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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been meeting a lovely older woman for a few months for regular fun and although we're having a great time she's very inexperienced and quite vanilla.

She's only ever been with one other bloke (married young, now divorced) and she's lead quite a sheltered sex life.

I've been bringing her out of her shell and introducing a few new things to keep it interesting, some light anal play, restraints, and a little bondage. Nothing too heavy at all.

Last night in the throes of passion ( ) I asked what her fantasies were and she didn't really have any. So I told her mine, a MMF.

She looked a little shocked and later said something about it being a bombshell. The question is, do I bring it up again? And if so, how?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been meeting a lovely older woman for a few months for regular fun and although we're having a great time she's very inexperienced and quite vanilla.

She's only ever been with one other bloke (married young, now divorced) and she's lead quite a sheltered sex life.

I've been bringing her out of her shell and introducing a few new things to keep it interesting, some light anal play, restraints, and a little bondage. Nothing too heavy at all.

Last night in the throes of passion ( ) I asked what her fantasies were and she didn't really have any. So I told her mine, a MMF.

She looked a little shocked and later said something about it being a bombshell. The question is, do I bring it up again? And if so, how?

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I dunno, but if you do manage to talk her round, give me a nod. Love mmf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never done it before I met Tony. Make sure she has a say in everything because if she's not happy it's not going happen. We always do a social meet no booze. means I'm in control of situation. I'm very nervous of meeting new men, but Tony makes sure I'm safe. Marie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, you could either just straight up and ask, or take a more deceitful approach. A friend of mine had organised a none pushy guy to come and chat them both up. Personally I would just come out and say it. You obviously like the idea and if she isn't into it maybe it just not meant to be....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd never done it before I met Tony. Make sure she has a say in everything because if she's not happy it's not going happen. We always do a social meet no booze. means I'm in control of situation. I'm very nervous of meeting new men, but Tony makes sure I'm safe. Marie x"

Thanks Marie, I kind of want everything to be on her terms anyway if it's something we ever decide to try. Although it's my idea it's more for her so picking the guy, circumstances etc would all be her with my help and support - kind of along the lines you mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends, you could either just straight up and ask, or take a more deceitful approach. A friend of mine had organised a none pushy guy to come and chat them both up. Personally I would just come out and say it. You obviously like the idea and if she isn't into it maybe it just not meant to be...."

I wouldn't want to deceive her - I care to much about her for anything like that.

Like I said, I did tell her so now I'm guessing she's pondering it. Hopefully positively and she brings it up again herself... If not I might just leave it as it probably means she's not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From personal experience. do NOT push the issue, she will not have forgotten what you said, be patient, give her time to gain trust in you.

Say no more about it, as she may think you are testing her in some way.

This absolutely has to be done at her pace, make her think its no big deal to you either way by saying nothing more and she might, in time surprise you by bringing it up.

Pressure her too soon and you have no chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've put the idea in her head now, don't bring it up again just let her mull it over and she'll come to you if she decides she wants to hear more about your fantasy.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id say you have put the idea into her head - if YOU persue it she may feel youre pushing her to do stuff she not keen on - see if she mentions it again take it from there - and no rushing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, sound advice and along the lines of what I think I already knew.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just honest with her try socials with no pressure and take it away plus its a good way of talking to other swingers we are not that scary x

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