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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Rant warning!!

Why do some (i realise this doesn't apply to everyone) single guys think they're going to get a shag by being rude?? I just don't get it. Replied to someone who lives an hour's drive from me saying sorry but it's too far for me - he can't travel. Got a rude message back. I honestly give up! I try to be polite and reply to as many messages as I can. Obviously I've blocked him now, but it really gets me annoyed.

So should I just routinely block everyone who messages that doesn't appeal to me, ignore their messages or reply with a polite no thanks?

Ok, rant over. As you were!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block everyone and do your own searching

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

What do you think you should do

Pick one of your options and own your enjoyment

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He was probably upset, he didn't get to experience those deepthroating skills in your profile pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well apparently i was harsh for not replying to a guy now im getting constant messages off him saying my loss lol

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Well apparently i was harsh for not replying to a guy now im getting constant messages off him saying my loss lol"

Block him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On our couple account we were arranging to meet a single guy who lived 3 miles away. We suggested a place 2 miles from us and 1 mile from him and he said it was too far lol.

Some men, women and couples are obnoxious. Block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore and block the ones you don't want to meet. I've heard guys on here don't take rejection well so it's not worth messaging and being nice, you'll just get more abuse like the idiot you've just dealt with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On our couple account we were arranging to meet a single guy who lived 3 miles away. We suggested a place 2 miles from us and 1 mile from him and he said it was too far lol.

Some men, women and couples are obnoxious. Block and move on."

Your kidding me.. too funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Many don't take rejection well, that's why a lot if single women don't proactively message guys and prefer to be chased. They couldn't cope with a No thanks or to be ignored.

I dare say a few might become abusive.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Of*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work "

Spot on,

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work "

Works for me hun! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many don't take rejection well, that's why a lot if single women don't proactively message guys and prefer to be chased. They couldn't cope with a No thanks or to be ignored.

I dare say a few might become abusive."

In my experience they do,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work

Spot on, "

Tbh I rarely go searching. Never seem to see a profile I liked when I did start looking. I know it's lazy, but just the way it is. I don't like ignoring it when a guy's taken time to message, however think that's what I'm going to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not had many abusive responses to me saying no thanks, I find they just agree with me when I say they aren't my type and just get messages back saying things like, worth a try or thanks for the reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work

Spot on,

Tbh I rarely go searching. Never seem to see a profile I liked when I did start looking. I know it's lazy, but just the way it is. I don't like ignoring it when a guy's taken time to message, however think that's what I'm going to do"

Saves all the types you don't want i guess...least you can narrow down who your after based on their profile. Might help separate the wheat from the chaff as it were.

Hope it works for ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work

Works for me hun! X"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These days I tend to use the No Reply means No Thanks line & it's on my profile that I probably won't reply.

Generally you can see from the 1st line if they're going to be rude,I then just hit the delete button without reading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message the ones you want to and either ignore or block the idiots and there are lots of them, male female, couples and fake profiles (couples and females are normally the fake idiots) as genuine people if not new will be verified.

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By *addubMan
over a year ago

dublin. 12

as soon as you get the first rude message from them just block them then they cant send you any more. works for all rude or timewasters.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I just ignore the one's that don't interest me, due to lack of profile or just have a cock pic, it works for me.

And yes I have had plenty of abuse over the years it just becomes water off a ducks back

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

[Removed by poster at 02/07/16 16:38:54]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The cause of about 90% of the rants on here I imagine.

Lazy women leading to mass messaging men leading to complaining women.

Girls, this isn't what you threw yourself in front of the King's horse for.

It's 2016, make the effort, make the move."

Excuse me we are not lazy women.

The volume of messages on Fab from men to women is caused by the being vastly more men on here than women. I do do my own searching sometimes. XXX

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work

Spot on,

Tbh I rarely go searching. Never seem to see a profile I liked when I did start looking. I know it's lazy, but just the way it is. I don't like ignoring it when a guy's taken time to message, however think that's what I'm going to do"

The cause of about 90% of the rants on here I imagine.

Lazy women leading to mass messaging men leading to complaining women.

Girls, this isn't what you threw yourself in front of the King's horse for.

It's 2016, make the effort, make the move.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work

Spot on,

Tbh I rarely go searching. Never seem to see a profile I liked when I did start looking. I know it's lazy, but just the way it is. I don't like ignoring it when a guy's taken time to message, however think that's what I'm going to do

The cause of about 90% of the rants on here I imagine.

Lazy women leading to mass messaging men leading to complaining women.

Girls, this isn't what you threw yourself in front of the King's horse for.

It's 2016, make the effort, make the move."

Try having a look in my area! Crap profiles, no pics and you say try looking for yourself, duh, do you really think most women haven't tried looking for themselves?

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

I block single men and do my own searching but still get abusive responses at times. Even had one the other day I blocked then he set up another account and then preceeded to message my new verification to be wary of me. No bloody escape frome them! No matter how proactive at searches you are

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work

Spot on,

Tbh I rarely go searching. Never seem to see a profile I liked when I did start looking. I know it's lazy, but just the way it is. I don't like ignoring it when a guy's taken time to message, however think that's what I'm going to do

The cause of about 90% of the rants on here I imagine.

Lazy women leading to mass messaging men leading to complaining women.

Girls, this isn't what you threw yourself in front of the King's horse for.

It's 2016, make the effort, make the move.

Try having a look in my area! Crap profiles, no pics and you say try looking for yourself, duh, do you really think most women haven't tried looking for themselves? "

The ones I've asked all say they're too busy responding to messages from unsuitable blokes who sent nonsense messages. Seriously, with the 20:1 odds in your favour, I'm sure you won't find it too difficult..

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work

Spot on,

Tbh I rarely go searching. Never seem to see a profile I liked when I did start looking. I know it's lazy, but just the way it is. I don't like ignoring it when a guy's taken time to message, however think that's what I'm going to do

The cause of about 90% of the rants on here I imagine.

Lazy women leading to mass messaging men leading to complaining women.

Girls, this isn't what you threw yourself in front of the King's horse for.

It's 2016, make the effort, make the move.

Try having a look in my area! Crap profiles, no pics and you say try looking for yourself, duh, do you really think most women haven't tried looking for themselves?

The ones I've asked all say they're too busy responding to messages from unsuitable blokes who sent nonsense messages. Seriously, with the 20:1 odds in your favour, I'm sure you won't find it too difficult.."

Well I've been here for 7 years and I don't bother responding to crap messages I receive, I simply ignore them, I do try and look but as I said above, one line profiles and a cock pic doesn't really inspire me surprise surprise

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work

Spot on,

Tbh I rarely go searching. Never seem to see a profile I liked when I did start looking. I know it's lazy, but just the way it is. I don't like ignoring it when a guy's taken time to message, however think that's what I'm going to do

The cause of about 90% of the rants on here I imagine.

Lazy women leading to mass messaging men leading to complaining women.

Girls, this isn't what you threw yourself in front of the King's horse for.

It's 2016, make the effort, make the move.

Try having a look in my area! Crap profiles, no pics and you say try looking for yourself, duh, do you really think most women haven't tried looking for themselves?

The ones I've asked all say they're too busy responding to messages from unsuitable blokes who sent nonsense messages. Seriously, with the 20:1 odds in your favour, I'm sure you won't find it too difficult..

Well I've been here for 7 years and I don't bother responding to crap messages I receive, I simply ignore them, I do try and look but as I said above, one line profiles and a cock pic doesn't really inspire me surprise surprise "

Surely this just makes sifting through the options easier..

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work

Spot on,

Tbh I rarely go searching. Never seem to see a profile I liked when I did start looking. I know it's lazy, but just the way it is. I don't like ignoring it when a guy's taken time to message, however think that's what I'm going to do

The cause of about 90% of the rants on here I imagine.

Lazy women leading to mass messaging men leading to complaining women.

Girls, this isn't what you threw yourself in front of the King's horse for.

It's 2016, make the effort, make the move.

Try having a look in my area! Crap profiles, no pics and you say try looking for yourself, duh, do you really think most women haven't tried looking for themselves?

The ones I've asked all say they're too busy responding to messages from unsuitable blokes who sent nonsense messages. Seriously, with the 20:1 odds in your favour, I'm sure you won't find it too difficult..

Well I've been here for 7 years and I don't bother responding to crap messages I receive, I simply ignore them, I do try and look but as I said above, one line profiles and a cock pic doesn't really inspire me surprise surprise

Surely this just makes sifting through the options easier.. "

What don't you get about what I have said? Twice now! I do know what I am speaking about!

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work

Spot on,

Tbh I rarely go searching. Never seem to see a profile I liked when I did start looking. I know it's lazy, but just the way it is. I don't like ignoring it when a guy's taken time to message, however think that's what I'm going to do

The cause of about 90% of the rants on here I imagine.

Lazy women leading to mass messaging men leading to complaining women.

Girls, this isn't what you threw yourself in front of the King's horse for.

It's 2016, make the effort, make the move.

Try having a look in my area! Crap profiles, no pics and you say try looking for yourself, duh, do you really think most women haven't tried looking for themselves?

The ones I've asked all say they're too busy responding to messages from unsuitable blokes who sent nonsense messages. Seriously, with the 20:1 odds in your favour, I'm sure you won't find it too difficult..

Well I've been here for 7 years and I don't bother responding to crap messages I receive, I simply ignore them, I do try and look but as I said above, one line profiles and a cock pic doesn't really inspire me surprise surprise

Surely this just makes sifting through the options easier..

What don't you get about what I have said? Twice now! I do know what I am speaking about! "

I get it completely. You can't be bothered to look through the profiles.

Fine. But put yourself in the position of the men that are suppose to do that before sending a beautifully crafted personal message to the women.

As well as complaining about it, think of some way to change it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way they respond is probably why they are single. Ruins things for genuine men. Ignore the modern idiots. X

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work

Spot on,

Tbh I rarely go searching. Never seem to see a profile I liked when I did start looking. I know it's lazy, but just the way it is. I don't like ignoring it when a guy's taken time to message, however think that's what I'm going to do

The cause of about 90% of the rants on here I imagine.

Lazy women leading to mass messaging men leading to complaining women.

Girls, this isn't what you threw yourself in front of the King's horse for.

It's 2016, make the effort, make the move.

Try having a look in my area! Crap profiles, no pics and you say try looking for yourself, duh, do you really think most women haven't tried looking for themselves?

The ones I've asked all say they're too busy responding to messages from unsuitable blokes who sent nonsense messages. Seriously, with the 20:1 odds in your favour, I'm sure you won't find it too difficult..

Well I've been here for 7 years and I don't bother responding to crap messages I receive, I simply ignore them, I do try and look but as I said above, one line profiles and a cock pic doesn't really inspire me surprise surprise

Surely this just makes sifting through the options easier..

What don't you get about what I have said? Twice now! I do know what I am speaking about!

I get it completely. You can't be bothered to look through the profiles.

Fine. But put yourself in the position of the men that are suppose to do that before sending a beautifully crafted personal message to the women.

As well as complaining about it, think of some way to change it.."

Do you know what? You obviously can't read the written word and just seem to think you are right, so I will leave you to it.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"Block and search yourself. Don't expect everyone to conform to what you expect..it won't happen. Be pro active and do the work

Spot on,

Tbh I rarely go searching. Never seem to see a profile I liked when I did start looking. I know it's lazy, but just the way it is. I don't like ignoring it when a guy's taken time to message, however think that's what I'm going to do

The cause of about 90% of the rants on here I imagine.

Lazy women leading to mass messaging men leading to complaining women.

Girls, this isn't what you threw yourself in front of the King's horse for.

It's 2016, make the effort, make the move.

Try having a look in my area! Crap profiles, no pics and you say try looking for yourself, duh, do you really think most women haven't tried looking for themselves?

The ones I've asked all say they're too busy responding to messages from unsuitable blokes who sent nonsense messages. Seriously, with the 20:1 odds in your favour, I'm sure you won't find it too difficult..

Well I've been here for 7 years and I don't bother responding to crap messages I receive, I simply ignore them, I do try and look but as I said above, one line profiles and a cock pic doesn't really inspire me surprise surprise

Surely this just makes sifting through the options easier..

What don't you get about what I have said? Twice now! I do know what I am speaking about!

I get it completely. You can't be bothered to look through the profiles.

Fine. But put yourself in the position of the men that are suppose to do that before sending a beautifully crafted personal message to the women.

As well as complaining about it, think of some way to change it..

Do you know what? You obviously can't read the written word and just seem to think you are right, so I will leave you to it. "

Thank you for being so gracious. I didn't expect to be able to change your opinion.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Rant warning!!

Why do some (i realise this doesn't apply to everyone) single guys think they're going to get a shag by being rude?? I just don't get it. Replied to someone who lives an hour's drive from me saying sorry but it's too far for me - he can't travel. Got a rude message back. I honestly give up! I try to be polite and reply to as many messages as I can. Obviously I've blocked him now, but it really gets me annoyed.

So should I just routinely block everyone who messages that doesn't appeal to me, ignore their messages or reply with a polite no thanks?

Ok, rant over. As you were! "

I think some people like drama and attention.

When visible my profile states I will not respond to anyone outwith what I'm looking for, and I don't. I also use the filters available.

Result? Angst and drama free seven years on Fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well apparently i was harsh for not replying to a guy now im getting constant messages off him saying my loss lol"
And yet you have not blocked him.

?

Don't complain about something you have control of..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners cost nothing,there are some real pricks on this site,i left a chat room earlier cos some guy was being nasty and rude to a lady,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These days I tend to use the No Reply means No Thanks line & it's on my profile...

"

This makes sense to me. While it's sad that it's the abusive sorts who guide your approach to replying, any decent person should accept that having read your profile well enough in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got abuse for replying to 'how are you?' recently became when he asked if wanted to meet I said no. Apparently that made me a time waster and I should have it owed the messages ! You just can't win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got abuse for replying to 'how are you?' recently became when he asked if wanted to meet I said no. Apparently that made me a time waster and I should have it owed the messages ! You just can't win. "

The 'timewaster' accusation is cute - amazed that someone with such obvious time pressures can spare so much on a website

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no win here for guinne single guys you can show all the manners in the world to people here with nothing in return, people would want to get back to the real world and start showing some from of manners to guinne guys,this place is starting to become a joke,a supermodel man would not some people stranders..

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