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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

From what we read on FAB it seems there are Alot of profiles that are not all that they seem and the people behind those profiles are just our to collect photos and arrange meets that yhey never intend on turning up to etc etc.

What signs if and should we be looking out for?

Please advise.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Check their verifications?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A phone call usually helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happens a lot for us its usually a couple profile which is a single man. If the female half refuse to speak on the phone or Skype we just block them. Also avoid anyone who has no pictures or verifications especially if they have been a member for a while. You learn to read the signs of a faker after a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of things, on couples profiles make sure they have pics of both parties, not just the male, on single ladies they have pics of a woman and they are verified, either photo or meet.

We only message profiles with public pics, if people send friend requests before chatting we don't respond as mostly they never chat and want to see the pics.

Above all common sense, if you feel something isn't right to with your gut as it's usually right.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

This happens loads.

I have enough pics available to see and if straight off the mark they want to be added as a friend to see more yet they don't have any that is a clear indication of a picture collector

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that initially they reply to you almost immediately asking information from you but not offering any. As the conversation gets further along the gap between replying gets longer and longer....until UNLOS

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port

All of the above advice!

The key thing is, go with your gut feeling. ..If someone doesn't feel right, then leave them well alone.

There are plenty more decent, reliable individuals and couples out there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Check their verifications?"

Unfortunately some of us don't have any verification to check

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Check their verifications?

Unfortunately some of us don't have any verification to check "

And not having any public pictures either would make us wary..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens a lot, the only system in place is the verification system which as it stands is worth slightly more than a chocolate teapot.

Go with your gut is the best advice you'll find, think about locations of meets, whether they're safe, and if there was a 6'6" crazy bloke waiting for you, could you escape easily? Those kind of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Check their verifications?

Unfortunately some of us don't have any verification to check

And not having any public pictures either would make us wary.."

Always send face pic on request but not many in my area willing to meet my age or status In first place

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By *ice and SleazyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

A couple not photo verified and can't accommodate is potential sign of a married bloke on his own, especially if the pics that only look like they were taken on holiday or when she wasn't looking. The other is the profile sounds fantastic, can accommodate, have been on for years but don't appear to have ever met anyone despite having a long friend list, you have to wonder what they are here for

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By *uerido55Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"Check their verifications?

Unfortunately some of us don't have any verification to check "

And here's the catch 22 syndrome....

You won't get any because people won't talk or meet to verify you until you've got some verifications.

A lot won't even answer messages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Check their verifications?

Unfortunately some of us don't have any verification to check

And here's the catch 22 syndrome....

You won't get any because people won't talk or meet to verify you until you've got some verifications.

A lot won't even answer messages!

"

Actually I know several ladies, myself included, who have put up forum posts offering to meet unverifed people for coffee and a chat purely to help get that first verification. I met 2 people one day, had a very pleasant time too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Check their verifications?

Unfortunately some of us don't have any verification to check

And here's the catch 22 syndrome....

You won't get any because people won't talk or meet to verify you until you've got some verifications.

A lot won't even answer messages!

"
yea that what I been finding out if lucky enough to find someone looking for a 49yr old smoker in first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Check their verifications?

Unfortunately some of us don't have any verification to check

And here's the catch 22 syndrome....

You won't get any because people won't talk or meet to verify you until you've got some verifications.

A lot won't even answer messages!

Actually I know several ladies, myself included, who have put up forum posts offering to meet unverifed people for coffee and a chat purely to help get that first verification. I met 2 people one day, had a very pleasant time too "
unfortunately I'm in Ashington by Newcastle upon Tyne or would take you up on coffee

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now


"

And here's the catch 22 syndrome....

You won't get any because people won't talk or meet to verify you until you've got some verifications.

A lot won't even answer messages!

"

So go along to a club (loads in the Manchester area) or the big Manchester social twice a year. Plenty of people to chat to there, who will verify you. But be warned, those who blame 'lack of verification' for the problem, often find out that it isn't!

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By *uerido55Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"A couple not photo verified and can't accommodate is potential sign of a married bloke on his own,..... "

OR

It could be a potential sign of a couple who are not photo verified and who can't accommodate.

Also what really amazes me is the number of people on here who will not reply unless you have a face pic on your profile. Yet when you look at their profile, is there a face pic? NO!

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By *uerido55Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"

And here's the catch 22 syndrome....

You won't get any because people won't talk or meet to verify you until you've got some verifications.

A lot won't even answer messages!

So go along to a club (loads in the Manchester area) or the big Manchester social twice a year. Plenty of people to chat to there, who will verify you. But be warned, those who blame 'lack of verification' for the problem, often find out that it isn't!"

I think if you look a little closer you'll notice that the OP is from Shrewsbury.

Why on earth would you be advising him to travel to a Manchester club?????

Or is it that you are defending the system? The very same system that allows people to hide their profiles, real or fake.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd be loathe to say any definite signs of a time waster (not that there are any - just indications) because then the timewasters would find a way to negate those signs.

Go to a social and meet people for real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And here's the catch 22 syndrome....

You won't get any because people won't talk or meet to verify you until you've got some verifications.

A lot won't even answer messages!

So go along to a club (loads in the Manchester area) or the big Manchester social twice a year. Plenty of people to chat to there, who will verify you. But be warned, those who blame 'lack of verification' for the problem, often find out that it isn't!

I think if you look a little closer you'll notice that the OP is from Shrewsbury.

Why on earth would you be advising him to travel to a Manchester club?????

Or is it that you are defending the system? The very same system that allows people to hide their profiles, real or fake.

"
don't think that was meant for op as quote above was from someone who lives in Manchester

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port

I agree with Querido somewhat, in that as a single man it is more difficult to get a first verification and double standards undoubtedly do exist as regards photos on profiles.

Unfortunately, that is the nature of the beast and the couples and single females will always be able to choose.

As a single man, I'm not going to spend time with anyone that I don't connect with, so if that means the verifications are few and far between, I m more than happy. Quality over quantity.

Getting back to the OP..I wouldn't meet ( if asked ) as they have only 1 photo, of a man in a string vest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I was getting better at spotting them until today. My meet thought it was ok to turn up 1hr 30 mins late because he fell back to sleep. If that's the case I don't think I missed much tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought I was getting better at spotting them until today. My meet thought it was ok to turn up 1hr 30 mins late because he fell back to sleep. If that's the case I don't think I missed much tbh "

He could not of look at your pics or he would of been early

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also what really amazes me is the number of people on here who will not reply unless you have a face pic on your profile. Yet when you look at their profile, is there a face pic? NO!"

If they didn't reply, how do you know that's why they didn't reply?

If someone I looked at had it on their profile that I needed to have a face pic on public display, I'd skip past them without a second thought, as I don't currently want mine public (sometimes have had it as profile pic).

It's easier to contact people who you match, than wish someone who you clearly don't match, changed their preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought I was getting better at spotting them until today. My meet thought it was ok to turn up 1hr 30 mins late because he fell back to sleep. If that's the case I don't think I missed much tbh

He could not of look at your pics or he would of been early "

His loss I'm afraid. I don't think that's acceptable at all and I made that very clear to him 5 wks of wasted time chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought I was getting better at spotting them until today. My meet thought it was ok to turn up 1hr 30 mins late because he fell back to sleep. If that's the case I don't think I missed much tbh

He could not of look at your pics or he would of been early

His loss I'm afraid. I don't think that's acceptable at all and I made that very clear to him 5 wks of wasted time chatting "

Didn't realise that sorry but he Def a fool I looked at your pics and damn sure if I'd been lucky enough I'd make sure I'd turn up

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By *uerido55Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"

And here's the catch 22 syndrome....

You won't get any because people won't talk or meet to verify you until you've got some verifications.

A lot won't even answer messages!

So go along to a club (loads in the Manchester area) or the big Manchester social twice a year. Plenty of people to chat to there, who will verify you. But be warned, those who blame 'lack of verification' for the problem, often find out that it isn't!

I think if you look a little closer you'll notice that the OP is from Shrewsbury.

Why on earth would you be advising him to travel to a Manchester club?????

Or is it that you are defending the system? The very same system that allows people to hide their profiles, real or fake.

don't think that was meant for op as quote above was from someone who lives in Manchester "

I am very aware of that and posted the remark precisely to make the point that people are far too quick to judge and pass opinion.

What I was pointing out is the anomaly of a system where you have the need to have already spoken to people BEFORE you are acceptable to speak to those very people.

The system is flawed; it is the only system currently available and sadly it will remain just as flawed whilst people continue to preach that all those without a long list of verifications are fake or potentially fake.

At the end of the day WE ALL MUST REALISE that there is actually an option NOT TO DISPLAY verifications on your profile for all to see. This is available when your verifications come in.

A lack of evidence is not evidence in itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And here's the catch 22 syndrome....

You won't get any because people won't talk or meet to verify you until you've got some verifications.

A lot won't even answer messages!

So go along to a club (loads in the Manchester area) or the big Manchester social twice a year. Plenty of people to chat to there, who will verify you. But be warned, those who blame 'lack of verification' for the problem, often find out that it isn't!

I think if you look a little closer you'll notice that the OP is from Shrewsbury.

Why on earth would you be advising him to travel to a Manchester club?????

Or is it that you are defending the system? The very same system that allows people to hide their profiles, real or fake.

don't think that was meant for op as quote above was from someone who lives in Manchester

I am very aware of that and posted the remark precisely to make the point that people are far too quick to judge and pass opinion.

What I was pointing out is the anomaly of a system where you have the need to have already spoken to people BEFORE you are acceptable to speak to those very people.

The system is flawed; it is the only system currently available and sadly it will remain just as flawed whilst people continue to preach that all those without a long list of verifications are fake or potentially fake.

At the end of the day WE ALL MUST REALISE that there is actually an option NOT TO DISPLAY verifications on your profile for all to see. This is available when your verifications come in.

A lack of evidence is not evidence in itself."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

Above all common sense, if you feel something isn't right go with your gut as it's usually right. "

Exactly this!!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Also people who want to go into graphic detail about what they would do etc.Often just after cyber chats rather than meets .Miss.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

If all their messages are about sex, what he is going to do to you, do you like this, sex scenarios, then they are unlikely to meet as they are too busy wanking themselves into a frenzy with the messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If all their messages are about sex, what he is going to do to you, do you like this, sex scenarios, then they are unlikely to meet as they are too busy wanking themselves into a frenzy with the messages."

Must admit I would ask what they like as if meet is for sex I would prefer that they enjoy themselves but obviously would not ask that if meet was just for coffee

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A lot of really good advice thank you.

We do have to add to our profile as some what shy on the photo front but nervous about that part to date.

We have been verified by a club owner from our visits but need to add on that one also.have yet to meet so that will improve in the near future we hope.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Like with a lot of things in life common sense and gut feeling are rarely wrong.

But some other good tips to, will take on board.

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By *ice and SleazyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"A couple not photo verified and can't accommodate is potential sign of a married bloke on his own,.....

OR

It could be a potential sign of a couple who are not photo verified and who can't accommodate.

Also what really amazes me is the number of people on here who will not reply unless you have a face pic on your profile. Yet when you look at their profile, is there a face pic? NO!"

Hence my use of the word "potential" Rather than "definitive"... However, not being able to accommodate can be a result of your circumstances, but not uploading a picture of you both holding up a card with your profile name on is a choice

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now


"

And here's the catch 22 syndrome....

You won't get any because people won't talk or meet to verify you until you've got some verifications.

A lot won't even answer messages!

So go along to a club (loads in the Manchester area) or the big Manchester social twice a year. Plenty of people to chat to there, who will verify you. But be warned, those who blame 'lack of verification' for the problem, often find out that it isn't!

I think if you look a little closer you'll notice that the OP is from Shrewsbury.

Why on earth would you be advising him to travel to a Manchester club?????

Or is it that you are defending the system? The very same system that allows people to hide their profiles, real or fake.

"

If you look at my quote, you will see that I was advising YOU to go to a Manchester club/social. You brought up "catch 22 situation", and I wrongly assumed that you were speaking personally (i.e. speaking about people who won't talk to YOU because you're unverified). However, now I've looked at your profile, I see that you are verified, so I presume that you were speaking hypothetically.

And yes, I am defending Fab, as I find it a great site. The verification system isn't perfect, but it is the best that it can possibly be. Given the many many thousands of members, and hundreds more joining each day, it is no longer possible for the site owners to verify each new member personally.

As to hiding profiles - that is another tool which the site gives us. I use it frequently when I am not meeting new people, as I don't want to waste people's time by come up in their searches. This doesn't make me "fake", no matter what you might think!

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By *uerido55Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"

If you look at my quote, you will see that I was advising YOU to go to a Manchester club/social. You brought up "catch 22 situation", and I wrongly assumed that you were speaking personally (i.e. speaking about people who won't talk to YOU because you're unverified). However, now I've looked at your profile, I see that you are verified, so I presume that you were speaking hypothetically.

And yes, I am defending Fab, as I find it a great site. The verification system isn't perfect, but it is the best that it can possibly be. Given the many many thousands of members, and hundreds more joining each day, it is no longer possible for the site owners to verify each new member personally.

As to hiding profiles - that is another tool which the site gives us. I use it frequently when I am not meeting new people, as I don't want to waste people's time by come up in their searches. This doesn't make me "fake", no matter what you might think! "

I knew immediately that you were advising me but I chose to reply the way i did to highlight the fact that the original poster was the one raising the question and not myself. I was / am however speaking from my own personal experience.

I have experienced in the past contacts from people on here who have declined on the grounds of no verifications.

I have also come across profiles which state quite categorically that they will not reply without verifications and more who say they will block anyone contacting them without verifications.

When you consider this perhaps you can see where my reference to catch 22 comes from.

In addition there exists on this site at least one profile which states that people with too many verifications and or verifications from bi males will be ignored and blocked.

I do not mean to suggest that you are fake, I just don't see the point in relying on a verification system when one can hide ones verifications and indeed ones whole profile.

All of this seems to run contrary to the "let's rely on verifications" system.

My thoughts!

No offence intended and none taken on my part.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I suppose we do what most newbies do on here. We check the profiles and stats, photos and verifications. Based on that we make judgements as to if they interest us.

The problem is some are better at promoting themselves than others so not always a true reflection is seen.

We know our own profile is not particularly going to wow anyone and lack of photos certainly wont help but we are new and cautious with it so as much as we are looking for experiences we are not going to jump

In blind.

I could put lots of photos of my other half on here and with her fit body and tight bottom I'm sure plenty of interest will come and i may get a flicker from mine you never know.

Atleast at the club we can look, experience and hopefully make a good match with the right people for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys who need pictures

Who ask y ou very quickly what turns you on

Who have no verifications but have been on fan for ages

Whose.profiles seem vague!

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

we have meet a few unverified single guys, would have been a few more but could not get away from the mrs..lol..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"If all their messages are about sex, what he is going to do to you, do you like this, sex scenarios, then they are unlikely to meet as they are too busy wanking themselves into a frenzy with the messages."

Yeah, and believe me, I can type fast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just had a couple fuckwits write to me who I've never spoken to or acknowledged send me an email saying "Shame you can't accommodate" and then bloke me so I can't respond.

Is that the same?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I've just had a couple fuckwits write to me who I've never spoken to or acknowledged send me an email saying "Shame you can't accommodate" and then bloke me so I can't respond.

Is that the same? "

It was a bloke. It wernt me, guv.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From what we read on FAB it seems there are Alot of profiles that are not all that they seem and the people behind those profiles are just our to collect photos and arrange meets that yhey never intend on turning up to etc etc.

What signs if and should we be looking out for?

Please advise.

"

Go with your gut.. if somthing feels off it usually is.. always trusted my gut instincts and never had a bad meet

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I go by one golden rule and it's never steered me wrong

"If it seems to good to be true it often is"

So always go with your gut feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go by one golden rule and it's never steered me wrong

"If it seems to good to be true it often is"

So always go with your gut feeling "

Yes I can relate to this

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

There is no sure way. It doesn't exist. I've been stood up by 3 very well verified folk on here.

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Pah! I chatted with a guy off here and we met for a social, liked eachother and wanted to meet to play. Except our work /life commitments made it difficult to find a date/time that both could do. So he blocked me. Then unblocked me and called me a time waster! I had suggested THREE different dates and times! None of which suited him! So he decided that I was the time waster when I couldn't do a time HE wanted! So the moral of the story - the label 'timewaster' is sometimes inaccurately applied!

Oh well! His loss! Big mistake! HUGE!

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By *irtydaddyfor youMan
over a year ago

corby

found with so called couples, if they message during the day, but never at night, its usually a case of the wife has no idea he is doing it when at work in daytime, and he dare not answer at night in case he gets caught

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suppose we do what most newbies do on here. We check the profiles and stats, photos and verifications. Based on that we make judgements as to if they interest us.

The problem is some are better at promoting themselves than others so not always a true reflection is seen.

We know our own profile is not particularly going to wow anyone and lack of photos certainly wont help but we are new and cautious with it so as much as we are looking for experiences we are not going to jump

In blind.

I could put lots of photos of my other half on here and with her fit body and tight bottom I'm sure plenty of interest will come and i may get a flicker from mine you never know.

Atleast at the club we can look, experience and hopefully make a good match with the right people for us."

From my point of view, unless you do have pics of the female on your profile i will assume the profile is a single male pretending. Sounds harsh maybe but it's the reality, you say you could put them on and get interest, so why not?

I do get the clubs bit though, certainly I feel more comfortable in the club environment, as we are a sociable couple we like to meet people first and get to know them as it can tell a lot more face to face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just had a couple fuckwits write to me who I've never spoken to or acknowledged send me an email saying "Shame you can't accommodate" and then bloke me so I can't respond.

Is that the same? "

I meant to say block not bloke but i was in such a foul mood at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'm convinced half the problem is because it's a free site.

If people have nothing to lose by getting a ban or a bad name they're going to misbehave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always go with your gut feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Check their verifications?

Unfortunately some of us don't have any verification to check

And not having any public pictures either would make us wary..

Always send face pic on request but not many in my area willing to meet my age or status In first place "

There's nothing wrong with your age, it's more likely because you mention your girlfriend who isn't playing. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From what we read on FAB it seems there are Alot of profiles that are not all that they seem and the people behind those profiles are just our to collect photos and arrange meets that yhey never intend on turning up to etc etc.

What signs if and should we be looking out for?

Please advise.

"

if you are asking how to spot one, you have about as much chance as the rest of us...and probably more chance of being able to nail jelly to a wall than you have of avoiding them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'm convinced half the problem is because it's a free site.

If people have nothing to lose by getting a ban or a bad name they're going to misbehave."

You do know time wasters have money to pay for a membership also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"found with so called couples, if they message during the day, but never at night, its usually a case of the wife has no idea he is doing it when at work in daytime, and he dare not answer at night in case he gets caught"

You fell for that also

I thought I was the only one... I hope you didn't go to his house to hangout naked and watch porn...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I totally understand that our lack of photos can cause people to be cautious about our profile due to the fact there are time wasters and hoax profiles out there. At this time we are a lot more comfortable about visiting clubs in person than putting our photos online but we will get there I'm sure. Just have feel at ease with FAB.

We know we are a honest, clean, discrete, friendly couple in good shape who are looking for fun, friendship and experiences as many honest people are on here. Just a shame that because of a small amount of individuals try to fake and lie to us all that there is understandable caution.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Check their verifications?

Unfortunately some of us don't have any verification to check

And here's the catch 22 syndrome....

You won't get any because people won't talk or meet to verify you until you've got some verifications.

A lot won't even answer messages!

Actually I know several ladies, myself included, who have put up forum posts offering to meet unverifed people for coffee and a chat purely to help get that first verification. I met 2 people one day, had a very pleasant time too "

Yes I do that too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it seems too good to be true it usually is!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"Check their verifications?

Unfortunately some of us don't have any verification to check

And not having any public pictures either would make us wary..

Always send face pic on request but not many in my area willing to meet my age or status In first place "

Consider changing your status.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

One thing I noticed the other day was that a lot of "single fem" profiles have a long friends list, with a lot of other "single fems" on them.

Just for shits-n-giggles I followed a few of these friends, and it looks like a lot of these profiles do exactly the same, no veries (or maybe one dodgy one), and a shitload of friends.... but no meets. If you pick the right ones each time it goes on for ages!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"A couple not photo verified and can't accommodate is potential sign of a married bloke on his own,.....

OR

It could be a potential sign of a couple who are not photo verified and who can't accommodate.

Also what really amazes me is the number of people on here who will not reply unless you have a face pic on your profile. Yet when you look at their profile, is there a face pic? NO!"

Users who aren't single men will typically find it hard to reply to all messages full stop.

Users can improve their chances by following the great, helpful advice on the site.

And not rely just on site meets for swinging and sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well hears to

Hoping we stay timewaster/pretender free

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