FabSwingers.com forum: Stretchmarks

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was wondering what people's views are on stretch marks... I'm so conscious of mine and didn't know whether they disgust people or whether I'm just being stupid! Hubby loves them which is all I really care about but I wouldn't want to gross someone out if I were to meet them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mummy marks... Wear them with pride

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By *albec26Man
over a year ago

Great Yarmouth

Absolutely gorgeous xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X"

I never get comments like this. What makes a woman real? Really baffles me.

IMO there's nothing wrong with stretch marks.

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Ealing way

I wouldn't worry. Most people on here are what they are - real people.

Certainly, I don't expect people I meet to be airbrushed, glossy magazine cover folks,

I know I'm not!

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By *idsAndyMan
over a year ago

Worcestershire

Wear them with pride!

Stretch marks quite honestly do not bother me at all, they are just part of a normal sexy body.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X"

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got them, don't exactly love them, but they're part of the imperfect patchwork of wobbly bits, squishy bits and stuff that isn't picture prefect that makes up me as a whole.

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

I'm very conscious of mine too but the vast majority of women who've had kids have them to a greater or lesser degree and we have to keep reminding ourselves that we've bloody well earned them! Most people understand that as very few of us are perfect and I'd be astonished if those rude enough to actually convey being 'grossed out' about something so natural are immaculate specimens either. Overall, you've got a great looking body ... a smattering of stretch marks should be irrelevant

Ms G

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"I was wondering what people's views are on stretch marks... I'm so conscious of mine and didn't know whether they disgust people or whether I'm just being stupid! Hubby loves them which is all I really care about but I wouldn't want to gross someone out if I were to meet them!"

OP you look great in your pics, I'm sure they are more obvious to you than anyone else in the world. I doubt a few stretch marks are going to bother anyone lucky enough to play with you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm very conscious of mine too but the vast majority of women who've had kids have them to a greater or lesser degree and we have to keep reminding ourselves that we've bloody well earned them! Most people understand that as very few of us are perfect and I'd be astonished if those rude enough to actually convey being 'grossed out' about something so natural are immaculate specimens either. Overall, you've got a great looking body ... a smattering of stretch marks should be irrelevant

Ms G"

Thank you, I guess I'm still getting used to them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OP you look great in your pics, I'm sure they are more obvious to you than anyone else in the world. I doubt a few stretch marks are going to bother anyone lucky enough to play with you. "

Thank you, I think I am just really conscious of them as it takes some getting used to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment."

I don't think that's what they meant - I think that's a bit of an overreaction particularly as this thread is about stretchmarks!

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I really hate mine and all the wobbly bits around them. However I have more issue with them than anyone else ever has x

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

I didn't get any on my tummy either time I was pregnant. But did get loads on my lower back and hips. See I'm not normal! I do think of them as Mum marks and I'm certainly not put off by them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was fortunate enough never to have had them through pregnancy..

All I have are very very small ones at the tops of my legs which are only noticeable to me .. And that's bad enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better to have stretchmarks than skidmarks.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment.

I don't think that's what they meant - I think that's a bit of an overreaction particularly as this thread is about stretchmarks!"

I thought this too

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By *layful CplCouple
over a year ago

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment."

The the guy was just trying to pay a complement and make the op feel better and I'm sure he had not meant for it to insult anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really really dislike mine! Not as much as I did but still prefer to cover my tum with lingerie for a meet, thr boss isnt bothered by them at all they're from growing his 4 babirs anyway so its tough haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are lush.....x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stretch marks are just part of the human body, no different to a mole or a scar from an operation or injury. As others have said, more noticeable to you op than anyone else I'm sure. I doubt anyone would take notice in a play situation as their mind would be elsewhere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment."

Personally, I think it is your comment that is the stupid one. The guy was merely paying a compliment, not suggesting a woman without stretch marks is in any way inferior.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment."

I know women with no kids who have stretch marks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex wife has really bad stretch marks and I was the only person she ever allowed to see her tummy. It made me feel special and I used to call it my comfort blanket. They are just part of being a woman, and many men get them too. I certainly wouldn't be put off by them and I certainly wouldn't make reference to them during a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like mine, I've had three sections one of my pregnancies were twin so my belly's been through the mill, I have a lot of stretch marks, a thick scare from the sections and it saggy

I always try to keep it covered even when having sex but as much as I hate it I think I view it a lot worse than other people do because when people have seen it nobodies ever got dressed and run off

We always see our faults worse than other people do

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I'm not put off by them as they are perfectly normal, so don't worry about it OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the way you look great OP i don't think you have anything to worry about xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're just a natural part of life. I definitely wouldn't worry about them. And I certainly wouldn't be put off in the slightest by them.

Mums who have them it's just a sign of beauty that you have brought a life into the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment."

Wow.. So much anger in one comment!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone - I guess I will learn to love them, just will take time

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment.

Wow.. So much anger in one comment!

Some couples are struggling with childlessness and comments like this can be really upsetting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment.

Wow.. So much anger in one comment!

Some couples are struggling with childlessness and comments like this can be really upsetting. "

Stretch marks aren't just about kids though

Many women who have never had kids have stretch marks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've even met men with stretch marks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment.

Wow.. So much anger in one comment!

Some couples are struggling with childlessness and comments like this can be really upsetting.

Stretch marks aren't just about kids though

Many women who have never had kids have stretch marks

True! I got a few tiny silver ones at the sides of my boobs when I was a teenager x

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over a year ago

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think the comment deserved such a harsh reply. ... all women are real ... stretch marks or no stretch marks but obviously touches a nerve on something maybe a little too close to your heart x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Better to have stretchmarks than skidmarks.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Don't think the comment deserved such a harsh reply. ... all women are real ... stretch marks or no stretch marks but obviously touches a nerve on something maybe a little too close to your heart x"

Just doesn't make sense, you aren't a real woman unless you have been pregnant. Women aren't baby making machines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been bothered by mine,even though,when I'm slim they look like a closed up Chinese paper lantern. Some men like to stroke them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think the comment deserved such a harsh reply. ... all women are real ... stretch marks or no stretch marks but obviously touches a nerve on something maybe a little too close to your heart x

Just doesn't make sense, you aren't a real woman unless you have been pregnant. Women aren't baby making machines."

The original comment never said anything about babies?? And as others above have said, women get stretch marks whether pregnant or not. The OP was just trying to make someone feel better. There's so much anger and vitriol in the forums lately that a seemingly innocent comment gets slated. It's not a nice place to be lately

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I looked a lot better without stretch marks. I keep my top on but only take it off if the man I meet wants me to.

I noticed in one of my photos which isn't on here that my stretch marks looked ugly, I don't worry about what people I meet think though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a view on them. When I meet a woman with stretch marks I savour them as part of the person that they are and the full life that they have lived.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have met men that have stretch marks .....doesn't put me off at all. ..

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By *reemindCoolMan
over a year ago

between Barnsley and Wakefield

love them sign of a life lived

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stretch marks are just part of the human body, no different to a mole or a scar from an operation or injury. As others have said, more noticeable to you op than anyone else I'm sure. I doubt anyone would take notice in a play situation as their mind would be elsewhere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't bother me one bit.

And looking at your pics OP, I wouldn't notice them, I'd be too busy looking at the rest of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes stretch marks don't bother me either it means she's a real women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally don't mind stretch marks st all. We're all beautiful in my eyes...

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Yes stretch marks don't bother me either it means she's a real women!"

Seriously?

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Yes stretch marks don't bother me either it means she's a real women!"

So wouldn't you meet a woman who didn't have any because she wouldn't be a real woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes stretch marks don't bother me either it means she's a real women!

So wouldn't you meet a woman who didn't have any because she wouldn't be a real woman?"
no I mean most women have had children in there life just saying that's all ps I meet any lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive got some from weightlifting

tanning helps. if you let them heal you can have them tattooed over too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got loads no ones ever said anything !!!! I've had kids ! I'm sure almost all people have them !

If someone doesn't like them then that's their problem , nothing can do about them !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment.

The the guy was just trying to pay a complement and make the op feel better and I'm sure he had not meant for it to insult anyone"

Totally agree

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I've got them, don't exactly love them, but they're part of the imperfect patchwork of wobbly bits, squishy bits and stuff that isn't picture prefect that makes up me as a whole. "

I think that's an excellent description.. Well said.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Can we please drop the 'real women' line? I get that it's intended to be a body positive comment towards those who don't fit into the classic media portrayal of beauty and that's great! However it's actually really damaging and conversely body shaming to those who naturally don't have 'curves' / big boobs / stretch marks / freckles or any myriad other attributes traditionally considered to be negative. 'you're a fake woman if you don't have these things'.

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

Stretch marks tell stories! Not all stretch marks are through pregnancies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can we please drop the 'real women' line? I get that it's intended to be a body positive comment towards those who don't fit into the classic media portrayal of beauty and that's great! However it's actually really damaging and conversely body shaming to those who naturally don't have 'curves' / big boobs / stretch marks / freckles or any myriad other attributes traditionally considered to be negative. 'you're a fake woman if you don't have these things'."

Everybody has their own idea of what a real woman is though

Some men think big women are real women some men think slim women are real women, stretch marks have nothing to do with size any size woman can have stretch marks but if somebody's idea of a real woman is one with stretch marks surely that's for them to decide and say

Why do we have the rights to dictate what others see as real woman

And why are they not allowed to voice that opinion

Everybody's going to get offended over something, if you only said stuff that didn't offend anybody you'd never bloody talk

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Crazy idea, but how about they just refer to them as 'women' then? Take that word 'real' and put it back on the shelf and bring it out when referring to ale. Obviously not to be used when talking about that 'fake ale'.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment.

The the guy was just trying to pay a complement and make the op feel better and I'm sure he had not meant for it to insult anyone

Totally agree"

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By *eccymanMan
over a year ago

Gateshead

I can't say that I like them or loathe them, they're merely a part of who you are and if you're a nice person the stretch marks wouldn't bother me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Crazy idea, but how about they just refer to them as 'women' then? Take that word 'real' and put it back on the shelf and bring it out when referring to ale. Obviously not to be used when talking about that 'fake ale'.

Maybe poor choice of words

When I see guys put thats a real woman I just take that as them meaning that type of woman is my type not them meaning every other woman is not a real woman

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

Men have stretch marks too!! I actually have a faint one runnin down the underside of my cock! Had the teenage nickname of two tone! Real talk!

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment.

Wow.. So much anger in one comment!

Some couples are struggling with childlessness and comments like this can be really upsetting. "

Stretchmarks are not inherently tied up with children. Woman and men get stretchmarks through both weighloss and gain. So you found something in the comment that wasn't there.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Maybe poor choice of words

When I see guys put thats a real woman I just take that as them meaning that type of woman is my type not them meaning every other woman is not a real woman

Then maybe we need to encourage a change in how we use language that could be damaging to others

'Now that's my kind of woman!' works much better to me

Yay inclusiveness!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe poor choice of words

When I see guys put thats a real woman I just take that as them meaning that type of woman is my type not them meaning every other woman is not a real woman

Then maybe we need to encourage a change in how we use language that could be damaging to others

'Now that's my kind of woman!' works much better to me

Yay inclusiveness! "

There's never going to be a day when something we say will not be damaging to somebody

Everything you say will be taken offensively by somebody

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

Maybe poor choice of words

When I see guys put thats a real woman I just take that as them meaning that type of woman is my type not them meaning every other woman is not a real woman

Then maybe we need to encourage a change in how we use language that could be damaging to others

'Now that's my kind of woman!' works much better to me

Yay inclusiveness!

There's never going to be a day when something we say will not be damaging to somebody

Everything you say will be taken offensively by somebody

Try being a single man on fab with lit offending someone!

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By *uilder506Man
over a year ago

bognor

Tiger scratches from being a real woman and havering a kid or more.

Never botherd me in the slightest.

I wouldn't turn you down because of them x

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

There are very few people on this planet without them, it's all down to genetics.

If they make some people feel disgusted, I'd be gobsmacked.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Tiger scratches from being a real woman and havering a kid or more.

Never botherd me in the slightest.

I wouldn't turn you down because of them x"

You don't have to be a mother to have stretch marks, nor does being a mother make you a real woman.

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By *uilder506Man
over a year ago

bognor

"Tiger scratches from being a real woman and havering a kid or more.

Never botherd me in the slightest.

I wouldn't turn you down because of them x

You don't have to be a mother to have stretch marks, nor does being a mother make you a real woman."

Fair point . I'll go sit in the corner and be quiet now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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or how about you don't be so touchy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never seen a man turn down sex because of stretch marks.... A corset or turning off the lights solves this problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are what they are..due to society they aren't deemed as attractive....but some people suit their quirks and scars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got quite a few myself as a result of my previous lifelong excessive weight that are becoming less and less noticeable over time as the skin tightens up.

I must admit I'm not really that bothered as i think in terms of how much things have improved and not how imperfect things are.

I wouldn't say I'm massively body confident but having gone to a gym for the last five years where everyone changes communally and spending a few days at a Spanish nudist beach last year has really made me feel a lot more confident and now I really don't care.. I'll fling it off at the drop of a hat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are really that self conscious that you are really worried about a few stretch marks then meeting is going to be really traumatic for you. Work on your self confidence first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've even met men with stretch marks

hah! Shouldn't admit it but I have them. In my late teens I had a growth spurt that gave me them (9% body fat at the time too!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment.

Wow.. So much anger in one comment!

Some couples are struggling with childlessness and comments like this can be really upsetting. "

I think the point was that lots of media pictures would airbrush stretch marks as an imperfection and the person is trying to say that stretch marks are a natural part of many people's lives and therefore they look more relatable.

As for the people talking about them being amazing - get real.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X"

Odd I know lots of people with stretch marks both male and female, its pretty common with obesity.

Also know lots of women who have kids, yet have no stretch marks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment.

Wow.. So much anger in one comment!

Some couples are struggling with childlessness and comments like this can be really upsetting.

As for the people talking about them being amazing - get real. "

You know these white knights will say anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment.

Wow.. So much anger in one comment!

Some couples are struggling with childlessness and comments like this can be really upsetting.

As for the people talking about them being amazing - get real.

You know these white knights will say anything

I bet if I said the Mrs was insecure about her ear lobes then some moron would come on here talking about he's the president of the south east ear lobe appreciation society.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you are really that self conscious that you are really worried about a few stretch marks then meeting is going to be really traumatic for you. Work on your self confidence first."

I've already had a couple of meets but it's just something in the back of my mind. I wouldn't say they were traumatic! it's just I feel a little bit conscious of them being naked in front of someone new for the first time - just wanted other people's views

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are really that self conscious that you are really worried about a few stretch marks then meeting is going to be really traumatic for you. Work on your self confidence first.

Ok well my views are that i think of them as insignificant. I don't notice mine or other people's that's why I'm surprised when people worry about such things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well sirlust seems to have a problem with them... Hasn't even seen them and decides a polite no thanks means he can make a dig... Really mature!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well sirlust seems to have a problem with them... Hasn't even seen them and decides a polite no thanks means he can make a dig... Really mature!"

It's nice that he validated you making the correct decision then!

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment.

Wow.. So much anger in one comment!

Some couples are struggling with childlessness and comments like this can be really upsetting.

As for the people talking about them being amazing - get real.

You know these white knights will say anything

I bet if I said the Mrs was insecure about her ear lobes then some moron would come on here talking about he's the president of the south east ear lobe appreciation society. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are just a fact of life. I have them on my back, and tell people I was flogged in the workhouse as a kid. I read that Bio oil can help.

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By *s1981Couple
over a year ago

halifax

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment."

So you can only get stretch marks through pregnancy? Now that's a stupid fucking comment.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment.

So you can only get stretch marks through pregnancy? Now that's a stupid fucking comment."

No, but I'm pretty sure that's what the OP was talking about, and what the "real women" comment was about.

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By *inglenfreeMan
over a year ago

london

Not an issue. None of us are like the airbrushed images seen in photos. If you have them then I'm sure no one needs to either focus on them or comment. It's all part of life and maturing. You look great to me. Be proud of who you are.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Love Strech marks!!

sign of a real woman!! X

So women who can't have children or don't have children aren't really women in your opinion? What a stupid fucking comment.

So you can only get stretch marks through pregnancy? Now that's a stupid fucking comment.

No, but I'm pretty sure that's what the OP was talking about, and what the "real women" comment was about. "

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By *at-cWoman
over a year ago

Ballyshannon

I hate that initial moment with someone new when they are seen for the first time. This is my issue, no one has ever reacted in a negative way, in fact no one ever has any kind of reaction to them at all until I draw attention to them trying to hide them or being self conscious about them. Usually I get told 'shuuuut up and get over here'!

Go for it and remember they are only a minor part of the full package you bring to a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of us got them. Not alot we can do about it. Wear them with pride x

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