FabSwingers.com forum: A question for the singles

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have seen it mentioned a few times on here.. that if they were with a couple they wouldnt swing.. now a few reasons I have seen I wont mention.. but....

I wondered why...???

as I know single or a couple I still enjoy similar things.. my exception would be my bdsm side. If Master and I broke up I'd just not do that side of things at all.. as I dont have the need to be submissive, just the need to serve Master.. ( odd I know but true)

For us as a couple, we enjoy the play, the variety, but are the first to admit that no one else even is half as good as the sex we share together.. ( even the less kinky stuff)

Katie. x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i think i would take time out from meeting other people to 'cement' the relationship so to speak.

i believe that swinging in a couple means you have to be secure in your relationship but i do think it would be hard for me to walk away from the lifestyle completely

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I'm single, have been for a number of years now.

When I first started swinging, I started as a single fem. After about a year on the scene, I met a guy and we started dating. Then we started swinging. That worked for a while. We split up over something silly, but remained friends.

So I went back to single female swinging. I've no jealousy problems, and love the thought of my partner having sex with others, as long as I get to hear all about it after!!

I've tried dating on and off over the years, but find it very difficult to explain to men that I'm bi-sexual. They tend not to get it.

So at the moment I seriously believe if I want a relationship at any point, which I don't at the minute, it would have to be with a swinger, who understood the lifestyle. Not just one that is here because he thinks its an easy way to get laid.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do think that you need time as a couple.. Master and I made a mistake early on with perhaps playing to early in a certain way.. but we talk a lot so we just learn from things..

I dont mean get with someone and then swing that weekend.. but I think if I was ever to be single I would definately make it clear I wouldnt be a one guy girl.. Funny though, as if Master asked me to, I would happily give up swinging.. and not even feel a single regret... Only man I would.. but thats because well its different..

I think Master likes it that he is the one man I could be totally faithful too in the way most people see faithful as...

but it would be a mutual decision...

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel the opposite. If I was single I wouldn't have the confidence to play alone.

That doesn't mean that I don't think I would pull, because I know I can, it's just that I don't think I could play as a single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on here befor as a couple now single and i would want to continue swinging with a new partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't play with couples as a single so I certainly wouldn't as a couple. To me being part of a couple and playing alone would be unsatisfactory also.

Until the age of 44 I'd only had one sexual partner: my husband. Therefore, when I decide to stick with one man again it won't be a problem!

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I'm single, have been for a number of years now.

So I went back to single female swinging. I've no jealousy problems, and love the thought of my partner having sex with others, as long as I get to hear all about it after!!

I've tried dating on and off over the years, but find it very difficult to explain to men that I'm bi-sexual. They tend not to get it.

im in the same boat as the lady above and agree fully what she says dont think i could go into a relationship with a non swinger you have highs and lows as a single swinger the plus side is you meet who you want go to clubs when you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on here as a single for over a year had lots of fun, then decided i wanted more so i hid my profile and went out dating. I met a guy and we have been together a while now and started swinging as a couple....we are new at the couple thing....so are just seeing how it goes. I suppose it could go either way, make us or break us, i am hoping it will bring us closer in a way as i am sure it has done for many couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was briefly with a swinger who then told me he couldnt 'share' me.

So perhaps that means he isnt a swinger and is just a single guy getting easy sex??

I know im a swinger and would want to continue if i was in a relationship.

However i would change how i swing, and have certain rules about who and how i swing if i met the right man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think to be fair he rather wanted to have his cake and eat it, rather than looking at swinging as an easy way to get easy sex. In my own experience the easiest way to get sex was for me to simply to walk into a city centre nightclub at a weekend as you get plenty of people falling over themselves to get into your undies, swinging merely offers something different to the vanilla lifestyle. Once you are known its fairly easy to arrange meets but there's the whole setting up a profile, making contact etc period before this can happen? Plus from a male point of view vanilla clubs are less costly to boot...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

there are two classic examples of this...

1) the view that while you are single it is okay to swing with other peoples "other halves" but if they happen to be in a couple i don't want anyone playing with them at all...

very hypocritical.. yes... seen it on here (one classic example which raised a lot of eyebrows was a single guy who professed he had found the "love of his life" and was not prepared to "share her" (his words not ours!) and so he was leaving..... to which he ended up sloping back in 3 weeks later!)

2) single swinging guys who hooks up with single swinging girls... and then "decide" they only want to play with couples... as if us singles are no longer "good enough" for them......

normally seen in clubs... bloke think they are the big "I am" and protecting his "golden ticket" to couples........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us as a couple, we enjoy the play, the variety, but are the first to admit that no one else even is half as good as the sex we share together.. ( even the less kinky stuff)

Katie. x"

anything less would mean it was just a convenience relationship. Mind, body and soul with partner. Can't beat it.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I have been single now pretty much for 5 years now. I didnt begin swinging until my split from ex hisband.

I meet couples and singles too.

I would love to meet the special one and also on a dating site but it is rather hard to explain that I am bi and want to go to a club and have sex with a variety of men and ladies.

If I was dating then I swouldnt swing without a doubt unless we both wanted to do it as a couple.

In all honesty i cant see how it would work as never swung as a proper couple. But then I cant imagine being with one man for the rest of my life.

Its catch 22. It would be great if me and a male partner would fall in love and eventually swing together and have the level or ftust and sexiness to enjoy it all......and then in the real world it means either swinging or dating but probably not both.

I feel really comfy in the swinging world and not in the dating world.

Would be lovely tho if I got to happy ever after x

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