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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone have any tips for regaining confidence after experiencing a bad meet. Kinda destroyed my self confidence X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any tips for regaining confidence after experiencing a bad meet. Kinda destroyed my self confidence X "

For me, personally, I just looked at all the meets I had that weren't so bad and didn't let one experience get to me.. Then I went out and met someone else and had it all restored lol why not?

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

I had a bad meet which knocked what little confidence I have because the way it panned out made me take a long hard look at myself, my attitude, my self respect and my boundaries. I've learnt lessons from it meaning a similar situation won't arise in the future which is a positive thing.

I guess you need to look at why you think it was bad ... and what you can reasonably do to ensure it won't happen again, Obviously you can't always precisely predict other people, chemistry, external factors etc but if you remained true to yourself then you shouldn't let it get you down too much.

I was lucky to have a meet with some lovely friends lined up soon after my bad experience which really helped as it reminded me my judgement isn't usually crap.

Ms G

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any tips for regaining confidence after experiencing a bad meet. Kinda destroyed my self confidence X

For me, personally, I just looked at all the meets I had that weren't so bad and didn't let one experience get to me.. Then I went out and met someone else and had it all restored lol why not? "

Thank you I'll do just that x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had a bad meet which knocked what little confidence I have because the way it panned out made me take a long hard look at myself, my attitude, my self respect and my boundaries. I've learnt lessons from it meaning a similar situation won't arise in the future which is a positive thing.

I guess you need to look at why you think it was bad ... and what you can reasonably do to ensure it won't happen again, Obviously you can't always precisely predict other people, chemistry, external factors etc but if you remained true to yourself then you shouldn't let it get you down too much.

I was lucky to have a meet with some lovely friends lined up soon after my bad experience which really helped as it reminded me my judgement isn't usually crap.

Ms G "

The incident was a few months ago but it crippled my self confidence I have been chatting to people about it but I'm still finding it hard to get pasted it and move on X

Gonna meet someone I've met before see if that helps X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any tips for regaining confidence after experiencing a bad meet. Kinda destroyed my self confidence X

For me, personally, I just looked at all the meets I had that weren't so bad and didn't let one experience get to me.. Then I went out and met someone else and had it all restored lol why not? "

Hope you feel better soon OP. x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Does anyone have any tips for regaining confidence after experiencing a bad meet. Kinda destroyed my self confidence X "

Pretty much everyone has bad meets sometimes. Learn from it, put it down to experience and move on. It probably wasn't your fault and it doesn't mean all meets will be bad.

I know a loss of confidence can be crippling sometimes. I go through phases of it myself. A lot of us do. Be kind to yourself and pay no attention to anyone who isn't kind.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

This for me has only ever been about recreational sex and nothing to do with confidence boosting. It's no different to me than going along to a new book, knitting etc club.

I've had meets where they've treated me with contempt in public, where they lost their erection when I've got naked then ran off when I went to the loo...All part and parcel of meeting strangers for sex.

If what you see in the mirror you're happy with and recognise not everyone you come in contact with will like you/be nice, then you'll easily be able to shake of the arseholes. Don't rely on anyone to make you feel good about yourself, be your own cheer team, others should simply enhance not define, so go you op.

Do something for you that doesn't involve the validation of someone else. You'll feel fabulous in no time.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Be kind to yourself and pay no attention to anyone who isn't kind."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a time out as my bad meet was scary. I reconfigured how I conduct meets and that's not negotiable. I didn't like myself for a while then realised it wasn't me who'd been wrong. You have to love yourself first; the rest will fall into place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a bad meet which knocked what little confidence I have because the way it panned out made me take a long hard look at myself, my attitude, my self respect and my boundaries. I've learnt lessons from it meaning a similar situation won't arise in the future which is a positive thing.

I guess you need to look at why you think it was bad ... and what you can reasonably do to ensure it won't happen again, Obviously you can't always precisely predict other people, chemistry, external factors etc but if you remained true to yourself then you shouldn't let it get you down too much.

I was lucky to have a meet with some lovely friends lined up soon after my bad experience which really helped as it reminded me my judgement isn't usually crap.

Ms G

The incident was a few months ago but it crippled my self confidence I have been chatting to people about it but I'm still finding it hard to get pasted it and move on X

Gonna meet someone I've met before see if that helps X "

I would suggest that this is a very good idea. People you have seen before are very good for restoring flagging confidence. Hope you get your mojo back very soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This for me has only ever been about recreational sex and nothing to do with confidence boosting. It's no different to me than going along to a new book, knitting etc club.

I've had meets where they've treated me with contempt in public, where they lost their erection when I've got naked then ran off when I went to the loo...All part and parcel of meeting strangers for sex.

If what you see in the mirror you're happy with and recognise not everyone you come in contact with will like you/be nice, then you'll easily be able to shake of the arseholes. Don't rely on anyone to make you feel good about yourself, be your own cheer team, others should simply enhance not define, so go you op.

Do something for you that doesn't involve the validation of someone else. You'll feel fabulous in no time. "

Aww

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