FabSwingers.com forum: im a swinger, dont u get it??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I'm on a swingers site, which means I'm wanting sex! And yes with different men.

So I was quite stunned recently when a supposed 'friend' on here decided to judge me and throw in my face that I'm not exactly the 'virgin Mary'. I met him through here, and thought we were both doing the same thing, ie having casual sex.

Ladies, does this kind of hypocrisy annoy u, or do u not care what men say/think of u?

I guess it hit a nerve as we are quite good friends, and id hoped to avoid being judged like this away from 'vanilla' people!!

Ur thoughts please u lovely forumites!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is annoying. Been chatting to a guy from here, exchanged numbers and texting for a while, till monday i get the "sorry im married" text cos he has new reading glasses

and re read my profile, very sorry etc but would like to remain friends. To be honest, he has and did come across really nice so i said yes quite happy with friendship but not meeting. Got back "humph well you couldnt handle me anyway"

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"So I'm on a swingers site, which means I'm wanting sex! And yes with different men.

Ladies, does this kind of hypocrisy annoy u, or do u not care what men say/think of u?

I guess it hit a nerve as we are quite good friends, and id hoped to avoid being judged like this away from 'vanilla' people!!

Ur thoughts please u lovely forumites!

I tell people that just because I am in effect a swinger and I like sex, it doesn't mean I like sex with just any person...... and that is the misconception of a lot of people...

anyway I'd tell them to "go blow"....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had the same, dont worry about it chin up and keep having fun

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By *edhotminxWoman
over a year ago

Turn left at the Singing Ringing Tree

Had the same happen to me, so I now hide my verifications. Had one bloke decide that he didn't want to talk to me anymore as I was obviously sleeping around!

What I do is my business, but I can't be bothered to deal with judgemental people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had the same happen to me, so I now hide my verifications. Had one bloke decide that he didn't want to talk to me anymore as I was obviously sleeping around!

What I do is my business, but I can't be bothered to deal with judgemental people.

Perhaps he wanted to keep you all to himself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a similar vein I have to admit I struggle with the idea that after a very enjoyable meet and play with a woman / couple some don't want to meet a guy twice. Again, it is the nature of swinging but it does make me, not exactly "used", but perhaps a bit deflated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one man follow me from site to site and would look at my profile several times a day every day.

He finally contacted me on here saying he'd like to meet me but he preferred women not so "busy". I hid my verifications after that as it was the final straw! Another meet was contacting people on my verifications!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone told me I’m not exactly the Virgin Mary I’d take it as a compliment

After all, who want to be her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really do think some people think they can do the multiple partners thing until it comes to point when they meet someone they really like and they want them to themselves ...women are prey to this as well its not only men !! i had a problem last year with a woman who thought i had stolen her "boyfriend" on here !! he left me a better verification than her and she really got possesive .. i realise people do get together on here but its a two way street .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In a similar vein I have to admit I struggle with the idea that after a very enjoyable meet and play with a woman / couple some don't want to meet a guy twice. Again, it is the nature of swinging but it does make me, not exactly "used", but perhaps a bit deflated."

It happens and isn't necessarily a reflection on the person. There are so many men and so little time. I have a small group of regulars I prefer seeing but I'll also meet new men with a view of building my "stable" but it doesn't always pan out even after a great meet!

One of those things I guess!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of those things I guess!

im picturing "Sassys Stable" the mind boggles !!!!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i have another slant on it. i like what i do and meeting new people etc and i have a couple of guys who constantly ask who i am meeting etc and that makes me feel bad for seeing som many men

the guys that ask only ask as they get off on knowing how many i meet (not as many as when i first joined - i've gotten boring lol) they think its great that i have so much sex and are a tad jealous lol but them asking makes me question myself

hard to explain really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of those things I guess!

im picturing "Sassys Stable" the mind boggles !!!!

I like to ride my stallions on a regular basis and it's amazing how they manage to jump hurdles with my weight: you'd think it would be a major handicap. Then again not surprising when you think what "bit" I have between my teeth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

love to be a swinger just getting hard for waiting on people to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of those things I guess!

im picturing "Sassys Stable" the mind boggles !!!!

are u going to cheltenham ????

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By *eaboMan
over a year ago

marden

i have to be honest and confess to struggling here. How can any one on a swinging site judge anyone else for having too many partners?

Between consenting adults its your own business what you do and who with. Bollox to them and carry on, life is not a spectator sport.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy at chams when going with someone else.

Nice guy and we got on really good

But then he totally monopolised me the entire evening and the guy i went with was not a happy bunny, which is understandable.

He continued to try and do this after said first meet and to say it didnt work would be an understatement.

He however could still go and play withone he fancied.

He now gone for good.thank god.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm on a swingers site, which means I'm wanting sex! And yes with different men.

Ladies, does this kind of hypocrisy annoy u, or do u not care what men say/think of u?

I guess it hit a nerve as we are quite good friends, and id hoped to avoid being judged like this away from 'vanilla' people!!

Ur thoughts please u lovely forumites!

women will never be equal to men when it comes to sex

even on sites like this where we are supposed to be sexually free, open minded adults i get nasty comments from guys

have guys asking how many partners ive had etc

whats it got to do with them?

its a swingers site if you dont like the fact women on here sleep about what the hell you doing on here?

i find couples are the worse (no all couples before any couples jump down my throat lol) as most couples are really looking for 'friends' and 'long tearm meets' and i get a lot look down their nose at me because i only meet men and choose not to have regular meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the trouble is you are behaving like a man wants to and some men dont like it,some men really need to wake up and realise that you can do what you like when you like and with who you like,now fetch us a cup of tea would you petal

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think ur right naughty, don't u think its a shame that we aren't treated equally, especially on a site where its expected u will have sex??

Thanks for ur comments guys, its making me feel better that I'm not alone in being treated this way!

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By *edannaCouple
over a year ago

n wales coast

"So I'm on a swingers site, which means I'm wanting sex! And yes with different men.

Ladies, does this kind of hypocrisy annoy u, or do u not care what men say/think of u?

I guess it hit a nerve as we are quite good friends, and id hoped to avoid being judged like this away from 'vanilla' people!!

Ur thoughts please u lovely forumites!

that behaviour always smacks of a pious childish self centred personality

they know the facts when they re on a site like this and think themselves special enough for things to be changed to suit them

I just block em

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By *eaboMan
over a year ago

marden

where's dudley?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of those things I guess!

im picturing "Sassys Stable" the mind boggles !!!!

are u going to cheltenham ????

Local only!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"where's dudley?

hes probably with wally .........???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When now anyone asks how many guys "i know" or have seen i always reply....

Well one before you.

I aint lying....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes, i was (briefly) talking to someone who thought all the women on here were 'hedonistic whores'...excluding me....of course...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont give a shit what they say or think, but it is hypocritical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had the same happen to me, so I now hide my verifications. Had one bloke decide that he didn't want to talk to me anymore as I was obviously sleeping around!

What I do is my business, but I can't be bothered to deal with judgemental people.

a lot of men on here should be on dating sites,weve said this all along.

They see the swinging scene as just a good chance of an easy fuck but when reallity kicks in and they cant get a meet they tend to kick off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm on a swingers site, which means I'm wanting sex! And yes with different men.

Ladies, does this kind of hypocrisy annoy u, or do u not care what men say/think of u?

I guess it hit a nerve as we are quite good friends, and id hoped to avoid being judged like this away from 'vanilla' people!!

Ur thoughts please u lovely forumites!

sorry but you obviously from this post were not good friends! just misjudged meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if a woman want casual sex , so what we men been doing it for ages, why should women be "sluts" and not men, pisses me off you want it go get it and stuff em

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

"the trouble is you are behaving like a man wants to and some men dont like it,some men really need to wake up and realise that you can do what you like when you like and with who you like,now fetch us a cup of tea would you petal

agrees and nods! oh and 2 sugars in mine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had the same, had guys refuse to verify me as they dont want me to meet up with anyone else or they get the hump when you have a meet and slag off the person you have met...block...not worth it, if they dont understand this site or what you as an individual are here for they are not worth your time, hurling insults at you is really mature!!! chin up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I was quite stunned recently when a supposed 'friend' on here decided to judge me and throw in my face that I'm not exactly the 'virgin Mary'. I met him through here, and thought we were both doing the same thing, ie having casual sex."

Oh well - I guess myself and my partner aren't virgins either!

But we both knew that when we met - only our attitude was Thank Goodness... Someone with some experience!!

Please don't check our verifications though - yopu'll likely think we're a male and female slut!

Ooops = maybe we are!

But we're still fussy over who we have sex with, and we still have a loving relationship between ourselves..

So are we normal or weird, or just US - loving life making friends and enjoying the journey!

And yeah - if someone thinks we're bad because of it ... then it's they who have the small closed minds! - Which isn't an issue for us as we have so many open minded fun friends from this site

So in reply to the OP

Don't let it worry you

Most genuine people on here would bvalue your experience and the fact that you can have fun without wanting to butt into their relationship!

R&R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The second any of our 'playmates' show any signs of jealousy they will be dropped like a hot brick. We've been there, worn the t-shirt in the past with jealous messages from ex-playmates upset over the lack of 'exclusivity'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never had it as yet been lucky to be honest ,but i say he aint a gd friend if he saying that to you.

probs he fancies you or hes annoyed you have more of a life and enjoying it then he is .

rise above and go get more fun ,fuck its his loss you gain who needs enemies when you can have fuck buddies lol

life is 2 short to care enjoy you self he need you before you want him to be honest .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...I had a problem last year with a woman who thought i had stolen her "boyfriend" on here !! he left me a better verification than her and she really got possesive ... "

LOL I had the same problem last year. Not only did she think I'd stolen her 'boyfriend', she set up a second fake profile as a single man, so she could 'lurk' in the chatroom and report back to him about who I'd been talking to/who I'd sent xxx's to! Very sad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im really quite shocked at all of this. I guess, as part of a couple, Im quite protected because guys know they cant get possessive of me.

I do have quite a few guys on my friends list (was gonna put to do list but that sounds crass), but guys that I like but we just havent got around to meeting up with yet. Sometimes when these guys message saying, have you had any good meets recently, knowing I have as they have no doubt read verifications, it does make me feel just a tad guilty that I havent met them.

Its not just my decision though, I think they forget that, there are two of us who have to agree to meet a single guy

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"The second any of our 'playmates' show any signs of jealousy they will be dropped like a hot brick. We've been there, worn the t-shirt in the past with jealous messages from ex-playmates upset over the lack of 'exclusivity'.

I've had a couple of those. One was checking out the profiles of other men who verified me, and said he didn't want to come to a GB of mine as it wouldn't be 'special'. He had no problem going to another woman's GB though!

In the end I got bored of his tantrums and deleted him.

But it is double standards. I met a guy through another swingers site and we do meet regularly but every month or so he gets the hump that he has to share me. I reckon it's because he's had no luck getting anyone else.

Anyway, I am a single woman on a sex site who loves meeting people for sex (who'da guessed?) so I'll be meeting as many people as I can and collecting verifications as much as possible. Lets have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have time for narrow mind peeps who consider it is inappropriate to have sexy fun with more than one person.

Hence I would avoid any gent whose profile says he is looking for just one fuck buddy/playmate.

I will not play exclusively with just one person while I am on FAB for NSA fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of it is because the guys are not getting as many meets as women can do. Thats why they get a bit arsey, they know other guys are getting what they themselves want. If the tables were turned and single women were ten a penny, the guys wouldnt give a stuff about being possessive

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By *ornyHorwichCpl aka HHCCouple
over a year ago

horwich

There's only one way of like and thats your own. Love those who love you and put those that don't down to experience but always be true to yourself

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