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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The meets I had many years ago went well.

Has anyone been in a sitution where they felt uncomfortable at a meet?

Maybe the person didn't look like their pic for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeh I felt a bit uncomfortable a few weeks ago. Rare for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it's happened to me before but you learn by your experience's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a guy who twisted on the distance and where i took him for fun.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

no I suppose we have been lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes Unfortunetly the lady I was meant to meet turned up looking ten years older and a lot bigger than her pictures,needless to say we did not get on,not that I mind a curvaceous lady but honesty is very important!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had to knock one lady back a few weeks ago.....to put it bluntly she didn't smell clean. Had a coffee, tried to tell her politely that I didn't think we clicked. She went home...added her to my block list.

Sounds harsh but sometimes you have to do these things....only possible problem is she knows where I live now lol!

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.


"Yeah it's happened to me before but you learn by your experience's."

Was that when you were left hungry

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Quite a few times, they didn't like the same things as me, were too pushy, rude, saying nasty things about my husband. Acted like they didn't fancy me but had sex anyway. Not all like that though but having a bad meet can put you off for a while.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Once, recently where he kept asking me pervy questions

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Yes on a couple of occasions.

I think it's to be expected really as your meeting virtual strangers. You're not going to feel comfortable / attracted to everyone you meet.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Yeah it's happened to me before but you learn by your experience's."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone not looking like their pics?

Wait, has this ever happened?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes...because of bad hygiene'no need of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, practically my second meet on the scene I think.

Nothing to put my finger on but it wasn't going to happen- politely made excuses and left but they were ok with it,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah it's happened to me before but you learn by your experience's.

Was that when you were left hungry "

Lol no chance of gaining any calories in your company

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once, recently where he kept asking me pervy questions "

Sorry, I was just surprised by how many you could stuff in there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Once, recently where he kept asking me pervy questions "

Intriguing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we met a couple a few year back for 1 to 1 fun between Shaz and the other lady, she looked petrified so we made our excuses and went home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, when he turned up at least 10 stone heavier than his photo.

THAT was awkward.

He then proceeded to act like nothing happened.

Utterly cringing.

I stayed quiet about his sudden weight gain, went for a drink with him then made my excuses.

Following day I had abusive texts for letting him down!

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By *llywalesWoman
over a year ago

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"Yeah it's happened to me before but you learn by your experience's.

This "

Creepy guy... Older than profile picture. And when I wouldn't meet again...I was a cock teaser ect... Reported to admin... And they blocked him...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turned a guy away once for not making an effort with his appearance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Turned a guy away once for not making an effort with his appearance! "

I have to ask how was he dressed? Or was it more a hygiene thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One pushy guy decided to fondle wife in the pub we met in we parted quickly put us off then and still has don't think we will go the whole way as trust such a issue now fkn prick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. A couple told me they were smokers which I said I was ok with. When I turned up I discovered they were class A smokers!! I made my excuses and left sharpish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Turned a guy away once for not making an effort with his appearance!

I have to ask how was he dressed? Or was it more a hygiene thing? "

Bit of both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember a few years ago meeting an Indian couples, they kept talking in their own language, they would ask me a question then proceed to talk amoung themselves in their language, it made me feel very uncomfartable because they were clearly british born as their English was perfect so the only reson i could think of for them not talking where i could understand and join in was they were talking about me and saying things they didnt want me to hear, right in front of my face

I left after one drink telling them i'm clearly not a part of this conversation and they would be better left to talk alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I remember a few years ago meeting an Indian couples, they kept talking in their own language, they would ask me a question then proceed to talk amoung themselves in their language, it made me feel very uncomfartable because they were clearly british born as their English was perfect so the only reson i could think of for them not talking where i ciould understand and join in was they were talking about me and saying things they didnt want me to hear, right in front of my face

I left after one drink telling them i'm clearly not a part of this conversation and they would be better left to talk alone "

How rude. I would be the same. Disconcerting and not conducive to trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only last week I arranged to meet a guy for the second time. First time we met he was nice and I enjoyed what he did, but whilst chatting via text he said some things that made me uncomfortable. I told him that I had changed my mind and gave him the reasons why. Then the usual rant ensued, calling me a timewaster etc etc. Seems my instincts were right about him.

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

A Dom once invited me to his home for evening dinner nothing more I thought so I asked what was the dress code,he said anything you wish but no make up.That's what was requested.So I wore jeans & a lace top with flats thinking he wants me plain so I'll go casualish!..only to get to his he had gone to town on the meal & decor ect even in a suit he stood there me looking drab & feeling crap basically in appearance.felt so uncomfortable.Nothing happened that night we only talked

The next day he asked me to submit to him...It took 5 months for me to submit myself to him (Master) fully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's happened to me! It's why I insist on a social.

This guy was nothing like his picture. I was too polite to bring the subject up though... My fault perhaps?

I know it's just sex, but I gotta feel attracted to them (visa versa) and feel a connection if some sort... X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, one guy I met was considerably shorter than me & not the 5'11 he claimed in his profile!

Awkward moment bending over him in my heels to give him a peck on the cheek goodbye, 'twas either that or a cheeky pat on the head....

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I was asked if I wanted to be raped..!!! I had met him for 5 mins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has happened to me, yes. A couple of times.

Most of the meets I've had have been alot of fun, even if they haven't come to anything. The anticipation alone is quite an adrenaline rush, and some of the fun that I've had has been amazing.

Two though, were not great. Not at all. !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a couple with my ex last year when we had a couples profile, they were nice but i just wasnt into the guy, the women and my ex disappeared into the kitchen which we had both said wouldnt happen we wouldnt do seperate rooms and the guy kept groping and trying to kiss me managed to get away from him and went to the toilet my ex and her came to see if i was ok told her no gave him a look and got myself sorted foned a taxi and we left, he was very apologetic but after that we broke up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

When I first joined years ago, a couple approached me, decent profile and some decent pictures.

After chatting we arranged to meet, I asked for a face pic of the Mrs as most were turned away etc. and he said "don't you worry, she's stunning."

Well I was a little naive at that time so I thought ok, let's meet up. We agreed a pub about an hour away.

I walked in and they were the only ones in there and I kid you not they looked like the fucking Krankies!!...I ordered a and had the most awkward half hour before I politely explained his idea of stunning wasn't the same as mine.

Still get palpitations...

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Been very fortunate with meets..only one that was awkward was when I meet a single female and everything was going very well..drinks,laughs and got into sex. So after about 30 minutes of me doing a lot of the work I suggested we change positions and her take the lead for a bit,she said "no i don't need to do any work"..huh?!..really?!..I shut my mouth and just fucked the life out of her as I really needed to cum before the mood went really south

. Safe to say I did not go back there again as that's just pure laziness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol at Krankies!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes.

When I first joined years ago, a couple approached me, decent profile and some decent pictures.

After chatting we arranged to meet, I asked for a face pic of the Mrs as most were turned away etc. and he said "don't you worry, she's stunning."

Well I was a little naive at that time so I thought ok, let's meet up. We agreed a pub about an hour away.

I walked in and they were the only ones in there and I kid you not they looked like the fucking Krankies!!...I ordered a and had the most awkward half hour before I politely explained his idea of stunning wasn't the same as mine.

Still get palpitations..."
looked like them, they were them lol

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By *utdoor29Man
over a year ago

paisley

Can't find the courage to come out my comfort zone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, one guy I met was considerably shorter than me & not the 5'11 he claimed in his profile!

Awkward moment bending over him in my heels to give him a peck on the cheek goodbye, 'twas either that or a cheeky pat on the head.... "

Lmao brilliant your should have ruffled his hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was asked if I wanted to be raped..!!! I had met him for 5 mins"

Omg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I remember a few years ago meeting an Indian couples, they kept talking in their own language, they would ask me a question then proceed to talk amoung themselves in their language, it made me feel very uncomfartable because they were clearly british born as their English was perfect so the only reson i could think of for them not talking where i could understand and join in was they were talking about me and saying things they didnt want me to hear, right in front of my face

I left after one drink telling them i'm clearly not a part of this conversation and they would be better left to talk alone "

I myself feel uncomfortable speaking polish among English people etc. So I completely understand where you coming from .

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By *ophie SteveCouple
over a year ago

Camborne

We met a guy in his home after exchanging messages and pics, including his pic of 'his' very impressive cock (Sophie is partial to a good looking cock and has specific likes in this respect).

Arrived and all went well with the chat but when we started to play it became clear his cock was not the one in the photo and he'd clearly sent it so we wouldn't know he had a weeny willy - can't understand how he thought we might not notice the very striking difference between photo and reality!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

I am constantly bumping into the 'the amazing shrinking men'; one moment he is 6'1" but only a few hours, later when I meet him, he shrinks to 5'11"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, one guy I met was considerably shorter than me & not the 5'11 he claimed in his profile!

Awkward moment bending over him in my heels to give him a peck on the cheek goodbye, 'twas either that or a cheeky pat on the head.... "

pat on the head lol

I don't mind being patted on the head or my head being pulled but usually prefer my head between your legs when you do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, a couple of times, two men have scared me, one with his idea of role play which would get a ban if I said what it was. The other was just shifty and put me on edge for various reasons - I did report him, but nothing happened. I have changed how I conduct meets as a result of these two and some may think I am awkward, but safety is everything.

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By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago

Lancaster area

We've been pretty lucky. Usually, we have been able to people out through back and forth messaging.

On the other hand, my wife has met men and been extremely disappointed because they looked nothing like their picture, or they were extremely socially awkward.

-JD

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Yes had a few Luke that over the years, it has made me a bit reluctant to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a guy with just one black tooth in the middle of his mouth,gawd it wasn't nice ,i ran off ..well walked off

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