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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey all, we are new to the fab scene and looking to find our limits. We have cammed a few times and are thinking soft swap to start when we get round to doing meets. What we want to know is how many of you have e started at soft swap and gone on to do full swap? What are the pitfalls to avoid? Thanks in advance for any replies.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Avoid jealous women !! I went to suck a guy after being beckoned over and she went mental. Killed the mood for us ....lol

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Hey all, we are new to the fab scene and looking to find our limits. We have cammed a few times and are thinking soft swap to start when we get round to doing meets. What we want to know is how many of you have e started at soft swap and gone on to do full swap? What are the pitfalls to avoid? Thanks in advance for any replies."
please just stick with what you want clearly, nothing worse than someone who says fine and then gives you evils...if you 'dont know', then say with whom you are intending to play with, that you 'dont know'..be honest, be clear and take your time..have fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are good, you can dine you're own thing, do as little or as much as you want to.

Most people will except a no thank you if you're not ready to play, you can just go to see what's going on and how things work.

You will pick up the rules pretty quickly so no need to worry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started off soft swing and it's mainly kissing and touching instead of full swap!

I would say to study profiles carefully as some are only looking to do full swap so chat with couples before meeting and have some ground rules.

Make sure you don't just talk to the male half of the couple on here make sure you get to chat to her too.

Only do things your happy and comfortable with and don't go in guns blazing.

Good luck X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey all, we are new to the fab scene and looking to find our limits. We have cammed a few times and are thinking soft swap to start when we get round to doing meets. What we want to know is how many of you have e started at soft swap and gone on to do full swap? What are the pitfalls to avoid? Thanks in advance for any replies.please just stick with what you want clearly, nothing worse than someone who says fine and then gives you evils...if you 'dont know', then say with whom you are intending to play with, that you 'dont know'..be honest, be clear and take your time..have fun xx"

That sounds like pretty good advice. I like to think we are both on very much the same page and our communication is awesome and if one of us is uncomfortable we say so without hesitation. Hopefully it's a winning recipe to some exciting joint experiences!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Hey all, we are new to the fab scene and looking to find our limits. We have cammed a few times and are thinking soft swap to start when we get round to doing meets. What we want to know is how many of you have e started at soft swap and gone on to do full swap? What are the pitfalls to avoid? Thanks in advance for any replies.please just stick with what you want clearly, nothing worse than someone who says fine and then gives you evils...if you 'dont know', then say with whom you are intending to play with, that you 'dont know'..be honest, be clear and take your time..have fun xx

That sounds like pretty good advice. I like to think we are both on very much the same page and our communication is awesome and if one of us is uncomfortable we say so without hesitation. Hopefully it's a winning recipe to some exciting joint experiences!"
excellent..i wish you every good fortune in your next step together xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always make it clear to others your boundaries and things you'd like to try. If you have a play meet then speak before about how you will give your approval or disapproval in the heat of the moment. If you meet with decent couples you'll be under no pressure to do things you're not ready for.

Our first meet was supposed to be just FF but the mood was right and a great couple so we all agreed and had a foursome but without the full swap.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Someone we were chatting to at the club described themeselves as"swayers" rather than swingers and we think that sums us up perfectly...soft play only and no intention of that changing....and that's fine by us as it's still great fun, very erotic and we love it.

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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts


"Someone we were chatting to at the club described themeselves as"swayers" rather than swingers and we think that sums us up perfectly...soft play only and no intention of that changing....and that's fine by us as it's still great fun, very erotic and we love it. "

I think we fit into that category .

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always make it clear to others your boundaries and things you'd like to try. If you have a play meet then speak before about how you will give your approval or disapproval in the heat of the moment. If you meet with decent couples you'll be under no pressure to do things you're not ready for.

We'll definitely take that advice on board. We've chatted to so.e lovely couples already but had a few time wasters and fakers spoil the experience. Hopefully we'll do a meet with a nice genuine couple soon!

Our first meet was supposed to be just FF but the mood was right and a great couple so we all agreed and had a foursome but without the full swap. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Someone we were chatting to at the club described themeselves as"swayers" rather than swingers and we think that sums us up perfectly...soft play only and no intention of that changing....and that's fine by us as it's still great fun, very erotic and we love it. "

I think we'll be the same, we like the idea of play in order to tease each other but nothing more. Just a case of finding the right people for us and hoping they are attracted to us just as equally!

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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago

Bristol Area

It's difficult.

We've been together since our very early 20's and started swinging comparatively young. We only soft swapped for a few years, there was always a feeling that we didn't want pushing into anything, and we stuck to our limits. Probably a good thing bearing in mind our ages and the newness of our own relationship.

Then we just hit a point where full swap didn't feel like such a big leap. We're not sure if it was age, experience or something else, but we both said, let's give it a go.

After that we never looked back. Yes, we'll play soft from time to time, however full is our preference now.

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By *elovetofuck2Couple
over a year ago

cannock

We started of soft swing, just girls would play then onto our own men

Then soft play, playing with each couples partners to see how we felt and then gradually full swap, make sure u do it with the right couple.

Our first full swap wasnt to good but we didnt let it put us off, aftwr that its been amazing, we never looked back

One step at a time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone we were chatting to at the club described themeselves as"swayers" rather than swingers and we think that sums us up perfectly...soft play only and no intention of that changing....and that's fine by us as it's still great fun, very erotic and we love it.

I think we'll be the same, we like the idea of play in order to tease each other but nothing more. Just a case of finding the right people for us and hoping they are attracted to us just as equally!"

We have found a lot of couples are swayers, we would class ourselves as swayers as well we have been lucky and have found a couple who are taking the journey with us and we found them on here. Just becareful we have found some people on here who say they will take it at our pace but when it comes down to it have tried to push us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We started of soft swing, just girls would play then onto our own men

Then soft play, playing with each couples partners to see how we felt and then gradually full swap, make sure u do it with the right couple.

Our first full swap wasnt to good but we didnt let it put us off, aftwr that its been amazing, we never looked back

One step at a time"

That seems to be the key thing, finding the right couple. It's just a shame there seem to be so many fakers and time wasters on here!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Someone we were chatting to at the club described themeselves as"swayers" rather than swingers and we think that sums us up perfectly...soft play only and no intention of that changing....and that's fine by us as it's still great fun, very erotic and we love it.

I think we'll be the same, we like the idea of play in order to tease each other but nothing more. Just a case of finding the right people for us and hoping they are attracted to us just as equally!

We have found a lot of couples are swayers, we would class ourselves as swayers as well we have been lucky and have found a couple who are taking the journey with us and we found them on here. Just becareful we have found some people on here who say they will take it at our pace but when it comes down to it have tried to push us"

Well definitely bear that in mind. The last thing we want is for people to rush us, especially as we are so new to this type of thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all, we are new to the fab scene and looking to find our limits. We have cammed a few times and are thinking soft swap to start when we get round to doing meets. What we want to know is how many of you have e started at soft swap and gone on to do full swap? What are the pitfalls to avoid? Thanks in advance for any replies.please just stick with what you want clearly, nothing worse than someone who says fine and then gives you evils...if you 'dont know', then say with whom you are intending to play with, that you 'dont know'..be honest, be clear and take your time..have fun xx"

This is good advice

I played with a couple at a club and I quickly realised that he was checking with the lady that she was happy a lot. So I let her take the lead and then found out it was there first play x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone we were chatting to at the club described themeselves as"swayers" rather than swingers and we think that sums us up perfectly...soft play only and no intention of that changing....and that's fine by us as it's still great fun, very erotic and we love it.

I think we'll be the same, we like the idea of play in order to tease each other but nothing more. Just a case of finding the right people for us and hoping they are attracted to us just as equally!

We have found a lot of couples are swayers, we would class ourselves as swayers as well we have been lucky and have found a couple who are taking the journey with us and we found them on here. Just becareful we have found some people on here who say they will take it at our pace but when it comes down to it have tried to push us

Well definitely bear that in mind. The last thing we want is for people to rush us, especially as we are so new to this type of thing!"

Just make sure you are both happy and comfortable at all times. Nothing worse then thinking it's going well and your having a a great time and then find out the other half isnt enjoying themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Full swap is not the be all and end all, couples that just swap partners to us is frankly boring we like all round interaction, either full swap or soft swap, take your time and go with what feels right for you both, don't ever think soft swap is a lesser version of swinging, it's not! When thinking about full swapping we talked, talked, talked and then talked some more, when we did full swap we went with people who had been happy to soft swing with no pressure to full swap previously initially and that worked for us, now we are happy to full swap or soft swap with people xx

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By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

A lot of couples start as softies, we did. Tbh it is usually the woman who dictates this. Then you get to a point where it seems a bit silly to spoil the mood. After that you fuck like lunatics for a while then settle down to an easy confident acceptance of 'going with the flow', sometimes soft sometimes not.

However one half should not dictate to the other, that's a tried and tested road to nowhere.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"We started of soft swing, just girls would play then onto our own men

Then soft play, playing with each couples partners to see how we felt and then gradually full swap, make sure u do it with the right couple.

Our first full swap wasnt to good but we didnt let it put us off, aftwr that its been amazing, we never looked back

One step at a time

That seems to be the key thing, finding the right couple. It's just a shame there seem to be so many fakers and time wasters on here!"

We started out soft swap. That is absolutely key. Finding a couple that are chilled out, that you are both attracted to and are happy to have fun in whatever form. That's what you need and before long you'll be wondering why it took you so long

However the wrong couple can have the opposite effect.

Don't be rushed and don't be frightened to get out in the real world. This website makes it hard work finding the genuine ones that also 'fit'. A face to face is much, much easier.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is how we started and once we decided we were happy with full swap it took a while before a couple felt like the right ones - better to do less and want more than to do something and wish you hadnt - leave wanting leads to more meets we find on all parties

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some great advice from you all and a few key points we will absolutely take forward from here. Thanks to everyone for replying to us, always nice for newbies like us to get guidance from people who have been there and done that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just make sure you both enjoy the time. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Full swap is not the be all and end all, couples that just swap partners to us is frankly boring we like all round interaction, either full swap or soft swap, take your time and go with what feels right for you both, don't ever think soft swap is a lesser version of swinging, it's not! When thinking about full swapping we talked, talked, talked and then talked some more, when we did full swap we went with people who had been happy to soft swing with no pressure to full swap previously initially and that worked for us, now we are happy to full swap or soft swap with people xx"

Absolutely this.

It's not a right of passage it's something that you may or may not want to do in the future. Talking about feelings and more importantly jealousy and potential jealousy really helps. If you think it's not for you it probably isn't. Remember the reason you swing is to add a spice to your marriage not create a divide.

Only you will know when it's right and if it is at all.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

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