FabSwingers.com forum: Accepting compliments

By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

so because of a really bad relationship many moons ago I find it hard to accept compliments (thanks to an abusive ex)

Usually when someone compliments me I either laugh or shrug it off, simply because I can't see what others can surely I'm not a total weirdo and on my own with this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get compliments all the time and I fucking hate it...honestly I can't nip out for a loaf without being constantly flattered...you're not alone... compliments actually wind me up.

And I hate compliments on here...makes my job harder.

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By *parkly MittensWoman
over a year ago

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"so because of a really bad relationship many moons ago I find it hard to accept compliments (thanks to an abusive ex)

Usually when someone compliments me I either laugh or shrug it off, simply because I can't see what others can surely I'm not a total weirdo and on my own with this? "

I find it hard to accept complements too, also due to an ex and very low self esteem.

Being on here is helping me with my self esteem though I can still

when someone says something nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't believe any compliments on here and similar to you op a previous bad relationship means I don't know how to take them and never believe them Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't believe any compliments on here and similar to you op a previous bad relationship means I don't know how to take them and never believe them Xx

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I don't believe any compliments on here and similar to you op a previous bad relationship means I don't know how to take them and never believe them Xx "

That's how I am, I find it hard to believe them, well the only one I do is about my eyes cause they're the one thing I do like about myself

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"so because of a really bad relationship many moons ago I find it hard to accept compliments (thanks to an abusive ex)

Usually when someone compliments me I either laugh or shrug it off, simply because I can't see what others can surely I'm not a total weirdo and on my own with this?

I find it hard to accept complements too, also due to an ex and very low self esteem.

Being on here is helping me with my self esteem though I can still

when someone says something nice

Same here I was invited to a club on Friday by a couple I was a bit dubious at first because of my confidence, but once I get as there my inhibitors actually went out the window

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

An ex whom I dated struggled when I paid a compliment to her. She thought I was being funny, or guilty or I had a hidden agenda for paying a compliment.

Because she was so used to being downtrodden from an abusive ex, someone being nice was hard for her to deal with and handle. A "oh that dress looks nice on you" would get a reaction from her "so you think I am a slapper" because thats what she was used to hearing... time, support and communication helped alot for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is a cultural thing. I'll admit that I don't take compliments on here seriously, for the most part, but people who can't accept them in everyday life drive me nuts.

But I guess people would say that Americans should be more modest and that the lack thereof drives them nuts. *shrugs*

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yeah my my ex would call me a tart etc if I wore something he didn't like he was very possessive didn't like it when I worked in the pub he would turn up to every shift

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See when I (good girl) get compliments I feel uncomfortable, I shouldn't but I just struggle to see what they are seeing! Compliments are thrown around on here so often, I don't believe every single one is sincere either...I think I'm weird to haha x

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

"Yeah my my ex would call me a tart etc if I wore something he didn't like he was very possessive didn't like it when I worked in the pub he would turn up to every shift "

Yep.. rings true what she used to say. A dress meant she was on the pull. New perfume meant she is meeting someone.

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"See when I (good girl) get compliments I feel uncomfortable, I shouldn't but I just struggle to see what they are seeing! Compliments are thrown around on here so often, I don't believe every single one is sincere either...I think I'm weird to haha x"

We can be weird together lol, and I mean comments in general not just on here lol should have specified that bit lol

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Yeah my my ex would call me a tart etc if I wore something he didn't like he was very possessive didn't like it when I worked in the pub he would turn up to every shift

Yep.. rings true what she used to say. A dress meant she was on the pull. New perfume meant she is meeting someone. "

He would accuse me of having affairs because I would take a phone call in a separate room

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

"Yeah my my ex would call me a tart etc if I wore something he didn't like he was very possessive didn't like it when I worked in the pub he would turn up to every shift

Yep.. rings true what she used to say. A dress meant she was on the pull. New perfume meant she is meeting someone.

He would accuse me of having affairs because I would take a phone call in a separate room"

You will know signs in any future men now. Btw am sure you looked hot in a dress

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Yeah my my ex would call me a tart etc if I wore something he didn't like he was very possessive didn't like it when I worked in the pub he would turn up to every shift

Yep.. rings true what she used to say. A dress meant she was on the pull. New perfume meant she is meeting someone.

He would accuse me of having affairs because I would take a phone call in a separate room

You will know signs in any future men now. Btw am sure you looked hot in a dress

Oh I learnt a lot from that relationship but the way I see it I won, I'm the one who's happy now, I haven't let him beat me (apart from the compliment bit)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get compliments all the time and I fucking hate it...honestly I can't nip out for a loaf without being constantly flattered...

Shop online. And wear a paper bag over your head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys dont get compliments on fab. Unless there one of the in crowd on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get compliments all the time and I fucking hate it...honestly I can't nip out for a loaf without being constantly flattered...

Shop online. And wear a paper bag over your head.

It's the paper bag he is getting the compliments on

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Guys dont get compliments on fab. Unless there one of the in crowd on the forums

See I do compliment guys mainly the ones that take the time to talk to me as opposed to those that send one liner messages etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(M) The only compliments I get are your Missus looks hot I'd fuck her properly, while your out. Its good that I didn't join up for compliments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys dont get compliments on fab. Unless there one of the in crowd on the forums

See I do compliment guys mainly the ones that take the time to talk to me as opposed to those that send one liner messages etc "

Yes but if one liners work for guys whats wrong with that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so because of a really bad relationship many moons ago I find it hard to accept compliments (thanks to an abusive ex)

Usually when someone compliments me I either laugh or shrug it off, simply because I can't see what others can surely I'm not a total weirdo and on my own with this? "

No. You are not alone on this. I am crap at taking a compliment. I either think its to get in my nix, or after a favour, or taking the piss.. i don't trust anyone and don't accept any of it. Always been this way and it has caused me problems but it just makes me feel uneasy and it make me cringe. Even if not on here i am the same in aworking enviroment. I was given an award, flowers and chocs and it made me cringe so bad i threw award away and gave flowers and chocs to charity. I know my self worth and i'm an ok person. I just don'tneed others praise i think.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I'm always happy to receive a compliment on here. It's better than the alternative. As someone who never had a compliment about their physical appearance in real life before coming on Fab it's nice to hear something positive.

Recently though I've been taking them with an ever increasing pinch of salt because I'm not overly happy about how I look. The compliment is saying one thing but reality is telling me something completely different. I think only when I'm truly happy in my own skin will I be 100% accepting of a compliment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so because of a really bad relationship many moons ago I find it hard to accept compliments (thanks to an abusive ex)

Usually when someone compliments me I either laugh or shrug it off, simply because I can't see what others can surely I'm not a total weirdo and on my own with this? "

Not at all

I'm the same, I spend pretty much all my married life being put down in an abusive relationship

He used to call me all sorts, I remember walking out the bathroom once over the landing to my bedroom I just had a towel round me, he saw me and said "for gods sake get dressed your making me feel sick" I'd get such comments on a daily basis always being called fat, my youngest daughter used to call me blubber when she was a toddler because he thought her too, he'd tell her to say it then laugh at her so she used to say it even more because she though getting a laugh was good

I've always been body conscious and he knew that that's why he did it because he knew it hurt me but he's constants put down made me worse, he's my one and only relationship and its put me off having anymore

There's no way I'd put myself in a position to go through that again

I actually don't like complimemts on my appearance because I know they are false and people are just trying to lift me up so I'd sooner not have them

If the man who's supposed to love you can't look at you and see anything attractive them nobody else will

I remember when we split he told me no other guy would want me and the only men who would show me attention are desperate men who haven't seen a naked women in years

And you know what he's probably right but I get what I want from here then go home alone back to my quiet life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it difficult to take a compliment, when I'm given one I either don't accept it or really listen to it. My partner seems to think that it comes from when I was younger and I wasn't complimented on anything and only told that I was doing it wrong or that I could do it better.

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Guys dont get compliments on fab. Unless there one of the in crowd on the forums

See I do compliment guys mainly the ones that take the time to talk to me as opposed to those that send one liner messages etc

Yes but if one liners work for guys whats wrong with that? "

So you send me a message then block me? Yeah cause that makes sense

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

"so because of a really bad relationship many moons ago I find it hard to accept compliments (thanks to an abusive ex)

Usually when someone compliments me I either laugh or shrug it off, simply because I can't see what others can surely I'm not a total weirdo and on my own with this?

Not at all

I'm the same, I spend pretty much all my married life being put down in an abusive relationship

There's no way I'd put myself in a position to go through that again

I actually don't like complimemts on my appearance because I know they are false and people are just trying to lift me up so I'd sooner not have them

If the man who's supposed to love you can't look at you and see anything attractive them nobody else will

I remember when we split he told me no other guy would want me and the only men who would show me attention are desperate men who haven't seen a naked women in years

And you know what he's probably right but I get what I want from here then go home alone back to my quiet life

Easier said than done am sure.. but not all compliments will be false. Other person wins if you live in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't believe compliments here as they just want in my knickers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys dont get compliments on fab. Unless there one of the in crowd on the forums

See I do compliment guys mainly the ones that take the time to talk to me as opposed to those that send one liner messages etc

Yes but if one liners work for guys whats wrong with that?

So you send me a message then block me? Yeah cause that makes sense

was it abusive? report it if it was

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Guys dont get compliments on fab. Unless there one of the in crowd on the forums

See I do compliment guys mainly the ones that take the time to talk to me as opposed to those that send one liner messages etc

Yes but if one liners work for guys whats wrong with that?

So you send me a message then block me? Yeah cause that makes sense

was it abusive? report it if it was "

Could have given me chance to have replied at least ffs

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Guys dont get compliments on fab. Unless there one of the in crowd on the forums

I've complimented loads. Usually when I see their pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys dont get compliments on fab. Unless there one of the in crowd on the forums

I've complimented loads. Usually when I see their pics.

I have send messages to men even though I know they won't be interested in me just to compliment them on their pics if they really stand out

I usually say I'm not on the pull I just like to give credit where credits due

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Guys dont get compliments on fab. Unless there one of the in crowd on the forums

I've complimented loads. Usually when I see their pics.

There are a few I have complimented as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle as well, not because of an ex,but because I used to be massively overweight, about 22st at my heaviest.

I've since slimmed down but still see the fat me, so when people say I look good in don't believe them.

And the main compliment I now get is nice beard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always happy to receive a compliment on here. It's better than the alternative. As someone who never had a compliment about their physical appearance in real life before coming on Fab it's nice to hear something positive.

skin will I be 100% accepting of a compliment."

Can relate to this !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys dont get compliments on fab. Unless there one of the in crowd on the forums

I've complimented loads. Usually when I see their pics.

I send plenty of pictures throu pm if i message

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I struggle as well, not because of an ex,but because I used to be massively overweight, about 22st at my heaviest.

I've since slimmed down but still see the fat me, so when people say I look good in don't believe them.

And the main compliment I now get is nice beard "
THIS!!! (Apart from the beard part I've lost weight but like yourself still see the bigger version of myself

Btw beards rock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so because of a really bad relationship many moons ago I find it hard to accept compliments (thanks to an abusive ex)

Usually when someone compliments me I either laugh or shrug it off, simply because I can't see what others can surely I'm not a total weirdo and on my own with this?

Not at all

I'm the same, I spend pretty much all my married life being put down in an abusive relationship

There's no way I'd put myself in a position to go through that again

I actually don't like complimemts on my appearance because I know they are false and people are just trying to lift me up so I'd sooner not have them

If the man who's supposed to love you can't look at you and see anything attractive them nobody else will

I remember when we split he told me no other guy would want me and the only men who would show me attention are desperate men who haven't seen a naked women in years

And you know what he's probably right but I get what I want from here then go home alone back to my quiet life

That's awful! Glad you're happy now nd away from him! X

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Compliments are one of the very few things in this world that make me blush.

I can get up to all kinds of nasty without so much as a pink tinge (apart from a glow off my hair) but compliment me and you've had it!!

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Compliments are one of the very few things in this world that make me blush.

I can get up to all kinds of nasty without so much as a pink tinge (apart from a glow off my hair) but compliment me and you've had it!!

"
yeah I never usually blush unless it's my arse from a spanking or compliments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Compliments are one of the very few things in this world that make me blush.

I can get up to all kinds of nasty without so much as a pink tinge (apart from a glow off my hair) but compliment me and you've had it!!

With my complexion I go so red when I receive compliments, I look like a tomato.

I'm generally terrible at receiving compliments. It comes from a place of low self confidence but I have got better over time in accepting them.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"Compliments are one of the very few things in this world that make me blush.

I can get up to all kinds of nasty without so much as a pink tinge (apart from a glow off my hair) but compliment me and you've had it!!

With my complexion I go so red when I receive compliments, I look like a tomato.

I'm generally terrible at receiving compliments. It comes from a place of low self confidence but I have got better over time in accepting them.

I bet you make a good brew though.....

Victoria sandwich?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Compliments are one of the very few things in this world that make me blush.

I can get up to all kinds of nasty without so much as a pink tinge (apart from a glow off my hair) but compliment me and you've had it!!

With my complexion I go so red when I receive compliments, I look like a tomato.

I'm generally terrible at receiving compliments. It comes from a place of low self confidence but I have got better over time in accepting them.

I bet you make a good brew though.....

Victoria sandwich?

My tea is one thing I can take compliments on.

Are you offering cake or a threesome with a woman called Victoria?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I've seen, women rarely accept compliments. Even less so here, because obviously there must be a hidden agenda behind it...

In my opinion if you're complimented feel good about it. If you feel bad or uncomfortable, it will just ruin your mood.

I personally never get complimented in real life, aside from getting honked at by passing ladies. Regardless of their intention behind it, it makes me smile

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"Compliments are one of the very few things in this world that make me blush.

I can get up to all kinds of nasty without so much as a pink tinge (apart from a glow off my hair) but compliment me and you've had it!!

With my complexion I go so red when I receive compliments, I look like a tomato.

I'm generally terrible at receiving compliments. It comes from a place of low self confidence but I have got better over time in accepting them.

I bet you make a good brew though.....

Victoria sandwich?

My tea is one thing I can take compliments on.

Are you offering cake or a threesome with a woman called Victoria?"

Last Victoria I fooked turned out to be a crazy so I'm sticking with cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Compliments are one of the very few things in this world that make me blush.

I can get up to all kinds of nasty without so much as a pink tinge (apart from a glow off my hair) but compliment me and you've had it!!

With my complexion I go so red when I receive compliments, I look like a tomato.

I'm generally terrible at receiving compliments. It comes from a place of low self confidence but I have got better over time in accepting them.

I bet you make a good brew though.....

Victoria sandwich?

My tea is one thing I can take compliments on.

Are you offering cake or a threesome with a woman called Victoria?

Last Victoria I fooked turned out to be a crazy so I'm sticking with cake

Most women I sleep turn out to be crazy. I love me a bit of crazy.

We'll stick with tea and cake then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to accept any compliments, please fire away

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By *ilthyjackcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

I hear you.

My biggest fear is that one day people will see me the way I see myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

compliments are nice but to me they are in one ear and out the other cos i know they are only saying nice things to get in my knickers, especially on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hear you.

My biggest fear is that one day people will see me the way I see myself. "

its really hard to accept not everybody sees you the way you see yourself isnt it?

i struggle with it

i always send recent pics and expect them to reject me, but if they reply with nice pics i think was it a odd angle, do my pics flatter me, will they be disspointed if we meet because i look worse in real life

i try so hard to just think, you know what maybe they do see me as i am and they actually like me but then i look at myself and think...dont be a twat

its a horrible feeling never feeling good enough

ive met some really nice guys, some have been really good looking and its obvious they can do better so arent with me because im the best they can get, i look sometimes and think why? its hard to say what you think without insulting them for being with you

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

After a very long abusive relationship I was the same.

But then I figured if I compliment someone I mean it so who's to say other people are always lying to me?

I accept compliments fine now, whether they are genuine or not. By not accepting them you are effectively saying the person complimenting you is some kind of liar. Which most won't be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah my my ex would call me a tart etc if I wore something he didn't like he was very possessive didn't like it when I worked in the pub he would turn up to every shift "

My ex turned up at work one night (was a pub also)

He very nearly got me the sack.

I don't accept compliments easily either. It's easier to shrug them off.

You are not alone my love xx

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Yeah my my ex would call me a tart etc if I wore something he didn't like he was very possessive didn't like it when I worked in the pub he would turn up to every shift

My ex turned up at work one night (was a pub also)

He very nearly got me the sack.

I don't accept compliments easily either. It's easier to shrug them off.

You are not alone my love xx"
the ex got pissed one shift that I had to get a mate to take him home and yeah it is easy to shrug them off xXx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

In the real world i love them on here generally some are ludicurous but some are nice

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"In the real world i love them on here generally some are ludicurous but some are nice"
the main one I get on here is once I've sent my pic is my eyes

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

"I don't believe any compliments on here and similar to you op a previous bad relationship means I don't know how to take them and never believe them Xx

That's how I am, I find it hard to believe them, well the only one I do is about my eyes cause they're the one thing I do like about myself "

I'm exactly the same, people think I'm fishing fire more compliments when I shrug them off etc. Nope just dont believe them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the real world i love them on here generally some are ludicurous but some are nice"

yeah some are well over the top by anybodies standard

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

Any compliments I send are always very genuine and not just to get in someone knickers.

Having gone through depression by constant criticism at work a few years ago. It makes me feel good if I can make someones day and make them smile.

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Any compliments I send are always very genuine and not just to get in someone knickers.

Having gone through depression by constant criticism at work a few years ago. It makes me feel good if I can make someones day and make them smile. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Through my work people are asked to provide feedback about the courses they have attended where I have run them. I find myself cringing when they are really positive with the feedback.

I think compliments are often hard to accept who ever you are.

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Through my work people are asked to provide feedback about the courses they have attended where I have run them. I find myself cringing when they are really positive with the feedback.

I think compliments are often hard to accept who ever you are."

I think some people do accept them more readily than what others do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Through my work people are asked to provide feedback about the courses they have attended where I have run them. I find myself cringing when they are really positive with the feedback.

I think compliments are often hard to accept who ever you are."

i have no problem accepting compliments about my work ot my kids i love compliments on either of those its just compliments about my personal appearance i dont like

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I agree with Marc and Courtney, we Brits are just generally not good at accepting compliments.

I am getting better at it and think it is important to let others know they look good. Lots of people have low self esteem and a positive word could just make their day.

I think women accept comliments better from other women, as it is more likely to be genuine than an attempt to get in your knickers.

Nita

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Any compliments I send are always very genuine and not just to get in someone knickers.

Having gone through depression by constant criticism at work a few years ago. It makes me feel good if I can make someones day and make them smile. "

Exactly this.

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By *ottie_84 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I agree with Marc and Courtney, we Brits are just generally not good at accepting compliments.

I am getting better at it and think it is important to let others know they look good. Lots of people have low self esteem and a positive word could just make their day.

I think women accept comliments better from other women, as it is more likely to be genuine than an attempt to get in your knickers.

Nita"

I can't even accept compliments from women

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Nice socks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A compliment from someone I know will always mean more than one from someone I don't. Purely based on the fact I don't know if they're being genuine or not.

My standard response to a compliment I know has been said 100's of times is a simple 'thank you' ~ a response to a genuine compliment would probably be a little more in depth.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Any compliments I send are always very genuine and not just to get in someone knickers.

Having gone through depression by constant criticism at work a few years ago. It makes me feel good if I can make someones day and make them smile. "

This man tells no lies

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

"Any compliments I send are always very genuine and not just to get in someone knickers.

Having gone through depression by constant criticism at work a few years ago. It makes me feel good if I can make someones day and make them smile.

This man tells no lies

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

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"I struggle as well, not because of an ex,but because I used to be massively overweight, about 22st at my heaviest.

I've since slimmed down but still see the fat me, so when people say I look good in don't believe them.

And the main compliment I now get is nice beard "

I completely understand you . I was there but somehow in different situation . I used to be a pro bodybuilder . Competitions and intense trainings and meal plans , bulking up etc . I was happiest with my body then and my confidence was at my highest .( although I looked nothing feminine at all and didn't have boobs at all just big set of pecks) . My muscles and hard trainings were my life .I was so addicted to that lifestyle .

It all ended one day as I decided enough is enough .

I like looking feminine now but no way I am confident as I was in body building days .

I like to get a compliment as I never used to get compliments much . I had to learn to accept them but I still blush . I think my ever favourite compliment that I get very often from people that meet me is that I am very funny . I never knew that about myself .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all ended one day as I decided enough is enough .

I like looking feminine now but no way I am confident as I was in body building days .

I'm sure you are a very funny person, but you are also incredibly sexy, you have an amazing figure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg - I thought I was odd for not being able to take a compliment - mine is due to something that was said to me as a child and now when I get a compliment I don't genuinely believe it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's really sad op that u allow someone's opinion of you affect the way u see urself when u were strong enough to turn him into a ex.

Growing up I had a lot of abuse about my looks, colour and figure. This made me blind to what I looked like.

I can't say exactly when all the negativity got blocked out of my head but I can tell u that when I started loving myself and the way I looked my whole world changed.

Now if someone gives me a compliment my automatic answer is thank u I know

(just something to think about) big luv xx

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

This thread has made some sad reading (and I do understand the reasons why).

I understand that on Fab there is a belief that all men will compliment just to try and ensure things will move on.

I for one make compliments in the big wide world but on a too regular basis I get 'really' back as a reply, or 'i don't think so' 'why would you say that'. Well really Yes otherwise I wouldn't of said, you may not think so but I do, I said it because I meant it. It can also hurt when you get these replies back, it makes you wonder if you should say what you are thinking.

Basically ladies (and men) please if you are given a compliment, except it as that, a compliment, they are a nice thing to receive!

To all you lovely ladies,

'you all are lovely'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a thread yesterday about sending a nice message to someone.

The first two messages I got were compliments about my boobs.

I haven't actually done anything to have these boobs so it makes me a bit sad that that is all I could be complimented for but then I got complimented on my forum posts. It was constructive criticism but it bloody made my day that I was complimented on something other than the breasts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compliments on here can be rather empty because most say things they think you want to hear !!!!

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

"Compliments on here can be rather empty because most say things they think you want to hear !!!! "

Sadly this true x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compliments. Easy. YOU SAY THANK YOU. end of.

and i'll happily accept any and all compliments heading my way, thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Compliments on here can be rather empty because most say things they think you want to hear !!!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Compliments on here can be rather empty because most say things they think you want to hear !!!! "

Oh....

.....thanks for bursting my bubble

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By *ellowbabesCouple
over a year ago

newport/cwmbran

i find it hard too except compliments sometimes shrug it of because of my bad 2 marriages.when i get complimented now will say do i still sometimes wont agree .partner even if he compliments me still find it hard but sometimes i try to except think its hard too adjust when you be in them relationships got to value ourself .s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Compliments on here can be rather empty because most say things they think you want to hear !!!!

Oh....

.....thanks for bursting my bubble

Bubble Burst trauma pack coming right up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give out compliments on here. I like to.sometimes cos the woman is my type and yes I'd like to get in her knixs..sometimes I like the pixs tho she may not be my type...sometimes I like the written profile.......women say they get a lot if crap....take the compliments and enjoy...not all maybe sincere...mine are tho..!

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

"so because of a really bad relationship many moons ago I find it hard to accept compliments (thanks to an abusive ex)

Usually when someone compliments me I either laugh or shrug it off, simply because I can't see what others can surely I'm not a total weirdo and on my own with this? "

Nope not on your own at all...

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I subscribe to modesty sucks

As well as the other Dingle girls on Emmerdale.

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