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"Her Lover" v "Bull"

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By *ogerNesszones OP   Man
over a year ago

Northern England

I'm fully au fait, experienced and delight in, the dynamics of cuckoldry, and I know that it's just a word...

BUT I find the term "bull" pejorative and I much prefer to be referred to as "her lover".

I think my aversion to the term probably stems from its association with a certain four letter word, and connotations with people making unsubstantiated claims about themselves.

I suspect I may well be in a minority on here, as I reckon that most guys couldn't care less how they're referred to - so long as they get to fuck the wife!

How does everyone feel about this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been overly partial to the word 'bull'. Reminds me of an aggressive charging bull from a bullfight. As a Hotwife, a man that I have a special sexual relationship with I refer to as my 'lover'

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By *ogerNesszones OP   Man
over a year ago

Northern England


"I've never been overly partial to the word 'bull'. Reminds me of an aggressive charging bull from a bullfight. As a Hotwife, a man that I have a special sexual relationship with I refer to as my 'lover'"

..And we all know what happens to the poor bulls during a bulfight don't we!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a "hotwife" i have lovers....i don't meet anyone who sees themself as a bull....it doesn't really fit with the way hubby and i do things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been overly partial to the word 'bull'. Reminds me of an aggressive charging bull from a bullfight. As a Hotwife, a man that I have a special sexual relationship with I refer to as my 'lover'

..And we all know what happens to the poor bulls during a bulfight don't we! "

Exactly. I'd much rather shag the matador!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I don't like the word bull either x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A hotwife that have a lover who is very muscular and well endowed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like bull or lover much rather it be just a guy who comes to fuck me and then go no baggage or claims to me

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By *ogerNesszones OP   Man
over a year ago

Northern England


"I've never been overly partial to the word 'bull'. Reminds me of an aggressive charging bull from a bullfight. As a Hotwife, a man that I have a special sexual relationship with I refer to as my 'lover'

..And we all know what happens to the poor bulls during a bullfight don't we!

Exactly. I'd much rather shag the matador!"

..and a female flamenco dancer can play with my "castanets" any time!

Is it possible to "super like" pictures? It should be; The one in your wedding dress wearing a collar and lead showing your ring is stupendous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been overly partial to the word 'bull'. Reminds me of an aggressive charging bull from a bullfight. As a Hotwife, a man that I have a special sexual relationship with I refer to as my 'lover'

..And we all know what happens to the poor bulls during a bullfight don't we!

Exactly. I'd much rather shag the matador!

..and a female flamenco dancer can play with my "castanets" any time!

Is it possible to "super like" pictures? It should be; The one in your wedding dress wearing a collar and lead showing your ring is stupendous! "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fully au fait, experienced and delight in, the dynamics of cuckoldry, and I know that it's just a word...

BUT I find the term "bull" pejorative and I much prefer to be referred to as "her lover".

I think my aversion to the term probably stems from its association with a certain four letter word, and connotations with people making unsubstantiated claims about themselves.

The word "bull" does nothing for us . As a couple it's great to have an asserrive guy but a bull is very off putting. What does it actually mean ? I do feel guys who put Bull on profile when messaging most couples are kind of missing the point

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By *ogerNesszones OP   Man
over a year ago

Northern England


"I'm fully au fait, experienced and delight in, the dynamics of cuckoldry, and I know that it's just a word...

BUT I find the term "bull" pejorative and I much prefer to be referred to as "her lover".

I think my aversion to the term probably stems from its association with a certain four letter word, and connotations with people making unsubstantiated claims about themselves.

The word "bull" does nothing for us . As a couple it's great to have an asserrive guy but a bull is very off putting. What does it actually mean ? I do feel guys who put Bull on profile when messaging most couples are kind of missing the point

"
Indeed. For me, the term also alludes to a lack of finesse ie "a bull in a china shop"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like bull or lover much rather it be just a guy who comes to fuck me and then go no baggage or claims to me"

this. Lover is a name i would give to someone I had an emotional attachment too, and that's my partner, bull is associated with cuckolding in my head, not hotwifing, we don't look for assertive men, just a sexy one who can fuck

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I dislike the term 'bull' and I wouldn't meet anyone who considers themselves to be one......unless he looked like Brad Pitt obvs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see the hotwife as a completely different scenario to a cuck and bull scene, one is a more aggressively dominant male "taking" your woman and humiliating you, the other is more you enjoying the thought of your wife with other men not through humiliation but pride, like yeah buddy, that is my wife! Isn't she hot and awesome and stuff!

But maybe I misunderstand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer the term lover, bull just never sits right. In my eyes I'd rather my wife had a 'lover' someone she has connected with as I feel he would treat her better and with more respect. I know it's not the case generally and they're just terms used within our lifestyle choice but it helps me process it better..

Now I just need my wife to find a new 'lover'

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By *ogerNesszones OP   Man
over a year ago

Northern England

An old fashioned term (particularly "oop North) was "Fancy man" - although that doesn't sit very well with me either!

I guess we all have our own ideas as to what we want; And the most important thing (in my view anyway) is that whatever the scenario, all three sides of the triangle get something out of the encounter.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

To me it's just semantics terms that create a meta response to what takes place.

Or is that just too unfeeling....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bull" I am not. Attentive and 'better' lover - apparently, yes.

Simple formula for me, if the lady gets a lot of pleasure, the more fun it is for all of us. Technique over attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Bull" I am not. Attentive and 'better' lover - apparently, yes.

Simple formula for me, if the lady gets a lot of pleasure, the more fun it is for all of us. Technique over attitude."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a new term should be Matador

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree. I am not as au fait with cuckoldry as you are and so am not sure of the precise modern meaning but I think the original word comes more from farming than fighting, as in the cow is led to the bull for breeding. I feel pretty sure that this isn't what hot wifing, or cuckoldry, means now - or at least I bet a lot of women wouldn't like that as much as the thought of selecting a lover for her pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always thought of the term 'bull' to be an aggressive one with the humiliation of the cuck both verbal and physical.

Hotwife doesn't involve a cuckold, just a man who enjoys seeing his partner enjoying herself with another man whether in a threesome or 121.

I have been the regular playmate for a few couples both in the threesome or 121. Regular lover? Possibly. Fuckbuddy? Possibly. Bull? No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all have slightly different views on different words and terminology. For me the word bull is a sex only thing.

The word lover is someone who your happy to share that little bit more than just sex...a little drink somewhere perhaps...a cozy few hours enjoying each others company... a mutual respect maybe...especially for your lovers circumstances and her/his wellbeing and other commitments.

Again...some will agree and others won't....but if we were all the same it wouldn't be much fun .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought the term bull ment a good hard fucking no feelings involved. And a lover is a more gentle sex with feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Bull" I am not. Attentive and 'better' lover - apparently, yes.

Simple formula for me, if the lady gets a lot of pleasure, the more fun it is for all of us. Technique over attitude.

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Glad you like the idea, boogienights69; maybe I'll get to see you in Cheshire on my travels!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought the term bull ment a good hard fucking no feelings involved. And a lover is a more gentle sex with feelings. "

Fair enough, definitely makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So where all the lovers of hotwifes hiding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard for a hotwife to get a lover. Men who are suitable for that role would probably rather have a girlfriend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's hard for a hotwife to get a lover. Men who are suitable for that role would probably rather have a girlfriend."

True but someone regular will be perfect for us

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By *ogerNesszones OP   Man
over a year ago

Northern England


"It's hard for a hotwife to get a lover. Men who are suitable for that role would probably rather have a girlfriend."

Some of us single blokes (I count myself amongst them) consider it a real privilege to be invited into the "inner sanctum" of their chosen couple and simply enjoy the role they play.

I personally enjoy the exhibitionism, the intense thrill of fucking / sexually satisfying another man's (hot) wife, trying new things with her - and the knowledge that the memories we make will spice up their relationship and fuel their lovemaking when I'm not with them. Oh yes, and the friendship - and laughs we share - with no complications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have always hated the term Bull.

For Hot Wife scenario I have always been referred to as "Her friend with benefits"

In the cuckold scene although my aim ultimately is to become her regular lover there is a small part if humiliation involved or she prefers me to him. He can call me what he likes be it Bull, master, boss etc

The idea of cuckolding being rough and raw sex couldn't be further from the truth. To me both are the same thing I am having sex with another mans wife. It is HIS perception of the relationship that determines whatever I get called.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's hard for a hotwife to get a lover. Men who are suitable for that role would probably rather have a girlfriend.

Some of us single blokes (I count myself amongst them) consider it a real privilege to be invited into the "inner sanctum" of their chosen couple and simply enjoy the role they play.

I personally enjoy the exhibitionism, the intense thrill of fucking / sexually satisfying another man's (hot) wife, trying new things with her - and the knowledge that the memories we make will spice up their relationship and fuel their lovemaking when I'm not with them. Oh yes, and the friendship - and laughs we share - with no complications. "

We find everybody starts off with good intentions, but the reality is a lot harder. We've had numerous offers from some lovely men to be our permanent 'bull', but it ends up being a bit off and on, and a fantasy that ends up not being delivered on in the way it was described.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it's defined by emotion? If the couple, extra man and "unfaithful" woman, love each other then he is her "lover".

If he is just there for the sex and emotion is not involved he is her "fuck buddy" or "bull" and not her "lover". Love is emotional sex is physical.

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