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"Hey guys thank you Sooo much for taking the time to leave me some great feedback I really appreciate it. What makes my profile come across negative and demanding? " Maybe negative and demanding were the wrong words! As I said before, your profile starts off really good at selling you.... but towards the end it gets a bit... 'don't do this' and 'don't do that' and as Rugby mentioned, shouty capitals... they can put some people off! As for your pictures, they look fine! It's nice to see face pics on a profile ....I know, I know... we haven't got any lol! Good luck (again!) x Now I'm off to work on our profile because it starts off negative | |||
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"thanx guys, i've put more pics on and took away the pics of me playing so fingers crossed i get sum action lol x " Can I just say though, that its your profile. You have asked for advice, and people have very kindly given their opinion. You dont have to do what they say. It doesnt mean that those people who have commented will now play with you. Advice is brilliant, but if you dont feel a particular piece of advice works for you, then leave it and do what you want. | |||
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"forget swinger clubs (posers paradise) DEFO forget socials total utter waste of time i dont do either of those and my verifications speak for themselves nor do ANY of the peeps i know or have met so we cant all be wrong! why am i successful if you can call it that?? Tell it like it is, be down to earth dont pretend to be something your not make sure your pics are recent if mailing a couple address it to BOTH of them and dont think your doing a cpl a favour by meeting them single guys are ten a penny you need to stand out from the rest trust me all the above works but forget the bullshit swinger clubs where trophy wives are paraded (nice eye candy no play lol) and socials are for the desperate(in my opinion that is)lol PATIENCE!! you will be fine mate go get em!!" Socials are for the desperate?? I would respectfully disagree, suffice to say when I started swinging many moons ago nothing I did with my profile wored, however I went to my first social/party - got chatting to a few people, who later emailed me and told me about another social coming up. I attended that and met more people. I progressively widened my contacts (admittedly Fabs was not my first site) and also got to learn about myself and the kind of people I prefer to interact with. Socials have worked for me just fine and I certainly don't class myself desperate. | |||
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"i dont think your doing that bad 10 months and had a few meets .....lots of single men on here complain never having had 1 meet in 6 months....personaly honest straight forward profile best ....nice intro when messaging get sick of ey up fancy a shag ...but good luck anyeway " I agree - bearing in mind I wasn't a novice it still took me a year to get my first meet on Fabs. | |||
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"thanx guys, i've put more pics on and took away the pics of me playing so fingers crossed i get sum action lol x Can I just say though, that its your profile. You have asked for advice, and people have very kindly given their opinion. You dont have to do what they say. It doesnt mean that those people who have commented will now play with you. Advice is brilliant, but if you dont feel a particular piece of advice works for you, then leave it and do what you want. " *Nods in agreement* | |||
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"I think socials are great fun, havent been to any on Fab but its a great way for people to get to know each other. Trophy wives at swinging clubs .... people can do what they like at swinging clubs. They may go solely to parade around, they do not have to have sex with guys, its not obligatory. " | |||
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"You're asking the wrong questions mate so the answers you get won't help you. The questions you should be asking are: Where and when is the next social? How do I get on the list? What swingers clubs are there near me The simple fact of the matter is that people (and this counts double for guys) who spend all their time hiding behind computer screens instead of getting out there and letting people get to know them are rarely successful - no matter how good the profile is. This advice is spot on! " | |||
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"forget swinger clubs (posers paradise) DEFO forget socials total utter waste of time i dont do either of those and my verifications speak for themselves nor do ANY of the peeps i know or have met so we cant all be wrong! why am i successful if you can call it that?? Tell it like it is, be down to earth dont pretend to be something your not make sure your pics are recent if mailing a couple address it to BOTH of them and dont think your doing a cpl a favour by meeting them single guys are ten a penny you need to stand out from the rest trust me all the above works but forget the bullshit swinger clubs where trophy wives are paraded (nice eye candy no play lol) and socials are for the desperate(in my opinion that is)lol PATIENCE!! you will be fine mate go get em!! Socials are for the desperate?? I would respectfully disagree, suffice to say when I started swinging many moons ago nothing I did with my profile wored, however I went to my first social/party - got chatting to a few people, who later emailed me and told me about another social coming up. I attended that and met more people. I progressively widened my contacts (admittedly Fabs was not my first site) and also got to learn about myself and the kind of people I prefer to interact with. Socials have worked for me just fine and I certainly don't class myself desperate." | |||
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"If you were a single guy would you like to go to a swinger club just to watch eye candy or would you go there to fuck?? Swinging has many different facets as we all know but the parading the wife scenario but dont play is basically like putting a lit cigarette in front of a 30 a day smoker and saying dont inhale any! anyway back on topic just be yaself is the main thing meets will come they always do I think socials are great fun, havent been to any on Fab but its a great way for people to get to know each other. Trophy wives at swinging clubs .... people can do what they like at swinging clubs. They may go solely to parade around, they do not have to have sex with guys, its not obligatory. " I think you have been going to the wrong clubs or you haven't been to one at all. Totally disagree with you! I know many successful swingers whether single guys/ single ladies or couple who attend socials but are all far from desperate. Maybe your your experience is more to do with poor social skills. | |||
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"If you were a single guy would you like to go to a swinger club just to watch eye candy or would you go there to fuck?? Swinging has many different facets as we all know but the parading the wife scenario but dont play is basically like putting a lit cigarette in front of a 30 a day smoker and saying dont inhale any! anyway back on topic just be yaself is the main thing meets will come they always do I think socials are great fun, havent been to any on Fab but its a great way for people to get to know each other. Trophy wives at swinging clubs .... people can do what they like at swinging clubs. They may go solely to parade around, they do not have to have sex with guys, its not obligatory. I think you have been going to the wrong clubs or you haven't been to one at all. Totally disagree with you! I know many successful swingers whether single guys/ single ladies or couple who attend socials but are all far from desperate. Maybe your your experience is more to do with poor social skills. " | |||
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"If I were you I wouldnt take advice from some guy who barebacks all over the country and is obviously not the attractive ladies choice at parties. Just my opinion. " | |||
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"Totally agree there some one loves himself tonight" | |||
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"surely to help the guy out would be to give good advice, not basically slag the majority of the swinging scene and probably offend most of the members on here whats gone so wrong in your perfect life thats made ya spit the dummy again?" | |||
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"to the OP.. you have got a lot of very good advice.. now it's upto you to make the most of it all and select what works for YOU. good luck" good advice, take all the advice and try things for yourself some you may find you like and may work for you, others may not. its trial and error but what ever you do enjoy and we wish you lots of fun and luck | |||
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"to the OP.. you have got a lot of very good advice.. now it's upto you to make the most of it all and select what works for YOU. good luck good advice, take all the advice and try things for yourself some you may find you like and may work for you, others may not. its trial and error but what ever you do enjoy and we wish you lots of fun and luck" exactly... | |||
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"If you were a single guy would you like to go to a swinger club just to watch eye candy or would you go there to fuck?? Swinging has many different facets as we all know but the parading the wife scenario but dont play is basically like putting a lit cigarette in front of a 30 a day smoker and saying dont inhale any! " Sorry I do not agree. Just because a single guy has gone there in the hope he has sex, and just because a woman chooses to dress up in sexy clothing, does not mean that the single guy is "entitled" to anything. A woman can dress how she pleases, she can walk around naked if she likes, she doesnt have to have sex with anyone there - women have choices now you know - we can say no. | |||
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"If you were a single guy would you like to go to a swinger club just to watch eye candy or would you go there to fuck?? Swinging has many different facets as we all know but the parading the wife scenario but dont play is basically like putting a lit cigarette in front of a 30 a day smoker and saying dont inhale any! " And while we are on the subject of parading women around as eye candy for enticement - its only a small pic, but it looks like a female backside in your avatar - yet you state you are a man. So if it isnt you with a very feminine looking backside, dressed in womens lingerie - are you not enticing people to look at your profile by putting a sexy lady up as an avatar | |||
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"If you were a single guy would you like to go to a swinger club just to watch eye candy or would you go there to fuck?? Swinging has many different facets as we all know but the parading the wife scenario but dont play is basically like putting a lit cigarette in front of a 30 a day smoker and saying dont inhale any! And while we are on the subject of parading women around as eye candy for enticement - its only a small pic, but it looks like a female backside in your avatar - yet you state you are a man. So if it isnt you with a very feminine looking backside, dressed in womens lingerie - are you not enticing people to look at your profile by putting a sexy lady up as an avatar " | |||
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