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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Basically, I am after some feedback as to what I am doing wrong, or what I could be doing better. I always keep myself polite etc, unless someone elses profile suggests that they would like something a little more forward, but I get pretty much no responses. I do appreciate it though when someone responds, even to say no thanks!

I believe in honest as the best policy, and I am not 100% confident in the way I look, but that doesn't mean I am an unconfident person.

So what's wrong? I know that younger men aren't everyone's cup of tea, but am I anyone's cup of tea?

Any response is welcome, positive or negative, that's freedom of speech after all

Thanks all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u need to post this in the swingers chat maybe x

HTH

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

cant see you are doing anything wrong, plus you have had 2 meets so just stick with it

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

change the words 'fuck buddy'

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile starts off very nice (remove "fuck buddy" as View suggested) but then, towards the end it looks kinda negative and demanding which can put a few people off.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I detest the term fuck buddy and that would put me off a profile. You also claim to want to try your sub side but you appear very demanding...not compatible with being submissive I'd have thought.

Also I do find it strange "straight" men wishing to meet tv/ts: if you can't be honest with yourself...

Good luck though - someone for everyone here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey guys thank you Sooo much for taking the time to leave me some great feedback I really appreciate it.

What makes my profile come across negative and demanding?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I don't think it sounds demanding

Shouty capitals always put me off reading profiles though.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

well done for coming back and saying thank you.. many don't.

good luck and hope the new profile works for you.

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

profile looks fine to me

straight to the point as it should be

take a look at mine i dont have any problem and i am as straight to the point as your ever gonna get

inundated is a good word

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

are my pics off putting??

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

No,im not overly keen about the play pics but its your profile and you should put on it what you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey guys thank you Sooo much for taking the time to leave me some great feedback I really appreciate it.

What makes my profile come across negative and demanding?

"

Maybe negative and demanding were the wrong words!

As I said before, your profile starts off really good at selling you.... but towards the end it gets a bit... 'don't do this' and 'don't do that' and as Rugby mentioned, shouty capitals... they can put some people off!

As for your pictures, they look fine!

It's nice to see face pics on a profile ....I know, I know... we haven't got any lol!

Good luck (again!) x

Now I'm off to work on our profile because it starts off negative

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanx guys, i've put more pics on and took away the pics of me playing so fingers crossed i get sum action lol x

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

You're asking the wrong questions mate so the answers you get won't help you.

The questions you should be asking are:

Where and when is the next social?

How do I get on the list?

What swingers clubs are there near me?

The simple fact of the matter is that people (and this counts double for guys) who spend all their time hiding behind computer screens instead of getting out there and letting people get to know them are rarely successful - no matter how good the profile is.

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

forget swinger clubs (posers paradise)

DEFO forget socials total utter waste of time

i dont do either of those and my verifications speak for themselves nor do ANY of the peeps i know or have met so we cant all be wrong!

why am i successful if you can call it that??

Tell it like it is,

be down to earth

dont pretend to be something your not

make sure your pics are recent

if mailing a couple address it to BOTH of them

and dont think your doing a cpl a favour by meeting them single guys are ten a penny you need to stand out from the rest

trust me all the above works but forget the bullshit swinger clubs where trophy wives are paraded (nice eye candy no play lol) and socials are for the desperate(in my opinion that is)lol

PATIENCE!!

you will be fine mate

go get em!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont think your doing that bad 10 months and had a few meets .....lots of single men on here complain never having had 1 meet in 6 months....personaly honest straight forward profile best ....nice intro when messaging get sick of ey up fancy a shag ...but good luck anyeway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanx guys, i've put more pics on and took away the pics of me playing so fingers crossed i get sum action lol x "

Can I just say though, that its your profile. You have asked for advice, and people have very kindly given their opinion. You dont have to do what they say. It doesnt mean that those people who have commented will now play with you.

Advice is brilliant, but if you dont feel a particular piece of advice works for you, then leave it and do what you want.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"forget swinger clubs (posers paradise)

DEFO forget socials total utter waste of time

i dont do either of those and my verifications speak for themselves nor do ANY of the peeps i know or have met so we cant all be wrong!

why am i successful if you can call it that??

Tell it like it is,

be down to earth

dont pretend to be something your not

make sure your pics are recent

if mailing a couple address it to BOTH of them

and dont think your doing a cpl a favour by meeting them single guys are ten a penny you need to stand out from the rest

trust me all the above works but forget the bullshit swinger clubs where trophy wives are paraded (nice eye candy no play lol) and socials are for the desperate(in my opinion that is)lol

PATIENCE!!

you will be fine mate

go get em!!"

Socials are for the desperate?? I would respectfully disagree, suffice to say when I started swinging many moons ago nothing I did with my profile wored, however I went to my first social/party - got chatting to a few people, who later emailed me and told me about another social coming up. I attended that and met more people.

I progressively widened my contacts (admittedly Fabs was not my first site) and also got to learn about myself and the kind of people I prefer to interact with. Socials have worked for me just fine and I certainly don't class myself desperate.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"i dont think your doing that bad 10 months and had a few meets .....lots of single men on here complain never having had 1 meet in 6 months....personaly honest straight forward profile best ....nice intro when messaging get sick of ey up fancy a shag ...but good luck anyeway "

I agree - bearing in mind I wasn't a novice it still took me a year to get my first meet on Fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think socials are great fun, havent been to any on Fab but its a great way for people to get to know each other.

Trophy wives at swinging clubs .... people can do what they like at swinging clubs. They may go solely to parade around, they do not have to have sex with guys, its not obligatory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanx guys, i've put more pics on and took away the pics of me playing so fingers crossed i get sum action lol x

Can I just say though, that its your profile. You have asked for advice, and people have very kindly given their opinion. You dont have to do what they say. It doesnt mean that those people who have commented will now play with you.

Advice is brilliant, but if you dont feel a particular piece of advice works for you, then leave it and do what you want. "

*Nods in agreement*

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

If you were a single guy would you like to go to a swinger club just to watch eye candy or would you go there to fuck??

Swinging has many different facets as we all know but the parading the wife scenario but dont play is basically like putting a lit cigarette in front of a 30 a day smoker and saying dont inhale any!

anyway back on topic just be yaself is the main thing meets will come they always do


"I think socials are great fun, havent been to any on Fab but its a great way for people to get to know each other.

Trophy wives at swinging clubs .... people can do what they like at swinging clubs. They may go solely to parade around, they do not have to have sex with guys, its not obligatory. "

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"You're asking the wrong questions mate so the answers you get won't help you.

The questions you should be asking are:

Where and when is the next social?

How do I get on the list?

What swingers clubs are there near me

The simple fact of the matter is that people (and this counts double for guys) who spend all their time hiding behind computer screens instead of getting out there and letting people get to know them are rarely successful - no matter how good the profile is.

This advice is spot on!

"

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

socials may work for some but i wouldnt be caught dead..for one thing they are usually in VANILLA locations and i wouldnt want my sunday school teacher seeing me hanging out with mutton dressed as lamb and loads of guys gagging to get some tits and arse lol


"forget swinger clubs (posers paradise)

DEFO forget socials total utter waste of time

i dont do either of those and my verifications speak for themselves nor do ANY of the peeps i know or have met so we cant all be wrong!

why am i successful if you can call it that??

Tell it like it is,

be down to earth

dont pretend to be something your not

make sure your pics are recent

if mailing a couple address it to BOTH of them

and dont think your doing a cpl a favour by meeting them single guys are ten a penny you need to stand out from the rest

trust me all the above works but forget the bullshit swinger clubs where trophy wives are paraded (nice eye candy no play lol) and socials are for the desperate(in my opinion that is)lol

PATIENCE!!

you will be fine mate

go get em!!

Socials are for the desperate?? I would respectfully disagree, suffice to say when I started swinging many moons ago nothing I did with my profile wored, however I went to my first social/party - got chatting to a few people, who later emailed me and told me about another social coming up. I attended that and met more people.

I progressively widened my contacts (admittedly Fabs was not my first site) and also got to learn about myself and the kind of people I prefer to interact with. Socials have worked for me just fine and I certainly don't class myself desperate."

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"If you were a single guy would you like to go to a swinger club just to watch eye candy or would you go there to fuck??

Swinging has many different facets as we all know but the parading the wife scenario but dont play is basically like putting a lit cigarette in front of a 30 a day smoker and saying dont inhale any!

anyway back on topic just be yaself is the main thing meets will come they always do

I think socials are great fun, havent been to any on Fab but its a great way for people to get to know each other.

Trophy wives at swinging clubs .... people can do what they like at swinging clubs. They may go solely to parade around, they do not have to have sex with guys, its not obligatory. "

I think you have been going to the wrong clubs or you haven't been to one at all. Totally disagree with you! I know many successful swingers whether single guys/ single ladies or couple who attend socials but are all far from desperate. Maybe your your experience is more to do with poor social skills.

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

been to many

swinging for about 15 years now

talking from experience

social skills are perfectly fine thanks

topic isnt about me and no point attacking me as i didnt attack anyone

just straight forward advice to the guy who asked for it

wouldnt be caught DEAD at any social i swing to fuck not hang out and compare mobile phones and what skoda your going to buy next lmao


"If you were a single guy would you like to go to a swinger club just to watch eye candy or would you go there to fuck??

Swinging has many different facets as we all know but the parading the wife scenario but dont play is basically like putting a lit cigarette in front of a 30 a day smoker and saying dont inhale any!

anyway back on topic just be yaself is the main thing meets will come they always do

I think socials are great fun, havent been to any on Fab but its a great way for people to get to know each other.

Trophy wives at swinging clubs .... people can do what they like at swinging clubs. They may go solely to parade around, they do not have to have sex with guys, its not obligatory.

I think you have been going to the wrong clubs or you haven't been to one at all. Totally disagree with you! I know many successful swingers whether single guys/ single ladies or couple who attend socials but are all far from desperate. Maybe your your experience is more to do with poor social skills. "

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

If I were you I wouldnt take advice from some guy who barebacks all over the country and is obviously not the attractive ladies choice at parties. Just my opinion.

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

how do you know what i do and as for all over the country i have only listed where i am in the UK i travel worldwide lol didnt know that did you!

i,m tested all the time and have been every 3 weeks for the past ten years and i dont bareback all over the country at all and even if i did what the fuck would it have to do with you.

sucked a cock without a condom recently or eaten pussy bareback have you??

yet again another troll taking an innocent topic and turning it into bullshit


"If I were you I wouldnt take advice from some guy who barebacks all over the country and is obviously not the attractive ladies choice at parties. Just my opinion. "

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

Totally agree there some one loves himself tonight

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

wouldnt be you though would it lobby

what do you agree with no one said i loved myself

i guess everyone i know is wrong every verification i have they are all talking crap

i am on this thread trying to help the dude out not decend his thread into rubbish something your good at doing as everyone knows!


"Totally agree there some one loves himself tonight"

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

surely to help the guy out would be to give good advice, not basically slag the majority of the swinging scene and probably offend most of the members on here

whats gone so wrong in your perfect life thats made ya spit the dummy again?

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

in a one word answer to lord lobby himself

YOU!


"surely to help the guy out would be to give good advice, not basically slag the majority of the swinging scene and probably offend most of the members on here

whats gone so wrong in your perfect life thats made ya spit the dummy again?"

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

sorry i thought you did the slagging before i got here

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

read ALL of the posts you may learn something or nothing

i,m out


"sorry i thought you did the slagging before i got here"

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

to the OP.. you have got a lot of very good advice.. now it's upto you to make the most of it all and select what works for YOU.

good luck

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

well hope you calm down when you get back in

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm


"to the OP.. you have got a lot of very good advice.. now it's upto you to make the most of it all and select what works for YOU.

good luck"

good advice, take all the advice and try things for yourself some you may find you like and may work for you, others may not.

its trial and error but what ever you do enjoy and we wish you lots of fun and luck

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"to the OP.. you have got a lot of very good advice.. now it's upto you to make the most of it all and select what works for YOU.

good luck

good advice, take all the advice and try things for yourself some you may find you like and may work for you, others may not.

its trial and error but what ever you do enjoy and we wish you lots of fun and luck"

exactly...

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville

I'm sure the idea of socials is like networking. Get to know people, get contacts, advice and make friends. From there you may get invites for meets and parties.

I go to alot of house parties which is a good mixture of social and play.

Clubs are great! Loads of choice/safety and again social. Amazing fucking opportunities too if I can be so coarse. Lol

I don't do too bad for a troll!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Phew! lol Agree, should read all advice and take what you want onboard - hopefully from the more balanced individuals. Good luck. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were a single guy would you like to go to a swinger club just to watch eye candy or would you go there to fuck??

Swinging has many different facets as we all know but the parading the wife scenario but dont play is basically like putting a lit cigarette in front of a 30 a day smoker and saying dont inhale any!

"

Sorry I do not agree. Just because a single guy has gone there in the hope he has sex, and just because a woman chooses to dress up in sexy clothing, does not mean that the single guy is "entitled" to anything. A woman can dress how she pleases, she can walk around naked if she likes, she doesnt have to have sex with anyone there - women have choices now you know - we can say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were a single guy would you like to go to a swinger club just to watch eye candy or would you go there to fuck??

Swinging has many different facets as we all know but the parading the wife scenario but dont play is basically like putting a lit cigarette in front of a 30 a day smoker and saying dont inhale any!

"

And while we are on the subject of parading women around as eye candy for enticement - its only a small pic, but it looks like a female backside in your avatar - yet you state you are a man. So if it isnt you with a very feminine looking backside, dressed in womens lingerie - are you not enticing people to look at your profile by putting a sexy lady up as an avatar

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

open your eyes its a nice big juicy ass SAT on my dick if you cant see that you must of been wanking too much and going blind

my avatar is of no importance to this thread..any more crap you would like to add to it??


"If you were a single guy would you like to go to a swinger club just to watch eye candy or would you go there to fuck??

Swinging has many different facets as we all know but the parading the wife scenario but dont play is basically like putting a lit cigarette in front of a 30 a day smoker and saying dont inhale any!

And while we are on the subject of parading women around as eye candy for enticement - its only a small pic, but it looks like a female backside in your avatar - yet you state you are a man. So if it isnt you with a very feminine looking backside, dressed in womens lingerie - are you not enticing people to look at your profile by putting a sexy lady up as an avatar "

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

some times i wonder why a guy who knows this scene inside out would put up a stupid post your lucky if this was a year ago they would eaten you a live

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

ok keep your issues with other people away from the forums.

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