the same....

We all know that a Bisexual man is scorned upon because the thought of two men enjoying each others bodies, rolling round the bed naked is seen as disgusting..........whereas the opposite is said of two women doing exactly the same and is seen as highly erotic...

The OP request I'm sure will eventually not go un fulfilled , but bare with us frustrated genuine Bisexual men who don't loiter in public toilets, but just are happy to say what they want

Good hunting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard to get a bi female to join a couple. But instead men bombard us with messages . Can't some people read.

Same old couple "we want" profile.

We want a couple to explore " her Bi side" ect ect. Nothing about what you want to do for the female.

There was a thread on forum by a 19 lad, that got a lot of "too young" attention.

There are far more men than lady's in here, as people say do your homework use the filters.

You sound perverted.

And judgemental rant is judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probbaly because your pics s5re very male oriented and are unlikley to entice any women.

Also just block men from messaging you problem solved

Are they?! I know I'm straight but I'm not sure I agree"

They where all close up cock and fanny pics :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pics are a lot better but you need some of the male too.

Otherwise your falling into the common couples trap of only having the female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't want to meet u. The age gap I find creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could meet a young woman alone to explore your bi side with. "

But that wouldn't fit in with thier wants and relationship dynamic.

If a woman wanted an MMF threesome i doubt you'd tell her to just meet a single guy alone.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Probbaly because your pics s5re very male oriented and are unlikley to entice any women.

Also just block men from messaging you problem solved

Are they?! I know I'm straight but I'm not sure I agree

They where all close up cock and fanny pics :p"

Yeah apologies I didn't read further down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard to get a bi female to join a couple. But instead men bombard us with messages . Can't some people read.

Same old couple "we want" profile.

We want a couple to explore " her Bi side" ect ect. Nothing about what you want to do for the female.

There was a thread on forum by a 19 lad, that got a lot of "too young" attention.

There are far more men than lady's in here, as people say do your homework use the filters.

You sound perverted.

Bit harsh on a swingers site.

We're all perverts on here, and none of us should be judging others for their peccadillos.

It's not one I share, personally I find younger women struggle to hold my interest beyond the initial physical attraction, hence why I usually date girls 2-4 years older than me. But if they are two consenting adults let's not second guess his character just because we don't approve of the age gap.

Women on here seem to be allowed to have whatever kinks they want without judgement, let's extend that same liberal thought process to males please.

Ultimately there's nothing wrong with what he's seeking. If he never finds someone to provide it that's life, but it shouldn't open him up to judgemental attitudes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could meet a young woman alone to explore your bi side with.

But that wouldn't fit in with thier wants and relationship dynamic.

If a woman wanted an MMF threesome i doubt you'd tell her to just meet a single guy alone."

She wants to explore her bi side. I read that as wanting to have sex with a woman and no mention of 3somes that I'm aware of. You can't have a 3 some with two people now can you

Maybe he should word it so women know exactly what his role is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The age gap could be an issue

Those that seek 50 year olds might be uncomfortable with meeting a 21 year old - and vice versa

The profile could be worded more attractively. I will stop short of where another poster did, but I must admit that I found it to be very male-centric too.

If that is your dynamic, that's cool, but you must accept that many of those you seek will be uncomfortable with that dynamic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could meet a young woman alone to explore your bi side with.

But that wouldn't fit in with thier wants and relationship dynamic.

If a woman wanted an MMF threesome i doubt you'd tell her to just meet a single guy alone.

She wants to explore her bi side. I read that as wanting to have sex with a woman and no mention of 3somes that I'm aware of. You can't have a 3 some with two people now can you

Maybe he should word it so women know exactly what his role is. "

"Us" is a plural for people, they say theyre looking for a person to join "us".

That's probbaly is where you went wrong.

And his role is as it says in the profile "master".

Man women suck balls at reading profiles...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I also add that I am in an age gap relationship

There is a bit of sub/dom to our relationship but that does not extend beyond the bedroom.

What we find attractive is very different, so we rarely meet.

Every so often though, we do find someone (away from the site) that fits both our likes and can show due attention to both of us.

Those occasions are rare though and we look for men, so with you looking for females only and those females being within a 'younger' age bracket, then your options will be even more limited.

Good Luck though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am admittedly no club veteran

Perhaps those that are could suggest how a couple with this dynamic would be accepted in a club environment ?

I am thinking if they are seen together, as a loving / doting couple and get to know others in a safe and fun environment, would their chances of getting to know someone increase ?

Or would the first time nerves show through and be off putting for many ?

Just thinking aloud now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could meet a young woman alone to explore your bi side with.

But that wouldn't fit in with thier wants and relationship dynamic.

If a woman wanted an MMF threesome i doubt you'd tell her to just meet a single guy alone.

She wants to explore her bi side. I read that as wanting to have sex with a woman and no mention of 3somes that I'm aware of. You can't have a 3 some with two people now can you

Maybe he should word it so women know exactly what his role is.

"Us" is a plural for people, they say theyre looking for a person to join "us".

That's probbaly is where you went wrong.

And his role is as it says in the profile "master".

Man women suck balls at reading profiles..."

So being a master means that he is going to watch the two women or join in? As a woman who has met mf couples I'd want to know what his role is in a 3some with a Dom/sub couple. Would he want me to be submissive too? Things need clarity. You're not a woman,you won't understand

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"You could meet a young woman alone to explore your bi side with.

But that wouldn't fit in with thier wants and relationship dynamic.

If a woman wanted an MMF threesome i doubt you'd tell her to just meet a single guy alone.

She wants to explore her bi side. I read that as wanting to have sex with a woman and no mention of 3somes that I'm aware of. You can't have a 3 some with two people now can you

Maybe he should word it so women know exactly what his role is.

"Us" is a plural for people, they say theyre looking for a person to join "us".

That's probbaly is where you went wrong.

And his role is as it says in the profile "master".

Man women suck balls at reading profiles...

To be fair, when I looked the profile was pretty clear on what they are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not entirely sure what you want.

Are you looking for a woman to play with the woman and he watches. Well good luck with that one as most single ladies do not wish to put on a performance.

Or are you looking for a female to join in with both of you? Is he expecting to Dom both of you? I would be a little uneasy at some guy expecting to Dom me in that scenario. Dom/sub takes some time to build up trust.

There are no photos of him? Why not ? Is he such a monster that woman would run away screaming ? If you want him involved then put some pics of him as well.

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over a year ago

"You could meet a young woman alone to explore your bi side with.

But that wouldn't fit in with thier wants and relationship dynamic.

If a woman wanted an MMF threesome i doubt you'd tell her to just meet a single guy alone.

She wants to explore her bi side. I read that as wanting to have sex with a woman and no mention of 3somes that I'm aware of. You can't have a 3 some with two people now can you

Maybe he should word it so women know exactly what his role is.

"Us" is a plural for people, they say theyre looking for a person to join "us".

That's probbaly is where you went wrong.

And his role is as it says in the profile "master".

Man women suck balls at reading profiles...

To be fair, when I looked the profile was pretty clear on what they are looking for."

A woman for her to explore her bi side?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard to get a bi female to join a couple. But instead men bombard us with messages . Can't some people read. "

It's a numbers game

Far to many people looking for single women than single women looking

It's really that simple

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By *ngSlutOlderGuy OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Hi guys and girls whilst some of the posts have been very informative and the tips etc have been taken on board. We find it very hypocritical that somebody would criticise our age difference s without knowing us. The fact that we are in a extremely loving relationship and have been for a number of years obviously isn't taken into account. Only a few people on here know us and would tell you how we are. We certainly are not judgemental of other people's likes or dislikes far from it . The fact that both are families have no problem with our age difference sums it up. Our profile says all we need to say about meeting another female. People in glass houses shoukd be careful about throwing stones

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Johnsodas second law of fab relativity...

The more niche your requirements the longer you'll have to search.

Have fun looking

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I was one of those girls who would have had no problem with your age (I'm too old now for you!) but as said before your profile pictures seem to be taken from and with a male gaze in mind?

If you are looking for a sub young bi girl, you need photos of yourself also. She won't just be meeting your partner. If you try to use your selling points and not just seek a woman to tick a fantasy off the list, you might strike lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your looking for the star that unicorns are born from rather than the unicorn itself !

We are not judging your relationship - heck we are two bi girls in our late 30s shacked up with a bi man who is 50

Luckily we have the single bi girl bit covered internally so to speak

We find single bi men that attract us all and are genuine and reliable hard to find

We find single bi girls easier to find but your wishes are so narrow and specific and your relationship dynamics are so unusual that you'll really struggle .

We will say - even though we are a little to old - that your profile does come across a bit as the usual : " performing single female seal required , must be able to balance ball and work for fish "

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"You could meet a young woman alone to explore your bi side with.

But that wouldn't fit in with thier wants and relationship dynamic.

If a woman wanted an MMF threesome i doubt you'd tell her to just meet a single guy alone.

She wants to explore her bi side. I read that as wanting to have sex with a woman and no mention of 3somes that I'm aware of. You can't have a 3 some with two people now can you

Maybe he should word it so women know exactly what his role is.

"Us" is a plural for people, they say theyre looking for a person to join "us".

That's probbaly is where you went wrong.

And his role is as it says in the profile "master".

Man women suck balls at reading profiles...

To be fair, when I looked the profile was pretty clear on what they are looking for.

A woman for her to explore her bi side?"

It's changed since I saw it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like both the single lady you seek and the lady in the couple are required for someone else's agenda. Very risky infiltrating a couple's dynamic when someone is "inexperienced".

Personally I don't see myself as an accessory to someone's fun with a potentially pressured partner.

You may well find what you seek, but it might be a tricky challenge with how the relationship dynamic comes across.

Happy swinging though OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys and girls whilst some of the posts have been very informative and the tips etc have been taken on board. We find it very hypocritical that somebody would criticise our age difference s without knowing us. The fact that we are in a extremely loving relationship and have been for a number of years obviously isn't taken into account. Only a few people on here know us and would tell you how we are. We certainly are not judgemental of other people's likes or dislikes far from it . The fact that both are families have no problem with our age difference sums it up. Our profile says all we need to say about meeting another female. People in glass houses shoukd be careful about throwing stones

I wouldn't criticise your age difference but I would,theoretically,need to know your role in the situation and what you wanted with me.

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over a year ago

"You could meet a young woman alone to explore your bi side with.

But that wouldn't fit in with thier wants and relationship dynamic.

If a woman wanted an MMF threesome i doubt you'd tell her to just meet a single guy alone.

She wants to explore her bi side. I read that as wanting to have sex with a woman and no mention of 3somes that I'm aware of. You can't have a 3 some with two people now can you

Maybe he should word it so women know exactly what his role is.

"Us" is a plural for people, they say theyre looking for a person to join "us".

That's probbaly is where you went wrong.

And his role is as it says in the profile "master".

Man women suck balls at reading profiles...

To be fair, when I looked the profile was pretty clear on what they are looking for.

A woman for her to explore her bi side?

It's changed since I saw it."

And the female appears to have aged two years

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