FabSwingers.com forum: Friends with benefits/fbs

By *arah-lou OP Woman
over a year ago

Kenilworth

Can someone please explain to me the difference between being in a 'proper'relationship, being friends with benefits and being fuck buddies. I'm very confused especially the distinction between fwb and fb?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me friends with benefits are people I would see socially and also sleep with. Fuck buds are only for sex.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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It's a bit of a sliding scale in my mind, and depends on how intense things are, how much time you give each other, how many strings are attached and how much emotion. If someone expects me to make them a priority in my life then that is a relationship IMO, even if it's an open one.

In general fwb would be guys you did more social stuff with, spent more time chatting to etc, but most of my fb's like to spend hours on the phone chatting to me and end up becoming friends even if we stop meeting for sex (eg 'cos of a relationship) - we just start going to gigs or dancing instead.

If we only meet for sex and don't go out together I still call them fb's though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Proper relationship - commiting oneself to a specific person because you care about them and want to be exclusively with them, both in and out of the bedroom.

Friends-with-Benefits - someone you have sex with, but are not in a committed relationship with them. You socialise with them out of the bedroom and do non-sexual stuff together.

Fuck Buddies - someone you just have sex with and don't socialise with outside the bedroom. Also know as a booty call lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Proper relationship - commiting oneself to a specific person because you care about them and want to be exclusively with them, both in and out of the bedroom.

Friends-with-Benefits - someone you have sex with, but are not in a committed relationship with them. You socialise with them out of the bedroom and do non-sexual stuff together.

Fuck Buddies - someone you just have sex with and don't socialise with outside the bedroom. Also know as a booty call lol. "

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By *layfulserfMan
over a year ago

Northolt

I would say if you met somebody of of here regularly just for sex or to attebd clubs with then he would be your fuck buddy.

If you were to also meet for meals,to go shopping,to the cinema or even share holidays then you would become friends with benefits.

If you were to become exclusive or to fall in love you would become boyfriend and girlfriend

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Trophy words for people that are shagging. Fb = shag fwb= shag + a bag of chips

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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago

Bristol Area

"I would say if you met somebody of of here regularly just for sex or to attend clubs with then he would be your fuck buddy.

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ooooh maybe it's closer to a wingman/wingwoman (with benefits)?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me friends with benefits are people I would see socially and also sleep with. Fuck buds are only for sex."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone please explain to me the difference between being in a 'proper'relationship, being friends with benefits and being fuck buddies. I'm very confused especially the distinction between fwb and fb?"

Fwb = meal , drinks , clubs with sex

FB = just sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I call mine regular or long term partners. With most we only speak to arrange to meet. I used to speak to one almost daily but that is fizzling out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 05/06/16 21:35:03]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck buddy is a booty call

FWB is a friend you do stuff with and also shag

That's my perception.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Proper relationship - commiting oneself to a specific person because you care about them and want to be exclusively with them, both in and out of the bedroom.

Friends-with-Benefits - someone you have sex with, but are not in a committed relationship with them. You socialise with them out of the bedroom and do non-sexual stuff together.

Fuck Buddies - someone you just have sex with and don't socialise with outside the bedroom. Also know as a booty call lol. "

Proper relationship = exclusive, so are those who swing but are in a relationship not in a proper relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Proper relationship = exclusive, so are those who swing but are in a relationship not in a proper relationship?"

Quite true, poor choice of words on my part. When I said proper relationship, I was talking in that instance about couples who don't swing. Would correct word for swinging couples be open relationship?

This is when labelling isnt appropriate at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus I was reiterating the terms used by OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trophy words for people that are shagging. Fb = shag fwb= shag + a bag of chips"

This cracked me up.

Seriously though, I agree with the general consensus of the thread.

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By *arah-lou OP Woman
over a year ago

Kenilworth

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By *arah-lou OP Woman
over a year ago

Kenilworth

So meeting for social stuff, meeting your family , chatting daily etc as well as meeting for sex would be what exactly?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"For me friends with benefits are people I would see socially and also sleep with. Fuck buds are only for sex."

That's how I see it too

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"So meeting for social stuff, meeting your family , chatting daily etc as well as meeting for sex would be what exactly? "

FWB

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"So meeting for social stuff, meeting your family , chatting daily etc as well as meeting for sex would be what exactly?

FWB"

Isn't that a relationship, once family are involved?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck buddy would be good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Proper relationship - commiting oneself to a specific person because you care about them and want to be exclusively with them, both in and out of the bedroom.

Friends-with-Benefits - someone you have sex with, but are not in a committed relationship with them. You socialise with them out of the bedroom and do non-sexual stuff together.

Fuck Buddies - someone you just have sex with and don't socialise with outside the bedroom. Also know as a booty call lol. "

Just about sums up what I was thinking. I have none of the first group currently. Three of the second. One of the third group.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"So meeting for social stuff, meeting your family , chatting daily etc as well as meeting for sex would be what exactly?

FWB

Isn't that a relationship, once family are involved?"

For me personally I'd say no. A relationship is when it has been agreed one is in a relationship. Just because they've met people doesn't make it a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So meeting for social stuff, meeting your family , chatting daily etc as well as meeting for sex would be what exactly?

FWB

Isn't that a relationship, once family are involved?"

No no no

Two of my FWB have met my sister...even to like they have been shopping together without me..... But that's not a relationship!

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"So meeting for social stuff, meeting your family , chatting daily etc as well as meeting for sex would be what exactly?

FWB

Isn't that a relationship, once family are involved?

No no no

Two of my FWB have met my sister...even to like they have been shopping together without me..... But that's not a relationship!"

How is it not? How is it different?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My fuck buddy is my left hand

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"So meeting for social stuff, meeting your family , chatting daily etc as well as meeting for sex would be what exactly?

FWB

Isn't that a relationship, once family are involved?

For me personally I'd say no. A relationship is when it has been agreed one is in a relationship. Just because they've met people doesn't make it a relationship.

Don't many people just slip knot a relationship? I have never said to someone, okay let's agree we are in a relationship, it just happens doesn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So meeting for social stuff, meeting your family , chatting daily etc as well as meeting for sex would be what exactly?

FWB

Isn't that a relationship, once family are involved?

No no no

Two of my FWB have met my sister...even to like they have been shopping together without me..... But that's not a relationship!

How is it not? How is it different?"

A relationship implies commitment of some kind. FWB if either party finds a relationship (other than a swinging one) then the sex part would likely stop. One of my FWB has atcleastvone FB that I know...but she doesn't socialise with him as he is married. Another one did have another FWB from here when I met her. So for a while she had at least two FWBs....currently she just has me...but could have others if the opportunity arose.

I have a FB who is married. Her hubby knows about me...but I don't socialise with her apart from a couple of parties and a few club visits in the past.

That's how I see it...and how they see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a fuck bud is someone you fuck friends with benefits is a fuck bud you got up the duff and is now claiming as a single parent

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Don't many people just slip knot a relationship? I have never said to someone, okay let's agree we are in a relationship, it just happens doesn't it?"

Not for me, and that's where a lot of people come a cropper, they think they have a relationship when actually they don't.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Just noticed my tablet turned slip into slip knot, was that a Freudian slip or what? I agree, but on the other hand, I think many people deny they are in a relationship when they actually are, it goes both ways ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Proper relationship - commiting oneself to a specific person because you care about them and want to be exclusively with them, both in and out of the bedroom.

Friends-with-Benefits - someone you have sex with, but are not in a committed relationship with them. You socialise with them out of the bedroom and do non-sexual stuff together.

Yep I'd agree with this

Fuck Buddies - someone you just have sex with and don't socialise with outside the bedroom. Also know as a booty call lol. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you have a friend with benefits that doesn't shag anyone else during the time that you're shagging, or is that too much to ask of someone that you aren't in a relationship with? I only want the odd shag sleepover on a weekend but don't want them shagging anyone else because they might get contaminated and I like cum inside me so need to trust someone to keep themself safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a very lovely lady on here and we became great friends and lovers. Sadly she passed away last year. We started out as fuck buddies, she would text me and say get yourself over here now lol. Over time this grew into a real relationship. And now that she is no longer with me, then there is a very big hole in my life. If you can have any sort of fun in life, that doesn't impact on anyone else then go for it and enjoy it xxx

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

"a fuck bud is someone you fuck friends with benefits is a fuck bud you got up the duff and is now claiming as a single parent

Get back in your tent and focus on puppets!! You're sounding pished now

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

"I met a very lovely lady on here and we became great friends and lovers. Sadly she passed away last year. We started out as fuck buddies, she would text me and say get yourself over here now lol. Over time this grew into a real relationship. And now that she is no longer with me, then there is a very big hole in my life. If you can have any sort of fun in life, that doesn't impact on anyone else then go for it and enjoy it xxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a fuck bud is someone you fuck friends with benefits is a fuck bud you got up the duff and is now claiming as a single parent

Get back in your tent and focus on puppets!! You're sounding pished now

i thought that my self when i read it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"So meeting for social stuff, meeting your family , chatting daily etc as well as meeting for sex would be what exactly?

FWB

Isn't that a relationship, once family are involved?

For me personally I'd say no. A relationship is when it has been agreed one is in a relationship. Just because they've met people doesn't make it a relationship.

Don't many people just slip knot a relationship? I have never said to someone, okay let's agree we are in a relationship, it just happens doesn't it?"
thats how its always been with me not something thats ever been discussed its just gone with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So meeting for social stuff, meeting your family , chatting daily etc as well as meeting for sex would be what exactly?

FWB

Isn't that a relationship, once family are involved?

No no no

Two of my FWB have met my sister...even to like they have been shopping together without me..... But that's not a relationship!

How is it not? How is it different?

I have a FB who is married. Her hubby knows about me...but I don't socialise with her apart from a couple of parties and a few club visits in the past.

That's how I see it...and how they see it."

I'm sure your fuck buddies don't mind you airing all their dirty laundry on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you have a friend with benefits that doesn't shag anyone else during the time that you're shagging, or is that too much to ask of someone that you aren't in a relationship with? I only want the odd shag sleepover on a weekend but don't want them shagging anyone else because they might get contaminated and I like cum inside me so need to trust someone to keep themself safe. "

I really don't want to br your inbox after this post

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"So meeting for social stuff, meeting your family , chatting daily etc as well as meeting for sex would be what exactly?

FWB

Isn't that a relationship, once family are involved?

No no no

Two of my FWB have met my sister...even to like they have been shopping together without me..... But that's not a relationship!

How is it not? How is it different?

I have a FB who is married. Her hubby knows about me...but I don't socialise with her apart from a couple of parties and a few club visits in the past.

That's how I see it...and how they see it.

I'm sure your fuck buddies don't mind you airing all their dirty laundry on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so where does just dating but not serious yet fit in

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Not sure I believe it happens

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"so where does just dating but not serious yet fit in

Dating is supposed to be the pre-amble to a relationship. I never really did any dating - in my youth we always started a relationship with sex lol!

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By *arah-lou OP Woman
over a year ago

Kenilworth

See we started as fb but over time - like 4 years, he gas met my family. I have been on holiday with him and his kids. We socialise and we fuck. He says it's not a relationship he says we're fwb.

We chat every day either text or phone and see each other twice a week?

What's the diagnosis?

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

"See we started as fb but over time - like 4 years, he gas met my family. I have been on holiday with him and his kids. We socialise and we fuck. He says it's not a relationship he says we're fwb.

We chat every day either text or phone and see each other twice a week?

What's the diagnosis?"

If it's not a relationship you could take a month break and not bother you. Sounds convenient for him rather than you to not use the r word ?

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