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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think ive seen this topic before but just wondered how many people are put off meeting people because theyve seen who they had meets with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely. I look at the veris and if they're happy to go with someone who is also happy to go with half the UK then they ain't coming near me!! x

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By *umpPumpyMan
over a year ago

London

How do you mean exactly?

Your out off by what the people they meet look like? Or are they people you don't like?

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL


"I think ive seen this topic before but just wondered how many people are put off meeting people because theyve seen who they had meets with."

Absolutely, I even have it in my profile text! There are a few locals who fuck every man going and I won't even contemplate going there after!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think ive seen this topic before but just wondered how many people are put off meeting people because theyve seen who they had meets with."
yeah totally if I see a male who the female has played with and I don't like the look of him for whatever reason I won't go there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most definitely. I look at the veris and if they're happy to go with someone who is also happy to go with half the UK then they ain't coming near me!! x"

Thats how i feel i know ppl get veris off meeting at clubs etc...but im not looking to sleep with the whole site lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think ive seen this topic before but just wondered how many people are put off meeting people because theyve seen who they had meets with. yeah totally if I see a male who the female has played with and I don't like the look of him for whatever reason I won't go there "

Lol its weird im the same if i dont like the girls theyve played with dunno why it bothers me

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"There are a few locals who fuck every man going and I won't even contemplate going there after!"

I have the same issue. If I get in there first so to speak I have to high five myself......rarely happens though

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL


"There are a few locals who fuck every man going and I won't even contemplate going there after!

I have the same issue. If I get in there first so to speak I have to high five myself......rarely happens though "

Tell me about it, there's no fresh meat left in Bristol! Lol X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

I never have a clue who's fucked who in real life so i don't much care on fab

Fab is odd like that..generally in real life nobody even thinks of looking at who someone has fucked in the past. When it comes to fab suddenly people get all judgemental over previous fucks. It's a strange thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are a few locals who fuck every man going and I won't even contemplate going there after!

I have the same issue. If I get in there first so to speak I have to high five myself......rarely happens though "

Haha i do that no veris scare me but i like if im the first lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are a few locals who fuck every man going and I won't even contemplate going there after!

I have the same issue. If I get in there first so to speak I have to high five myself......rarely happens though

Haha i do that no veris scare me but i like if im the first lol"

Does that apply in real life too? Preferring to be the first..or is being territorial a bit of a fab thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chances are even if they don't they still sling it around sooooooo.......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are a few locals who fuck every man going and I won't even contemplate going there after!

I have the same issue. If I get in there first so to speak I have to high five myself......rarely happens though

Haha i do that no veris scare me but i like if im the first lol

Does that apply in real life too? Preferring to be the first..or is being territorial a bit of a fab thing? "

Im very territorial maybes the wrong site for me pmsl

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Chances are even if they don't they still sling it around sooooooo......."

Yea but what u dnt know cant hurt ya lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are a few locals who fuck every man going and I won't even contemplate going there after!

I have the same issue. If I get in there first so to speak I have to high five myself......rarely happens though

Haha i do that no veris scare me but i like if im the first lol

Does that apply in real life too? Preferring to be the first..or is being territorial a bit of a fab thing?

Im very territorial maybes the wrong site for me pmsl"

Not necessarily...you just have to use it in your own way.

It's something i never understood particularly but that's me.

If fab is working for you then carry on how you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not put off by the people they've been with but if a girl has got about a hundred veri's then I am a bit put off, not because I think badly of them for that but because I'd feel a bit intimidated by their experience and I'd think I had a lot to live up to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the reason i hide all veri's and allways will. I meet who i want when i want. Dont like it you know what you can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are a few locals who fuck every man going and I won't even contemplate going there after!

I have the same issue. If I get in there first so to speak I have to high five myself......rarely happens though

Haha i do that no veris scare me but i like if im the first lol

Does that apply in real life too? Preferring to be the first..or is being territorial a bit of a fab thing?

Im very territorial maybes the wrong site for me pmsl"

You said it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chances are even if they don't they still sling it around sooooooo.......

Yea but what u dnt know cant hurt ya lol"

Ummm imagine a Fab Advisor....

Met Mr Mason...he was late..rude... constantly flirting with the waitress and never fucking again ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not put off by the people they've been with but if a girl has got about a hundred veri's then I am a bit put off, not because I think badly of them for that but because I'd feel a bit intimidated by their experience and I'd think I had a lot to live up to. "

Or you could look and them and think 'what could they teach me?' There's always some fun to be had..those other 100 people aren't somehow better than you or i are they? They're just people too

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I couldn't care less about who a person has met, if we tick each others' boxes and get on, then there's gonna be a high probability that we'll meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not put off by the people they've been with but if a girl has got about a hundred veri's then I am a bit put off, not because I think badly of them for that but because I'd feel a bit intimidated by their experience and I'd think I had a lot to live up to.

Or you could look and them and think 'what could they teach me?' There's always some fun to be had..those other 100 people aren't somehow better than you or i are they? They're just people too "

Yeah I see your point, maybe it's just mind over matter, I just think I'd get compared to every other guy she'd met before me. I had a conversation about it the other day with a regular forumite, lovely girl, she has a lot of veri's and I told her I'd be intimidated by them, she just laughed and told me I'd be surprised how rubbish most of them were and not to over think it. Maybe it's just a confidence thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do look at verifications and will avoid them if they have been with certain other females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it puts us off on times .

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

No, unless the person has met others that are all similar in some way but I'm different. It doesn't put me off but I wonder why and it makes me more cautious.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I'm not put off by the people they've been with but if a girl has got about a hundred veri's then I am a bit put off, not because I think badly of them for that but because I'd feel a bit intimidated by their experience and I'd think I had a lot to live up to.

Or you could look and them and think 'what could they teach me?' There's always some fun to be had..those other 100 people aren't somehow better than you or i are they? They're just people too

Yeah I see your point, maybe it's just mind over matter, I just think I'd get compared to every other guy she'd met before me. I had a conversation about it the other day with a regular forumite, lovely girl, she has a lot of veri's and I told her I'd be intimidated by them, she just laughed and told me I'd be surprised how rubbish most of them were and not to over think it. Maybe it's just a confidence thing. "

When someone has a lot of veris, a lot of them may be social veris from group socials or clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread makes us laugh .... And not in a good way .

Clearly from the replies so far ( bar one ) we would be the ones to avoid . We must be unclean , risky , and the antipathy of those who seek people who are just sitting around in an oxygen tent waiting for that ideal playmate .

Which is fine , as those who really think that those of us who play regularly with lots of different people must be dirty and tainted are not who we would want to be with anyway .

So while our promiscuity may act as a filter for you , it works both ways .

For us , we love to explore boundaries , fulfill fantasies , help newbies find their feet , provide a safe and comfortable environment and explore all the lifestyle has to offer . On our part we have and continue to have all possible safety measures in place . Full checks at the clinic every 6 weeks , hep jabs , condom only for penetration and impeccable cleanliness .

So no , nothing puts us off meeting those people who match our preferences , other than those who judge others by the amount of meets they've had .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread makes us laugh .... And not in a good way .

Clearly from the replies so far ( bar one ) we would be the ones to avoid . We must be unclean , risky , and the antipathy of those who seek people who are just sitting around in an oxygen tent waiting for that ideal playmate .

Which is fine , as those who really think that those of us who play regularly with lots of different people must be dirty and tainted are not who we would want to be with anyway .

So while our promiscuity may act as a filter for you , it works both ways .

For us , we love to explore boundaries , fulfill fantasies , help newbies find their feet , provide a safe and comfortable environment and explore all the lifestyle has to offer . On our part we have and continue to have all possible safety measures in place . Full checks at the clinic every 6 weeks , hep jabs , condom only for penetration and impeccable cleanliness .

So no , nothing puts us off meeting those people who match our preferences , other than those who judge others by the amount of meets they've had .

"

I wouldn't meet you...you've met me and I'm a slut

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"This thread makes us laugh .... And not in a good way .

Clearly from the replies so far ( bar one ) we would be the ones to avoid . We must be unclean , risky , and the antipathy of those who seek people who are just sitting around in an oxygen tent waiting for that ideal playmate .

Which is fine , as those who really think that those of us who play regularly with lots of different people must be dirty and tainted are not who we would want to be with anyway .

So while our promiscuity may act as a filter for you , it works both ways .

For us , we love to explore boundaries , fulfill fantasies , help newbies find their feet , provide a safe and comfortable environment and explore all the lifestyle has to offer . On our part we have and continue to have all possible safety measures in place . Full checks at the clinic every 6 weeks , hep jabs , condom only for penetration and impeccable cleanliness .

So no , nothing puts us off meeting those people who match our preferences , other than those who judge others by the amount of meets they've had .

"

*paints a big red X on glos and wanders round ringing a bell and yelling "Unclean! Unclean!"*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread makes us laugh .... And not in a good way .

Clearly from the replies so far ( bar one ) we would be the ones to avoid . We must be unclean , risky , and the antipathy of those who seek people who are just sitting around in an oxygen tent waiting for that ideal playmate .

Which is fine , as those who really think that those of us who play regularly with lots of different people must be dirty and tainted are not who we would want to be with anyway .

So while our promiscuity may act as a filter for you , it works both ways .

For us , we love to explore boundaries , fulfill fantasies , help newbies find their feet , provide a safe and comfortable environment and explore all the lifestyle has to offer . On our part we have and continue to have all possible safety measures in place . Full checks at the clinic every 6 weeks , hep jabs , condom only for penetration and impeccable cleanliness .

So no , nothing puts us off meeting those people who match our preferences , other than those who judge others by the amount of meets they've had .

"

You misconstrue us we believe . Some peoples verifications do put us off them . But it's not the quantity , it's sometimes the content if many of their verifications come from people we would never meet ourselves or who are the juxtaposition of us . Everyone has types. It's a simple human fact . If that person has met lots of people who are not our type , it's a fair indicator they will not be our type either to us . After all Fab is one big meet and filter system after all for fickle humans

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This thread makes us laugh .... And not in a good way .

Clearly from the replies so far ( bar one ) we would be the ones to avoid . We must be unclean , risky , and the antipathy of those who seek people who are just sitting around in an oxygen tent waiting for that ideal playmate .

Which is fine , as those who really think that those of us who play regularly with lots of different people must be dirty and tainted are not who we would want to be with anyway .

So while our promiscuity may act as a filter for you , it works both ways .

For us , we love to explore boundaries , fulfill fantasies , help newbies find their feet , provide a safe and comfortable environment and explore all the lifestyle has to offer . On our part we have and continue to have all possible safety measures in place . Full checks at the clinic every 6 weeks , hep jabs , condom only for penetration and impeccable cleanliness .

So no , nothing puts us off meeting those people who match our preferences , other than those who judge others by the amount of meets they've had .

You misconstrue us we believe . Some peoples verifications do put us off them . But it's not the quantity , it's sometimes the content if many of their verifications come from people we would never meet ourselves or who are the juxtaposition of us . Everyone has types. It's a simple human fact . If that person has met lots of people who are not our type , it's a fair indicator they will not be our type either to us . After all Fab is one big meet and filter system after all for fickle humans "

Nicely put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not put off by the people they've been with but if a girl has got about a hundred veri's then I am a bit put off, not because I think badly of them for that but because I'd feel a bit intimidated by their experience and I'd think I had a lot to live up to.

Or you could look and them and think 'what could they teach me?' There's always some fun to be had..those other 100 people aren't somehow better than you or i are they? They're just people too

Yeah I see your point, maybe it's just mind over matter, I just think I'd get compared to every other guy she'd met before me. I had a conversation about it the other day with a regular forumite, lovely girl, she has a lot of veri's and I told her I'd be intimidated by them, she just laughed and told me I'd be surprised how rubbish most of them were and not to over think it. Maybe it's just a confidence thing. "

Maybe. Once you've met that person though then become one of the folk that the next person might compare themselves to if that makes sense?

I dunno..maybe I've been a bit of a tart for too long now but the folk they've met are just other people...different maybe to me but they just happen to have left a veri on a website is all..

god knows how many people they've been with off fab.

I'm sure your a decent enough person to spend a few hours with

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

There are odd people that if I can see they have met and fucked from veris that I would then avoid - simply cause I know the people concerned and its an argument I am not looking to get into!

Its sometimes the others who are territorial. I know of someone who has been through all my veris blocking them all - its funny

Not just you who is 'unclean' Glo! lmfao

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I do look at guys varifications .....if they have gang bang meets .... or go to sex workers establishments .... im afraid this would put me off ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do look at guys varifications .....if they have gang bang meets .... or go to sex workers establishments .... im afraid this would put me off .... "

Do brothels do veris? Can't say I've seen one. Mind you, I've not looked at every veri so.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its put me off like poster said before from bristol she fucked half the site not all be safe sex

there bike close to me i avoid men who been there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do look at guys varifications .....if they have gang bang meets .... or go to sex workers establishments .... im afraid this would put me off ....

Do brothels do veris? Can't say I've seen one. Mind you, I've not looked at every veri so....."

Brothels don't , but we do ....

So from reading this thread anyone who has met us may be well advised to remove our veri

And you only have to ask and we will take yours off our profile too

Happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have 40 veris but have played with maybe half of those x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do look at guys varifications .....if they have gang bang meets .... or go to sex workers establishments .... im afraid this would put me off ....

Do brothels do veris? Can't say I've seen one. Mind you, I've not looked at every veri so.....

Brothels don't , but we do ....

So from reading this thread anyone who has met us may be well advised to remove our veri

And you only have to ask and we will take yours off our profile too

Happy days "

Nope. Gonna leave mine where they are cheers. If some don't like it that's just the way it is

(Hows your lamp post now? Suitably wet?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not put off by the people they've been with but if a girl has got about a hundred veri's then I am a bit put off, not because I think badly of them for that but because I'd feel a bit intimidated by their experience and I'd think I had a lot to live up to.

Or you could look and them and think 'what could they teach me?' There's always some fun to be had..those other 100 people aren't somehow better than you or i are they? They're just people too

Yeah I see your point, maybe it's just mind over matter, I just think I'd get compared to every other guy she'd met before me. I had a conversation about it the other day with a regular forumite, lovely girl, she has a lot of veri's and I told her I'd be intimidated by them, she just laughed and told me I'd be surprised how rubbish most of them were and not to over think it. Maybe it's just a confidence thing.

Maybe. Once you've met that person though then become one of the folk that the next person might compare themselves to if that makes sense?

I dunno..maybe I've been a bit of a tart for too long now but the folk they've met are just other people...different maybe to me but they just happen to have left a veri on a website is all..

god knows how many people they've been with off fab.

I'm sure your a decent enough person to spend a few hours with "

All very well said, having considered your argument I'm now cured of the dreaded hundred veri intimidation disease. Fuck the veri's is what I say, the more the merrier, move over, I'm coming in and you can stick my veri to the top of the pile and smoke it baby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not put off by the people they've been with but if a girl has got about a hundred veri's then I am a bit put off, not because I think badly of them for that but because I'd feel a bit intimidated by their experience and I'd think I had a lot to live up to.

Or you could look and them and think 'what could they teach me?' There's always some fun to be had..those other 100 people aren't somehow better than you or i are they? They're just people too

Yeah I see your point, maybe it's just mind over matter, I just think I'd get compared to every other guy she'd met before me. I had a conversation about it the other day with a regular forumite, lovely girl, she has a lot of veri's and I told her I'd be intimidated by them, she just laughed and told me I'd be surprised how rubbish most of them were and not to over think it. Maybe it's just a confidence thing.

Maybe. Once you've met that person though then become one of the folk that the next person might compare themselves to if that makes sense?

I dunno..maybe I've been a bit of a tart for too long now but the folk they've met are just other people...different maybe to me but they just happen to have left a veri on a website is all..

god knows how many people they've been with off fab.

I'm sure your a decent enough person to spend a few hours with

All very well said, having considered your argument I'm now cured of the dreaded hundred veri intimidation disease. Fuck the veri's is what I say, the more the merrier, move over, I'm coming in and you can stick my veri to the top of the pile and smoke it baby. "

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Yes...

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

I'm not sure this is what you meant but I've sometimes been 'put off' profiles because their previous meets appear to be a lot more attractive than me and my stupid lack of confidence immediately comes to the conclusion that they therefore wouldn't possibly be interested in me!

That aside, how far do you take the previous verifications thing ? You start looking at those on the profile you're interested in, then you look at all the other profiles thrown up by that - and *their* verifications ... in some cases you'd be there all day and forget who it was you were looking at in the first place.

I think verifications can be interesting and obviously often tell you a bit more about the person(s) concerned but wouldn't be put off by quantity so long as you apply your own normal boundaries to the situation regarding playing safely and find them attractive.

Ms G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its nice to see the thread has become more accepting of what the lifestyle is really about now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't put me off, I have a quick glance at them to see if they have actually met people before and a nosey to see if we have met same people.

But the number doesn't put me off, why would it? This is a swingers site and we are in here to have sex with other like minded people bit odd to then say but you've had sex with too many people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing off putting to us is alack of photo ID or couple verification.

A list of veri's from meets has no bearing on us at all. We judge people on an individual basis, as a social connection is far more important than a play one. We get off more on being around like minded people where we can be our true selves and not what a vanilla social acceptance demands.

friends come and go, with every meet the potential for more social gatherings is offered.

different strokes for different folks is never more true than a site like this, and in many ways requires more tolerance and compromise than the vanilla world.

Just because we like you doesnt mean we want to fuck you, and equally just because we had a random play does not necessarily mean we are best friends.

We find being open minded is the best approach, and never take it personally when we are not for others. You dont like your veris? move along couldn't give a toss. We are proud of the friends, acquaintances and play mates we have made along the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No.

I never have a clue who's fucked who in real life so i don't much care on fab

Fab is odd like that..generally in real life nobody even thinks of looking at who someone has fucked in the past. When it comes to fab suddenly people get all judgemental over previous fucks. It's a strange thing "

This. ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

might do but also could work the other way - oh we know so and so and theyve met doodar so must be ok -

tend not to do this - best to judge on meeting

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