FabSwingers.com forum: verification mockery

By *agman n angel OP Couple
over a year ago

benidorm

well verifications count for what?

I dont mean this flippantly, just wondering as Ive just seen a profile for a straight guy who has been verified by a tv, with full details of the sex that took place, whilst the straight guy is also on here as part of a couple the fem, his g/f has verified him as the single guy, and he as a single guy has verified the fem, yes his g/f.

surely this just makes a mockery of the system.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.......and breathe.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"well verifications count for what?

surely this just makes a mockery of the system."

yup.......... it does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report all profiles concerned and explain briefly to admin. xxx

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Yes it is, however we don't take that much notice of verifications - tend to have a quick glance sometimes, we prefer to find out for ourselves! Z

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

surely this just makes a mockery of the system."

For the most part the system they have here works well and is used responsibly.

But it would be unrealistic to expect it to be foolproof.

If you feel that it's been abused, then report the offending profiles and let admin sort it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your always gonna get ppl that take the piss...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well verifications count for what?

surely this just makes a mockery of the system."

So a straight guy isnt really straight ( his choice as to how he describes himself)...and two people have seperate profiles and have verified each other, I dont see a problem....unless I read that wrong.

verifications do nothing more than to prove that the person has met. The content is irrelevant ( who is going to show a shit verification) and everyone will have a different opinion on that person.

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By *agman n angel OP Couple
over a year ago

benidorm

you either didnt read it properly or dont get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you either didnt read it properly or dont get it"

goes to read it again........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Systems??? They are as bad as institutions! There are always Exceptions to the rules, and rules for Exceptions...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well verifications count for what?

I dont mean this flippantly, just wondering as Ive just seen a profile for a straight guy who has been verified by a tv, with full details of the sex that took place, ( so the guy prefers to be known as straight!I dont see a problem there) whilst the straight guy is also on here as part of a couple ( fuck buddies?) the fem, his g/f has verified him as the single guy,( if she met him through swinging and has a single profile, whats the problem?) and he as a single guy has verified the fem, yes his g/f.( as for the guy, if she has a single profile, what is the problem?)

surely this just makes a mockery of the system."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if they had met as single swingers and just decided to become fuck buds...or fell madly in love and became a couple???

As for the guys sexuality, how he describes himself is his business.

am I still not getting it? As I really dont see a problem lol

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By *agman n angel OP Couple
over a year ago

benidorm

"Systems??? They are as bad as institutions! There are always Exceptions to the rules, and rules for Exceptions..."

yep but im guessing it only happens cos this site is free, if they had to pay 50 plus poonds a time to set up two accounts its unlikely to have happened.

My point is whats the point of verifications if people can set up numerous accounts and verify each other

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

At least all 3 involved actually exist and meet! Thats got to count for something surely!? Z

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By *agman n angel OP Couple
over a year ago

benidorm

yep even if they only meet each other

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"yep even if they only meet each other

lol - so whats the problem with that? If I wasn't interested in meeting the dude I wouldn't get myself worked up over his veris or profile and if i was interested in meeting him, I'd start dialogue. Z

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By *agman n angel OP Couple
over a year ago

benidorm

zoe its not about the guy its simply pointing out how little trust we can put in verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Systems??? They are as bad as institutions! There are always Exceptions to the rules, and rules for Exceptions...

yep but im guessing it only happens cos this site is free, if they had to pay 50 plus poonds a time to set up two accounts its unlikely to have happened.

My point is whats the point of verifications if people can set up numerous accounts and verify each other"

How many accounts do you think a person should be allowed to have?

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By *agman n angel OP Couple
over a year ago

benidorm

however many they can or do have, how can they be allowed to verify themselves???????????????

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

So if suspect (a), a single guy and suspect (b) a single woman, sometimes play together as a couple they shouldn't be able to verify each other because of that?

Am I reading this right?

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"zoe its not about the guy its simply pointing out how little trust we can put in verifications "

Yes, they are open to abuse but like i said before they're quite good for giving you certain pointers, ie. a safe sex only being verfied by a bare back sex only couple, but as they can also be hidden, we take peeps on their own merits. Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"however many they can or do have, how can they be allowed to verify themselves???????????????"

They cant if it is off the same ip address. However I dont see a problem with them verifying each other if they have seperate profiles.

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By *agman n angel OP Couple
over a year ago

benidorm

"So if suspect (a), a single guy and suspect (b) a single woman, sometimes play together as a couple they shouldn't be able to verify each other because of that?

Am I reading this right?"

single guy has a profile

single guy has a profile with the fem as a couple.

single guy verifies on couples page

couple verifies on single guys page

so basically taking the piss out of system

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Ahhhh......ok understand now....only you never said that in your original post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ahhhh......ok understand now....only you never said that in your original post"

Thought it was just me for a minute! lol

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By *agman n angel OP Couple
over a year ago

benidorm

phew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least all 3 involved actually exist and meet! Thats got to count for something surely!? Z"

..i did wonder?!

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By *j_markCouple
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over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

"So if suspect (a), a single guy and suspect (b) a single woman, sometimes play together as a couple they shouldn't be able to verify each other because of that?

Am I reading this right?

single guy has a profile

single guy has a profile with the fem as a couple.

single guy verifies on couples page

couple verifies on single guys page

so basically taking the piss out of system

Can you report all these profiles to admin if you've not already done so? Report link at left hand side of profile pages.

Admin x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

single guy has a profile

single guy has a profile with the fem as a couple.

single guy verifies on couples page

couple verifies on single guys page

so basically taking the piss out of system

Who verified the single guy so he could verify the couple?

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By *agman n angel OP Couple
over a year ago

benidorm

Admin with all due respect this isnt about getting people into trouble, its purely pointing out to other members how little trust can be put on verification

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Ahhhh.....so this is a thread about making a point?

Got it now

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By *agman n angel OP Couple
over a year ago

benidorm

"Ahhhh.....so this is a thread about making a point?

Got it now"

yes jane not having a go at anyone just making a point as you say

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By *agman n angel OP Couple
over a year ago

benidorm

[Removed by poster at 17/03/11 22:29:35]

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By *agman n angel OP Couple
over a year ago

benidorm

single guy has a profile

single guy has a profile with the fem as a couple.

single guy verifies on couples page

couple verifies on single guys page

so basically taking the piss out of system

Who verified the single guy so he could verify the couple?"

think it was the tv

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

think it was the tv"

So he met someone who verified him, which is the whole point of the verification. I agree3 that he shouldn't have then verified the couple but I fail to see why the system is bad on that basis alone. We all know verifications count for nothing - the two times I have been stood up was by verified blokes, and have met plenty or non verified blokes without a problem (and verified them!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Having read all the evidence and spent all of ten minutes deliberating, the court finds the defendant......Not Guilty.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Admin with all due respect this isnt about getting people into trouble, its purely pointing out to other members how little trust can be put on verification"

All due respect, but you can't complain about fake veri's and say that if the site was a full pay site there wouldn't be fake people, and then say but it doesn't matter and you won't be reporting it.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Having read all the evidence and spent all of ten minutes deliberating, the court finds the defendant......Not Guilty."

Agreed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know these other threads where people say 'develop your own sixth sense' for eliminating fakes etc, well that's one of the things that we look for.

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By *j_markCouple
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over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

"Admin with all due respect this isnt about getting people into trouble, its purely pointing out to other members how little trust can be put on verification"

One of the things about Fab is that the members usually help out and report problems otherwise we can't fix them.

If someone has given fake verifications we want to make it right. It's not about getting people into trouble it's about reporting things that are wrong and us making it right.

Admin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently it is perfectly acceptable to have single profiles but verify 'your' couples one, i agree though it isnt right to verify it.

I take notice of the verifications but not when it describes the full sex act that takes place, i much prefer to know what they are like as a person not that they are fantastic in bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently it is perfectly acceptable to have single profiles but verify 'your' couples one, i agree though it isnt right to verify it.

I take notice of the verifications but not when it describes the full sex act that takes place, i much prefer to know what they are like as a person not that they are fantastic in bed"

Why do you not think it is right for two single people who decide to swing as a couple to verify thier own profile?

Although a free site, there are things you cannot do on here until you have been verified, such as post in the forums.

Some people only meet verified people or allow mail from verified people.

The green tick helps.

If the OP was able to work out they have verified each other, then others will and will make thier own minds up.It is obvious they are not decieving anyone, they could of hid the verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently it is perfectly acceptable to have single profiles but verify 'your' couples one, i agree though it isnt right to verify it.

I take notice of the verifications but not when it describes the full sex act that takes place, i much prefer to know what they are like as a person not that they are fantastic in bed

Why do you not think it is right for two single people who decide to swing as a couple to verify thier own profile?

Although a free site, there are things you cannot do on here until you have been verified, such as post in the forums.

Some people only meet verified people or allow mail from verified people.

The green tick helps.

If the OP was able to work out they have verified each other, then others will and will make thier own minds up.It is obvious they are not decieving anyone, they could of hid the verifications.

I agree,but i dont think you have to be verified to post in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may have made a mistake there, I am going on memory from when I joined.

I thought you had to be a member for so long and verified to be able to post.

Maybe having a senile moment lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently it is perfectly acceptable to have single profiles but verify 'your' couples one, i agree though it isnt right to verify it.

I take notice of the verifications but not when it describes the full sex act that takes place, i much prefer to know what they are like as a person not that they are fantastic in bed

Why do you not think it is right for two single people who decide to swing as a couple to verify thier own profile?

Although a free site, there are things you cannot do on here until you have been verified, such as post in the forums.

Some people only meet verified people or allow mail from verified people.

The green tick helps.

If the OP was able to work out they have verified each other, then others will and will make thier own minds up.It is obvious they are not decieving anyone, they could of hid the verifications.

Perhaps because its a couples profile they should be verified by couples, single males/females, by verifying their couples profile, they are doing it to have a better chance of meeting people, not that i dont blame them, it just doesnt bode well with me. And I thought it was in the site rules too.

And yes, maybe thats the main reason i dont agree with it, as i know a couple on here that had singles profiles, now have a couples one but hidden the verifications from each other, to be honest why do that??? If its perfectly acceptable by the site, surely they can be shown??? Then again, people choose to hide them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Admin with all due respect this isnt about getting people into trouble, its purely pointing out to other members how little trust can be put on verification

One of the things about Fab is that the members usually help out and report problems otherwise we can't fix them.

If someone has given fake verifications we want to make it right. It's not about getting people into trouble it's about reporting things that are wrong and us making it right.

Admin x"

Thats great but difficult when one knows the couples profile name, one half but not the other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well verifications count for what?

surely this just makes a mockery of the system."

Well, in this case, assuming you can show due diligence, the verifications count for a LOT because you now not to bother!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Why do you not think it is right for two single people who decide to swing as a couple to verify thier own profile?

I had agreed with all the way in the thread right until this point....

no I don't think they should have verified there own profile....

they are then working around the rules... I could go make another profile from another computer, say i had met them on a club night... say they are a genuine single bloke....and verify my new profile......

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By *j_markCouple
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over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

"Thats great but difficult when one knows the couples profile name, one half but not the other

Not sure what you mean here?

Admin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reported a user to admin because their age is given as late forties but when I met the person they were nearer their early seventies.

The users profile has not been changed which begs the question, "are admin bothered about untruhful profiles."

I think not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you not think it is right for two single people who decide to swing as a couple to verify thier own profile?

I had agreed with all the way in the thread right until this point....

no I don't think they should have verified there own profile....

yes you could, and I am sure that does happen.

At the end of the day, does anyone pay much heed to verifications? Of course like anything they are open to abuse and always a way of working round the system ( cue admin if there is a problem)

In my opinion, they count for nothing for the following reasons.

Mutual appreciation society, I dont see anyone with a bad one up so it is a one sided _iew and that persons opinion...thats if it is an honest one.

People would think twice about leaving a crap or blatantly honest one incase they got one back....then they would not show it anyway.

They prove nothing, except the possibility that a person meets...and then it is not always true.

After all if we were to believe them all, everyone is so bloody sexy, great at everything, oral, sex, kissing, magic fingers, tongue to die for, knows how to use his cock,sweetest pussy, fabulous breasts etc etc AND everyone is a lovely person!

Now what are the odds of that! lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were chatting to a girl called shaz in oxford...she was verified and when we asked us to be friends there was a picture of my girlfriend (face no showing of course). I notified the admin and the account was thrown out...But she was verified!! How did that happen? I can only assume that some desperate guy agreed to do so. Does he get thrown out too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thats great but difficult when one knows the couples profile name, one half but not the other

Not sure what you mean here?

Admin x"

I know the name one of the single profile and the couples profile name but not the other, as the verifications are hidden, i cannot see her single profile name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not take the _iews of total strangers into account when I decide who to take into my home and bed, so makes no odds to me if people wish to verify their own profiles!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do not take the _iews of total strangers into account when I decide who to take into my home and bed, so makes no odds to me if people wish to verify their own profiles! "

....... just cuff them for it later and call them naughty......

(please?...okay this is too kinky now

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

That reminds me, I must verify Funky as a top bloke.

*retreats to allow confusion to fester...*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well verifications count for what? I dont mean this flippantly, just wondering as Ive just seen a profile for a straight guy who has been verified by a tv, with full details of the sex that took place, whilst the straight guy is also on here as part of a couple the fem, his g/f has verified him as the single guy, and he as a single guy has verified the fem, yes his g/f. surely this just makes a mockery of the system."
I am only going to comment on the straight guy having sex with a TV and having an explicit veri. Does it make a mockery of the system - its not the same as lying on your CV you know. It doesnt matter what people do on their meets, its not set in stone. What if me and Chris were playing with a single guy, and the guy went to suck his cock. Do we have to stop what we're doing, log onto fab and then change the status before we carry on. The profile is just a brief statement, I dont think its legally binding, does it matter. You seem to have taken on the role of profile police. If you have no intention of meeting that person then stop trawling solely to pick fault. Guess what, weve put dont meet smokers on our profile, we met a couple and they lit up afterwards, should we be reported!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"I do not take the _iews of total strangers into account when I decide who to take into my home and bed, so makes no odds to me if people wish to verify their own profiles! "

What sassy said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont get me wrong, I agree that fake profiles should be reported to admin, or for any number of reasons. But for silly reasons like a person is straight but played with a TV, then that is up to individuals. People are allowed to change their sexual preference at the drop of a hat. I didnt answer about the fem verifying the guy and vice versa as I didnt understand what you meant

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

"Thats great but difficult when one knows the couples profile name, one half but not the other

Not sure what you mean here?

Admin x

I know the name one of the single profile and the couples profile name but not the other, as the verifications are hidden, i cannot see her single profile name

Just report what you know

Admin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reported a user to admin because their age is given as late forties but when I met the person they were nearer their early seventies.

The users profile has not been changed which begs the question, "are admin bothered about untruhful profiles."

I think not"

Thank GOD he brought his birth certificate.

I once met a bloke who said he was ordinary looking and average...... turns out he was EXTRAORDINARYLY handsome with a fantastic cock.

I reported him ...... admin did nuthin! tsk.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well verifications count for what?

surely this just makes a mockery of the system."

Lol...yep...but hey you spotted the little plot they had hatched...as would everyone else I guess...and all it does is make them look sneaky.!!!!

like many others posters have said about the verifications system...its not a foolproof thing...but very few things in life offer a cast iron guarantee ....its just one small part of potentially meeting someone...and what fool meets someone just based on their verifications...???

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By *iguy4coupleMan
over a year ago

Runcorn

"At least all 3 involved actually exist and meet! Thats got to count for something surely!? Z"

How can you be sure they all exist? Could be the same guy with 3 profiles & no fem there at all.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"At least all 3 involved actually exist and meet! Thats got to count for something surely!? Z

How can you be sure they all exist? Could be the same guy with 3 profiles & no fem there at all. "

To be perfectly frank, I couldn't give a toss! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"At least all 3 involved actually exist and meet! Thats got to count for something surely!? Z

How can you be sure they all exist? Could be the same guy with 3 profiles & no fem there at all.

To be perfectly frank, I couldn't give a toss! Z"

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By *iguy4coupleMan
over a year ago

Runcorn

"At least all 3 involved actually exist and meet! Thats got to count for something surely!? Z

How can you be sure they all exist? Could be the same guy with 3 profiles & no fem there at all.

To be perfectly frank, I couldn't give a toss! Z"

No, neither could I, just throwing my twopence worth in the same as you & everyone else, as I'm entitled to!

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By *arandjasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

my hubby and i have two profiles, one each, and until recently, when he accidently deleted his profile and had to make a new one, i had verified him, it was purely so we could both chat in th rooms at same time, and you need to be verified to do so, and everyone who chats to us knows we are a couple and not out to fool anyone, maybe thats why the couple have verified each other, so they can be in the rooms at the same time

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By *iddytoxcplCouple
over a year ago

Stoke/Uttoxeter

"What if they had met as single swingers and just decided to become fuck buds...or fell madly in love and became a couple???

As for the guys sexuality, how he describes himself is his business."

Well we met as singles and after I (Craig) introduced Jackie to the site we verified each other. We are now a bonafide couple and very much in love. I recently from my singles acc sent a new verification to Jackie. Read it and it makes no attempt to mislead or mis represent anybody. Yes there are no doubt people who falsify verifications on site. We will verify anyone who asks, but only to the level we can comment on. ie if we met at a social only event we state that!!!!! Be open and honest and verifications are an amazing assest for other swingers to use when selecting a meet. We can all help each other find more suited meets with honest verifications.

As to straight guys who have been with other males/TVs/TSs, yes it can be irritating. But it may have been an experimental stage that has been and gone. We as a rule will not touch Bi/Bi curious males for our own reasons and not those you may expect.

So in short be open, be honest, be happy.

Happpy swinging and stay safe

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