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By *icknsuck2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Ives bay area

Hello.

We have been swinging for a number of years and always try to find a bi single female to meet up with.

All we seem to find are fakes or female who arnt our cup of tea.

Then we come across couples have meet a few single females from there verifications.

What's the best way to meet a single female for fun as I really want to surprise Mr with a 3sum meet with a female. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

plenty in clubs and you could then use a private room

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

I would hazard a guess that 95% of people are looking for a Unicorn so you need to stand out. The only time we've encountered a single is whilst dogging or at a club. Good luck just remember there are thousands out there wanting the same.

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

95% of Fab members obviously excludes males looking for males lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me it's partly a safety issue, it's basically 2 against 1, you know you are safe but females don't. Also if I ask if the female from couple will return the favour and do FFM with my FWB the answer is always no. It's something single females get asked a lot. I do have FFM planned shortly with a couple who appeal to me and hopefully visa versa XXX

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By *icknsuck2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Ives bay area

We have had 3somes and 5somes before with females. Ffm and ffffm but was with female friends on a d*unken night.

Which was fun but we didn't do everything we both wanted and don't want the awkwardness of getting friends from everyday life into our swinging life style again.lol xx

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By *aughtydesiresCouple
over a year ago

North West

Since we've entered the lifestyle a decade ago, we've had 4 times the privilege of finding a single lady who accepted to join us for a ffm fun and more. Of course in clubs I had many times girl/girl fun with other women, not to mention the ffm/mmff/mfm fun or all the other combinations. Though a single lady willing to join us privately is something different and as I said, we've been lucky to have found them. However, there is a but:the truth is that every time the girls have found us not vice-versa. As a particularity I would like to underline the fact that none of them was in swinging when she joined us in a ffm. We knew all of them from our friends circle, we've been friends for years before becoming friends with benefits. I never initiated the approach but I entered and sustained their "mating dance" though. Plus, all of them knew about me being bi and that we're swingers and with all 4 of them was more than just a one night stand, with each of them ending up being in a kind of 3sum relationship. Every time she moved with us and we have lived together, all 3 of us, on average for about a year. At the end, when the relationship was over, with three of them we managed to remain close friends, without the benefit part of course, and we are close friends even today. With one of them things didn't worked out very well at the end and we haven't spoke since we braked up. Don't know if that would help, but that's how has worked for us..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met ladies in clubs, chatted to them as friends, got to know them and more importantly they have got to know us, our dynamics as a couple and can decide whether they feel it is something for themselves, not the other way around.

We find it important for ladies to know they aren't a plaything, that if they did wish to join us it would be for a full on threesome fun with no pressure at all.

It is far more difficult for single ladies to join a couple as it is 2 v 1 so they have to be confident that it's right and that they will enjoy themselves as much as the couple will.

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By *aughtydesiresCouple
over a year ago

North West


"We have met ladies in clubs, chatted to them as friends, got to know them and more importantly they have got to know us, our dynamics as a couple and can decide whether they feel it is something for themselves, not the other way around.

We find it important for ladies to know they aren't a plaything, that if they did wish to join us it would be for a full on threesome fun with no pressure at all.

It is far more difficult for single ladies to join a couple as it is 2 v 1 so they have to be confident that it's right and that they will enjoy themselves as much as the couple will. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello.

We have been swinging for a number of years and always try to find a bi single female to meet up with.

All we seem to find are fakes or female who arnt our cup of tea.

Then we come across couples have meet a few single females from there verifications.

What's the best way to meet a single female for fun as I really want to surprise Mr with a 3sum meet with a female. Xxx"

TBH as a single bi female that last sentence would make alarm bells ring for me, as would the header of your profile...

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"We have met ladies in clubs, chatted to them as friends, got to know them and more importantly they have got to know us, our dynamics as a couple and can decide whether they feel it is something for themselves, not the other way around.

We find it important for ladies to know they aren't a plaything, that if they did wish to join us it would be for a full on threesome fun with no pressure at all.

It is far more difficult for single ladies to join a couple as it is 2 v 1 so they have to be confident that it's right and that they will enjoy themselves as much as the couple will. "

As a single female, I often get messages to join a couple. It's very rare that in the first message, they even ask a question about what I'd like to happen. I usually get sent their fantasy and an invite. It also really peeves me if its suggested that it's done as a surprise or present for husband's birthday.

I'd recommend starting conversations with females by asking what they would like to get out of playing with a couple. That would make you stand out from a lot of messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have met ladies in clubs, chatted to them as friends, got to know them and more importantly they have got to know us, our dynamics as a couple and can decide whether they feel it is something for themselves, not the other way around.

We find it important for ladies to know they aren't a plaything, that if they did wish to join us it would be for a full on threesome fun with no pressure at all.

It is far more difficult for single ladies to join a couple as it is 2 v 1 so they have to be confident that it's right and that they will enjoy themselves as much as the couple will.

As a single female, I often get messages to join a couple. It's very rare that in the first message, they even ask a question about what I'd like to happen. I usually get sent their fantasy and an invite. It also really peeves me if its suggested that it's done as a surprise or present for husband's birthday.

I'd recommend starting conversations with females by asking what they would like to get out of playing with a couple. That would make you stand out from a lot of messages. "

I agree with the above comment, I find it's mostly messages about what the couple want, or treat for man. One couple the female just wanted her husband played with, I said no thanks. The couple I have arranged to meet I approached them. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have met ladies in clubs, chatted to them as friends, got to know them and more importantly they have got to know us, our dynamics as a couple and can decide whether they feel it is something for themselves, not the other way around.

We find it important for ladies to know they aren't a plaything, that if they did wish to join us it would be for a full on threesome fun with no pressure at all.

It is far more difficult for single ladies to join a couple as it is 2 v 1 so they have to be confident that it's right and that they will enjoy themselves as much as the couple will.

As a single female, I often get messages to join a couple. It's very rare that in the first message, they even ask a question about what I'd like to happen. I usually get sent their fantasy and an invite. It also really peeves me if its suggested that it's done as a surprise or present for husband's birthday.

I'd recommend starting conversations with females by asking what they would like to get out of playing with a couple. That would make you stand out from a lot of messages.

I agree with the above comment, I find it's mostly messages about what the couple want, or treat for man. One couple the female just wanted her husband played with, I said no thanks. The couple I have arranged to meet I approached them. XXX"

Basically, this!

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone


"Hello.

We have been swinging for a number of years and always try to find a bi single female to meet up with.

All we seem to find are fakes or female who arnt our cup of tea.

Then we come across couples have meet a few single females from there verifications.

What's the best way to meet a single female for fun as I really want to surprise Mr with a 3sum meet with a female. Xxx

TBH as a single bi female that last sentence would make alarm bells ring for me, as would the header of your profile..."

Indeed, i don't imagine any single ladies want to be someone's present

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have met ladies in clubs, chatted to them as friends, got to know them and more importantly they have got to know us, our dynamics as a couple and can decide whether they feel it is something for themselves, not the other way around.

We find it important for ladies to know they aren't a plaything, that if they did wish to join us it would be for a full on threesome fun with no pressure at all.

It is far more difficult for single ladies to join a couple as it is 2 v 1 so they have to be confident that it's right and that they will enjoy themselves as much as the couple will.

As a single female, I often get messages to join a couple. It's very rare that in the first message, they even ask a question about what I'd like to happen. I usually get sent their fantasy and an invite. It also really peeves me if its suggested that it's done as a surprise or present for husband's birthday.

I'd recommend starting conversations with females by asking what they would like to get out of playing with a couple. That would make you stand out from a lot of messages.

I agree with the above comment, I find it's mostly messages about what the couple want, or treat for man. One couple the female just wanted her husband played with, I said no thanks. The couple I have arranged to meet I approached them. XXX

Basically, this! "

I agree with this as well, I have been on here as a single female and felt the same, so hopefully we try to make sure any ladies we do have contact on here with aren't made to feel that its just about us, although we rarely do message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I now won't meet couples as I'm made to feel like a performing seal. Normally with a list of things I can't do with the male.

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By *rincesscaracoupleCouple
over a year ago

Saltburn


"Hello.

We have been swinging for a number of years and always try to find a bi single female to meet up with.

All we seem to find are fakes or female who arnt our cup of tea.

Then we come across couples have meet a few single females from there verifications.

What's the best way to meet a single female for fun as I really want to surprise Mr with a 3sum meet with a female. Xxx"

You won't as simple as that. Looking for the holy grail that doesn't exist here.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

There are countless threads in the archives offering generic advice, they're often aimed at single guys who can't meet , as you're now in the position of the single guy , happy reading and good luck.

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By *icknsuck2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Ives bay area

Thanks for your messages.

We will take on board your comments.

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello.

We have been swinging for a number of years and always try to find a bi single female to meet up with.

All we seem to find are fakes or female who arnt our cup of tea.

Then we come across couples have meet a few single females from there verifications.

What's the best way to meet a single female for fun as I really want to surprise Mr with a 3sum meet with a female. Xxx

You won't as simple as that. Looking for the holy grail that doesn't exist here. "

Absolute rubbish !

We've met lots and never once actively looked for them .

We put up a meet and sometimes say yes to meeting them and sometimes no . It depends what we sare looking for or what we fancy on a particular night .

We don't understand the whole elusive thing ....

And those single women who say they won't meet couples as they don't want to be performing seals - don't worry as neither do we want to meet you .

A meet , whoever it's with should always be as good for everyone involved . No one is more or less entitled than anyone else ..... Simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello.

We have been swinging for a number of years and always try to find a bi single female to meet up with.

All we seem to find are fakes or female who arnt our cup of tea.

Then we come across couples have meet a few single females from there verifications.

What's the best way to meet a single female for fun as I really want to surprise Mr with a 3sum meet with a female. Xxx

You won't as simple as that. Looking for the holy grail that doesn't exist here. "

It does exist, however to get the dynamic of a three way relationship where everyone is treated equally is very difficult to maintain...

However I have found that it's the younger couples that have the most trouble finding that one other as they tend to see the FFM as a) a challenge and b) as already mentioned a 'present' for the male of the relationship...

This is probably why they have no success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have met ladies in clubs, chatted to them as friends, got to know them and more importantly they have got to know us, our dynamics as a couple and can decide whether they feel it is something for themselves, not the other way around.

We find it important for ladies to know they aren't a plaything, that if they did wish to join us it would be for a full on threesome fun with no pressure at all.

It is far more difficult for single ladies to join a couple as it is 2 v 1 so they have to be confident that it's right and that they will enjoy themselves as much as the couple will. "

Agreed!! It's hard to find the right dynamics and a couple that you like both of them equally and they both like you, it's harder than you would think x

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By *icknsuck2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Ives bay area


"Hello.

We have been swinging for a number of years and always try to find a bi single female to meet up with.

All we seem to find are fakes or female who arnt our cup of tea.

Then we come across couples have meet a few single females from there verifications.

What's the best way to meet a single female for fun as I really want to surprise Mr with a 3sum meet with a female. Xxx

You won't as simple as that. Looking for the holy grail that doesn't exist here.

It does exist, however to get the dynamic of a three way relationship where everyone is treated equally is very difficult to maintain...

However I have found that it's the younger couples that have the most trouble finding that one other as they tend to see the FFM as a) a challenge and b) as already mentioned a 'present' for the male of the relationship...

This is probably why they have no success "

We have never said when speaking with single females anything about a present or anything along them lines.

We normally ask how she is and we both like your profile and pics and would love to chat.

Are you looking to meet with a couple?,

We are fully verifed and you more then welcome to contact any of the to prove we are genuine.

Xx

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We've found it quite common for single ladies come and join in at clubs.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

spend plenty of time chatting and really get to know them - some may be prepared to be a surprise for your fella but put yourself in their shoes -

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