FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting Two Single Guys

By *alandNita OP Couple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Hi Everyone.

Just wondering, has anyone arranged a meet with two single guys. Anita is fancying the idea of two extra men joining us and I'm wondering about the best way of arranging it.

Should I just approach two guys separately, or find one and ask him to bring a friend, or even look for a straigh MM couple?

Also what about passing details of the two guys to each other, would that be expected/required or will most guys just go with the flow.

Cheers, Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've arranged several meets with two single guys

I've met a few male couples but mainly had 3sums with two guys who didn't know each other

I've never had a problem finding single guys to meet regardless of the amount

I tend to pass on each others profile names so they can have a look at their profile as I meet bi guys so if they are playing with each other they are more likely to want to see each other before meeting, if they are straight guys I can't see what it matters what the other guy looks like

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By *occerstar579Man
over a year ago

norwich

"Hi Everyone.

Just wondering, has anyone arranged a meet with two single guys. Anita is fancying the idea of two extra men joining us and I'm wondering about the best way of arranging it.

Would guess the most hornieat experience is if its a first meet for all. You will have no problems finding two willing males to go with flow

Should I just approach two guys separately, or find one and ask him to bring a friend, or even look for a straigh MM couple?

Also what about passing details of the two guys to each other, would that be expected/required or will most guys just go with the flow.

Cheers, Cal"

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By *alandNita OP Couple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Well I have to say that it hasn't gone as well as hoped.

I've trawled through the single non-smoking guys aged between 30 and 50, discounting anyone with a Cock avatar or a name like "ivorbiggun" or "pussy destroyer" and chosen a bunch who I felt Anita would fancy.

I've chosen the Derby area as there seemed to be lots of suitable gentlemen in the area and I've booked a room at a Travel lodge.

I've now sent 14 messages to guys and although two replied with apologies saying that they were already committed to family things this weekend, the others have either not replied or just deleted the message.

Here was me thinking that guys were always complaining about lack of oportunities.

It appears we may be cruising at the Attic on Saturday night instead.

..... Dissapointing from Scunthorpe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just shows how many time wasters there are on here.

If I had an offer like that I'd jump at the chance.

In fact if I weren't working this weekend I'd consider driving up for the meet and driving home again after.

Hope you manage to find someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe put up a meet and see what comes a knocking im sure you will get a responce

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just shows how many time wasters there are on here.

If I had an offer like that I'd jump at the chance.

In fact if I weren't working this weekend I'd consider driving up for the meet and driving home again after.

Hope you manage to find someone. "

Why are they time wasters?

2 said they are busy. The other we're not interested. Are single men not allowed to say no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just shows how many time wasters there are on here.

If I had an offer like that I'd jump at the chance.

In fact if I weren't working this weekend I'd consider driving up for the meet and driving home again after.

Hope you manage to find someone.

Why are they time wasters?

2 said they are busy. The other we're not interested. Are single men not allowed to say no?

Apparently not no....

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

"Just shows how many time wasters there are on here.

If I had an offer like that I'd jump at the chance.

In fact if I weren't working this weekend I'd consider driving up for the meet and driving home again after.

Hope you manage to find someone.

Why are they time wasters?

2 said they are busy. The other we're not interested. Are single men not allowed to say no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just shows how many time wasters there are on here.

If I had an offer like that I'd jump at the chance.

In fact if I weren't working this weekend I'd consider driving up for the meet and driving home again after.

Hope you manage to find someone.

Why are they time wasters?

2 said they are busy. The other we're not interested. Are single men not allowed to say no?

Saying no is fine - but the op is not a mind reader - a polite message saying no thanks would be an appropriate response, rather than no reply. m x

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

"Just shows how many time wasters there are on here.

If I had an offer like that I'd jump at the chance.

In fact if I weren't working this weekend I'd consider driving up for the meet and driving home again after.

Hope you manage to find someone.

Why are they time wasters?

2 said they are busy. The other we're not interested. Are single men not allowed to say no?

Saying no is fine - but the op is not a mind reader - a polite message saying no thanks would be an appropriate response, rather than no reply. m x"

but this is fab no reply means not interested

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By *alandNita OP Couple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Why are they time wasters?

2 said they are busy. The other we're not interested. Are single men not allowed to say no?

Saying no is fine - but the op is not a mind reader - a polite message saying no thanks would be an appropriate response, rather than no reply. m x

but this is fab no reply means not interested "

I agree, certainly nobody has wasted my time. I wasn't even having a rant about it. I thought it was interesting to show that it isn't just single guys who have no response to their messages.

Ultimately everyone is allowed to suit themselves, and the most certainly should do. I don't need to be psychic to know that someone's not interested if they don't reply.

At the end of the day, I should have cast the net a bit wider before I booked a non-refundable room (wally...) but I suppose that the logistics of getting a meet planned with two seperate parties at the same time was always going to be a challenge.... we all love a challenge though.

I'm sure we'll find a couple of guys at the Attic who'll help fulfill Anita's "Airtight" fantasy...

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may have more luck meeting in a club???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Everyone.

Just wondering, has anyone arranged a meet with two single guys. Anita is fancying the idea of two extra men joining us and I'm wondering about the best way of arranging it.

Should I just approach two guys separately, or find one and ask him to bring a friend, or even look for a straigh MM couple?

Also what about passing details of the two guys to each other, would that be expected/required or will most guys just go with the flow.

Cheers, Cal"

Have sent you a private message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just shows how many time wasters there are on here.

If I had an offer like that I'd jump at the chance.

In fact if I weren't working this weekend I'd consider driving up for the meet and driving home again after.

Hope you manage to find someone.

Why are they time wasters?

2 said they are busy. The other we're not interested. Are single men not allowed to say no?

Saying no is fine - but the op is not a mind reader - a polite message saying no thanks would be an appropriate response, rather than no reply. m x

but this is fab no reply means not interested "

That only applies to women

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By *alandNita OP Couple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"You may have more luck meeting in a club??? "

I'm sure we'll be fine at the club, we were just trying for something a little more intimate ... what with it being Anita's birthday and everything.

Cal

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By *eeeee7Woman
over a year ago

over yonder

"Just shows how many time wasters there are on here.

If I had an offer like that I'd jump at the chance.

In fact if I weren't working this weekend I'd consider driving up for the meet and driving home again after.

Hope you manage to find someone. "
how does that make them timewasters? what exactly have they done thats wasted time

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

we arranged a meet with a guy we met in a club at a hotel. After we met him he told a mate of his (also on here ) about us who then made contact. Both of them mailed separately about how they'd had 3somes together. The original guy then suggested a hotel meet, so we said yes and why don't you bring your mate for an MMMF. Which was agreed. Then the original guy mailed saying he thought it would be more fun WITHOUT his mate there. His mate then mailed saying he couldn't wait for the meet. The original guy then went v quiet and the meet was canned by the original guy.

So, in a very roundabout way, OP, we'd say meet 2 single guys who don't know each other, no baggage or insecurities between them. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just shows how many time wasters there are on here.

If I had an offer like that I'd jump at the chance.

In fact if I weren't working this weekend I'd consider driving up for the meet and driving home again after.

Hope you manage to find someone.

Why are they time wasters?

2 said they are busy. The other we're not interested. Are single men not allowed to say no?

Saying no is fine - but the op is not a mind reader - a polite message saying no thanks would be an appropriate response, rather than no reply. m x"

Polite message... No response means not interested. Do you answer every piece of junk mail that comes in the post? What you don't understand is Us single men get bombarded with messages from couples and single females daily. We get 300 messages a day. If we were to reply to every single couple or single female that wanted to have sex. We would need to hire a full time personal assistance. Then when we do answer " No thank you " we get abuse or a " why not message"

It's just not worth it to respond. So we have to just delete...

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By *alandNita OP Couple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

To be blatantly honest, I was guilty of stereotyping single guys based on the few who rant on the forums. It was more than a little conceited to assume that everyone I messaged would be chomping at the bit to meet us. I should have known better really.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Everyone.

Just wondering, has anyone arranged a meet with two single guys. Anita is fancying the idea of two extra men joining us and I'm wondering about the best way of arranging it.

Should I just approach two guys separately, or find one and ask him to bring a friend, or even look for a straigh MM couple?

Also what about passing details of the two guys to each other, would that be expected/required or will most guys just go with the flow.

Cheers, Cal"

We have. Invited 4 only two turned up, advised all what the situation was.

Jolly good fun it was to.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"Hi Everyone.

Just wondering, has anyone arranged a meet with two single guys. Anita is fancying the idea of two extra men joining us and I'm wondering about the best way of arranging it.

Should I just approach two guys separately, or find one and ask him to bring a friend, or even look for a straigh MM couple?

Also what about passing details of the two guys to each other, would that be expected/required or will most guys just go with the flow.

Cheers, Cal"

My 2p..

I'd have thought if you'd described in your message(s) what you were looking for that may have put quite a few guys off, Two guys In a mmmf who haven't met before is a totally different dynamic than a guy meeting a couple on his own and different if he's met you and the other guy before.. if this would be the first time there's complex dynamics..... I'm not surprised you've had a slow response, I know it's often said (often jokingly). guys have the any holes a goal mentality ...it's not really the case what happens if the chemistry isn't right you've now four personalities to accommodate two guys who might compare themselves to each other ... I'd say it's hard enough finding one to find two that all get on and are happy ..good luck in your search..

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