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By *yrdwoman OP   Woman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

My mamma raised me to be polite and I do try to respond to people local to me to explain if I cannot meet them (too busy, they can't accommodate etc etc) but I have noticed lately that even a polite 'no thanks' is ignored.

Now, I hate to block people (I have done but only because of abusive messages) but I will block if someone isn't taking no as no! Do you block? Or do you think it is rude to do so and just delete when someone doesn't take no for an answer?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Just ignore them or block them

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

if person isnt taking your answer as finnal then its THEM being rude and ignorent .i wouldnt think twice about blocking and deleting em ! lifes to short to enter in to endless discussion why you wont meet ! you dont have to justify yourself to anyone !!! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When asked to give a reason why I say no to a gent, I normally reply I do not need to give one other than I am not interested.

And if they pester me, I would tell them I would provide a honest feedback, however, it is unlikely it is something they would like to hear.

Normally they leave me alone after that.

And yes, I delete and block if required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best feature you get for your subscription on this site is the ability to see contact history between members. If they have already written and I recall vaguely, I check the status then just block if its another contact attempt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well when Ive said no, if they come back with a begging message say, please give me a go, or something like that, I ignore it. If they message again I would block. I dont block regularly but if its someone I really dont want any contact with then I dont want them looking at pictures etc, so I block.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

well im not one to walk away from a good argument but sometimes they just wont take no thanks even with clear reasons for an answer, in which case BLOCK!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people:

(a) like the drama; and

(b) have way too much time on their hands!

If someone contacts you who obviously hasn't read your profile and not what you're looking for, why start up a conversation in the first place?

If you think it "rude" to ignore people who have not taken your preferences into account add a sentence on your profile along the lines, "if you don't meet what I'm looking for I won't reply" or "if I don't reply and delete, take that as a 'not interested!'"

You can then delete with a "clear" conscience and concentrate on those you're interested in meeting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a shedload of messages and my profile states quite clearly that if I am not interested and/or you are not within my criteria I will just delete your message as I do not have the time to reply to everyone who sends me a message.

Hey it works both ways occasionally I have messaged and it has been read and deleted. I don't take offence in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some people:

(a) like the drama; and

(b) have way too much time on their hands!

If someone contacts you who obviously hasn't read your profile and not what you're looking for, why start up a conversation in the first place?

If you think it "rude" to ignore people who have not taken your preferences into account add a sentence on your profile along the lines, "if you don't meet what I'm looking for I won't reply" or "if I don't reply and delete, take that as a 'not interested!'"

You can then delete with a "clear" conscience and concentrate on those you're interested in meeting!"

Absolutely..and swinging is about having fun...if you are not finding the fun in something..just dont do it...I block easily and with no pangs of guilt..try it its liberating..

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

if they continue to message after a brief "no thanks" from me i do tend to block - especially if they obviously haven't read my profile. hence the reason my block list is now in triple figures !!!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

If I have got this correct...

someone you don't know, you have never met them in your life, you have no emotional bond with them apart from them being human, on the same web site and they messaged you asking for sex.

You have said No.. and they don't like that answer.. and are becoming a PEST.

and you are considering NOT BLOCKING THEM

why exactly?

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone gets a polite 'thanks but no thanks' and then asks 'why not?'..... they're just opening up a whole world of pain for themselves.

Do they really want to be told 'I don't think you're attractive'???

Ignore/delete/block is the kindest thing to do.

Happy swinging! xx

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

block if getting pestered and wont take no for an answer that what i do

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Just block them and the problem is gone for good, easy really!

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I block abusive people and have blocked the occasional pest - how many times can you say 'no' politely before they get the message otherwise..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a block button and know how to use it lol A polite no should be accepted and moved on from.....Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got pester power in a different way. met someone from here. had a good time. then it was daily texts calls etc. kept saying please do not text or call me if i want you i will be back in touch. i wanted nsa sex not a daily text alert of how horny he was. the request of no contact fell on deaf ears. until in the end i have had to resort to blocking.

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