FabSwingers.com forum: thick skin

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

do you have to develop a thick skin swinging?

we can cope with time wasters as there's a lot of them out there but we feel hurt that a couple we've played with loads of times and thought were genuine friends have blocked us without a reason.

do you become less sensitive as time goes by? we've only been doing this for a couple of years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll drive yourselves crazy trying to work out what goes through other peoples heads.

Just don that rhino-skin coat and keep having fun as a couple, no-one else should impact on you both. xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you!

Doesn't keep us awake at night but it does frustrate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly there will always be a reason. Maybe the last meet you had was not as successful for them as it was for you, or maybe they feel they want to explore other fantasies with other people and feel uncomfortable saying this to you. Either way it is their perogative who they play or block, and the same applies to you. Just enjoy your own experiences.

I agree that we build friendships wherever we go and it can get a little hurtful at times. We are the same, we have a friendship with another couple and Id probably miss not seeing them, as me and the female get on so well and Id like to think that even if we didnt ever play together again, we would still be friends and be able to talk, but you just never know.

Try not to ponder on it, easily said that done, and have fun finding new exciting couples

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By *aravancoupleMan
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

do you have to develop a thick skin swinging?

No but it helps

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No, definitely not..

but the second you start to take it too seriously........ YUP.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Thank you!

Doesn't keep us awake at night but it does frustrate.

don't worry.... no point in getting frustrated about it all...

after all its suppose to be fun..

the worst think that can happen here is that someone says no... and we all accept no as mature adults (well we should anyway!)

if a no hurts anyone that badly they should be here...

no point in sweating over things you don't control....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do you have to develop a thick skin swinging?

we can cope with time wasters as there's a lot of them out there but we feel hurt that a couple we've played with loads of times and thought were genuine friends have blocked us without a reason.

do you become less sensitive as time goes by? we've only been doing this for a couple of years

You MIGHT find it was a complete accident but if they do not respond to e-mails or txt assuming you hav a mobile and e-mail address then yes it is very frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, definitely not..

but the second you start to take it too seriously........ YUP.

*Nods in agreement*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are a couple, so they have their own personal issues between themselves. This could be something to do with swinging (e.g. changing boundaries) or could be sometheing outside of swinging (e.g. childcare)

Whatever it is, don't assume that it reflects on you. Yes, it's disappointing when friends aren't available to us.... but it's not the end of the world and it's definitely not an insult, so no thick skin needed.

I hope you have lots of other nice swinging friends xxxxx

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

"No, definitely not..

but the second you start to take it too seriously........ YUP.

*Nods in agreement*"

You'll just give yourself a headache trying to work out other people's motives for how they behave.

It is hard when you think you have built up some rapport, then to be dumped.

I think of it this way, until you have met in real life, it isn't real life.

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