FabSwingers.com forum: drinking on meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I met someone at the weekend, we had been chatting for a good while, but must have been nervous as she was knocking back the wine in the hotel bar. I like a few drinks too but don't like to be d*unk on a meet up.

Anyway I declined to take it further, which didn't go over too well.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I met someone at the weekend, we had been chatting for a good while, but must have been nervous as she was knocking back the wine in the hotel bar. I like a few drinks too but don't like to be d*unk on a meet up.

Anyway I declined to take it further, which didn't go over too well."

I don't drink at all and avoid anyone that drinks for any other reason than they enjoy the taste of it occasionally.

If anyone admits to needing a drink, they have a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ive had this happen. She was good for nothing by the time we got to the bedroom.

I personally dont like to drink much before a meet, it just spoils it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway I declined to take it further, which didn't go over too well."

And I'm sure her confidence levels have been vastly improved by your post if she sees this. Not the classiest way to get your point across OP.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Completely agree with you. At a club with friends I have a few drinks, but on a meet I would only have one or two. You need to be able to make safe sensible decisions.

You could be accused of all sorts if she was d*unk and woke up the next morning with you beside her !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't drink on a meet and never drink if I go to a club either. I like a clear head so that I know exactly what I am doing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyway I declined to take it further, which didn't go over too well.

And I'm sure her confidence levels have been vastly improved by your post if she sees this. Not the classiest way to get your point across OP. "

Should have mentioned, she's not on fab. Met her from another "dating" site.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Anyway I declined to take it further, which didn't go over too well.

And I'm sure her confidence levels have been vastly improved by your post if she sees this. Not the classiest way to get your point across OP. "

I think it's a very good way of raising a safety issue for people. The issue of drinking too much on a meet is something that crops up. If she reads this and sees people opinions it might help her rethink what she is doing. If it helps her from a safety and health point of view, or makes others consider the implications I congratulate the OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't drink on a meet and never drink if I go to a club either. I like a clear head so that I know exactly what I am doing. "

Definitely this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't need to drink to meet but if we're in a social setting & both comfortable I like a glass or two of vino

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't need to drink to meet but if we're in a social setting & both comfortable I like a glass or two of vino

White Red or Rosè?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't need to drink to meet but if we're in a social setting & both comfortable I like a glass or two of vino

I'm always a bit nervous when meeting, but being d*unk would make it worse for me!

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By *VBethTV/TS
over a year ago

Chester

I've never minded people needing a drink or two to unwind a little bit. But the guy I met who poured himself a tumbler full of neat vodka from an already well drained bottle had me leaving quickly....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we have a social meeting or go to a club, I will have a couple of drinks. But never enough to impair my common-sense. And I have my husband there to make sure all is well.

But, if I ever met alone or went to a club alone, I would'nt drink at all. Better to keep on the ball if you've not got your wingman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't drink when meeting, well only a couple of bottles of wine, a few whisky chasers and then some tequila to finish up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't drink when meeting, well only a couple of bottles of wine, a few whisky chasers and then some tequila to finish up

My kinda gal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a nerve calmer on a first social meet I have no issue with a glass of wine or a g&t.. But any more than that affects the concentration

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I don't mind a few drinks but don't get bladdered I can't afford to I know how ill I will be the next day if I have too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't drink when meeting, well only a couple of bottles of wine, a few whisky chasers and then some tequila to finish up

My kinda gal

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I enjoy a few drinks, and find a couple of glasses of wine help me relax and let loose my filthy side.

Never vomited on a meet. Yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't need to drink to meet but if we're in a social setting & both comfortable I like a glass or two of vino

Just the one Mrs Wembley?

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By *aitinkCouple
over a year ago

York

We always advise newbies top keep a away from the sauce. It can be bad enough for an experienced swinger to make bad decisions but it is vital new couples stay alert - much as we love you all there are an arsehole of two lurking amongst you and scaring away new swingers is most definitely counterproductive and antisocial.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't drink when I meet but that is because I am a total lightweight and think Im really hilarious after a glass of wine

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

I think a few to chill.and relax whilst chatting is OK. Personally I hardly drink so a couple makes me even more horny, anymore and it's no fun X

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

"We always advise newbies top keep a away from the sauce. It can be bad enough for an experienced swinger to make bad decisions but it is vital new couples stay alert - much as we love you all there are an arsehole of two lurking amongst you and scaring away new swingers is most definitely counterproductive and antisocial."

Indeed. I was on the receiving end of this at my first club visit. Alcohol + aggressive nature + paranoia(plus I imagine misplaced jealousy)has led me to swearing off the places now.

Don't need to potentially put myself in those types of situations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway I declined to take it further, which didn't go over too well."

When we first joined a year or so ago, we met an older couple once. The guy was sober but his wife was very tipsy. Answered door with a glass in her hand lol bout an hour later she was really d*unk. Went to get my pants down an she just put me off. Her hubby realised an apologised and away we went

We too like a drink to settle the nervs but that was ott

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway I declined to take it further, which didn't go over too well."

Did you not take it further because she was drinking a lot, or for other reasons? Either way it was a good decision if you she was impaired.

Personally I'll only have one or two drinks on a meet, as my winky works better when sober! Also, after one drink we're usually ready to rush to the hotel room and proceed with the real party!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyway I declined to take it further, which didn't go over too well.

Did you not take it further because she was drinking a lot, or for other reasons? Either way it was a good decision if you she was impaired.

Personally I'll only have one or two drinks on a meet, as my winky works better when sober! Also, after one drink we're usually ready to rush to the hotel room and proceed with the real party!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't drink much on meets....I spill most of it*boom boom*

I like to drive (as a get away clause) so drinking is a no no anyway. A bladdered bloke would put me right off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if someone needs to drink to excess prior to a meet then they are probably there for the wrong reasons. I wouldn't have a problem if someone had a drink or two but if they need more to play that they wouldn't be for me.

Several years ago I had a couple cancel a meet, because am 'only a social drinker' where as they liked to spend the evening drinking before playing.

I'm quite happy with a cup of tea or coffee. But each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even drink coffee on a meet normally or I want to piss and I don't like using other people's toilets in case they are listening. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't even drink coffee on a meet normally or I want to piss and I don't like using other people's toilets in case they are listening. XXX"

Or have a spycam set up!!

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Anyway I declined to take it further, which didn't go over too well.

Did you not take it further because she was drinking a lot, or for other reasons? Either way it was a good decision if you she was impaired.

Personally I'll only have one or two drinks on a meet, as my winky works better when sober! Also, after one drink we're usually ready to rush to the hotel room and proceed with the real party!!

I declined because she was d*unk and wasn't in a good frame of mind to make any choices to do with who to share her body with. She was pissed off with me, but I'd like to think in hindsight she reapects my decision. I haven't heard from her since."
Yes done this myself. You can see this quite frequently in clubs where the lady of a couple has to drink a lot before she would start playing and even pressured into it by her other half. I won't play with anyone I consider to be d*unk they might wake up the next day regretting it and it could cause problems by not being fully consensual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The time for a glass or several is when you are chatting and having a laugh afterwards with your clothes on. Before play it can be a disaster waiting to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like one or two glasses of wine on a meet but no more than that, especially if my husband isn't with me.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I like one or two glasses of wine on a meet but no more than that, especially if my husband isn't with me."
yeah some common sense, id buy you a glass of wine

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I wouldn't drink on a meet and never drink if I go to a club either. I like a clear head so that I know exactly what I am doing.

Definitely this. "

In all my years only once have I drank to the point of not knowing what I was doing.... and that was after having my drink spiked. Other month I was totaly ficking legless, even fell down stairs at club (now learnt alchol and hot tub, really dont mix) but I remember everything.

Allways saw "I was d*unk and dont remember" as a balls excuse for "ohh fuck I was an idiot, lets pretend I dont remember and hope it goes away"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done both.

Generally I prefer to be sober for sex as I prefer to be clear and to savour the meet, and it can also hamper performance from time to time.

I've been on some where we had a glass or two of wine whilst chatting, which was ok.

One meet, she came to mine, we ended up having rather a few and listening to music for hours before playing. It was actually loads of fun, and we ended up having messy, hangover sex together most of the next day, but the chemistry was right.

I don't like the idea of meeting someone who's already out of it, or needs to drink play. Doesn't sound very enjoyable and the potential for things to go wrong seems high.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not every guy would have done this in your shoes.

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