FabSwingers.com forum: Is this a "friendly" forum

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As far as internet forums go?

I don't think it is. I'm on a few different ones, some football and a few others but as far as they go, I find this one pretty unwelcoming.

Why is this ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the attitude you have just displayed in the opening post ?

It hardly makes us warm to you

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

only one I use to be honest...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As far as internet forums go?

I don't think it is. I'm on a few different ones, some football and a few others but as far as they go, I find this one pretty unwelcoming.

Why is this ??

Its not but on other sites there is no benefit discouraging people. There are some who are not just rude but plain nasty at times. I think if you are seen as a threat for available females you are fair game for abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi AC .... I find it friendly. What's upset you ? C'mon tell Granny .... put your co.....head on my shoulder

n tell me all about it......x

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

we think this is far from friendly, opinions are peoples own choice, but many members prefer to argue and slag people who's opinions differ from thiers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums here are fab should go on some of the other swing sites then you would see , lol xx some lovely lovely people here and make most welcome xx

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"As far as internet forums go?

I don't think it is. I'm on a few different ones, some football and a few others but as far as they go, I find this one pretty unwelcoming.

Why is this ??

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I think it varies, the first poster who answers sets the benchmark most of the time, if they are nice others follow suit and vice versa, i can see how some people would think its unfriendly at times...stick around though it can be fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi AC .... I find it friendly. What's upset you ? C'mon tell Granny .... put your co.....head on my shoulder

n tell me all about it......x"

Granny, you're incorrigible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As far as internet forums go?

I don't think it is. I'm on a few different ones, some football and a few others but as far as they go, I find this one pretty unwelcoming.

Why is this ??

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which football one you on??????

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I truly find it friendly but as I previously stated I have never used another so nothing to compare with.

Sure it goes 'tits up' at times and more than often it could have been prevented if people stopped 'wanting to have the last word' and folks agreed to disagree. We will all have the widest differences of opinions and I certainly dont agree with some.. but I respect the difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like to talk to cocks.....sometimes they spit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Main reasons are the regular cliques and people who analyse any statement/or profile notes in minute detail hoping to pick a hole in things.

Lob in those with grievances against others and those making sanctimonious comments and you can see why people dont end up wanting to contribute.

You end up with stale forums where people dont feel they can contribute.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oooooof. I'm not answering that fucker now that you say that.

What are you're colours? Might dictate whether I delete my account and go into hiding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is a friendly place to be if you dont take it too seriously ......sometimes words written on a page can be misconstrued and you can get some flack for that (this has happened to me a few times ) but u have to let those times wash over u and move on ..as femme says stick around it can be fun .... and i have to say i was very grateful for the forums one very windy day when i thought i was gonna get blown away .....i was really scared but my fab friends were there metaphorically keeping me on the ground !!!!

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"but many members prefer to argue and slag people who's opinions differ from thiers."

Some people can’t help being confrontational p-)

Only those who don’t see the trap fall into it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i think i have this opinion because I first got into this by going on the chat sites of another popular site. The people were all great regardless of there age, size, orientation.

However i don't find this forum that way at all. men sometimes get a tough time for no real reason, and the old "rolling eyes" seems the norm on most threads.

Shame. I guess this could be the first interaction many have with the swinging before a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oooooof. I'm not answering that fucker now that you say that.

What are you're colours? Might dictate whether I delete my account and go into hiding

pppffft..it was a friendly question!!

.lol

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Main reasons are the regular cliques and people who analyse any statement/or profile notes in minute detail hoping to pick a hole in things.

Lob in those with grievances against others and those making sanctimonious comments and you can see why people dont end up wanting to contribute.

No offence but posts like this dont help. I presume you include yourself in the 2 above categories..

and again, no offence..

out of interest... which one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As far as internet forums go?

I don't think it is. I'm on a few different ones, some football and a few others but as far as they go, I find this one pretty unwelcoming.

Why is this ??

It is a bit of one of those suck it and sees but most of the time a lot of the contrived or orchestrated behaviour just sucks. But its pretty transparent to spot the disruptives and even easier to avoid them unless they insist in being in your face all of the time. But then that shows a neediness on their part to be seen by you.

If you need to have your comments acknowledged or want to feel 'loved' for want of a better word by everyone, then I don't know why anyone posts on a forum. It isnt the place to win friends and influence people - its just another degree of attraction of finding those who's presence you rub off and those who just rub you up the wrong way in my experience.

I hope you have fun posting for your own enjoyment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As far as internet forums go?

I don't think it is. I'm on a few different ones, some football and a few others but as far as they go, I find this one pretty unwelcoming.

Why is this ??

I think it's because (and I agree with you), most groups of people have something very specific in common that rides over differences - football, for instance. Video games, etc., etc.

This forum doesnt have that as "sex" is just too big to seen and used as a levelling factor.

Therefore we feel we have less in common with others and so less need to be maintain a level of dceency with them.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"Oooooof. I'm not answering that fucker now that you say that.

What are you're colours? Might dictate whether I delete my account and go into hiding

North East eh, black n white or red n white, spit it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame. I guess this could be the first interaction many have with the swinging before a meet. "

I do feel sorry for those that see the forum, then the site. We are the opposite, avid users of the site for a long time before discovering this.

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

"Main reasons are the regular cliques and people who analyse any statement/or profile notes in minute detail hoping to pick a hole in things.

Lob in those with grievances against others and those making sanctimonious comments and you can see why people dont end up wanting to contribute.

You end up with stale forums where people dont feel they can contribute."

and dont forget the people who always jump in on a thread cos they like to cause arguements

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I would. But if you're a poster on either of the main sites, a few questions here and there and your identity is wide open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never found the forums unfriendly. There are those that seem to be more argumenative than others but you soon learn who they are and take no notice. I found reading through old threads helped me as some use sarcasm as their form of humour and it takes a while to get used to it.

I have not found it that there are any cliques either. Yes there are those that have obviously been chatting for a long time and have met at socials so they have solid friendships but I have never felt excluded when I have joined in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame. I guess this could be the first interaction many have with the swinging before a meet.

I do feel sorry for those that see the forum, then the site. We are the opposite, avid users of the site for a long time before discovering this."

Have to agree. I used the site first too. Main aim is still to attract for sex. Most of my online connections are from PM and not from forum but Im a horses for courses type of person and everyone finds their comfort level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oooooof. I'm not answering that fucker now that you say that.

What are you're colours? Might dictate whether I delete my account and go into hiding

North East eh, black n white or red n white, spit it out

red n white ..spit spit spit

toon army barmy!

on a more rellevent note , was just asking to be friendly as he uses teamtalks forum!

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"and dont forget the people who always jump in on a thread cos they like to cause arguements"

You’re obviously having a pop at someone

Now let me think, who can it be!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

as always... if people spend more time looking at their own behaviours rather than always commenting on others, it would certainly be friendlier.

if people have a shitty day at work, then come on the forums spoiling for a fight.. it will kick off.. and both are as guilty.

as always, if you disagree.. don't make it personal, just move on.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"Oooooof. I'm not answering that fucker now that you say that.

What are you're colours? Might dictate whether I delete my account and go into hiding

North East eh, black n white or red n white, spit it out

red n white ..spit spit spit

toon army barmy!

on a more rellevent note , was just asking to be friendly as he uses teamtalks forum!"

Shut it you two!

feckin barcodes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far on this thread I can only see 2 negative posters.

That should give you some idea AC of the type of people to avoid.

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

"and dont forget the people who always jump in on a thread cos they like to cause arguements

You’re obviously having a pop at someone

Now let me think, who can it be!

me never just a general observation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oooooof. I'm not answering that fucker now that you say that.

What are you're colours? Might dictate whether I delete my account and go into hiding

North East eh, black n white or red n white, spit it out

red n white ..spit spit spit

toon army barmy!

on a more rellevent note , was just asking to be friendly as he uses teamtalks forum!

Shut it you two!

feckin barcodes.

OMG the first time this season the great unwashed have piped up!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

that's ok then. opposite sides

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So far on this thread I can only see 2 negative posters.

That should give you some idea AC of the type of people to avoid. "

us and funky are ok really!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as always... if people spend more time looking at their own behaviours rather than always commenting on others, it would certainly be friendlier.

if people have a shitty day at work, then come on the forums spoiling for a fight.. it will kick off.. and both are as guilty.

as always, if you disagree.. don't make it personal, just move on. "

Ive seen a couple of comments from people who say their response depends on their mood of the day as if they're proud and somehow their honesty of having a bad hair day somehow excuses their crass behaviour. Nobody can be expected to mind read someones mood can they? Negativity is never as infectious as the days when everyones being as daft as a brush those types of threads are palpable with happiness and high jinx.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"So far on this thread I can only see 2 negative posters.

That should give you some idea AC of the type of people to avoid.

us and funky are ok really!!!"

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"as always... if people spend more time looking at their own behaviours rather than always commenting on others, it would certainly be friendlier.

if people have a shitty day at work, then come on the forums spoiling for a fight.. it will kick off.. and both are as guilty.

as always, if you disagree.. don't make it personal, just move on.

I agree... if people can't seperate them, the crappy day and an evening on the forums pitching in the right frame of mind... best avoid it for the evening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So far on this thread I can only see 2 negative posters.

That should give you some idea AC of the type of people to avoid.

us and funky are ok really!!!"

I never meant you fishnetfanwah ! or funkyass...

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"me never just a general observation"

Continuous negativity is not healthy

The choice is yours, you have the freedom to create a thread of your choice

Sitting on the sidelines for to long could result in piles

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

"me never just a general observation

Continuous negativity is not healthy

The choice is yours, you have the freedom to create a thread of your choice

Sitting on the sidelines for to long could result in piles

My just do one tonight if i could be think of anything that wouldnt get hijacked by self opinionated people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"me never just a general observation

Continuous negativity is not healthy

The choice is yours, you have the freedom to create a thread of your choice

Sitting on the sidelines for to long could result in piles

My just do one tonight if i could be think of anything that wouldnt get hijacked by self opinionated people"

With a bit of luck 'they' might be out on a hot meet tonight..... so thats wishful thinking from you and ridiculous thinking from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's my evening planned then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So far on this thread I can only see 2 negative posters.

That should give you some idea AC of the type of people to avoid.

us and funky are ok really!!!

I never meant you fishnetfanwah ! or funkyass..."

oooh good,your so lovable xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As far as internet forums go?

I don't think it is. I'm on a few different ones, some football and a few others but as far as they go, I find this one pretty unwelcoming.

Why is this ??

Forums are what you make them....

If you choose to see them as unfriendly, they are unfriendly.

If you choose to see them as friendly, they are friendly.

If you take them too seriously, you might have a problem with self confidence and suffer from certain levels of paranoia.

I find this forum very friendly... because there are some seriously friendly forumites on here and mainly give those sort of folk my attention... they fookin hate it, but that's their problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As far as internet forums go?

I don't think it is. I'm on a few different ones, some football and a few others but as far as they go, I find this one pretty unwelcoming.

Why is this ??

Forums are what you make them....

If you choose to see them as unfriendly, they are unfriendly.

If you choose to see them as friendly, they are friendly.

If you take them too seriously, you might have a problem with self confidence and suffer from certain levels of paranoia.

I find this forum very friendly... because there are some seriously friendly forumites on here and mainly give those sort of folk my attention... they fookin hate it, but that's their problem

^^^^ agreed x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

surely the forums are what YOU make of them, there are some on here that i just have to ignore cos yu know they are baiting for a fight

if you are a happy person and ost happy things you will get happy responses (most of the time). behaviour breeds behaviour

yes sometimes your personal mood comes out - i have had to cancel many posts cos i have been in an arse and have been grouchy lol and i have had some rather interesting responses to innocent responses i have put cos they have had a bad day

keep on posting OP (mainly cos i like ya pic) but post happy non whinging threads cos they are better to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As far as internet forums go?

I don't think it is. I'm on a few different ones, some football and a few others but as far as they go, I find this one pretty unwelcoming.

Why is this ??

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if you find that then your on the rong place

this is a very friendly forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i try be nice to all on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i try be nice to all on here x"

You'd better or it will be taken off tut tut Jac lol x

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

"me never just a general observation

Continuous negativity is not healthy

The choice is yours, you have the freedom to create a thread of your choice

Sitting on the sidelines for to long could result in piles

My just do one tonight if i could be think of anything that wouldnt get hijacked by self opinionated people

With a bit of luck 'they' might be out on a hot meet tonight..... so thats wishful thinking from you and ridiculous thinking from me

mm hot date whats one of those?

Janelle dont plan round me im unreliable hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I knew it bloody timewaster lol

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

"I knew it bloody timewaster lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

havent been on long on forums but find some nice plesent people ,u only join in what you want to and at end day dnt take it serious .....people wnt give attention to one person its forum to be shared and have laugh joke ,get help with things .

lifes 2 short to complain or take things to heart .

hang round post have laugh u see real nice people for what they r .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel those on here that complain about the forums and cliques and bullied need to develop thicker skins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it varies, the first poster who answers sets the benchmark most of the time, if they are nice others follow suit and vice versa, i can see how some people would think its unfriendly at times...stick around though it can be fun

I think Femme is spot on. At times it can be unfriendly and sometimes people will attack for absolutely no reason at all. I think the opening post from the OP was an interesting question and its a good thread, yet the very first post on it was "unfriendly" and I dont think it was warranted.

If people are in a particularly vicious mood they go in for the kill, almost like a blood sport lol (slight over-exaggeration there). I get sick of typing, in my own opinion.

Of course we all have our off days and mood swings play a big part too. But I love this forum, and I enjoy the _iewpoints of the majority of people who post

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"Main reasons are the regular cliques and people who analyse any statement/or profile notes in minute detail hoping to pick a hole in things.

Lob in those with grievances against others and those making sanctimonious comments and you can see why people dont end up wanting to contribute.

You end up with stale forums where people dont feel they can contribute."

We more or less agree with that...we have both posted here regularly for about a year and still often feel like outsiders...

We find the 'regulars' will often totally disregard our comments (or other newbies) with a 'dont know them, wont read it move on' attitude..and then comment on something with more or less the same content thats from another 'regular'..

And we have often observed the situation where someone new starts a thread with a genuine gripe..and gets shouted down or the problem is brushed aside as being trivial..the normal reaction is 'thats life' 'move on' 'get on with it'...but when one of the crowd have a moan...their friends all join in in support and sympathy..

But..as for unfriendly..im not so sure..the people here all seem nice and genuine..

In summary Id would say friendly..but unwelcoming. (in some instances)

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

And......(In the absences of an 'edit post' button).., if you really want to experience unfriendliness...try joining in or starting a conversation in the chatrooms...unless you have your boobs out you can forget it!....the in crowd will just steam roller everything in their path while they have their chat.

As forums go though...this place is still full of interesting and fun personalities..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the chatrooms did try when I 1st got on here I concluded it's full of idiots. Never ventured again

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here I said hello to everyone and good evening. Naff all so I thought fook ya never gone in again. Not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried the chatrooms when I first started. At first I said hello a few times (about 6) then I moved onto hello all how are you, then I posted comments in relation to what was being said in there, all to no avail. I refrained from typing the words "answer me you ignorant bastards" as I didnt want to get banned or appear rude. I guess you have to get your tits out and then say hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not keen on the chatrooms either they need a bigger dialogue box so the text doesnt disappear before you get a chance to read it.

Great thing about the forums is the PM feature I love the mails that pass to and fro as its a one on one with a debate about the forum subjects so a win win situation of hearing a _iewpoint directly, especially from those who don't post openly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mind i do find the chat rooms unfriendly unless you play on cam no one talks to you .....even in the none direct rooms .

hence why i dnt go in often and use mail side or forums

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

do i think this is friendly.... let put it this way.... there are a lot more harsh places...

I think the one thing about this place is that we don't tend to suffer fools gladly.... if you have something to contribute and don't act like an arse, they you'll tend to be find..

what you don't tend to see is a lot of people being spoonfed there there there and they can be mistaken for unfriendly...

people are always very quick to use the word "clique"... i always look at this place something akin to a pub....

people will know people on different levels... you wouldn't expect to go into a pub on visit one and every to treat you like they had known you for years....

people come.... people go... but without the regulars so to speak you wouldn't have half the fun you would do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not have participated in the forums as much as I have if I do not find them friendly.

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I like chat - and can quite happily chat in there without cam on or fully clothed with cam on - but there are quite a few people in there that I 'know' to have a craic with without flashing my boobs

The forums can appear cliquey at times - but it's as _abio said "look at this place something akin to a pub...." There are a couple of posters who always seem to want to start an argument - I just ignore those, same as I'd ignore similar in a pub.

Overall I find the forums fun - and I'm also one of those who used the site first and then found the forums.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

ive only been using the forums for a few weeks now, i reply to ones that catch my eye and leave those i have no interest. i have found most peeps on it are friendly, even sent mail to person by mistake when a thread had closed and sent message to apoligise and it was accepted with no problem, as for cliques, some people have known each other a long time and have got to know each other and some may even be good friends, but you will get that no matter where you are whether it be at work, social club etc You get out of it what you put into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would not have participated in the forums as much as I have if I do not find them friendly.

Nor me Pearl x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some really good posts here, I particularly like the one from CamSwing 2011.

My _iew is that I don't believe you can generalise for everyone and say the forum is friendly or unfriendly, your opinion whichever you choose to have is correct because it reflects your experiences. This is a horrible environment for some people, a great laugh for others and to the majority of members it's probably a waste of time!

But I do believe it actually reflects society in it's own way. Any pub, bar or social event you go to will have the 'in crowd', the show offs, the hanger onners, the nice friendly people, the quiet people, the loudmouths, the bullies, the rude etc.

Wherever you go there's always a loud table, a quiet table, there's always a weak bloke agreeing with everything a women says because he wants into her knickers.

I just think it is what it is at the end of the day and just llike in real life you can either choose to sit on the noisy table or have polite or stimulating conversation with someone on the sidelines.

I think threads like this are great now and then because they remind some on the noisy table that they're not the only ones in the pub!

(Im rambling on, blame it in the red wine!)

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over a year ago

"Some really good posts here, I particularly like the one from CamSwing 2011.

Wherever you go there's always a loud table, a quiet table, there's always a weak bloke agreeing with everything a women says because he wants into her knickers.

I think threads like this are great now and then because they remind some on the noisy table that they're not the only ones in the pub!

(Im rambling on, blame it in the red wine!) "

Eloquent and beautifully stated.

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over a year ago

"Some really good posts here, I particularly like the one from CamSwing 2011.

Wherever you go there's always a loud table, a quiet table, there's always a weak bloke agreeing with everything a women says because he wants into her knickers.

I think threads like this are great now and then because they remind some on the noisy table that they're not the only ones in the pub!

(Im rambling on, blame it in the red wine!)

Eloquent and beautifully stated. "

Just imagine what he would have written without the wine!

Well said indeed sir!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do i think this is friendly.... let put it this way.... there are a lot more harsh places...

I think the one thing about this place is that we don't tend to suffer fools gladly.... if you have something to contribute and don't act like an arse, they you'll tend to be find...."

I agree with much of what you've said Fabio, but I will say that some of it also highlights the issues some on here complain about 'we don't suffer fools gladly', who's 'we', or do you mean 'I'?

Your version of a fool might just fall into someone elses version of a naive person.

Define 'acting like an arse' would we all have the same definition?....and for it to be a contribution does it need to be at least close to our argument?

I'm purposely being pedantic, I find you personally to be very tolerant, but I can see how a newbie or someone who feels on the outside may percieve a 'clique'.

For the record, I don't think there is one.

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over a year ago

"I feel those on here that complain about the forums and cliques and bullied need to develop thicker skins. "

Why?

Why should someone change the way they are just because they are joining in on a forum?

Sometimes people do go to far and it does get really ugly and personal,ive seen it many times on here and yes sometimes it is bullying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops....second bottle!

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

"Oops....second bottle!"

i want some of what your drinking

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I feel those on here that complain about the forums and cliques and bullied need to develop thicker skins.

Why?

Why should someone change the way they are just because they are joining in on a forum?

Sometimes people do go to far and it does get really ugly and personal,ive seen it many times on here and yes sometimes it is bullying."

yup..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi,

I've only really started posting on the forums this month so hopefully I'll have something worthwhile to say.

There are some absolutely fantastic people on here who have been really friendly, encouraging and helpful.

Yeah, I've had one or two rude replies, but literally only one or two, and I think you're going to get that anywhere.

Like someone else said, it can be easy to misconstrue a written comment. And people tend to see the bad side of things if - for example - they're on a swingers site and no one wants to meet them.

Lastly - a clique? I don't see it that way. There are people who obviously know each other quite well and have personal jokes, but whenever I've joined in I've been included and I think I'm slowly getting to know a few people.

Hope that helps

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

When I first saw this thread I was tempted to answer with.........

" don't be stupid of course it is friendly on here now bog off if you don't like it !" .....But I thought Admin might be overwhelmed with the reports if they thought I was serious so I thought better of it

I think Blackspice's post was a gooden though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oops....second bottle!

i want some of what your drinking

Me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As far as internet forums go?

I don't think it is. I'm on a few different ones, some football and a few others but as far as they go, I find this one pretty unwelcoming.

Why is this ??

Stay a bit longer you will find some really friendly and fun people on the forums as well as those who like to stir.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As far as internet forums go?

I don't think it is. I'm on a few different ones, some football and a few others but as far as they go, I find this one pretty unwelcoming.

Why is this ??

some people on here can be pretty rude, i get a few snotty private messages on here from people who have dis agreed with something ive posted

I find lots on here only seem to come on to rip other peoples profiles and posts apart, more so new people, you see small groups of people who are obviously friends and if one has a pop at someone all their 'mates' come and have a poke too

What annoys me the most is people with their eye rolling emotocons and sarky "use the search button" comments to anyone who dares ask a question thats been asked before, i mean if thats how it works, your not allowed to ask a question someone else has asked, we may as well lock off the forums and just search everything

I find some people can me pretty unwelcoming on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of all the forums I've used, regardless of topic, e.g. sport, cars etc I don't think its the most friendly or welcoming.

I imagine without reading too many of the replies above, this kind of comment will be followed by a "you have a bad attitude" or "well post somewhere else" etc, but its a general answer to a general question - before anyone pops their top.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Join a clique and stop moaning ffs!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Join a clique and stop moaning ffs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

after what i have just had, erm nope this is not very friendly at all. Seems to me the nasty people far out number the nice people.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"after what i have just had, erm nope this is not very friendly at all. Seems to me the nasty people far out number the nice people."

I read your thread dude and knew it was firmly tongue in cheek...

onwards and upwards...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"after what i have just had, erm nope this is not very friendly at all. Seems to me the nasty people far out number the nice people."

I've seen it. That sort of behaviour is inexcusable.... this is an 'adult' website. I can't believe 'adults' can act that way

Fucking disgraceful.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"after what i have just had, erm nope this is not very friendly at all. Seems to me the nasty people far out number the nice people."

Blackspice made a great post earlier but he failed to mention the spaz table, where I and a few like minded individuals sit at, you're more than welcome on it mate.

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

"after what i have just had, erm nope this is not very friendly at all. Seems to me the nasty people far out number the nice people.

Blackspice made a great post earlier but he failed to mention the spaz table, where I and a few like minded individuals sit at, you're more than welcome on it mate."

I dont like that table...the crayons taste funny

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"after what i have just had, erm nope this is not very friendly at all. Seems to me the nasty people far out number the nice people.

Blackspice made a great post earlier but he failed to mention the spaz table, where I and a few like minded individuals sit at, you're more than welcome on it mate."

it is sunny and warm and giggly in our world...

oops.. meds time.. brb

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

"after what i have just had, erm nope this is not very friendly at all. Seems to me the nasty people far out number the nice people.

Blackspice made a great post earlier but he failed to mention the spaz table, where I and a few like minded individuals sit at, you're more than welcome on it mate.

I dont like that table...the crayons taste funny

yeah and we will only sit on if we can be head of table once a week

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"after what i have just had, erm nope this is not very friendly at all. Seems to me the nasty people far out number the nice people.

Blackspice made a great post earlier but he failed to mention the spaz table, where I and a few like minded individuals sit at, you're more than welcome on it mate.

I dont like that table...the crayons taste funny

Erm those weren't crayons those were droppings from my pet rabbit Roadkill.

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

You fooooker !! lol

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"after what i have just had, erm nope this is not very friendly at all. Seems to me the nasty people far out number the nice people.

Blackspice made a great post earlier but he failed to mention the spaz table, where I and a few like minded individuals sit at, you're more than welcome on it mate.

I dont like that table...the crayons taste funny

yeah and we will only sit on if we can be head of table once a week"

It's the spaz table it has no head!

The Spaz table is an ancient round table and all that sit at it are equal. We recant tales of our noble quests and nibble on rabbit shit.

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over a year ago

Heads up you spaz's I'm bring a round of drinks..... don't worry the glasses are plastic and there's no alcohol in the vimto...not cheeky at all.

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

"Heads up you spaz's I'm bring a round of drinks..... don't worry the glasses are plastic and there's no alcohol in the vimto...not cheeky at all. "

yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Chimp boy grab ya bib

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gosh this has to be a first - no liberals have taken pique about the word spaz being used in mirth..... could this be the end of political correctness? I fucken well hope so.

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over a year ago

"Gosh this has to be a first - no liberals have taken pique about the word spaz being used in mirth..... could this be the end of political correctness? I fucken well hope so.

What does spaz mean?

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"Heads up you spaz's I'm bring a round of drinks..... don't worry the glasses are plastic and there's no alcohol in the vimto...not cheeky at all.

yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Chimp boy grab ya bib

Hmmmmm Iggle Piggle, Spider-Man or Upsy Daisy!?

No!

I'm going old school! To the Clangers bib, there's not a moment to lose!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....step away from those sharp crayons monkey boy......

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

"....step away from those sharp crayons monkey boy......"

He's lost it.

..its bloody vimto not green soup

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"....step away from those sharp crayons monkey boy......

He's lost it.

..its bloody vimto not green soup

Theoretically there are no such things as sharp crayons. Just slightly pointy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most are fine, but I find the majority stick to their pet names and in jokes a lot of the time.

Chat is ten times worse though!

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over a year ago

"Main reasons are the regular cliques and people who analyse any statement/or profile notes in minute detail hoping to pick a hole in things.

Lob in those with grievances against others and those making sanctimonious comments and you can see why people dont end up wanting to contribute.

You end up with stale forums where people dont feel they can contribute."

Yep they deffo need a 'like' button in these forums cos I totally agree with this post!

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

What annoys me the most is people with their eye rolling emotocons and sarky "use the search button" comments to anyone who dares ask a question thats been asked before,

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over a year ago

What annoys me the most is people with their eye rolling emotocons and sarky "use the search button" comments to anyone who dares ask a question thats been asked before,

You just couldn't help yourself, could you?

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

What annoys me the most is people with their eye rolling emotocons and sarky "use the search button" comments to anyone who dares ask a question thats been asked before,

You just couldn't help yourself, could you?

It was begging!! lol

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

on the whole... a very good thread.

some very valid points that we can all learn from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I particularly liked the part where the OP lost interest in the thread and buggered off to take up the zillions of propositions he's obviously received!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Yep I particularly liked the part where the OP lost interest in the thread and buggered off to take up the zillions of propositions he's obviously received!

you noticed too..

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over a year ago

"Yep I particularly liked the part where the OP lost interest in the thread and buggered off to take up the zillions of propositions he's obviously received!

you noticed too..

Oh! I missed that bit... does anyone mind if I rewind?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Yep I particularly liked the part where the OP lost interest in the thread and buggered off to take up the zillions of propositions he's obviously received!

you noticed too..

Oh! I missed that bit... does anyone mind if I rewind?

fire in xx don't stand on ceremony

enjoy x

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over a year ago

"Yep I particularly liked the part where the OP lost interest in the thread and buggered off to take up the zillions of propositions he's obviously received!

you noticed too..

Oh! I missed that bit... does anyone mind if I rewind?

fire in xx don't stand on ceremony

enjoy x"

I don't stand on celery either... its a little bit stringy.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

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i like the sarcasm,the sanctimonious,the cheeky,the people who come in after a bad day,and give it to everybody.

the self opinionated,the argumentative,

the clique's.the patronising.

the bullies,the rate my profilers,the look at me's,the i can stick my cock up own arse guy.

the funny,the nice,the helpful.the d*unk weekenders,the mods(bastards).

how boring,and pointless,would the forums be.without all these people.

i can imagine nothing worse,forums wise.

than everybody being agreeable,and sycophantic.

VIVE LA DIFFERENCE!!!!

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over a year ago

"Main reasons are the regular cliques and people who analyse any statement/or profile notes in minute detail hoping to pick a hole in things.

Lob in those with grievances against others and those making sanctimonious comments and you can see why people dont end up wanting to contribute.

You end up with stale forums where people dont feel they can contribute.

Yep they deffo need a 'like' button in these forums cos I totally agree with this post!"

just press on the happy face?

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over a year ago

"i like the sarcasm,the sanctimonious,the cheeky,the people who come in after a bad day,and give it to everybody.

the self opinionated,the argumentative,

the clique's.the patronising.

the bullies,the rate my profilers,the look at me's,the i can stick my cock up own arse guy.

the funny,the nice,the helpful.the d*unk weekenders,the mods(bastards).

how boring,and pointless,would the forums be.without all these people.

i can imagine nothing worse,forums wise.

than everybody being agreeable,and sycophantic.

VIVE LA DIFFERENCE!!!!

fankoo fer mentioning us, unlike some people who have a lot of bubbles in their bath.

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over a year ago

"Yep I particularly liked the part where the OP lost interest in the thread and buggered off to take up the zillions of propositions he's obviously received!

you noticed too..

Oh! I missed that bit... does anyone mind if I rewind?

fire in xx don't stand on ceremony

enjoy x

I don't stand on celery either... its a little bit stringy."

well that's a turnip for the books.

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over a year ago

"Yep I particularly liked the part where the OP lost interest in the thread and buggered off to take up the zillions of propositions he's obviously received!

you noticed too..

Oh! I missed that bit... does anyone mind if I rewind?

fire in xx don't stand on ceremony

enjoy x

I don't stand on celery either... its a little bit stringy.

well that's a turnip for the books."

I feel we may be getting into a bit of a stew......

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