FabSwingers.com forum: Genuine sub women

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I have been looking for a genuine sub woman out there who wants a very don man for some naughty fun however they seem to be very few and far between so thought I would ask on here....

So are there any genuine sub woman on fab??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have been looking for a genuine sub woman out there who wants a very don man for some naughty fun however they seem to be very few and far between so thought I would ask on here....

So are there any genuine sub woman on fab??

It's hard to find one, I'm a real Dom and have had trouble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a genuine sub?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"So I have been looking for a genuine sub woman out there who wants a very don man for some naughty fun however they seem to be very few and far between so thought I would ask on here....

So are there any genuine sub woman on fab??

About as many as there are genuine dom men maybe.......you're too young for me but I would love to find someone who I found worthy of my full submission, men I would respect enough for that are few and far between I suspect.

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney

We are here! (Ok I'm a switch but still...)

However a Dom-sub relationship is built up with openness, trust and mutual respect over time, not something that can be done in a couple of meets.

A kinky meet is something entirely different in my eyes, not a serious sub-Dom thing at all. Still it takes a huge amount of trust for a woman to hand over control to a relative stranger... Perhaps that's why it seems to difficult to find. She would be very vulnerable at that moment.

An alternative would be to look for an established Dom-sub couple looking to double up x

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"What's a genuine sub? "

I don't know. I'm 96% sub according to the standard BDSM test thingummybob but I've always seen it as something requiring reciprocity; I need the right Dom or Domme to get into sub mode as it applies specifically to me. Doesn't make me less genuine if I don't go into sub mode; just means I don't have that particular dynamic with that person.

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

It's hard to find fish in a desert. Gentleman may I suggest you look in the right places. If you are the real deal dom's you think you are then you'll already know where those places are.

Have a nice day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you need a male dom contact me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I like someone has referred to on the thread was hoping to meet someone where that relationship can be built where a sub-Dom dynamic can be built with trust and understanding... But that is exactly the problem lol

Yes the kinky meets as another poster referred too is fun and always worth experiencing with the right people however would of liked to find something a bit more than that granted that could lead to the friendship I'm hoping for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a genuine sub?

It's all about limits and seeing reactions

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

yes i am, but i am currently building a Dom sub relationship from here, that i am very happy with.

i do believe we've spoken..but i have been very busy with life recently xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yes i am, but i am currently building a Dom sub relationship from here, that i am very happy with.

i do believe we've spoken..but i have been very busy with life recently xx"

Referring to me?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We did speak briefly just before you started what I believe to be the relationship your referring to x

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"We did speak briefly just before you started what I believe to be the relationship your referring to x"
yes you are still in my inbox..i havent ignored you..just ive been up north/ having minor op etc etc xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm looking for a female financial sub...

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By *ali 69Man
over a year ago

jersey

"What's a genuine sub? "
it's what Sean Connerey drove in the hunt for Red October .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a genuine sub?

It's all about limits and seeing reactions

Yes... but you're hardly going to let a complete stranger push all your limits though are you? Well I'm sure there are some that do but the vast majority.... op I would just start a friendship and go from there see what happens rather than looking for a sub... I'm very very sub for someone I trust but just wouldn't meet someone like you because I would be concerned that you would want to much from me from the get go

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

"What's a genuine sub? "
probley not to disimilar to a real Dom !

but hey ho you flips the coin and takes your chances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a genuine sub? "

Whats a real Dom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See the problem I have on here is 95% of the guys who claim to be a Dom looking for a sub have no idea at all what a Dom is

They want to just meet a woman and face fuck her and have a bit of rough sex and call it being dominant when really they are just lazy and selfish and out for what they can get and by asking for a sub they think they will get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See the problem I have on here is 95% of the guys who claim to be a Dom looking for a sub have no idea at all what a Dom is

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See the problem I have on here is 95% of the guys who claim to be a Dom looking for a sub have no idea at all what a Dom is

And your point is ???

Every dom is different. Not all dom have time to tie knots , flog , and suspend you. Some of us have wives and girlfriends to get home to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have been looking for a genuine sub woman out there who wants a very don man for some naughty fun however they seem to be very few and far between so thought I would ask on here....

So are there any genuine sub woman on fab??

Perhaps a start would be mentioning it in your profile, otherwise no one will know?

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

This part..sorry pressed wrong button but also communication is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See the problem I have on here is 95% of the guys who claim to be a Dom looking for a sub have no idea at all what a Dom is

And your point is ???

Every dom is different. Not all dom have time to tie knots , flog , and suspend you. Some of us have wives and girlfriends to get home to.

Well piss off home to her then and leave me to find a real man

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

Grrr sorry never attached...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have classes myself as a genuine sub, but after some horrible experiences meeting 'doms ' off here I don't risk it anymore. Defo need a lot of trust to have that 'genuine' relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have been looking for a genuine sub woman out there who wants a very don man for some naughty fun however they seem to be very few and far between so thought I would ask on here....

So are there any genuine sub woman on fab??

we are on here but we have trouble finding genuine dom/top males as most that claim to be doms are just thugs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We did speak briefly just before you started what I believe to be the relationship your referring to x yes you are still in my inbox..i havent ignored you..just ive been up north/ having minor op etc etc xx"

No problem hope all is ok x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a way I can check if I'm genuine or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a way I can check if I'm genuine or not?"

yes do you like being tied up /spanked /caned /humiliated /degraded

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"Is there a way I can check if I'm genuine or not?

yes do you like being tied up /spanked /caned /humiliated /degraded "

None of which have any baring on being a 'genuine sub'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See the problem I have on here is 95% of the guys who claim to be a Dom looking for a sub have no idea at all what a Dom is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a way I can check if I'm genuine or not?

yes do you like being tied up /spanked /caned /humiliated /degraded

None of which have any baring on being a 'genuine sub'"

Submissive & Dominance are a state of mind which sometimes manifests itself through physical actions.

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney

"Is there a way I can check if I'm genuine or not?

yes do you like being tied up /spanked /caned /humiliated /degraded

None of which have any baring on being a 'genuine sub'

Submissive & Dominance are a state of mind which sometimes manifests itself through physical actions. "

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a real sub but not looking for a Dom atm.

Maybe try Fetlife as its more tailored to that sort of thing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a way I can check if I'm genuine or not?"

If the mind control turns you on way more than any physical control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was lucky enough to be in D/s relationship for to years my Domination was not forced and her submission was not expected. Her submissiveness was a gift to me which she have willingly and i never to advantage of this. She was my equal. I was not above her and she is was not beneath me we had a very special bond that led us into falling in love. Unfortunately other circumstances conspired to our relationship but 6 months on due to the bond we had we are good friends without benefits because we get each other on a non physical manner and have total respect for each other.

Some of you may agree or disagree but its what worked for us and to me respect is what its all about.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I know a few submissive preferences ladies, who say the same about "doms"

Gosh missed the capital .... Still

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a few submissive preferences ladies, who say the same about "doms"

Gosh missed the capital .... Still

The devil is certainly in the detail.

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

"I was lucky enough to be in D/s relationship for to years my Domination was not forced and her submission was not expected. Her submissiveness was a gift to me which she have willingly and i never to advantage of this. She was my equal. I was not above her and she is was not beneath me we had a very special bond that led us into falling in love. Unfortunately other circumstances conspired to our relationship but 6 months on due to the bond we had we are good friends without benefits because we get each other on a non physical manner and have total respect for each other.

Some of you may agree or disagree but its what worked for us and to me respect is what its all about. "

Totally agree & all respect to you!

Signs of a real Dom/submissive.It's great to see more of us on here & not just linked to FetL.

Bambi x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its about relinquishing control to another based on limits and boundarys with a safe word to adhere to.

The ability of the dom (male or female)convincingly appliying this with the correct tone of voice and belief is key.

Its not just rough sex as most pseudo doms think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have been looking for a genuine sub woman out there who wants a very don man for some naughty fun however they seem to be very few and far between so thought I would ask on here....

So are there any genuine sub woman on fab??

Me I'm a genuine sub, read my veri xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also the after care for your sub should be respectful,sensuous,caring and even loving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are way more subs than dons on here.

But one thing i will say is this;

For many BDSM borders on theater with the level of thought and care put in but even for those that it is not so refined. A huge amount of trust is requested, and subs generally will be looking for a dom who comes across highly in control, attentive to detail and with an intriguing, even mysterious, mind.

For the first two guys, who posted as "real doms" who are struggling, do you think a few close ups of your cock or your shirt off in a bathroom conveys this level of attention to detail and perceptiveness?

Subs are choosy, you will have to attempt to put across your mentality both in your inages and your text.

Something very few doms seem capable of, yet many subs do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a way I can check if I'm genuine or not?

If the mind control turns you on way more than any physical control "

I thought there would be a label in my knickers or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a 'genuine' sub (fem) but as said above its about trust and developing a bond between the people involved not just a few rough sex sessions.

It took Mr several months of being together for me to begin to submit to him and him to become dominant with me. It took that time to build up that confidence and intimacy required.

And submission doesn't always involve sex, in fact a lot doesn't involve any sex at all

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"There are way more subs than dons on here.

But one thing i will say is this;

Yes, I met someone on here who was just naturally like that the first time we met and the dynamic was just such that I melted and let go the end without any discussion.

They are rare birds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no true way to dom or sub, it is merely what works for each party. It is like saying there is one way to swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do people mean when they say 'genuine'? There was a similar thread the other day asking if they were any 'genuine cuckold couples'. Firstly being a sub, as with being a Dom lands on a spectrum. I am a sub, but there are subs that are more sub than me. I am quite novice, but still genuine. Secondly the right pairing between sub and Dom is required. I have attempted four D/s relationships in two and a half years, and for a selection of reasons none have worked to either mine or their satisfaction. It's very difficult to find the right Dom, who has the time to dedicate. But, as with subs, it doesn't make them not genuine.

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"So I have been looking for a genuine sub woman out there who wants a very don man for some naughty fun however they seem to be very few and far between so thought I would ask on here....

So are there any genuine sub woman on fab??

Out of interest, what makes you feel you're a Dominant?

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By *aycee70Couple
over a year ago

Eastbourne

Yes there is.

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney

"Also the after care for your sub should be respectful,sensuous,caring and even loving."

After care is non negotiable! It cannot be neglected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are way more subs than dons on here.

But one thing i will say is this;

Subs are choosy, you will have to attempt to put across your mentality both in your inages and your text.

Something very few doms seem capable of, yet many subs do."

Eloquently put, I'm attracted to the sapiosexual aspects of the D/s role, more so than the physical attributes (although that is also a very delightful bonus), if a man doesn't stimulate my mind, woe me, intrigue me and talk to me how I expect - then I am very unlikely to offer them the gift of my full submission.. And for me, it is a long-term, trust building process

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"So I have been looking for a genuine sub woman out there who wants a very don man for some naughty fun however they seem to be very few and far between so thought I would ask on here....

So are there any genuine sub woman on fab??

Me I'm a genuine sub, read my veri xx"

Great brat score

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By *ymph and ManicCouple
over a year ago

North East

Most so called doms wouldn't know what it actually means and they stupidly think a fem would submit to the inane crap that they dish out ... ... ... far to many wannabes ... and chancers ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bdsm is a highly personal and subjective thing. What is one persons heaven is another's hell and visa versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a dom. I am a feisty sub. We do exist.

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

i am submissive, i have a Master, we live in a 24/7 D/s relationship, perhaps a fet website would be of more use to you.

karen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my limited experience of the BDSM scene l find it comparable to learning to drive. You drive the way necessary to pass the test, then the rest goes out the window, and someone is always willing to tell you the correct way to drive. The sensible learners keep in mind the safety aspects but there are a lot of drivers who do all sorts of things that are not sensible but have great fun.

Last year l was quite fascist about what was real bdsm but the more l go to clubs and meet people who play, and the more l interact with groups on fetlife the more l think that authoritative tosh is spoken by people on Fab. I was at event recently with 4 other doms their combined experience was over 100 years. When they spoke l listened because their words had truth and universal application. I don't get that from many of the contributers to threads on fetish on Fab. I just hear people saying this is what l like and there are no other ways of being a dom or a sub.

If it works for you great but from what l have seen there are many ways to be a sub and many ways to be a dom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The truth is this. You can't learn to be either. You either are or your not. You can learn skills that can be used but then anyone can learn to do stuff. Its the smallest of looks that tells me all I will ever need to know. Someone has said that there are many ways to be on both sides of the fence and that is very true. Be true to yourself and know who you are before you allow anyone into your mind.

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney

"Bdsm is a highly personal and subjective thing. What is one persons heaven is another's hell and visa versa. "

I love the way you put that!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I would have classes myself as a genuine sub, but after some horrible experiences meeting 'doms ' off here I don't risk it anymore. Defo need a lot of trust to have that 'genuine' relationship "

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"Most so called doms wouldn't know what it actually means and they stupidly think a fem would submit to the inane crap that they dish out ... ... ... far to many wannabes ... and chancers ... "

Submission is earned, just like respect.

I'm switch and sometimes look for someone dominant. I find it funny when so called doms don't even read my profile or verifications to know that I'm Domme myself and experienced in BDSM. They don't ask what I'm into or what my limits are. So easy to see straight through the 'call me sir bitch' bullshit.

Interesting reactions from so many wannabes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have been looking for a genuine sub woman out there who wants a very don man for some naughty fun however they seem to be very few and far between so thought I would ask on here....

So are there any genuine sub woman on fab??

There are plenty of sub women out there you've just got to look in the right places. I find that most on fab are either not into bdsm or to an extent where it would be considered mild by people who are well experienced with it. Although there are some I have come across I'd say they are few and far between on fab and you're better off looking elsewhere where there are more keen subs and doms. I guess it all depends on what kind of sub you want really!

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