FabSwingers.com forum: Can you accomodate?

By *roticGoddessXX OP Woman
over a year ago

Richmond

Yea, I've been around a while, but I'm still a bit shocked when asked this by someone I've never met.

I may have chatted with you online for 10 minutes or 3 months--do I REALLY know you?

You may know you're a great guy, but...do I?

Men: put yourselves in our position.

How do I know, once you're in my home, that you know the meaning of the word no, if that's what I choose?

How do I know you're not a freaky stalker?

The list goes on.

It does go both ways, but in general I think men don't meet with women who could easily overpower them (I'm strong, but that's beside the point).

I do realize that many here ARE what they say (yea, not all, I know, I'm not that gullible); however, I tend to be cautious and go with my gut instincts, which have never led me astray.

Accomodate someone I've never met? er...that would be a no.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

That's your way of doing thing's,other's have theirs . I do accommodate at times,generally after we've been speaking for a certain amount of time,if something doesn't feel right then I know not to meet them fullstop. Meeting at a pub first is alway's a good way to go first though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the other side. What's so safe about visiting a guy at his place that you hardly know?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The first time I went to a couples house I was convinced I wasn't gonna come out in one piece but I'd told a friend where I was going and texted a code word after to say I was ok and then after that I was fine.

Damned vivid imagination

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By *roticGoddessXX OP Woman
over a year ago

Richmond

"Yea, I've been around a while, but I'm still a bit shocked when asked this by someone I've never met.

I may have chatted with you online for 10 minutes or 3 months--do I REALLY know you?

You may know you're a great guy, but...do I?

Men: put yourselves in our position.

How do I know, once you're in my home, that you know the meaning of the word no, if that's what I choose?

How do I know you're not a freaky stalker?

The list goes on.

It does go both ways, but in general I think men don't meet with women who could easily overpower them (I'm strong, but that's beside the point).

I do realize that many here ARE what they say (yea, not all, I know, I'm not that gullible); however, I tend to be cautious and go with my gut instincts, which have never led me astray.

Accomodate someone I've never met? er...that would be a no.

This has nothing to do with you doing what's right for you....only that so many men assume I'm willing to accomodate an unknown stranger. THINK. There may be reasons I won't.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I had some young chap approach me recently, basically looking for a place where he could shag a young woman he'd found.

I'm like, um... no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same with guys who offer to take me dogging

Like as if I'm going to get in your car and let you drive me I to the middle of nowhere

And some guys genuinely don't see your issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First question I ask is do you accommodate. If they don't then there's no point talking any more. I'm at as much risk going to a man's house as I am him coming to me,although he wouldn't be able to pop back unannounced when he felt like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had some young chap approach me recently, basically looking for a place where he could shag a young woman he'd found.

I'm like, um... no. "

But,you could have watched

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I had some young chap approach me recently, basically looking for a place where he could shag a young woman he'd found.

I'm like, um... no.

But,you could have watched

Pervert :P

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

"Yea, I've been around a while, but I'm still a bit shocked when asked this by someone I've never met.

I may have chatted with you online for 10 minutes or 3 months--do I REALLY know you?

You may know you're a great guy, but...do I?

Men: put yourselves in our position.

How do I know, once you're in my home, that you know the meaning of the word no, if that's what I choose?

How do I know you're not a freaky stalker?

The list goes on.

It does go both ways, but in general I think men don't meet with women who could easily overpower them (I'm strong, but that's beside the point).

I do realize that many here ARE what they say (yea, not all, I know, I'm not that gullible); however, I tend to be cautious and go with my gut instincts, which have never led me astray.

Accomodate someone I've never met? er...that would be a no.

My sentiment exactly.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

On my single profile i used to get people asking to come over,soon put them off whem i told them it was a public social first.Miss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is where ive changed - when i had single fem account i had guys here at home- not sure i would now unless i had met them a few times - the more i get into fab the more wary i get - have to say my frame of mind wasnt in a good place back then and now im thinking much more sanely and logically (well that might be up for debate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done a thread before about the dangers of going to strangers houses.

I was suprised at how many said they didn't have an issue with it and have done it many times and never had a problem?

I personally think your asking for trouble .

But each to their own n all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't due to son being here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bad things can happen at your house. At their house. At a hotel room (speaking from experience!).

Remember that couple that got murdered abroad somewhere - Antigua? In a hotel room?

Even in clubs I read quite a few fairly horrific stories. Guys managing to fuck women without permission I've read quite a few times.

You do what you feel comfortable with.

I used to go to guys houses constantly or invite them to mine when I was single. Different guys every week.

These days I'm much more picky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't due to son being here"

Same here XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea, I've been around a while, but I'm still a bit shocked when asked this by someone I've never met.

I may have chatted with you online for 10 minutes or 3 months--do I REALLY know you?

You may know you're a great guy, but...do I?

Men: put yourselves in our position.

How do I know, once you're in my home, that you know the meaning of the word no, if that's what I choose?

How do I know you're not a freaky stalker?

The list goes on.

It does go both ways, but in general I think men don't meet with women who could easily overpower them (I'm strong, but that's beside the point).

I do realize that many here ARE what they say (yea, not all, I know, I'm not that gullible); however, I tend to be cautious and go with my gut instincts, which have never led me astray.

Accomodate someone I've never met? er...that would be a no.

Totally agree with all you say.

No way do I ever let a guy from fab near my home!! Fab life has to be separate from everyday life. I wouldn't even go to anyone's home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't due to son being here

Same here XXX"

Son and his mate at mine. They work different shifts too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never ask and always wait for an invite. I can sometimes accom but i would need to trust that person before i do.

There are always otherways not including cars, bus shelters ha ha

If two people connect they will always find a way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

meet in a pub,,if you can meet with a friend even.

theres no way id invite a total stranger into my house

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

i can accom, but i wouldnt unless i know the person a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't due to son being here

Same here XXX

Son and his mate at mine. They work different shifts too. "

My son came home when I was in bed naked having sex with my FWB, was a bit embarrassing, now son thinks FWB is my boyfriend! Lol xxx

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

Thing is even if you try to make it clear from the start it becomes like a broken record "why can't you" "oh go on I'm special" blah blah that's when I loose total interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anything's going to happen to .male /female it's going to happen anywhere you go if that's what they have planed ..me .I have people at mine's when I can

After iv told a friend who they are time there comeing at .and send there pic so if anything happens then at least they would get caught .happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the time its arranged for people to come to your home you should A: have a phone number, B: Car registration, make, model and colour, C: take photographs at available opportunities, D: Clothing fibres, DNA, etc will be left. E: the site has IP address, verifications from others ...... list goes on - its safer than meeting strangers in a pub !!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"meet in a pub,,if you can meet with a friend even.

theres no way id invite a total stranger into my house"

Take a friend on a meet?

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By *goodlengthMan
over a year ago

near Trowbridge

It is about trust. I will always meet in a public place first and, if I feel that I can trust the other person, then I will happily accommodate. I haven't had a bad experience yet.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I've done a thread before about the dangers of going to strangers houses.

I was suprised at how many said they didn't have an issue with it and have done it many times and never had a problem?

I personally think your asking for trouble .

But each to their own n all that

Asking for trouble?! Are you just talking about when you first meet someone or still after you've had a social and you've got a feel for them. I understand what you're saying,but you can't live in constant fear otherwise you're probably best not being on here. As someone has already said you can be attacked anywhere.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I don't invite anyone into my home who won't accommodate me in theirs.

I'm much bigger than my playmates and I have restraints, brackets, harnesses etc.

My playmates have to feel comfortable with me and trust I wont hurt/rob them.

I think people are naive if they think hotels are safe. I've read on the forums of women turning up for a hotel meet to be met by several men she didn't know as her meet had arranged a paid gangbang!

It's about using common sense, judgement and basic gut feeling. If you're going to get yourself in a tiswas assuming every meet is a potential black widow/mad axeman stay at home with a good box set!

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