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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hooked up with a beautiful soul in the real world, totally smitten with the guy, he's everything I could ask for, so fellow fabbers! Why can't I delete my account?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ffs don't know why I'm on here anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your adicted to the forums ? this is like take a break magazine . or your not sure of him 100 % yet and your still keeping your eggs in their basket ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"your adicted to the forums ? this is like take a break magazine . or your not sure of him 100 % yet and your still keeping your eggs in their basket ?"

That sounds correct

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I am essentially off the scene and still on the forums. We meet socially but that is all. I am here for the forums only. Its easy enough to make s new profile as fab will always be here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you know the reason why you are still here. And only you know the reason why you came here in the first place. And the fact that you've met someone and you are still here kind of points to the fact that you will always be here. It might be a good idea to tell him you're here.....

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Only you know the reason why you are still here. And only you know the reason why you came here in the first place. And the fact that you've met someone and you are still here kind of points to the fact that you will always be here. It might be a good idea to tell him you're here....."

I think this depends on why you are here. We can forget how 'out there' swinging is. As long as she isn't meeting, why tell? But I also agree, about being here. The forums are a totally different beast than meeting though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only you know the reason why you are still here. And only you know the reason why you came here in the first place. And the fact that you've met someone and you are still here kind of points to the fact that you will always be here. It might be a good idea to tell him you're here.....

I think this depends on why you are here. We can forget how 'out there' swinging is. As long as she isn't meeting, why tell? But I also agree, about being here. The forums are a totally different beast than meeting though"

I quite agree meeting and forums are very different beasts. That being said, surely it's better to be honest early on rather than drop the bomb later when it might really matter. If the op wanted to leave then the op would have left.... asking the question as to why I'm still here leads to the fact that the op probably always will be....

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Only you know the reason why you are still here. And only you know the reason why you came here in the first place. And the fact that you've met someone and you are still here kind of points to the fact that you will always be here. It might be a good idea to tell him you're here.....

I think this depends on why you are here. We can forget how 'out there' swinging is. As long as she isn't meeting, why tell? But I also agree, about being here. The forums are a totally different beast than meeting though

I quite agree meeting and forums are very different beasts. That being said, surely it's better to be honest early on rather than drop the bomb later when it might really matter. If the op wanted to leave then the op would have left.... asking the question as to why I'm still here leads to the fact that the op probably always will be.... "

An interesting one to contemplate tomorrow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think deep down you know the answer... Happy trails xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's definitely the forums that keep me here lol. Off sick from work and bored. ?? but had some great times, just hard to let go.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne


"It's definitely the forums that keep me here lol. Off sick from work and bored. ?? but had some great times, just hard to let go. "

I wouldn't delete my account if I was you. I think swinging women (and men for that matter) can't easily go back to monogamy. I myself can NEVER go back (tried it during my "break" from Fab and other sites). Deleting your account means you have to start over. You don't have to swing you can just perv or interact on the forums

xx

Gail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She makes a very good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

her profile is hidden so not advertising herself as available - i think this would be me in the same situation - a few people on here id miss the chat and banter with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To use a cat analogy, some cats like to play in the wild despite having comfortable home and scratch tray.

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hiding profile for period whilst you decide is sensible option...

Good luck hope everything works itself out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's addictive..like any other addictions, it stirs chemicals in your head and you don't want to close the door just yet, there's lots you still want to do and maybe there's a slight fear of commitment

X

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By *old200Man
over a year ago

Congleton


" Hooked up with a beautiful soul in the real world, totally smitten with the guy, he's everything I could ask for, so fellow fabbers! Why can't I delete my account? "

I was a soldier,for 25 years, I served in Iraq and Afghanistan. As a Infantryman.I had a terrible time when I left.

I missed the excitement of being in combat of being in a dangerous area.

you maybe suffering something similar

it's the excitement of meeting and doing what vanilla people don't do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's definitely the forums that keep me here lol. Off sick from work and bored. ?? but had some great times, just hard to let go. "

Is the other person not into swinging??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's definitely the forums that keep me here lol. Off sick from work and bored. ?? but had some great times, just hard to let go.

Is the other person not into swinging?? "

No he's knows nothing of my swinging days.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Hooked up with a beautiful soul in the real world, totally smitten with the guy, he's everything I could ask for, so fellow fabbers! Why can't I delete my account?

I was a soldier,for 25 years, I served in Iraq and Afghanistan. As a Infantryman.I had a terrible time when I left.

I missed the excitement of being in combat of being in a dangerous area.

you maybe suffering something similar

it's the excitement of meeting and doing what vanill

a people don't do. "

Bless you and sounds about right x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's definitely the forums that keep me here lol. Off sick from work and bored. ?? but had some great times, just hard to let go.

I wouldn't delete my account if I was you. I think swinging women (and men for that matter) can't easily go back to monogamy. I myself can NEVER go back (tried it during my "break" from Fab and other sites). Deleting your account means you have to start over. You don't have to swing you can just perv or interact on the forums

xx

Gail"

Thank you darling, x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Hooked up with a beautiful soul in the real world, totally smitten with the guy, he's everything I could ask for, so fellow fabbers! Why can't I delete my account? "

Cos you want your cake and eat it. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I showed this link to a mutual acquaintance on Fab, she's a Russian doll and she was really pleased to hear that you had met someone.

As a single man plenty of married men with children envy me, and I tell them the grass is greener on the other side, and I would not swap what they have for this life.

If you think about the "fun" you have had, how many of the guys would remember your birthday, or be there for you if you were ill, or would want to make you laugh for laughing sake and not to get you into bed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I showed this link to a mutual acquaintance on Fab, she's a Russian doll and she was really pleased to hear that you had met someone.

As a single man plenty of married men with children envy me, and I tell them the grass is greener on the other side, and I would not swap what they have for this life.

If you think about the "fun" you have had, how many of the guys would remember your birthday, or be there for you if you were ill, or would want to make you laugh for laughing sake and not to get you into bed? "

I dont get it...so are you saying its better in here or in a relationship out of here? I cant tell from your post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ffs don't know why I'm on here anymore "

You thrive on attention seeking maybe?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"I showed this link to a mutual acquaintance on Fab, she's a Russian doll and she was really pleased to hear that you had met someone.

As a single man plenty of married men with children envy me, and I tell them the grass is greener on the other side, and I would not swap what they have for this life.

If you think about the "fun" you have had, how many of the guys would remember your birthday, or be there for you if you were ill, or would want to make you laugh for laughing sake and not to get you into bed?

I dont get it...so are you saying its better in here or in a relationship out of here? I cant tell from your post"

Better to have a relationship, with someone on here .... I think he means better to have a relationship, surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I showed this link to a mutual acquaintance on Fab, she's a Russian doll and she was really pleased to hear that you had met someone.

As a single man plenty of married men with children envy me, and I tell them the grass is greener on the other side, and I would not swap what they have for this life.

If you think about the "fun" you have had, how many of the guys would remember your birthday, or be there for you if you were ill, or would want to make you laugh for laughing sake and not to get you into bed?

I dont get it...so are you saying its better in here or in a relationship out of here? I cant tell from your post

Better to have a relationship, with someone on here .... I think he means better to have a relationship, surely"

But his second paragraph would seem to suggest the opposite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem of typing in a hurry my apologies for causing confusion.

Personally l would rather be settled with someone who loves me than be in this lifestyle.

I think the lifestyle is the emotional equivalent of eating a bag of sweets, and a person can't live on mars bars. That being said if a person has a sweet tooth and the partner does not give you the right kind of candy it will be difficult not to visit the sweet shop unless you go cold turkey.

I agree with LawandOrder if you can't give up the scene then it may be better to go out with someone who is in the scene. But l think many women would testify finding an understanding man is difficult enough let alone finding one on the scene.

At the end of the day it is a question ultimately of what is important to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I showed this link to a mutual acquaintance on Fab, she's a Russian doll and she was really pleased to hear that you had met someone.

As a single man plenty of married men with children envy me, and I tell them the grass is greener on the other side, and I would not swap what they have for this life.

If you think about the "fun" you have had, how many of the guys would remember your birthday, or be there for you if you were ill, or would want to make you laugh for laughing sake and not to get you into bed? "

I think I know who you mean, spent loads of wonderful times with her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The problem of typing in a hurry my apologies for causing confusion.

Personally l would rather be settled with someone who loves me than be in this lifestyle.

I think the lifestyle is the emotional equivalent of eating a bag of sweets, and a person can't live on mars bars. That being said if a person has a sweet tooth and the partner does not give you the right kind of candy it will be difficult not to visit the sweet shop unless you go cold turkey.

I agree with LawandOrder if you can't give up the scene then it may be better to go out with someone who is in the scene. But l think many women would testify finding an understanding man is difficult enough let alone finding one on the scene.

At the end of the day it is a question ultimately of what is important to you."

I could easily and have done given up the scene for this wonderful man I have randomly met, but the bloody forum's and general banter on the site keeps me clinging on. I've had some great fun over the past 2 years, and have made some lovely, truly lovely friends, it's just hard to not be nosey, and see what you are all getting up too. Fab is an addiction.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"The problem of typing in a hurry my apologies for causing confusion.

Personally l would rather be settled with someone who loves me than be in this lifestyle.

I think the lifestyle is the emotional equivalent of eating a bag of sweets, and a person can't live on mars bars. That being said if a person has a sweet tooth and the partner does not give you the right kind of candy it will be difficult not to visit the sweet shop unless you go cold turkey.

I agree with LawandOrder if you can't give up the scene then it may be better to go out with someone who is in the scene. But l think many women would testify finding an understanding man is difficult enough let alone finding one on the scene.

At the end of the day it is a question ultimately of what is important to you.

I could easily and have done given up the scene for this wonderful man I have randomly met, but the bloody forum's and general banter on the site keeps me clinging on. I've had some great fun over the past 2 years, and have made some lovely, truly lovely friends, it's just hard to not be nosey, and see what you are all getting up too. Fab is an addiction. "

You have given up the scene if you have committed not to meet, and only you know it ... being on the forums is not the same as being on the scene. Don't put your relationship in jeopardy for the forums. If you are stuck in the house waiting for your partner who is working 'on call', do something else .... don't let them drag you in, there is more to life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, your an adult and your feelings are your feelings. Only you can control those be they sexual, emotional etc.,

Having read all the comments I think it's really up to you. Who can tell the future, who is currently in a relationship that may be great or may not be this time next year.

Who are currently at it like rabbits in heat, but either one maybe fucking another bunny in a few months or years or got for it be looking at a fox..!

What I'm trying to say is we only get one life, luckily with lots of choices and only us (we, you, me,) all of us can choose the paths we decide to stroll down.

Your past is in the past... Choose wisely and let your future be bright... It is the best any of us can do because believe it or not we only get one chance to enjoy life and if we fuck it up we can't try again...

BE HAPPY...

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Ok, your an adult and your feelings are your feelings. Only you can control those be they sexual, emotional etc.,

Having read all the comments I think it's really up to you. Who can tell the future, who is currently in a relationship that may be great or may not be this time next year.

Who are currently at it like rabbits in heat, but either one maybe fucking another bunny in a few months or years or got for it be looking at a fox..!

What I'm trying to say is we only get one life, luckily with lots of choices and only us (we, you, me,) all of us can choose the paths we decide to stroll down.

Your past is in the past... Choose wisely and let your future be bright... It is the best any of us can do because believe it or not we only get one chance to enjoy life and if we fuck it up we can't try again...

BE HAPPY... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or got for it be looking at a fox..!

is .... God forbid it looking for a fox..!

Fucking Spellcheck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The problem of typing in a hurry my apologies for causing confusion.

Personally l would rather be settled with someone who loves me than be in this lifestyle.

I think the lifestyle is the emotional equivalent of eating a bag of sweets, and a person can't live on mars bars. That being said if a person has a sweet tooth and the partner does not give you the right kind of candy it will be difficult not to visit the sweet shop unless you go cold turkey.

I agree with LawandOrder if you can't give up the scene then it may be better to go out with someone who is in the scene. But l think many women would testify finding an understanding man is difficult enough let alone finding one on the scene.

At the end of the day it is a question ultimately of what is important to you.

I could easily and have done given up the scene for this wonderful man I have randomly met, but the bloody forum's and general banter on the site keeps me clinging on. I've had some great fun over the past 2 years, and have made some lovely, truly lovely friends, it's just hard to not be nosey, and see what you are all getting up too. Fab is an addiction.

You have given up the scene if you have committed not to meet, and only you know it ... being on the forums is not the same as being on the scene. Don't put your relationship in jeopardy for the forums. If you are stuck in the house waiting for your partner who is working 'on call', do something else .... don't let them drag you in, there is more to life"

Too be honest, I can't wait to get back to work, but I have to wait for occupational health interview on the 23rd, according to my manager. My man works long hours as an engineer, plus he takes any agency work that's going, I don't mind that, as there is nothing like a hard working man........let's see how this goes, when I'm back at work lol. The devil makes work for the idle hand etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok, your an adult and your feelings are your feelings. Only you can control those be they sexual, emotional etc.,

Having read all the comments I think it's really up to you. Who can tell the future, who is currently in a relationship that may be great or may not be this time next year.

Who are currently at it like rabbits in heat, but either one maybe fucking another bunny in a few months or years or got for it be looking at a fox..!

What I'm trying to say is we only get one life, luckily with lots of choices and only us (we, you, me,) all of us can choose the paths we decide to stroll down.

Your past is in the past... Choose wisely and let your future be bright... It is the best any of us can do because believe it or not we only get one chance to enjoy life and if we fuck it up we can't try again...

BE HAPPY... "

Xxx

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