FabSwingers.com forum: ladies - playing but no orgasm??

By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i have been told i have to learn to control my orgasms and only cum when i am told to

this is very hard for me because when i have sex i give myself over completely and love nothing more than the feeling of cumming.

do any of you have any tips on how to stop myself having an orgasm without stopping play (the only way i can do it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think best way to do it is with one of you toys practise then when about to orgasm cut u self of and then keep going bk to you self and stopping it you body then will get used to taken longer to orgasm ..

I cnt help orgasming my self love one after other but think with a toy you can take u self to the limit then hold back gd luck

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By *inups99Couple
over a year ago

manchester

Can't imagine why you have to stop yourself from cumming?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Can't imagine why you have to stop yourself from cumming?"

cos i have been told to lol i have to learn to control it so i can cum when told to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and try and focus on other things other then sex then it will help you hold orgasm back 2

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"and try and focus on other things other then sex then it will help you hold orgasm back 2

thanks xx i have a lot of practicing to do i guess

ho-hum hard life hahaha

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By *eppersCouple
over a year ago

telford

Make a shopping list then try to remember your last shopping trip to supermarket then imagine everything you need and where is it in the store,if that dont halt your orgasm nowt will lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find I concentrate on how I'd feel if I failed... but I think only once I've been made to wait.. I can pretty much orgasm on my masters command though. In fact suggestion alone often has me doing so.

I can only ask. DO you have to wait for permission during sex??? If so what do you do then. Think of your master being disappointed... I know that helps me, when I've forgotten to ask to play.

I don't have to ask to cum once I have permission... good luck.... pleasing ones master isn't always easy, but so worth it.

KAtie x

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over a year ago

"i have been told i have to learn to control my orgasms and only cum when i am told to

Fuck that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't imagine why you have to stop yourself from cumming?

cos i have been told to lol i have to learn to control it so i can cum when told to"

And why would you allow yourself to be told what to do!!

I'd tell whoever it was to go forth and multiply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't imagine why you have to stop yourself from cumming?

cos i have been told to lol i have to learn to control it so i can cum when told to"

Oh forget that nonsense!!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

loving the acceptance on here thanks guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL

Orgasm & take the punishment like a man

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Aw - I don't think they get the Master bit of your relationship, evie. I personally can't help at all - I would have suggested Katie being your best bet for tips, but see she's already commented x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Aw - I don't think they get the Master bit of your relationship, evie. I personally can't help at all - I would have suggested Katie being your best bet for tips, but see she's already commented x"

lol thanks Pink, there have been some helpful suggestions on here and am going to put them into practise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Aw - I don't think they get the Master bit of your relationship, evie. I personally can't help at all - I would have suggested Katie being your best bet for tips, but see she's already commented x"

No your quite right didn't realise what eve was getting at.

Not my bag and if it were me I'd still tell whoever it was to go forth and multiply. But thats me.

Each to their own though.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Aw - I don't think they get the Master bit of your relationship, evie. I personally can't help at all - I would have suggested Katie being your best bet for tips, but see she's already commented x

No your quite right didn't realise what eve was getting at.

Not my bag and if it were me I'd still tell whoever it was to go forth and multiply. But thats me.

Each to their own though."

maybe i could have put it in there about having a Master to make it clearer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck to the OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a tough job Eve but perhaps focus on something else when the exquisite feelings are starting. I find if I clench my muscles a little it takes the edge off the impending orgasm. doesnt always work though - have a great time trying

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By *slandcplCouple
over a year ago

canvey island

Ohhh boy does this bring back memories of endless nights learning self control and I'm wondering if ladies can use the same

techniques as men? please let me know.

Some of the tips/methods have already been said such as taking your mind of things. However, the problem with this technique is that it doesn't always work. Another technique is to change the angle of penetration, even just slightly can give you breathing space to gather yourself again. I have found that I can change the angle over and over again which helps in keeping control. Also changing the rhythm helps and can take the urgency out of a fast approaching orgasm. This next method is hard to describe but it involves deep breathing and is a sort of mind over body control method. As I feel an orgasm start to build, I'm not sure if its the same in ladies but in myself it starts to build in the upper part of my pelvic region and moves down towards the base of me old chap making ready to send the we chaps on their way(if I wasn't a man made jaffa) lol. So I start to control my breathing, taking a few deep breaths I begin to imagine the orgasm moving back to the beginning of the build up. I use a combination of all these methods to stay in control and they do work for me not sure if they will for you but if you do try them I would be really interested to know.

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle

"i have been told i have to learn to control my orgasms and only cum when i am told to

this is very hard for me because when i have sex i give myself over completely and love nothing more than the feeling of cumming.

do any of you have any tips on how to stop myself having an orgasm without stopping play (the only way i can do it now

I think I'm with Katy on this one in terms of making sure you've got clear in your head why it matters to you that you can achieve this. It's about motivation. Jem and myself regularly explore similar areas of fun, and I enjoy it enormously. Judging by her status at the moment she finds it more of a trial sometimes but then that's the idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None from me im afraid as i dont orgasm but i would love to be able to control it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope I've understood what you're trying to achieve here, but I know when I've been in a similar situation the only way I managed to do it was by altering my perspective a little. Instead of giving in completely to the "orgasm" (which I love doing), I surrendered instead to the man in question.

From then on, I could relax and enjoy our play as we skated close to orgasm a lot. Being honest, there were times when I couldn't hold back any longer, but I think that was part of the point. lol

Also, Islandcpl's breathing/mind over matter technique is similar to what I've tried in the past and it can definitely work.

Hope that helps. And I'm sure you'll have fun trying anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't imagine why you have to stop yourself from cumming?

cos i have been told to lol i have to learn to control it so i can cum when told to"

easy

find a new man that dont make such daft demandes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have opposite not many men can make me cum. hard getting a guy to because it takes so long for me to cum x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure with practise you will manage it.. we have kinda done it the other way around.. where Master has had me learn to cum without any physical stimuli at all.. a suggestion, an image in my head.. and I will physically orgasm..

Not sure how I will be if told to not cum, when i am needing too.. although I am now learning to not play when asked..

THis morning I woke and didnt have permission and I woke with hands between my legs.. So I stopped.. as while I was asleep fine.. but once awake.. if I had carried on I would have breached the no play without permission order..

And yes Master wasnt there..and yes, Master would only know if I told him, but I would have known if I had carried on.. and I do not lie to my Master.. and that would have been lying if asked had I played without permission. So I stopped and asked and 4 hours later I was allowed to finish myself off..

Good luck to all those learning.. I am wondering how hard actually stopping an orgasm will be.. although I have had to during sex on the odd occassion..

and for slut in training.. do you have the same issues when doing it alone.. ?? and sometimes stopping orgasm can help make it easier.. if that makes sense..

Katie. x

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