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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondering why everyone thought the swingers life style was for them.

I joined because id came out of a really boring marriage and it was nice to have a little fun again. Ive had some great meets and hope to have more. Sometimes i just wonder if ill find some one who i could maybes share the life style with,it doesnt seem it atm but i live in hope lol.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I enjoy group sex, 121 does very little for me

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By *appyjack890Man
over a year ago

North loncolnshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have a high sex drive, didn't really know what swinging was when i joined here but i love 3sums, and regular 1 on 1 sex.

i don't think swinging is for me but i'm gonna try out more clubs when i get the opportunity.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I like playgrounds in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(from Male half) Initially it was purely about the sex, as a tactile sort of person it was about getting to touch something new.

I started it within a relationship, as she at the time wanted to try going with a girl and swinging seemed the best way to achieve that.

Once pandoras box was opened and that relationship ended it was very hard to go back to vanilla world, and attended as many parties as i could, and did quite well. But it was not the same.

I could not settle down again until i met someone who was like me. SO for years every girl i met, when the pillow talk got deeper i was honest about my past to guage the reaction. I was surprised at how few ran away! But of course a relationship requires much more than shared sex fantasied to survive.

These days i got my perfect partner, we dont play as much as we used to, for us it is about being in a swinging/kink headspace as we hate living in the vanilla world and seek to escape it as often as possible.

So for us its about being free to be ourselves, and not pretending to be something that we are not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"(from Male half) Initially it was purely about the sex, as a tactile sort of person it was about getting to touch something new.

I started it within a relationship, as she at the time wanted to try going with a girl and swinging seemed the best way to achieve that.

Once pandoras box was opened and that relationship ended it was very hard to go back to vanilla world, and attended as many parties as i could, and did quite well. But it was not the same.

I could not settle down again until i met someone who was like me. SO for years every girl i met, when the pillow talk got deeper i was honest about my past to guage the reaction. I was surprised at how few ran away! But of course a relationship requires much more than shared sex fantasied to survive.

These days i got my perfect partner, we dont play as much as we used to, for us it is about being in a swinging/kink headspace as we hate living in the vanilla world and seek to escape it as often as possible.

So for us its about being free to be ourselves, and not pretending to be something that we are not. "

That sounds like perfect situation why cant i find that lol

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

It's something we've talked about pretty much ever since we met 15 years ago, as we're both extremely open minded sexually and open to the idea of most of what swinging has to offer. However until Feb of this year (when we took our first step through the doors of VA) life, circumstances etc always got in the way of actually taking the plunge and doing anything about it.

Mind you we're making up for lost time now, as any chance we get we're off to VA....does that "kids in a sweetshop" phase ever end?!

Mr G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"(from Male half) Initially it was purely about the sex, as a tactile sort of person it was about getting to touch something new.

I started it within a relationship, as she at the time wanted to try going with a girl and swinging seemed the best way to achieve that.

Once pandoras box was opened and that relationship ended it was very hard to go back to vanilla world, and attended as many parties as i could, and did quite well. But it was not the same.

I could not settle down again until i met someone who was like me. SO for years every girl i met, when the pillow talk got deeper i was honest about my past to guage the reaction. I was surprised at how few ran away! But of course a relationship requires much more than shared sex fantasied to survive.

These days i got my perfect partner, we dont play as much as we used to, for us it is about being in a swinging/kink headspace as we hate living in the vanilla world and seek to escape it as often as possible.

So for us its about being free to be ourselves, and not pretending to be something that we are not.

That sounds like perfect situation why cant i find that lol"

I honestly dont have a good answer for you, but we did not meet in a swinging setting, we were both very compatible. for what its worth, swinging takes a massive second place to the rest of our lives, i guess we both have huge contentment in each other. for me it is knowing that i can play, she knows she can play but we much prefer to play together if that makes sense! Because we are always so honest with eachother we live without fear of upsetting eachother. There is no jealousy, or rivalry ... just pure hedonsim.

I think many just try to hard, or will settle for less than their true hearts desire.

My advice is to meet lots of people, if you like them then fuck them, and keep fucking them until you dont like them anymore then find another and keep going until you meet the one. Or in our case we just did not like being apart after a week were inseperable, and we still dont being apart to this day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"(from Male half) Initially it was purely about the sex, as a tactile sort of person it was about getting to touch something new.

I started it within a relationship, as she at the time wanted to try going with a girl and swinging seemed the best way to achieve that.

Once pandoras box was opened and that relationship ended it was very hard to go back to vanilla world, and attended as many parties as i could, and did quite well. But it was not the same.

I could not settle down again until i met someone who was like me. SO for years every girl i met, when the pillow talk got deeper i was honest about my past to guage the reaction. I was surprised at how few ran away! But of course a relationship requires much more than shared sex fantasied to survive.

These days i got my perfect partner, we dont play as much as we used to, for us it is about being in a swinging/kink headspace as we hate living in the vanilla world and seek to escape it as often as possible.

So for us its about being free to be ourselves, and not pretending to be something that we are not.

That sounds like perfect situation why cant i find that lol

I honestly dont have a good answer for you, but we did not meet in a swinging setting, we were both very compatible. for what its worth, swinging takes a massive second place to the rest of our lives, i guess we both have huge contentment in each other. for me it is knowing that i can play, she knows she can play but we much prefer to play together if that makes sense! Because we are always so honest with eachother we live without fear of upsetting eachother. There is no jealousy, or rivalry ... just pure hedonsim.

I think many just try to hard, or will settle for less than their true hearts desire.

My advice is to meet lots of people, if you like them then fuck them, and keep fucking them until you dont like them anymore then find another and keep going until you meet the one. Or in our case we just did not like being apart after a week were inseperable, and we still dont being apart to this day. "

Lol i like the keep fucking advice pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I havent started yet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame I am outside your age range would of loved to be your swingers partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a swinger tbh. In a relationship I wouldn't swing. But as a single female with a high sex drive and a passion for kinky fun sex it seems to be the place to be.

Been on and off 4 yrs and tend not to meet often but when I do it tends to be with exceptional playmates.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"I havent started yet lol"

Someone on here always says "You need patience" I'm surprised he's not piped up already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i drifted into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i drifted into it"

Did you drift into the wine or chocolate in the end tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I havent started yet lol

Someone on here always says "You need patience" I'm surprised he's not piped up already "
lol and that is a good one and yes that is me that say it. I am just to busy with the gym

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We met just after we had divorced our exes, and admitted both of us had not been able to be 'faithful' - we need sexual variety. We decided to try swinging as a way of meeting our needs openly and honestly, went to La Chambre and absolutely loved the scene.

Both of us wondered how we'd feel watching the other one fucking someone else, but there was no jealousy at all. Swinging became part of our lives and we're both very happy with that. But that doesn't mean our one-on-ones lack anything!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best bit about being a swinger, is when a girl starts chatting me up i get to say 'If my partner fancies you too its game on!'

Seriously its about the honesty with eachother, when life throws those random encounters at you, we dont have to hide from each other, or worry about things getting taken the wrong way. There are not even any white lies, it just is not necessary. Window shopping is far more fun when we do it together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With my ex, it came from a desire to explore my bi side. And it turned out we were both kinky fuckers....

Anyway, since we split, I've rediscovered a lot of that. Ultimately it's a great way to explore with people. I gravitate towards those less judgemental. I'm getting better at identifying what I want, and actively seeking it instead of passively daydreaming and hoping.

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