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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Question. Are women put off by single dads?

Being a single dad I sometimes find responses to me telling them I have 2 kids puts them off. Any ideas why ??

Is it my profile ??

Jamie x

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

It wouldn't put me off if someone had children especially for nsa,maybe it would for a relationship if they were small children.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you _ivemeyoursoul.

For a relationship yes I can understand it would, good job this is fab and not match !!

Once again thank you for you comments. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It wouldn't put me off if someone had children especially for nsa,maybe it would for a relationship if they were small children."

On a side topic, a relationship is about similar interest. Socially and sexually so as far as fab seems innapropriate to find a partner. Does it seem all the silly ?? What do you think ?? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't put me off x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It wouldn't put me off x"

Is that the situation or me?? Lol.

You look stunning !!

J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't put me off at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wouldn't put me off at all "

Thank you. Very encouraging !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a Mam, it wouldn't put me off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a Mam, it wouldn't put me off.

You're a very sexy mam at that

It's just the limited meet time. As much as I'd love to stay for hours upon hours having fun I don't have that sort of time and some women don't get it I think. Even though I've explained in a single parent. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps they are really looking for a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a Mam, it wouldn't put me off.

You're a very sexy mam at that

Ever heard of babysitters? How do you think couples with kids get out?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perhaps they are really looking for a relationship."

Perhaps. Maybe I'm just too gullible. For a guy I'm not an average guy. I'm honest, respectful and not after a wham ban thankyou ma'am. While I don't want a relationship (due to the kiddies) great sex and exploration with someone I trust wouldn't go a miss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps they are really looking for a relationship.

Hmm, sounds like a relationship on some level, but using your kids as a get-out clause.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a Mam, it wouldn't put me off.

You're a very sexy mam at that

Ever heard of babysitters? How do you think couples with kids get out?"

I have and do use them. But at £15 an hour it's a very expensive night out, 5-6 hrs £75 + then the meet/social. If you then do it 3-4-5 times a month you're looking at £250-£450 !!! Blimey !!!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I have been a single parent for over 10yrs...mine are now over 20yrs old. For fun it wouldn't put me off, for a partnership if they were small I would seriously have to weigh it up. Only because I found it so demanding, as my husband did nothing, and not because I don't like single Dad's or kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a Mam, it wouldn't put me off.

You're a very sexy mam at that

Ever heard of babysitters? How do you think couples with kids get out?

I have and do use them. But at £15 an hour it's a very expensive night out, 5-6 hrs £75 + then the meet/social. If you then do it 3-4-5 times a month you're looking at £250-£450 !!! Blimey !!! "

Swap the favour with friends, rope in relatives and in-laws.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right. Everyone I agree that for a relationship having children as a dad (single) would be off putting.

However I'm asking how do women see the situation with regards to NSA and regular fun??

As I can accommodate but it takes military planning and prep. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a Mam, it wouldn't put me off.

You're a very sexy mam at that

Ever heard of babysitters? How do you think couples with kids get out?

I have and do use them. But at £15 an hour it's a very expensive night out, 5-6 hrs £75 + then the meet/social. If you then do it 3-4-5 times a month you're looking at £250-£450 !!! Blimey !!!

Swap the favour with friends, rope in relatives and in-laws."

I don't have any relatives, in laws. While I do have friends it's hard when they're little. 5 & 4. Plus they are TERRORS !! Lol.

Thank you for your comments though. I do appreciate your views. Xx

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I'm a Mam, it wouldn't put me off.

You're a very sexy mam at that

Ever heard of babysitters? How do you think couples with kids get out?

I have and do use them. But at £15 an hour it's a very expensive night out, 5-6 hrs £75 + then the meet/social. If you then do it 3-4-5 times a month you're looking at £250-£450 !!! Blimey !!! "

No that's crazy,do you not have any family that can look after them for the night?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Givemeyoursoul. Sadly no I don't. My brother lives 75+ miles away and his wife has helped out (babysat, lol) once but it's a lot to ask.

I think I would need a loan to find an active sex life !!

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By *inkycatWoman
over a year ago

High Wycombe

"I'm a Mam, it wouldn't put me off.

You're a very sexy mam at that

Ever heard of babysitters? How do you think couples with kids get out?

I have and do use them. But at £15 an hour it's a very expensive night out, 5-6 hrs £75 + then the meet/social. If you then do it 3-4-5 times a month you're looking at £250-£450 !!! Blimey !!!

Swap the favour with friends, rope in relatives and in-laws.

I don't have any relatives, in laws. While I do have friends it's hard when they're little. 5 & 4. Plus they are TERRORS !! Lol.

Thank you for your comments though. I do appreciate your views. Xx"

Maybe leave out the terrors comment when you're trying to get meets

For NSA it wouldn't bother me at all that you had children though, and lots of single mums are in the same position and have to plan with precision. x

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I would have fun with you...without the kids in the vicinity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer men, who like us, have commitments. We find them much easier to deal with, for example with making arrangements in advance and being reliable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It wouldn't put me off if someone had children especially for nsa,maybe it would for a relationship if they were small children.

On a side topic, a relationship is about similar interest. Socially and sexually so as far as fab seems innapropriate to find a partner. Does it seem all the silly ?? What do you think ?? Xx"

your life, live it how you want to. if you don't feel ready for something then there's no need to push it.

when my kids were little and i was single neither of these things were a priority to me. kids wouldn't put me personally off sex or a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would have fun with you...without the kids in the vicinity. "

They are firmly locked away for every meet. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We prefer men, who like us, have commitments. We find them much easier to deal with, for example with making arrangements in advance and being reliable. "

Yes. Reliability is crucial. Plus if I've made the effort to get out of the house for a meet in honouring it. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a difficult one because as you say your time is very limited to meet. For some this could be a problem if you like a leisurely meet that might involve staying over or wanting to go to a club for example but for others who only want a brief encounter then you're in. What I'm saying is get creative, if you can meet when they're at school maybe or do they do any after school activities or sleepovers with friends etc? Anything is possible on here, it's just a matter of being patient.

Personally now my kids are grown up I would prefer to meet some one in a similar situation just because you can be that bit more selfish with your time. That said I wouldn't turn down a meet just because someone was a single dad, if they were a particularly sexy one I'm sure they would be worth waiting for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok just read your profile, and I see what you mean. You do say that for you having children makes life unpredictable. I read it that there is a risk of cancellations taking place due to your circumstances. I'm afraid we would stay well away. But yes theoretically we have no issues with men with kids, because they are in the same boat as us, and therefore understand the constraints.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok just read your profile, and I see what you mean. You do say that for you having children makes life unpredictable. I read it that there is a risk of cancellations taking place due to your circumstances. I'm afraid we would stay well away. But yes theoretically we have no issues with men with kids, because they are in the same boat as us, and therefore understand the constraints."

I agree that it may put some people off, however like I said I am incredibly reliable.

Thank you for taking the time to share your opinions. It is greatly appreciated. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's a difficult one because as you say your time is very limited to meet. For some this could be a problem if you like a leisurely meet that might involve staying over or wanting to go to a club for example but for others who only want a brief encounter then you're in. What I'm saying is get creative, if you can meet when they're at school maybe or do they do any after school activities or sleepovers with friends etc? Anything is possible on here, it's just a matter of being patient.

One is at school. The other goes 1 year September. So another year of jiggling everything around. I can't imagine how life will be once their both at school. lol.

Sexy profile btw xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that it may put some people off, however like I said I am incredibly reliable.

Thank you for taking the time to share your opinions. It is greatly appreciated. Xx"

In that case I have misinterpreted your profile, and others might too. You might want to rephrase, as I got the impression that a cancellation would be a risk due to children. We have kids too, and naturally they come first. We don't mention them in the profile. But we plan our babysitting in advance, and nothing has ever gone wrong for us to need to cancel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice photo and profile OP.

And no, the fact you're a single dad wouldn't put me off at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you classy swingers.

I'll have a re-write and see what improvements I can make.

I just don't want to sound like a guy (when I'm corresponding, emailing ,texting with a lady or couple) that has no time as they're still young and quite time consuming my messages can be pretty intermittent at times. Except for now when youngest is pre occupied with his slug nest. Nice. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually meet during the day when mine are at nursery... It means that there's always a time constraint but people are usually ok with that. If they're not they can jog on lol. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

YESSSSS, I like that. If you don't like it the. Jog on.

Plus daytime meets seem a lot more naughty, sex in the day is much healthier !! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you classy swingers.

I'll have a re-write and see what improvements I can make.

I don't know your circumstances. We've been very lucky that my mother will have the kids for the night a couple of times a month and she never lets us down, and they like going there. As a result we get our freedom. It's not so easy for many people with kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"YESSSSS, I like that. If you don't like it the. Jog on.

Plus daytime meets seem a lot more naughty, sex in the day is much healthier !! Xx"

The kids are the priority. Always! x

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Question. Are women put off by single dads?

Being a single dad I sometimes find responses to me telling them I have 2 kids puts them off. Any ideas why ??

Is it my profile ??

Jamie x"

Don't be disheartened. It seems lots of people on here have kids and manage to juggle. I wouldn't be put off by a single dad. I wouldn't however meet someone at theirs if the children are in the property.

Have you thought about trying clubs? That way, you can be a bit more spontaneous if you have free time or it doesn't matter if your plans get cancelled. Go as a single male and socialise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't bother us in the slightest we have a little one of our own so we know the challenges and that children always always come first

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By *parkly MittensWoman
over a year ago

My own little world

I have two young children so if it puts any people off I'm in a lot of trouble.

For NSA I don't see why it would be an issue, just means you have to arrange meets and can't do as much as a spur of the moment thing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a Mam, it wouldn't put me off.

You're a very sexy mam at that

Exactly! I get this as a single mum. Just can't meet willy nilly and when do meet it might be just for a short time as I don't have a plethora of babysitters, nor would I want to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sub _ilac. I have done. much fun too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a Mam, it wouldn't put me off.

You're a very sexy mam at that

Exactly! I get this as a single mum. Just can't meet willy nilly and when do meet it might be just for a short time as I don't have a plethora of babysitters, nor would I want to.

Yes this is exactly the agile I'm coming from. I get this quite often. It's frustrating. Glad I'm not the only one who feels like this, I'm thinking there's a market for soft play with a swingers club adjacent to it .....!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a Mam, it wouldn't put me off.

You're a very sexy mam at that

Exactly! I get this as a single mum. Just can't meet willy nilly and when do meet it might be just for a short time as I don't have a plethora of babysitters, nor would I want to.

It wouldn't bother me...

But I also find this not being able to meet for long an issue. I don't have kids but I'm a carer which means finding time is difficult and when I do it's never for long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We prefer men, who like us, have commitments. We find them much easier to deal with, for example with making arrangements in advance and being reliable. "

Yh I agree with this and also maybe some women think you're not a single dad and are actually in a relationship..just a thought

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a Mam, it wouldn't put me off.

You're a very sexy mam at that

Exactly! I get this as a single mum. Just can't meet willy nilly and when do meet it might be just for a short time as I don't have a plethora of babysitters, nor would I want to.

It wouldn't bother me...

But I also find this not being able to meet for long an issue. I don't have kids but I'm a carer which means finding time is difficult and when I do it's never for long. "

Yea. I understand. We all just don't have all the time in the world at the drop of a hat. It doesn't make us any less reliable or committed to having fun, were just as interested in the other person, just our lives are a little more fast paced with card commitments.

If yoh ever get a window n our diaries match up if be happy to have a drink sometime. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We prefer men, who like us, have commitments. We find them much easier to deal with, for example with making arrangements in advance and being reliable.

Yh I agree with this and also maybe some women think you're not a single dad and are actually in a relationship..just a thought

Yes that could be true. However I'm pretty open and honest.

I.e. Where I live, work, etc so any fictional wife would be pretty easily seen, noticed. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they pass us up its them who lose out. I've always been told we have a side to us that non dad's don't. More caring, understanding and patient. Especially when things crop up at last min and plans have to change.

Well that's what the woman who made me no longer single says anyways lol but then again I'm finding it takes a very special woman to be understanding of us too since my children are very young. Most aren't this special sadly, thank god I found one who is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a Mam, it wouldn't put me off.

You're a very sexy mam at that

Exactly! I get this as a single mum. Just can't meet willy nilly and when do meet it might be just for a short time as I don't have a plethora of babysitters, nor would I want to.

It wouldn't bother me...

But I also find this not being able to meet for long an issue. I don't have kids but I'm a carer which means finding time is difficult and when I do it's never for long.

If yoh ever get a window n our diaries match up if be happy to have a drink sometime. Xx"

It may actually be possible as I plan to go see a friend in bath sometime this summer; not sure when

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a Mam, it wouldn't put me off.

You're a very sexy mam at that

Exactly! I get this as a single mum. Just can't meet willy nilly and when do meet it might be just for a short time as I don't have a plethora of babysitters, nor would I want to.

It wouldn't bother me...

But I also find this not being able to meet for long an issue. I don't have kids but I'm a carer which means finding time is difficult and when I do it's never for long.

If yoh ever get a window n our diaries match up if be happy to have a drink sometime. Xx

It may actually be possible as I plan to go see a friend in bath sometime this summer; not sure when "

Great. Message me and we can chat ?

Looking forward to hearing from you. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a single Dad .

I work hard and I like to play hard .

Its never put anyone off infact most ladies like the fact

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe the Cheshire ladies like a DILF??

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By *tephenBunChowMan
over a year ago

Haywards heath/Waterlooville

I have a son, share equally with the ex. And travel away with work too which leaves little time to play when back home.

Hasn't been a problem for NSA side of things, does require planning and both parties are aware. If you want to get it on it'll happen.

A FWB would take time off work (holidays and sickies) and travel while my son was at nursery just for a session.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the Cheshire ladies like a DILF??"

Haha maybe they do lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a son, share equally with the ex. And travel away with work too which leaves little time to play when back home.

Hasn't been a problem for NSA side of things, does require planning and both parties are aware. If you want to get it on it'll happen.

A FWB would take time off work (holidays and sickies) and travel while my son was at nursery just for a session.

Good luck"

With the greatest respect yours seems a different situation.

I'm referring to being a single parent where you have the children 24/7, 365.

It's relentless at times and no childcare proves difficult for meets.

But you are right that if you want to get it on it will happen xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe the Cheshire ladies like a DILF??

Haha maybe they do lol"

Lucky sod !!!

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By *ucky78Woman
over a year ago

liverpool

Being a single dad should get u laid I think it's sexy, shows you're responsible

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Being a single dad should get u laid I think it's sexy, shows you're responsible "

Now there's an angle.

I can feel a road trip coming along !! If only I had childcare. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't put me off at all. There are a lot of single parents on here, me included.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Question. Any ladies find a single dad hot?? And would like to meet ?? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a single mum and find it hard to meet all the time but not come across a single dad yet

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

"Im a single mum and find it hard to meet all the time but not come across a single dad yet

Waves

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Single Dad with a grown-up daughter still living at Hotel Dad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a single mum and find it hard to meet all the time but not come across a single dad yet

Waves

Hey there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Im a single mum and find it hard to meet all the time but not come across a single dad yet

Well there's one here downin the south west. So do you struggle finding time too??

J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question. Are women put off by single dads?

Being a single dad I sometimes find responses to me telling them I have 2 kids puts them off. Any ideas why ??

Is it my profile ??

Jamie x"

I met my partner on here. He has 3 children granted they don't live full time with him but he does have access to them and a big part in his life. It didn't put me of even when I don't want kids of my own. We landed up going for a social, next day a date and I moved in a couple of weeks later that was 3 years ago lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a single mum and find it hard to meet all the time but not come across a single dad yet

Well there's one here downin the south west. So do you struggle finding time too??

J xx"

Yeah i do xx

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

"Im a single mum and find it hard to meet all the time but not come across a single dad yet

Waves

Hey there

Hi indeed, but I seem to be over your age limit

ah well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Im a single mum and find it hard to meet all the time but not come across a single dad yet

Well there's one here downin the south west. So do you struggle finding time too??

J xx

Yeah i do xx"

It's difficult isn't it. I need to find an understanding women that can help. Xx

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By *appyjack890Man
over a year ago

North loncolnshire

Im a single dad with teo young kids. So far it has'nt affected my fab'ing, but ive yet to see how it will affect any future relationship.

At the end of the day my world revolves around my kids and anything or anyone wkll have to accept that im a dad of two

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Im a single dad with teo young kids. So far it has'nt affected my fab'ing, but ive yet to see how it will affect any future relationship.

At the end of the day my world revolves around my kids and anything or anyone wkll have to accept that im a dad of two"

Good advice and keeping the dream alive for me. Lol.

Any life hacks for managing to get time away feel them for substantial meets would be greatly appreciated. X

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By *appyjack890Man
over a year ago

North loncolnshire

"Im a single dad with teo young kids. So far it has'nt affected my fab'ing, but ive yet to see how it will affect any future relationship.

At the end of the day my world revolves around my kids and anything or anyone wkll have to accept that im a dad of two

Good advice and keeping the dream alive for me. Lol.

Any life hacks for managing to get time away feel them for substantial meets would be greatly appreciated. X"

I still get on ok with their mum so things are'nt too bad when it cones to someone looking after them.

My mum and dad step in as well.

I try to limit the amount of going out though so that i can see the kids as much as possible.

I do like to have adult time away from them though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Im a single dad with teo young kids. So far it has'nt affected my fab'ing, but ive yet to see how it will affect any future relationship.

At the end of the day my world revolves around my kids and anything or anyone wkll have to accept that im a dad of two

Good advice and keeping the dream alive for me. Lol.

Any life hacks for managing to get time away feel them for substantial meets would be greatly appreciated. X

I still get on ok with their mum so things are'nt too bad when it cones to someone looking after them.

My mum and dad step in as well.

I try to limit the amount of going out though so that i can see the kids as much as possible.

I do like to have adult time away from them though"

You're a lucky man.

My situation is completely different. No mum for the boys and no in laws about to help. Only help I have is paid help. So getting out and about is an expensive hobby.

I need a sexy nanny !!

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By *appyjack890Man
over a year ago

North loncolnshire

Any freinds that you really trust to help out?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Any freinds that you really trust to help out?"

Yea but having 2 very young children it's hard due to routine and stability.

But I do ask now and again but there aren't many. How after can you ask ??

Maybe I crave what all those unattached guys have !!!??!!

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By *teveoabcMan
over a year ago

banbury

Interesting thread , I have brought up my lad for a fair few years now. Things are certainly a lot easier now that he is a bit older.

What I found is that everyone would say " how fantastic that you took on the responsibility" but then get grumpy that I couldn't devote as much time to them that they would like.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Interesting thread , I have brought up my lad for a fair few years now. Things are certainly a lot easier now that he is a bit older.

What I found is that everyone would say " how fantastic that you took on the responsibility" but then get grumpy that I couldn't devote as much time to them that they would like. "

Yes Steve o. That's where I'm coming from. I'm the first person to want to spend a lengthy afternoon frolicking in a mess of boobs and fanny. But reality is there is only a small window of opportunities from time to time. Hard to balance n find an understanding woman/couple.

Thinking a support network for single parents is needed. For childcare n fun.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

No, someone being a single dad wouldn't necessarily put me off.

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By *teveoabcMan
over a year ago

banbury

A fab crèche - that will do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes a fab crèche. I'm starting a Kickstarter now !!

Thanks Dee variant. All these comments are wonderful and aporeciated. Now I need Thdm from beautiful sexy women like yourself that aren't 100's miles away xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone want to meet a sexy single daddy tomorrow night, social

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

"Question. Are women put off by single dads?

Being a single dad I sometimes find responses to me telling them I have 2 kids puts them off. Any ideas why ??

Is it my profile ??

Jamie x"

Hi Jamie,

Absolutely not put off by single dads!

I would sooner meet up with a guy who already has children as its not just about the sex it's also having something else in common with someone.Also they are more understanding when it comes to rearranging dates ect.I find them much more caring & it's lovely to hear how much their children mean to them,unlike the dads who disown their child/children!..

Your profile is great & I would not be "put off" in the slightest!..

Single dads do a fantastic job as well as us single mums!..

Bambi xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Question. Are women put off by single dads?

Being a single dad I sometimes find responses to me telling them I have 2 kids puts them off. Any ideas why ??

Is it my profile ??

Jamie x

Hi Jamie,

Absolutely not put off by single dads!

Your profile is great & I would not be "put off" in the slightest!..

Single dads do a fantastic job as well as us single mums!..

Bambi xx"

Darksidesub (bambi) that's so nice to hear

all I need to do is get your sexy body and mind down this way and do some entertaining !!

If you're ever in town, then you're always welcome xx

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

Wudnt put me of either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i were meeting.. id probably find it frustrating .

My time is limited as im in a similar situation.. and so would prefer a guy who could be free whenever..

Relationship wise though id probs be more attracted to a guy with children and of similar ages to mine..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't put us off at all. We have children so would actually find that mutual understanding of having them a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wudnt put me of either"

Thx you guys.

Toooo kind. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If i were meeting.. id probably find it frustrating .

My time is limited as im in a similar situation.. and so would prefer a guy who could be free whenever..

Relationship wise though id probs be more attracted to a guy with children and of similar ages to mine..

Ooooo you've gone that way. You are special

maybe it's because your a pirate girl. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question. Are women put off by single dads?

Being a single dad I sometimes find responses to me telling them I have 2 kids puts them off. Any ideas why ??

Is it my profile ??

Jamie x"

Wouldn't put me off....maybe it could be to preference....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If i were meeting.. id probably find it frustrating .

My time is limited as im in a similar situation.. and so would prefer a guy who could be free whenever..

Relationship wise though id probs be more attracted to a guy with children and of similar ages to mine..

Ooooo you've gone that way. You are special

maybe it's because your a pirate girl. Xxx"

you should see one of the latest snap chat pictures haha.. they had a pirate filter :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No wouldn't put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't even ask a guy I as chatting to on here if had kids

I don't talk about mine with potential meets so wouldn't ask or even want to know now about theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relationship wise though id probs be more attracted to a guy with children and of similar ages to mine..

Me too

20+ and left home

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By *ugbystudsouthMan
over a year ago

milton keynes

Granted it is tough but not impossible to meet women being a single dad. We just have to try when we can my man!!

I am supposed to be meeting a couple this weekend but have the kids and hoping the sitter doesn't cancel on me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Granted it is tough but not impossible to meet women being a single dad. We just have to try when we can my man!!

I am supposed to be meeting a couple this weekend but have the kids and hoping the sitter doesn't cancel on me

Yessss matey.

Good luck to you this weekend. Happy fabbing. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a difference to Single and Lone parents?

Surely single parents can still have free time when the other single parent has the child/children?

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over a year ago

"Question. Are women put off by single dads?

Being a single dad I sometimes find responses to me telling them I have 2 kids puts them off. Any ideas why ??

Is it my profile ??

Jamie x"

Definitely wouldn't put me off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Question. Are women put off by single dads?

Being a single dad I sometimes find responses to me telling them I have 2 kids puts them off. Any ideas why ??

Is it my profile ??

Jamie x

Definitely wouldn't put me off

Thank toh

When can you visit. Lol. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is there a difference to Single and Lone parents?

Surely single parents can still have free time when the other single parent has the child/children?"

Yes I suppose there is and I'm referring to single lond parent. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a difference to Single and Lone parents?

Surely single parents can still have free time when the other single parent has the child/children?"

My ex never had my children when we split

From the moment we split he had nothing to do with the kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question. Are women put off by single dads?

Being a single dad I sometimes find responses to me telling them I have 2 kids puts them off. Any ideas why ??

Is it my profile ??

Jamie x

Definitely wouldn't put me off

Thank toh

When can you visit. Lol. Xx"

If I had my space boots too hand I'd fly right over

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Question. Are women put off by single dads?

Being a single dad I sometimes find responses to me telling them I have 2 kids puts them off. Any ideas why ??

Is it my profile ??

Jamie x

Definitely wouldn't put me off

Thank toh

When can you visit. Lol. Xx

If I had my space boots too hand I'd fly right over

Well I'm not going anywhere in a hurry so I'll be here waiting space boots or no space boots. I'd wait if you were wearing diving boots !!

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By *teveoabcMan
over a year ago

banbury

"Is there a difference to Single and Lone parents?

Surely single parents can still have free time when the other single parent has the child/children?

My ex never had my children when we split

From the moment we split he had nothing to do with the kids"

I brought up my lad alone , think I did a pretty good job. Not going to go into the reasons why here as it would be at least a two bottle of wine job

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

"Question. Are women put off by single dads?

Being a single dad I sometimes find responses to me telling them I have 2 kids puts them off. Any ideas why ??

Is it my profile ??

Jamie x

Hi Jamie,

Absolutely not put off by single dads!

Your profile is great & I would not be "put off" in the slightest!..

Single dads do a fantastic job as well as us single mums!..

Bambi xx

Darksidesub (bambi) that's so nice to hear

all I need to do is get your sexy body and mind down this way and do some entertaining !!

If you're ever in town, then you're always welcome xx"

Thank-you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will put some off, some not.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Just remove any reference to children in your profile and don't mention them when arranging meets. We all have commitments of some kind, just arrange meets when you can get a babysitter. Nobody needs to know the whys and wherefores.

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Just remove any reference to children in your profile and don't mention them when arranging meets. We all have commitments of some kind, just arrange meets when you can get a babysitter. Nobody needs to know the whys and wherefores.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I said earlier I'm a single Dad , I work hard ,i privide a good standard of living fir my boys . They never go without love or attention and have almost everything they want in life .

I've never drawn a benefit in my life and i still manage a good social life .

All of this hasn't put anyone of meeting me and I think people would respect me more for it .

Although I don't write this on my profile as this is swinging not dating .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not put off by it in the slightest. ... just shows maturity level ect xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im not put off by it in the slightest. ... just shows maturity level ect xxx"

if anything I find it more attractive dont ask why I just do... a guy whos good with kids... its a tick in my book xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't understand why :-/

It wouldn't put me off

I'm a single mum so I know how hard it can be to meet people

Good luck

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over a year ago

"Is there a difference to Single and Lone parents?

Surely single parents can still have free time when the other single parent has the child/children?

My ex never had my children when we split

From the moment we split he had nothing to do with the kids"

I just can't understand men like that. When my wife and I split up I have had my kids on every single one of my days off work and my leave is spent with them too. I work shifts so I get days during the week as well as some weekends so I share the school palaver too. I wouldn't have it any other way. If a girl thought less of me for having kids and the fact I put them first then it's bye bye girl I'm afraid. Kids come first no matter what.

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By *jtintin and stretchygirlMan
over a year ago

Dartford

I have my boy living with me at the moment have put it on my profile just so it dose not look like I am in a relationship as I can't accommodate meets have been almost non existing due to looking after him but fortunately my little sis is moving in for 3 months woohoo live in babysitter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have kids...now that school is nearing the holidays...my shutters will be come down and my time will be theirs. It tends to be a much quieter time as I've found anyways.

You may be able to share the kids out in holidays..I tend to take them everywhere and explore....out and about...and they're both are teenagers too. Love the holidays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a difference to Single and Lone parents?

Surely single parents can still have free time when the other single parent has the child/children?

My ex never had my children when we split

From the moment we split he had nothing to do with the kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single parent it wouldn't put me off, makes no difference to me.

The only time I have been put off is when someone messaged and their initial message told me about their kids and the fact they had no contact with their mother. Felt that was slightly bizarre and too much information!

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By *jtintin and stretchygirlMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"Is there a difference to Single and Lone parents?

Surely single parents can still have free time when the other single parent has the child/children?

My ex never had my children when we split

From the moment we split he had nothing to do with the kids

Well said

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over a year ago

"Is there a difference to Single and Lone parents?

Surely single parents can still have free time when the other single parent has the child/children?

My ex never had my children when we split

From the moment we split he had nothing to do with the kids

I guess it comes down to whether you love your kids or not, sadly not all parents do

When we split he saw it as cutting ties with us all, moved his new woman and her kids and that was his family now

So I never got child free weekend when they went to their dads

Some single Mum's face the same problems you men do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Im not put off by it in the slightest. ... just shows maturity level ect xxx

if anything I find it more attractive dont ask why I just do... a guy whos good with kids... its a tick in my book xx"

It's not just kids I'm good with storm X.

If you're ever in town. Come say hi

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As a single parent it wouldn't put me off, makes no difference to me.

Well said !!

I agree totally. Not too much information but I feel like I need to set the tone or lay of the land before thing go anywhere. The. All parties concerned know my situation ( if only briefly) so no grey areas regarding where mum & why I can't sometime accom.

If you're ever free if like to have a social if you're keen. X

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"As a single parent it wouldn't put me off, makes no difference to me.

Well said !!

If you're ever free if like to have a social if you're keen. X "

There really is no need, just arrange meets when you have your free time, like everyone else does. If things crop up and you have to cancel then just let them know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As a single parent it wouldn't put me off, makes no difference to me.

Well said !!

If you're ever free if like to have a social if you're keen. X

There really is no need, just arrange meets when you have your free time, like everyone else does. If things crop up and you have to cancel then just let them know."

The point I was trying to make and refer to is that time alone is difficult and is there were other single dads (and mums) that felt the same and if they had any constructive advice. It's all very well in saying meet when you have free time but when that is once in a blue moon and ut gets scuppered no matter how much you've planned it can be frustrating. Maybe it's a lone parent thing. Xx

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"As a single parent it wouldn't put me off, makes no difference to me.

Well said !!

If you're ever free if like to have a social if you're keen. X

There really is no need, just arrange meets when you have your free time, like everyone else does. If things crop up and you have to cancel then just let them know.

I don't think there is much more anyone can say to you. You've had some good advice and some reassurance that your circumstances wouldn't be an issue to some.

The only reason it would be a turn off for me is if your circumstances were constantly referenced as it would see it as some kind of lure or sympathy seeking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single parent it wouldn't put me off, makes no difference to me.

Well said !!

If you're ever free if like to have a social if you're keen. X

There really is no need, just arrange meets when you have your free time, like everyone else does. If things crop up and you have to cancel then just let them know.

I don't think there is much more anyone can say to you. You've had some good advice and some reassurance that your circumstances wouldn't be an issue to some.

The only reason it would be a turn off for me is if your circumstances were constantly referenced as it would see it as some kind of lure or sympathy seeking. "

Well said Lilac

I was starting to think that may be hsppening here too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have constantly thanked all members for comments, amended profile as per recommendations and taken heed of everyone's advice.

I am only responding to people's kind comments (as you state), not fuelling the fire and certainly not for any sympathy vote.

May I suggest as I may not be aware of your level of empathy, kindly keep comments regarding a low level dig that using my late wife's passing as a sex took is pretty poor form.

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"I have constantly thanked all members for comments, amended profile as per recommendations and taken heed of everyone's advice.

I am only responding to people's kind comments (as you state), not fuelling the fire and certainly not for any sympathy vote.

May I suggest as I may not be aware of your level of empathy, kindly keep comments regarding a low level dig that using my late wife's passing as a sex took is pretty poor form.

I haven't mentioned your late wife's passing. I'm saying if someone (and I was talking generically) kept referencing challenging circumstances, then it would be a turn off for me. This site and swinging etc, is a bit of escapism so if someone is continually bringing up home, work, finances, difficulties or whatever... I'd avoid.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Not sure how old your kids are but would it be worth making some friends at the school gate? You could then arrange play dates, and split child care with other parents. Your kids get to spend time with friends and you get some time to yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It wasn't aimed at you hunni.

It was n response to the last post you stated " The only reason it would be a turn off for me is if your circumstances were constantly referenced as it would see it as some kind of lure or sympathy seeking." where sine chap kindle suggested my inference for the oust was to use my late wife as sympathy vote.

So apologies if it came across directed. At you. It was not in the slightest.

I agree with everything you have said and your comments make a LOT of sense.

Happy fabbing my dear and keep up the honest forum work. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not sure how old your kids are but would it be worth making some friends at the school gate? You could then arrange play dates, and split child care with other parents. Your kids get to spend time with friends and you get some time to yourself"

Yes. I certainly will do, it's his first year so as the month go on I'm starting to chat to then more so. Hoping one may actually be on fab. Lol.

But what t do with the other 2?? Mine are 5,4 & 2 xxx

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Yes. I certainly will do, it's his first year so as the month go on I'm starting to chat to then more so. Hoping one may actually be on fab. Lol.

But what t do with the other 2?? Mine are 5,4 & 2 xxx"

Didn't realise they were so little. How about asking the other parents which babysitters they use? They may even have teenagers of their own that will do it quite cheaply. My single dad friend pays an 18 year old student a fiver an hour if needed in the evenings. She uses the time once they are in bed to study or watch TV while keeping an ear out for them and says she might as well do it there as at hers

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"As a single parent it wouldn't put me off, makes no difference to me.

Well said !!

If you're ever free if like to have a social if you're keen. X

There really is no need, just arrange meets when you have your free time, like everyone else does. If things crop up and you have to cancel then just let them know.

You asked in your OP if you having children put some people off meeting you, well, if you don't tell them, how are they supposed to know? Just don't tell them.

I bought up my children on my own from when the youngest was 15 months old, he's 31 this year, I know what it's like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just stumbled upon this thread so apologies if I repeat any points.

I'm a single dad and it's made no difference. I don't discuss my kids, certainly at first with fabsters and rarely at all. The only issue is that it limits my play time, the way I see it is if they can't have patience to meet then they're not the kind of person id want to meet!

The people that I meet are meeting me, my children remain firmly out of it and no one needs to know except me

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over a year ago

Yes. I certainly will do, it's his first year so as the month go on I'm starting to chat to then more so. Hoping one may actually be on fab. Lol.

But what t do with the other 2?? Mine are 5,4 & 2 xxx"

I really don't mean this to sound rude I'm just being honest but getting somebody to look after three kids for you will be very hard, I have three kids and when they were little very few people wanted all three, even more so being so young

The reality is you may have to put your needs aside till they get older, once they are all at school you will have 6 hours a day free so fitting meets round your kids, work etc will be much easier

Sometimes, even though we all need me time, it just don't work out

Having bought up my three kids alone from a young age I understand how hard it is

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over a year ago

I've got two children. Both in school now, but my free time is limited. Probably more since they are at school all week actually so I don't want to palm them off on a sitter at the weekend, I'd rather have them with me!

It's difficult to juggle, but meeting a single dad wouldn't put me off at all. In my experience, some guys don't want to wait for me to have enough time to meet them. That's fine by me, I just won't meet them. Those who have a bit of patience will be lucky enough to be graced with my company

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