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"Don't worry. Their type hardly ever venture out in the big-wide-world. You are safe in clubs " | |||
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"Every time I rejoin fab I find myself drawn to the forums as I love a decent debate. Now aside from the inane questions asked every month, lentgh or girth, beard and tats, blah blah. I have noticed there seems to be the usual 'guardians of the forums' self appointed experts that have been giving the same responses for the past 3 years, and can't help but leap in and wave their opinions as if they are gospel. This has always put me off the club scene as I imagine the exact same environment of these small minded closed groups. I see new members sometimes ganged upon for asking innocent questions. If this was a club..It would have a very snidey atmosphere at times. Think once..think twice...think newbies.." Some good points . Glad we don't clubs any more | |||
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"Every time I rejoin fab I find myself drawn to the forums as I love a decent debate. Now aside from the inane questions asked every month, lentgh or girth, beard and tats, blah blah. I have noticed there seems to be the usual 'guardians of the forums' self appointed experts that have been giving the same responses for the past 3 years, and can't help but leap in and wave their opinions as if they are gospel. This has always put me off the club scene as I imagine the exact same environment of these small minded closed groups. I see new members sometimes ganged upon for asking innocent questions. If this was a club..It would have a very snidey atmosphere at times. Think once..think twice...think newbies.." know what you say,some of the posts when I see certain posters commenting I think 'Oh here we go'..and usually don't even bother with the post anymore | |||
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"I think we should get to more clubs "Yes you should!!!! | |||
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"the word 'clique' has been used for years and years, yet the names of the prolific posters change every few months......" ^This, I've been here for nearly 10 yrs, and I see the forum like a big pub. You'll get the regulars, and the ones that pop in & out a couple of times a week. A lot in here have actually met in real life so they have "the craic" more with each other than perhaps a newbie, which we all were at one point. Just keep posting, get yerself known and have fun
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"but I agree the constant need to name who you would fuck, or the love in's give the impression of one." And there seems to be so many of those at the moment, it's like a constant validation. I can name who has been named without scrolling up
Funny though 'cos according to the messages I receive I'm the most beautiful woman on Fabs..... | |||
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"We are a big family 
Like on Jeremy Kyle. "Yes, like kyle too lol. | |||
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"I started a clique... It's called the boob appreciation clique ... (see my thread) only requirement to join ...you've gotta like boobs. "Ohhh I like boobs | |||
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"the word 'clique' has been used for years and years, yet the names of the prolific posters change every few months...... ^This, I've been here for nearly 10 yrs, and I see the forum like a big pub. You'll get the regulars, and the ones that pop in & out a couple of times a week. A lot in here have actually met in real life so they have "the craic" more with each other than perhaps a newbie, which we all were at one point. Just keep posting, get yerself known and have fun
I'm in ma very own one man clique btw "Not sure I'd want to meet many from the forums in real life! | |||
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"I started a clique... It's called the boob appreciation clique ... (see my thread) only requirement to join ...you've gotta like boobs.
Ohhh I like boobs "We do too | |||
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"Every time I rejoin fab I find myself drawn to the forums as I love a decent debate. Now aside from the inane questions asked every month, lentgh or girth, beard and tats, blah blah. I have noticed there seems to be the usual 'guardians of the forums' self appointed experts that have been giving the same responses for the past 3 years, and can't help but leap in and wave their opinions as if they are gospel. This has always put me off the club scene as I imagine the exact same environment of these small minded closed groups. I see new members sometimes ganged upon for asking innocent questions. If this was a club..It would have a very snidey atmosphere at times. Think once..think twice...think newbies.." Careful i used to think "who the fuck do they think they are? The forum police?!" turned out they were... | |||
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"I thought it was just the Scottish forum lol I'm not a newbie "thank god" but it seems, once you leave and come back, you're considered a newbie and no one speaks to you again. " Maybe we all imagine it a bit. Some are just on the forum a lot, so maybe that makes it seem like they are noticed, but really it's because they are like a dog with a bone. I get ignored, but just think it really isn't the end of the world. | |||
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"Every time I rejoin fab I find myself drawn to the forums as I love a decent debate. Now aside from the inane questions asked every month, lentgh or girth, beard and tats, blah blah. I have noticed there seems to be the usual 'guardians of the forums' self appointed experts that have been giving the same responses for the past 3 years, and can't help but leap in and wave their opinions as if they are gospel. This has always put me off the club scene as I imagine the exact same environment of these small minded closed groups. I see new members sometimes ganged upon for asking innocent questions. If this was a club..It would have a very snidey atmosphere at times. Think once..think twice...think newbies.. Careful i used to think "who the fuck do they think they are? The forum police?!" turned out they were..." Yep ... been there done that too !  | |||
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"Every time I rejoin fab I find myself drawn to the forums as I love a decent debate. Now aside from the inane questions asked every month, lentgh or girth, beard and tats, blah blah. I have noticed there seems to be the usual 'guardians of the forums' self appointed experts that have been giving the same responses for the past 3 years, and can't help but leap in and wave their opinions as if they are gospel. This has always put me off the club scene as I imagine the exact same environment of these small minded closed groups. I see new members sometimes ganged upon for asking innocent questions. If this was a club..It would have a very snidey atmosphere at times. Think once..think twice...think newbies.." Refreshingly well observed post to which I couldn't agree more....And some people are on here 24/7 and probably have no life at all...but this one here...Sad. | |||
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"I started a clique... It's called the boob appreciation clique ... (see my thread) only requirement to join ...you've gotta like boobs.
Ohhh I like boobs
We do too "Did someone mention boobs 
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"You are right OP. The forums are cliquey (feel free to tar and feather me but I've been on the scene long enough to understand it). Yes certain people jump on those they deem 'outside' their circle, but the truth is they are a very small percentage of FAB and FAB doesn't represent the whole scene. Many have never even ventured into a club let along be an expert of the lifestyle. Enjoy the site for what it is. "Beautifully put | |||
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"I agree and there are some people who put themselves on pedestals as well,self appointed king/queen bees of the forums" | |||
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"You are right OP. The forums are cliquey (feel free to tar and feather me but I've been on the scene long enough to understand it). Yes certain people jump on those they deem 'outside' their circle, but the truth is they are a very small percentage of FAB and FAB doesn't represent the whole scene. Many have never even ventured into a club let along be an expert of the lifestyle. Enjoy the site for what it is. " | |||
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"Every time I rejoin fab I find myself drawn to the forums as I love a decent debate. Now aside from the inane questions asked every month, lentgh or girth, beard and tats, blah blah. I have noticed there seems to be the usual 'guardians of the forums' self appointed experts that have been giving the same responses for the past 3 years, and can't help but leap in and wave their opinions as if they are gospel. This has always put me off the club scene as I imagine the exact same environment of these small minded closed groups. I see new members sometimes ganged upon for asking innocent questions. If this was a club..It would have a very snidey atmosphere at times. Think once..think twice...think newbies.." Don't think twice, it's alright. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u-Y3KfJs6T0 Agreed though. Unavoidably the forum is a place for people to air their _iews though, so the legitimate free for all may mean some people invariably regurgitate. C'est la vie, innit. | |||
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"Ive been posting in the forums for about 6 months so not a newbie but in relative terms compared to some others. Although I take on board your point as I did post on one topic and got blasted. I tend to stay to the less contensious or funny threads but generally have found most to be very welcoming if Im honest. Oh and I do go to clubs, meet friends and if I am lucky have sex too "So you say..........CLIQUE MASTER!! (not sure what the female term for master is, mistress sounded wrong?) | |||
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"I thought it was just the Scottish forum lol I'm not a newbie "thank god" but it seems, once you leave and come back, you're considered a newbie and no one speaks to you again. Maybe we all imagine it a bit. Some are just on the forum a lot, so maybe that makes it seem like they are noticed, but really it's because they are like a dog with a bone. I get ignored, but just think it really isn't the end of the world. " | |||
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"Ive been posting in the forums for about 6 months so not a newbie but in relative terms compared to some others. Although I take on board your point as I did post on one topic and got blasted. I tend to stay to the less contensious or funny threads but generally have found most to be very welcoming if Im honest. Oh and I do go to clubs, meet friends and if I am lucky have sex too
So you say..........CLIQUE MASTER!! (not sure what the female term for master is, mistress sounded wrong?)"Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx | |||
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"Every time I rejoin fab I find myself drawn to the forums as I love a decent debate. Now aside from the inane questions asked every month, lentgh or girth, beard and tats, blah blah. I have noticed there seems to be the usual 'guardians of the forums' self appointed experts that have been giving the same responses for the past 3 years, and can't help but leap in and wave their opinions as if they are gospel. This has always put me off the club scene as I imagine the exact same environment of these small minded closed groups. I see new members sometimes ganged upon for asking innocent questions. If this was a club..It would have a very snidey atmosphere at times. Think once..think twice...think newbies.." Love the same questions asked every month, lenght or girth, beard and tats hahaha You are a killer | |||
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"Ive been posting in the forums for about 6 months so not a newbie but in relative terms compared to some others. Although I take on board your point as I did post on one topic and got blasted. I tend to stay to the less contensious or funny threads but generally have found most to be very welcoming if Im honest. Oh and I do go to clubs, meet friends and if I am lucky have sex too
So you say..........CLIQUE MASTER!! (not sure what the female term for master is, mistress sounded wrong?)"Ahhhh Clemmy there you are you adorable man mwah  | |||
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"I was a newbie in the forum,and yes ive made mistakes ,but i was corrected and apologised, but i find nearly all are very friendly "I was corrected hahaha I read that in the voice of the guy outta the shining in the bogs talking about the twin girls! xxx | |||
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"but I agree the constant need to name who you would fuck, or the love in's give the impression of one."
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"I've been here for nearly seven years and still get ignored, there is no clique! "
(I know I'm not ignoring you by agreeing but ironic or not I agree with you totally. Even though I've only been here two years. And got torn a strip off when I first started posting). | |||
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"I've been here for nearly seven years and still get ignored, there is no clique!
(I know I'm not ignoring you by agreeing but ironic or not I agree with you totally. Even though I've only been here two years. And got torn a strip off when I first started posting)."I think we all do it's like the forum initiation. xxx | |||
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"Ive been posting in the forums for about 6 months so not a newbie but in relative terms compared to some others. Although I take on board your point as I did post on one topic and got blasted. I tend to stay to the less contensious or funny threads but generally have found most to be very welcoming if Im honest. Oh and I do go to clubs, meet friends and if I am lucky have sex too
So you say..........CLIQUE MASTER!! (not sure what the female term for master is, mistress sounded wrong?)
Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx"No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing. Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form. | |||
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"I was a newbie in the forum,and yes ive made mistakes ,but i was corrected and apologised, but i find nearly all are very friendly
I was corrected hahaha I read that in the voice of the guy outta the shining in the bogs talking about the twin girls! xxx"Delbert Grady. | |||
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"Ive been posting in the forums for about 6 months so not a newbie but in relative terms compared to some others. Although I take on board your point as I did post on one topic and got blasted. I tend to stay to the less contensious or funny threads but generally have found most to be very welcoming if Im honest. Oh and I do go to clubs, meet friends and if I am lucky have sex too
So you say..........CLIQUE MASTER!! (not sure what the female term for master is, mistress sounded wrong?)
Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form."It's kinda like at school really "he who shouts loudest...." xxx | |||
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"Ive been posting in the forums for about 6 months so not a newbie but in relative terms compared to some others. Although I take on board your point as I did post on one topic and got blasted. I tend to stay to the less contensious or funny threads but generally have found most to be very welcoming if Im honest. Oh and I do go to clubs, meet friends and if I am lucky have sex too
So you say..........CLIQUE MASTER!! (not sure what the female term for master is, mistress sounded wrong?)
Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form.
It's kinda like at school really "he who shouts loudest...." xxx"Yeah, pretty much x | |||
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"I've been here for nearly seven years and still get ignored, there is no clique!
(I know I'm not ignoring you by agreeing but ironic or not I agree with you totally. Even though I've only been here two years. And got torn a strip off when I first started posting)."And you are a very popular forumite indeed, shows there is no clique | |||
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"Don't worry. Their type hardly ever venture out in the big-wide-world. You are safe in clubs "Haha! | |||
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"Ive been posting in the forums for about 6 months so not a newbie but in relative terms compared to some others. Although I take on board your point as I did post on one topic and got blasted. I tend to stay to the less contensious or funny threads but generally have found most to be very welcoming if Im honest. Oh and I do go to clubs, meet friends and if I am lucky have sex too
So you say..........CLIQUE MASTER!! (not sure what the female term for master is, mistress sounded wrong?)
Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form." they're the threads that bore me to tears. Love the random threads like the back in time one earlier, nostalgia overload | |||
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"Ive been posting in the forums for about 6 months so not a newbie but in relative terms compared to some others. Although I take on board your point as I did post on one topic and got blasted. I tend to stay to the less contensious or funny threads but generally have found most to be very welcoming if Im honest. Oh and I do go to clubs, meet friends and if I am lucky have sex too
So you say..........CLIQUE MASTER!! (not sure what the female term for master is, mistress sounded wrong?)
Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form.
they're the threads that bore me to tears. Love the random threads like the back in time one earlier, nostalgia overload "That's a great thread the OP Pamela has started some gems of late | |||
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"I only use the forums to look at the cocks." And there's plenty of cocks on the forums! | |||
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"know what you say,some of the posts when I see certain posters commenting I think 'Oh here we go'..and usually don't even bother with the post anymore " I'm the same. I also get fed up posting comments and no one bothering to interact with them...instead just replying to other cliquey posters. | |||
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"I only use the forums to look at the cocks. And there's plenty of cocks on the forums! "Oooof | |||
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"I started a clique... It's called the boob appreciation clique ... (see my thread) only requirement to join ...you've gotta like boobs.
Ohhh I like boobs
We do too
Did someone mention boobs
loving the socks btw Glosswingers "Thank you ... They are rather nice | |||
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"Ive been posting in the forums for about 6 months so not a newbie but in relative terms compared to some others. Although I take on board your point as I did post on one topic and got blasted. I tend to stay to the less contensious or funny threads but generally have found most to be very welcoming if Im honest. Oh and I do go to clubs, meet friends and if I am lucky have sex too
So you say..........CLIQUE MASTER!! (not sure what the female term for master is, mistress sounded wrong?)
Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form.
they're the threads that bore me to tears. Love the random threads like the back in time one earlier, nostalgia overload
That's a great thread the OP Pamela has started some gems of late "I'm never named in the fuck me threads so I'm free from the dreaded clique label I must be one of the nice ones the OP mentions | |||
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"I started a clique... It's called the boob appreciation clique ... (see my thread) only requirement to join ...you've gotta like boobs.
Ohhh I like boobs
We do too
Did someone mention boobs
loving the socks btw Glosswingers
Thank you ... They are rather nice "Yes they are, would go well with a South Africa rugby top too | |||
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"Ive been posting in the forums for about 6 months so not a newbie but in relative terms compared to some others. Although I take on board your point as I did post on one topic and got blasted. I tend to stay to the less contensious or funny threads but generally have found most to be very welcoming if Im honest. Oh and I do go to clubs, meet friends and if I am lucky have sex too
So you say..........CLIQUE MASTER!! (not sure what the female term for master is, mistress sounded wrong?)
Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form.
they're the threads that bore me to tears. Love the random threads like the back in time one earlier, nostalgia overload
That's a great thread the OP Pamela has started some gems of late "Will have to look out for her . | |||
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"know what you say,some of the posts when I see certain posters commenting I think 'Oh here we go'..and usually don't even bother with the post anymore I'm the same. I also get fed up posting comments and no one bothering to interact with them...instead just replying to other cliquey posters." Even worse is when you post a comment and its ignored, until a forumite posts exactly the same comment and everyone runs round saying how insightful they are! | |||
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"know what you say,some of the posts when I see certain posters commenting I think 'Oh here we go'..and usually don't even bother with the post anymore I'm the same. I also get fed up posting comments and no one bothering to interact with them...instead just replying to other cliquey posters." It happens to us all hunny. Pay no heed and just try and enjoy yourself | |||
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"know what you say,some of the posts when I see certain posters commenting I think 'Oh here we go'..and usually don't even bother with the post anymore I'm the same. I also get fed up posting comments and no one bothering to interact with them...instead just replying to other cliquey posters." Sometimes I get that. Actually most of the time I get that but it's cheaper than therapy. Some topics are more fun to read than make a comment. I am guilty of the haribos joke too  | |||
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"Ive been posting in the forums for about 6 months so not a newbie but in relative terms compared to some others. Although I take on board your point as I did post on one topic and got blasted. I tend to stay to the less contensious or funny threads but generally have found most to be very welcoming if Im honest. Oh and I do go to clubs, meet friends and if I am lucky have sex too
So you say..........CLIQUE MASTER!! (not sure what the female term for master is, mistress sounded wrong?)
Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form.
they're the threads that bore me to tears. Love the random threads like the back in time one earlier, nostalgia overload
That's a great thread the OP Pamela has started some gems of late
I'm never named in the fuck me threads so I'm free from the dreaded clique label I must be one of the nice ones the OP mentions "Me neither. I cry myself to sleep often | |||
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"know what you say,some of the posts when I see certain posters commenting I think 'Oh here we go'..and usually don't even bother with the post anymore I'm the same. I also get fed up posting comments and no one bothering to interact with them...instead just replying to other cliquey posters. Even worse is when you post a comment and its ignored, until a forumite posts exactly the same comment and everyone runs round saying how insightful they are!" Word | |||
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"I started a clique... It's called the boob appreciation clique ... (see my thread) only requirement to join ...you've gotta like boobs.
Ohhh I like boobs
We do too
Did someone mention boobs
loving the socks btw Glosswingers "A particularly well taken picture i feel...it's all in the composition | |||
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"I can't believe the number of comments on this. "I can't believe my apology was ignored. Tosses head. Spins on her heels and stomps off in huff | |||
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"I can't believe the number of comments on this.
I can't believe my apology was ignored. Tosses head. Spins on her heels and stomps off in huff "Well obviously it's been ignored. You're not in our uncool clique. We're like the kids in the chess club at school.... | |||
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I can't believe my apology was ignored. Tosses head. Spins on her heels and stomps off in huff "Bloody Diva | |||
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"You are right OP. The forums are cliquey (feel free to tar and feather me but I've been on the scene long enough to understand it). Yes certain people jump on those they deem 'outside' their circle, but the truth is they are a very small percentage of FAB and FAB doesn't represent the whole scene. Many have never even ventured into a club let along be an expert of the lifestyle. Enjoy the site for what it is. "When I've checked their profiles after reading what they've written on a thread most of them, has to be said the women,don't even meet. Some even threaten to block you if you dare to try and contact them! Personally can't understand why some people are on this site because if its just for the craic, as some say, why not be on Facebook....can feel the vitriol already | |||
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" Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form." To those that think there is a clique I think it's the 'which forumer would you..' type of threads that reinforce the perception in the main. It tends to be a roll call of 'currently popular' Forumites and at any one time you can pretty much tick off exactly who'll be named. I've said it before but I think of it of Fab bingo and I mentally hear myself shouting 'house!' once all of the usual suspects have been dutifully named
I do find though that this 'popular core' (some would call them the clique) changes over time .. look at the 'which forumer would you ..' threads from 12 months ago and the answers will be different to now.
It tends to be the more prolific posters at any particular point of time that stand out - at one time briefly even I had my 5 minutes in the limelight and even got mentioned in such threads
Recently I've spent a lot less time online and since coming back normal service has resumed and I've returned back to being ignored and the invisible man again
The common theme during my time here has been the scorn / derision for the 'newbie' single guys (in particular). Either mocked, ignored or hunted and ridiculed in packs in a way that the 'popular' (cliquey??) members don't .. that can be very noticeable at times.
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"Ive been posting in the forums for about 6 months so not a newbie but in relative terms compared to some others. Although I take on board your point as I did post on one topic and got blasted. I tend to stay to the less contensious or funny threads but generally have found most to be very welcoming if Im honest. Oh and I do go to clubs, meet friends and if I am lucky have sex too "That's cos they want a piece of fresh meat | |||
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" Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form.
To those that think there is a clique I think it's the 'which forumer would you..' type of threads that reinforce the perception in the main. It tends to be a roll call of 'currently popular' Forumites and at any one time you can pretty much tick off exactly who'll be named. I've said it before but I think of it of Fab bingo and I mentally hear myself shouting 'house!' once all of the usual suspects have been dutifully named
I do find though that this 'popular core' (some would call them the clique) changes over time .. look at the 'which forumer would you ..' threads from 12 months ago and the answers will be different to now.
It tends to be the more prolific posters at any particular point of time that stand out - at one time briefly even I had my 5 minutes in the limelight and even got mentioned in such threads
Recently I've spent a lot less time online and since coming back normal service has resumed and I've returned back to being ignored and the invisible man again
The common theme during my time here has been the scorn / derision for the 'newbie' single guys (in particular). Either mocked, ignored or hunted and ridiculed in packs in a way that the 'popular' (cliquey??) members don't .. that can be very noticeable at times.
As the OP says, think about the newbies! We were all newbs ourselves once "Absolutely, the "roll call" now will not be the same this time next year as popular posters come / go / replaced by others, that's the way the forum rolls. As for the newbies, (labelling doesn't help even tho it's human nature) there is at times a complete lack of tolerance / respect for when they post, eyes roll at the mention of a common topic for example. | |||
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"Every time I rejoin fab I find myself drawn to the forums as I love a decent debate. Now aside from the inane questions asked every month, lentgh or girth, beard and tats, blah blah. I have noticed there seems to be the usual 'guardians of the forums' self appointed experts that have been giving the same responses for the past 3 years, and can't help but leap in and wave their opinions as if they are gospel. This has always put me off the club scene as I imagine the exact same environment of these small minded closed groups. I see new members sometimes ganged upon for asking innocent questions. If this was a club..It would have a very snidey atmosphere at times. Think once..think twice...think newbies..know what you say,some of the posts when I see certain posters commenting I think 'Oh here we go'..and usually don't even bother with the post anymore " | |||
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" Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form.
To those that think there is a clique I think it's the 'which forumer would you..' type of threads that reinforce the perception in the main. It tends to be a roll call of 'currently popular' Forumites and at any one time you can pretty much tick off exactly who'll be named. I've said it before but I think of it of Fab bingo and I mentally hear myself shouting 'house!' once all of the usual suspects have been dutifully named
I do find though that this 'popular core' (some would call them the clique) changes over time .. look at the 'which forumer would you ..' threads from 12 months ago and the answers will be different to now.
It tends to be the more prolific posters at any particular point of time that stand out - at one time briefly even I had my 5 minutes in the limelight and even got mentioned in such threads
Recently I've spent a lot less time online and since coming back normal service has resumed and I've returned back to being ignored and the invisible man again
The common theme during my time here has been the scorn / derision for the 'newbie' single guys (in particular). Either mocked, ignored or hunted and ridiculed in packs in a way that the 'popular' (cliquey??) members don't .. that can be very noticeable at times.
As the OP says, think about the newbies! We were all newbs ourselves once "Good points. I've been posting a while. 2nd profile on here. Never ever felt part of the clique and glad I don't. Mental images of the human centipede spring to mind with who can arse lick the best, especially as has been highlighted, the Who would you, fuck, marry, wipe arse for, forums can be fun just don't get drawn in, after all it's not real life | |||
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" Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form.
To those that think there is a clique I think it's the 'which forumer would you..' type of threads that reinforce the perception in the main. It tends to be a roll call of 'currently popular' Forumites and at any one time you can pretty much tick off exactly who'll be named. I've said it before but I think of it of Fab bingo and I mentally hear myself shouting 'house!' once all of the usual suspects have been dutifully named
I do find though that this 'popular core' (some would call them the clique) changes over time .. look at the 'which forumer would you ..' threads from 12 months ago and the answers will be different to now.
It tends to be the more prolific posters at any particular point of time that stand out - at one time briefly even I had my 5 minutes in the limelight and even got mentioned in such threads
Recently I've spent a lot less time online and since coming back normal service has resumed and I've returned back to being ignored and the invisible man again
The common theme during my time here has been the scorn / derision for the 'newbie' single guys (in particular). Either mocked, ignored or hunted and ridiculed in packs in a way that the 'popular' (cliquey??) members don't .. that can be very noticeable at times.
As the OP says, think about the newbies! We were all newbs ourselves once
Good points. I've been posting a while. 2nd profile on here. Never ever felt part of the clique and glad I don't. Mental images of the human centipede spring to mind with who can arse lick the best, especially as has been highlighted, the Who would you, fuck, marry, wipe arse for, forums can be fun just don't get drawn in, after all it's not real life "Hehehe. Centipede. I just GOL'd [guffawed out loud]. Sorry is GOL allowed?  | |||
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" Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form.
To those that think there is a clique I think it's the 'which forumer would you..' type of threads that reinforce the perception in the main. It tends to be a roll call of 'currently popular' Forumites and at any one time you can pretty much tick off exactly who'll be named. I've said it before but I think of it of Fab bingo and I mentally hear myself shouting 'house!' once all of the usual suspects have been dutifully named
I do find though that this 'popular core' (some would call them the clique) changes over time .. look at the 'which forumer would you ..' threads from 12 months ago and the answers will be different to now.
It tends to be the more prolific posters at any particular point of time that stand out - at one time briefly even I had my 5 minutes in the limelight and even got mentioned in such threads
Recently I've spent a lot less time online and since coming back normal service has resumed and I've returned back to being ignored and the invisible man again
The common theme during my time here has been the scorn / derision for the 'newbie' single guys (in particular). Either mocked, ignored or hunted and ridiculed in packs in a way that the 'popular' (cliquey??) members don't .. that can be very noticeable at times.
As the OP says, think about the newbies! We were all newbs ourselves once "Yeah. When I first joined I genuinely(still do to an extent)enjoyed the forums.Both the seriousish political ones, the non sex related banter ones, and the flirty ones, but it really struck in my craw re: what you've just mentioned, and had a RIGHT go at some of the snide bullying and dismissive stuck up their own arse arses on here(and apologised occasionally when I realised I'd got the wrong end of the stick). To be honest I've accepted that I'm more than likely not going to get my leg over on here(dating websites are MUCH more suitable for that kind of thing if mutual parties seem to click in a mutual eyes wide open way in that respect), so now I just chat with like minded people where there "may" be a subtext of fancying each other a bit. But after this long if anyone had fancied me they would have made serious overtures. I've not the energy to go round second guessing whether someone wants a bit of how's your father avec moi. Live and let live/die and all that. I quite like the semi Facebook but with pervs aspect though! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6D9vAItORgE | |||
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" Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form.
To those that think there is a clique I think it's the 'which forumer would you..' type of threads that reinforce the perception in the main. It tends to be a roll call of 'currently popular' Forumites and at any one time you can pretty much tick off exactly who'll be named. I've said it before but I think of it of Fab bingo and I mentally hear myself shouting 'house!' once all of the usual suspects have been dutifully named
I do find though that this 'popular core' (some would call them the clique) changes over time .. look at the 'which forumer would you ..' threads from 12 months ago and the answers will be different to now.
It tends to be the more prolific posters at any particular point of time that stand out - at one time briefly even I had my 5 minutes in the limelight and even got mentioned in such threads
Recently I've spent a lot less time online and since coming back normal service has resumed and I've returned back to being ignored and the invisible man again
The common theme during my time here has been the scorn / derision for the 'newbie' single guys (in particular). Either mocked, ignored or hunted and ridiculed in packs in a way that the 'popular' (cliquey??) members don't .. that can be very noticeable at times.
As the OP says, think about the newbies! We were all newbs ourselves once
Good points. I've been posting a while. 2nd profile on here. Never ever felt part of the clique and glad I don't. Mental images of the human centipede spring to mind with who can arse lick the best, especially as has been highlighted, the Who would you, fuck, marry, wipe arse for, forums can be fun just don't get drawn in, after all it's not real life
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"know what you say,some of the posts when I see certain posters commenting I think 'Oh here we go'..and usually don't even bother with the post anymore I'm the same. I also get fed up posting comments and no one bothering to interact with them...instead just replying to other cliquey posters. Even worse is when you post a comment and its ignored, until a forumite posts exactly the same comment and everyone runs round saying how insightful they are!" Lol that too | |||
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"know what you say,some of the posts when I see certain posters commenting I think 'Oh here we go'..and usually don't even bother with the post anymore I'm the same. I also get fed up posting comments and no one bothering to interact with them...instead just replying to other cliquey posters. Even worse is when you post a comment and its ignored, until a forumite posts exactly the same comment and everyone runs round saying how insightful they are! Lol that too" Breathe! I'm gonna become a Buddhist. Well, I'm not. But you know what I mean. | |||
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Hurrah! You know I was gonna go to the Brum social just to have a chat with you you old git. What happened there?"When was that? I went to the Sheffield one in March, and went to the Attic last Saturday. That's twice in a year I've been out now which is quite a lot for me
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"I can't believe the number of comments on this.
I can't believe my apology was ignored. Tosses head. Spins on her heels and stomps off in huff
Well obviously it's been ignored. You're not in our uncool clique.
We're like the kids in the chess club at school.... "But I went through the initiation and everything  my bottom was sore for weeks | |||
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"Every time I rejoin fab I find myself drawn to the forums as I love a decent debate. Now aside from the inane questions asked every month, lentgh or girth, beard and tats, blah blah. I have noticed there seems to be the usual 'guardians of the forums' self appointed experts that have been giving the same responses for the past 3 years, and can't help but leap in and wave their opinions as if they are gospel. This has always put me off the club scene as I imagine the exact same environment of these small minded closed groups. I see new members sometimes ganged upon for asking innocent questions. If this was a club..It would have a very snidey atmosphere at times. Think once..think twice...think newbies.. Careful i used to think "who the fuck do they think they are? The forum police?!" turned out they were... Yep ... been there done that too ! "Yeah me three!!! 
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I can't believe my apology was ignored. Tosses head. Spins on her heels and stomps off in huff
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"Winger's all right too. Where's ya hat gone anyway? Ok, just for you
Hurrah! You know I was gonna go to the Brum social just to have a chat with you you old git. What happened there?
When was that? I went to the Sheffield one in March, and went to the Attic last Saturday. That's twice in a year I've been out now which is quite a lot for me
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"Every time I rejoin fab I find myself drawn to the forums as I love a decent debate. Now aside from the inane questions asked every month, lentgh or girth, beard and tats, blah blah. I have noticed there seems to be the usual 'guardians of the forums' self appointed experts that have been giving the same responses for the past 3 years, and can't help but leap in and wave their opinions as if they are gospel. This has always put me off the club scene as I imagine the exact same environment of these small minded closed groups. I see new members sometimes ganged upon for asking innocent questions. If this was a club..It would have a very snidey atmosphere at times. Think once..think twice...think newbies.." Welcome to the Interwebs :D | |||
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"I agree and there are some people who put themselves on pedestals as well,self appointed king/queen bees of the forums They clearly have no life away from here and get a buzz from stirring shit in a big pot. Fuck em. Actually don't, they'd be awful lays "well said . No body elected them , this site is for everybody . Every time I see the usual suspect go for newbie like a pack of jackals just because they innocently asked a question I always think of the nursery rhyme " baa baa clique sheep have you any bull "... | |||
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" Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form.
To those that think there is a clique I think it's the 'which forumer would you..' type of threads that reinforce the perception in the main. It tends to be a roll call of 'currently popular' Forumites and at any one time you can pretty much tick off exactly who'll be named. I've said it before but I think of it of Fab bingo and I mentally hear myself shouting 'house!' once all of the usual suspects have been dutifully named
I do find though that this 'popular core' (some would call them the clique) changes over time .. look at the 'which forumer would you ..' threads from 12 months ago and the answers will be different to now.
It tends to be the more prolific posters at any particular point of time that stand out - at one time briefly even I had my 5 minutes in the limelight and even got mentioned in such threads
Recently I've spent a lot less time online and since coming back normal service has resumed and I've returned back to being ignored and the invisible man again
The common theme during my time here has been the scorn / derision for the 'newbie' single guys (in particular). Either mocked, ignored or hunted and ridiculed in packs in a way that the 'popular' (cliquey??) members don't .. that can be very noticeable at times.
As the OP says, think about the newbies! We were all newbs ourselves once
Good points. I've been posting a while. 2nd profile on here. Never ever felt part of the clique and glad I don't. Mental images of the human centipede spring to mind with who can arse lick the best, especially as has been highlighted, the Who would you, fuck, marry, wipe arse for, forums can be fun just don't get drawn in, after all it's not real life "There's no clique, there's a forum centipede! Love it!!!! | |||
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" Just because someone is liked doesn't mean there is a clique. Personally people who shout about cliques are usually just jel of the attention others are getting. I know I was. xxx
No, but certain threads can make some people feel there's a clique present, in jokes like cake & haribos when a regular decides that's what the thread needs & others follow, all the same named in who has the best big toe / fancy a fuck threads, that kind of thing.
Yes maybe it is down to others getting attention but at the end of the day that's what the majority is here for, getting attention in some shape or form.
To those that think there is a clique I think it's the 'which forumer would you..' type of threads that reinforce the perception in the main. It tends to be a roll call of 'currently popular' Forumites and at any one time you can pretty much tick off exactly who'll be named. I've said it before but I think of it of Fab bingo and I mentally hear myself shouting 'house!' once all of the usual suspects have been dutifully named
I do find though that this 'popular core' (some would call them the clique) changes over time .. look at the 'which forumer would you ..' threads from 12 months ago and the answers will be different to now.
It tends to be the more prolific posters at any particular point of time that stand out - at one time briefly even I had my 5 minutes in the limelight and even got mentioned in such threads
Recently I've spent a lot less time online and since coming back normal service has resumed and I've returned back to being ignored and the invisible man again
The common theme during my time here has been the scorn / derision for the 'newbie' single guys (in particular). Either mocked, ignored or hunted and ridiculed in packs in a way that the 'popular' (cliquey??) members don't .. that can be very noticeable at times.
As the OP says, think about the newbies! We were all newbs ourselves once
Good points. I've been posting a while. 2nd profile on here. Never ever felt part of the clique and glad I don't. Mental images of the human centipede spring to mind with who can arse lick the best, especially as has been highlighted, the Who would you, fuck, marry, wipe arse for, forums can be fun just don't get drawn in, after all it's not real life "Bloody brilliantly put. X | |||
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"know what you say,some of the posts when I see certain posters commenting I think 'Oh here we go'..and usually don't even bother with the post anymore I'm the same. I also get fed up posting comments and no one bothering to interact with them...instead just replying to other cliquey posters. Even worse is when you post a comment and its ignored, until a forumite posts exactly the same comment and everyone runs round saying how insightful they are!" Timing is everything? Rbh the take away from.this thread seems to be everyone agrees and feels they've been a victim of "the clique" so theres either lots of waring cliques or everyoms and no one is in one cliwue | |||
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Badges? We don't need no schteenkeeng badges. [someone had to say it]
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"We are a big family
I'm the embarrassing aunt who gets pissed on "Wyrdy !!! | |||
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"We are a big family
I'm the embarrassing aunt who gets pissed on sherry and waves her knickers in the air. "I can only think of two swinger families. 1) The Manson family. 2) Fred and Rosemary West. This could be newsworthy! I distrust cliques for two very good reasons. The spelling is too fancy and pretentious to be anything other than backstabbingly shifty. It's already tried to trick you. It also looks suspiciously French. | |||
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"Alternatively you could hang round the sidelines chipping in every so often with a cynical, witty, sarcastic comment or even a word of sage advice ? It works for me. I don't need to feel part of a group (I try not to use the C word) to communicate with that group or even to be on the outside and sometimes just look in and have a nosey around. I don't feel threatened by the forums. I don't feel empowered by the forums. Sometimes I like to join in the fun. Other times I like to dip my toe in. I imagine I'd be the same in a club. Fab is to be enjoyed. If you can't enjoy it, you do have to question if it is the right place for you." Like your style Geezer
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"Do we get badges , oh please say we do have badges Code names , we can build a den . What jolly larks we could have and a secret handshake. What a rip snorting spiffing time.we could have . Right back as you were
Taff and Pooch
Badges? We don't need no schteenkeeng badges. [someone had to say it]
Now badgers on the other hand would be interesting.
dam your so right ,, I do like your thinking ,, but can we still build a den ?"Yes Taff we can build a den. A really really big one that everyone can fit in | |||
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"I don't think there's really a clique. In fact I'm surprised it's not a lot more cliquey. It's more that some people have become well-established on forums and built a rapport with others. I only really see new members getting a tough time when they post about not getting meets. It can be brutally honest, but given how many posts there are of that nature it's pretty inevitable I think. Most forums are pretty similar. Are there numpties, idiots and pompous, self-righteous fools - for sure....hell I'm one. That's the same everywhere though and I maintain I've seen more intelligent, thoughtful, caring posts on here than any other forum I've frequented. I've started threads on forums thinking it's going to generate a huge response. I've had no replies at all to my fascinating post. I've posted some full crap and got loads of replies. The internet works in weird ways. You can't attribute that to new people being blanked. Ironically, I think some of the posters here saying there's a horrible clique, are precisely the people others would include in that clique .
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"Do we get badges , oh please say we do have badges Code names , we can build a den . What jolly larks we could have and a secret handshake. What a rip snorting spiffing time.we could have . Right back as you were
Taff and Pooch
Badges? We don't need no schteenkeeng badges. [someone had to say it]
Now badgers on the other hand would be interesting.
dam your so right ,, I do like your thinking ,, but can we still build a den ?
Yes Taff we can build a den. A really really big one that everyone can fit in "I have fairy lights and lots of cushions. I am a champion den builder round these parts. | |||
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"Alternatively you could hang round the sidelines chipping in every so often with a cynical, witty, sarcastic comment or even a word of sage advice ? It works for me. I don't need to feel part of a group (I try not to use the C word) to communicate with that group or even to be on the outside and sometimes just look in and have a nosey around. I don't feel threatened by the forums. I don't feel empowered by the forums. Sometimes I like to join in the fun. Other times I like to dip my toe in. I imagine I'd be the same in a club. Fab is to be enjoyed. If you can't enjoy it, you do have to question if it is the right place for you." Great post | |||
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"Must totally agree with the op...put a first time post on here and some people just seem to jump down your throat and talk like they know all about everything...chill out swingings supposed to be a fun thing "They're not swingers old chap...they are merely 'keyboard warrior's... | |||
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"Must totally agree with the op...put a first time post on here and some people just seem to jump down your throat and talk like they know all about everything...chill out swingings supposed to be a fun thing
They're not swingers old chap...they are merely 'keyboard warrior's..."Lol like it | |||
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"I love how the arrogance of some people has actually pushed them to declare or hint that they are actually in this unofficial clique??? Oh the fear of not being in a gang!!" Whether folks wanna chat amongst friends they have developed or want to express themselves individually, or crave to belong or even just wanna be bitching about what others do on here, it's free for everyone to say pretty much what they want. If you feel the need to label someone, you can do that too | |||
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" Whether folks wanna chat amongst friends they have developed or want to express themselves individually, or crave to belong or even just wanna be bitching about what others do on here, it's free for everyone to say pretty much what they want. If you feel the need to label someone, you can do that too "Very true. Plus, it's easy to ignore all the ass kissing or attention seekers and jump to another thread. | |||
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"I've never really seen the regulars on the forum as a clique more a bunch of regulars posting that enjoy banter maybe I just look through rose tinted glasses" Or maybe you don't look at it with an entitled and judgemental eyeglass ? | |||
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"Do we get badges , oh please say we do have badges Code names , we can build a den . What jolly larks we could have and a secret handshake. What a rip snorting spiffing time.we could have . Right back as you were
Taff and Pooch
Badges? We don't need no schteenkeeng badges. [someone had to say it]
Now badgers on the other hand would be interesting.
dam your so right ,, I do like your thinking ,, but can we still build a den ?"Deffo build a den. We'll need somewhere to keep the badgers.Will we have lemonade made with real lemons and home made ginger nuts? | |||
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