FabSwingers.com forum: Enabling cheating? Or not?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Was thinking about this the other day and personally i don't think I would enable someone to cheat if I knew there partner didn't know they swing.

However if the person wasn't truthful honest about being a relationship or that there partner does know. Then I wouldn't of know I was enabling them to cheat.

So would you guys sleep with someone knowing there partner doesnt know or would you say no thank you?

Each to there own in this discussion, I have wanted to sleep with some people in a relationship but never had due to moral reasoning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you enable people? Is there a button?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you enable people? Is there a button?"

Ahah. Like if a women/man wanted to sleep

With you but you knew there partner didn't know they was sleeping around. Sleeping with them in my eyes would be enabling them to cheat.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Wow

Didn't you get your answer on any og your previous 3 threads?

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow

Didn't you get your answer on any og your previous 3 threads?

Mr ddc"

I'm glad you said it

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Wow

Didn't you get your answer on any og your previous 3 threads?

Mr ddc

I'm glad you said it

I was left speechless by the others, so I thought I'd better get in early on this one!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wow

Didn't you get your answer on any og your previous 3 threads?

Mr ddc"

This thread isn't regarding what was discussed in my other thread as that was about me not sleeping with a married women with a child.

This thread is to dicuss if you would ever sleep with someone that was in a relationship but there partner didn't know they swing etc. In other words allowing them to cheat on there other half.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow

Didn't you get your answer on any og your previous 3 threads?

Mr ddc

I'm glad you said it

I was left speechless by the others, so I thought I'd better get in early on this one!

Do you want a drumstick squashie?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wow

Didn't you get your answer on any og your previous 3 threads?

Mr ddc

I'm glad you said it

I was left speechless by the others, so I thought I'd better get in early on this one!

Do you want a drumstick squashie?

This thread I wanted more as open dicussion and peoples opinions. Because it's more like swinging vs cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow

Didn't you get your answer on any og your previous 3 threads?

Mr ddc

I'm glad you said it

I was left speechless by the others, so I thought I'd better get in early on this one!

Do you want a drumstick squashie?

This thread I wanted more as open dicussion and peoples opinions. Because it's more like swinging vs cheating."

In that case - some people will, some people won't, either way this thread will open a big can of worms.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Wow

Didn't you get your answer on any og your previous 3 threads?

Mr ddc

I'm glad you said it

I was left speechless by the others, so I thought I'd better get in early on this one!

Do you want a drumstick squashie?

I'd rather a Swizzles Double lolly, but I'm easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shall I be the first to say "Everyone has their reasons for doing what they do..."?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to think I wouldn't, but sometimes I think with my dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow

Didn't you get your answer on any og your previous 3 threads?

Mr ddc

I'm glad you said it

I was left speechless by the others, so I thought I'd better get in early on this one!

Do you want a drumstick squashie?

I'd rather a Swizzles Double lolly, but I'm easy

So I've heard

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shall I be the first to say "Everyone has their reasons for doing what they do..."?"

I agree. And there's no judgement being passed by me with the comments it's more of what I want to know people's opinions really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd like to think I wouldn't, but sometimes I think with my dick

Same like I'm straight but if I'm a horny enough, I would properly like a guy suck my dick.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Personally no I wouldn't but there are plenty that will and more power to them it's just not for me

I know people playing away have their reasons that fine and their choice to make and all I'd every day is be prepared to face all the consequences of your actions one of those consequences being the judgement of some that it's wrong no matter what, if you can't accept that you probably shouldn't be doing it

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Wow

Didn't you get your answer on any og your previous 3 threads?

Mr ddc

I'm glad you said it

I was left speechless by the others, so I thought I'd better get in early on this one!

Do you want a drumstick squashie?

I'd rather a Swizzles Double lolly, but I'm easy

So I've heard

Oi! Get your smutty mind out!

(Besides it's Mrs ddc who likes those sort of doubles, I just like licking things)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow

Didn't you get your answer on any og your previous 3 threads?

Mr ddc

This thread isn't regarding what was discussed in my other thread as that was about me not sleeping with a married women with a child.

This thread is to dicuss if you would ever sleep with someone that was in a relationship but there partner didn't know they swing etc. In other words allowing them to cheat on there other half."

You won't have sex with a woman in a partnership who has children. Would you have sex with a woman in a partnership without children?

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By *adysueandneroCouple
over a year ago

witney

This is a swingers site, Fuck'em all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally no I wouldn't but there are plenty that will and more power to them it's just not for me

I agree and I rather not be part of cheating because of the consequences that can happen.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wow

Didn't you get your answer on any og your previous 3 threads?

Mr ddc

This thread isn't regarding what was discussed in my other thread as that was about me not sleeping with a married women with a child.

This thread is to dicuss if you would ever sleep with someone that was in a relationship but there partner didn't know they swing etc. In other words allowing them to cheat on there other half.

You won't have sex with a woman in a partnership who has children. Would you have sex with a woman in a partnership without children?"

Yes if the partner knows. And I am currently sleeping with a women with a child but she is single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was thinking about this the other day and personally i don't think I would enable someone to cheat if I knew there partner didn't know they swing.

However if the person wasn't truthful honest about being a relationship or that there partner does know. Then I wouldn't of know I was enabling them to cheat.

So would you guys sleep with someone knowing there partner doesnt know or would you say no thank you?

Each to there own in this discussion, I have wanted to sleep with some people in a relationship but never had due to moral reasoning.

You're obsessed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find cheats to be a safer bet on here. I'm not looking for a partner. And some people get confused between NSA fun and relationships.

This isn't the place I'd come to find a relationship.

Most cheats, be they women or men, understand the difference.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Was thinking about this the other day and personally i don't think I would enable someone to cheat if I knew there partner didn't know they swing.

However if the person wasn't truthful honest about being a relationship or that there partner does know. Then I wouldn't of know I was enabling them to cheat.

So would you guys sleep with someone knowing there partner doesnt know or would you say no thank you?

Each to there own in this discussion, I have wanted to sleep with some people in a relationship but never had due to moral reasoning.

You're obsessed

it's more I like to know people's views on different situations. Because with me I like to see everything from different angles besides my own. And I'm a very open minded person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow

Didn't you get your answer on any og your previous 3 threads?

Mr ddc

I'm glad you said it

I was left speechless by the others, so I thought I'd better get in early on this one!

Do you want a drumstick squashie?

I'd rather a Swizzles Double lolly, but I'm easy

So I've heard

Oi! Get your smutty mind out!

(Besides it's Mrs ddc who likes those sort of doubles, I just like licking things)

Rude! Filth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope don't knowingly, but yes it's happened without me knowing, people lie.

People will, people won't.

Each to there own.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find cheats to be a safer bet on here. I'm not looking for a partner. And some people get confused between NSA fun and relationships.

This isn't the place I'd come to find a relationship.

Most cheats, be they women or men, understand the difference.

Understandable and this a dicussion I had with someone he other day. It's fun and chuck sex vs regular sex. Some people prefer a one night stand an either people regular sex with certain people. For me I order the regular sex because one night stands don't really do it for me. The person doesn't really know your turn one etc and via Versa with you with them.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

You won't have sex with a woman in a partnership who has children. Would you have sex with a woman in a partnership without children?

Yes if the partner knows. And I am currently sleeping with a women with a child but she is single."

In your previous OP you said you wouldn't sleep with a married woman whether a child was involved or not.

Later you said you would sleep with a married woman so long as she didn't have kids.

Later still, even that last bit went 'if she was hot enough'.

That's why I suspect this is more about stirring than a serious discussion.

Sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope don't knowingly, but yes it's happened without me knowing, people lie.

People will, people won't.

Each to there own.

I agree. People do lie, and I'll never enable someone to cheat giving the information that I know they have a partner that is unaware of there other activities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was thinking about this the other day and personally i don't think I would enable someone to cheat if I knew there partner didn't know they swing.

However if the person wasn't truthful honest about being a relationship or that there partner does know. Then I wouldn't of know I was enabling them to cheat.

So would you guys sleep with someone knowing there partner doesnt know or would you say no thank you?

Each to there own in this discussion, I have wanted to sleep with some people in a relationship but never had due to moral reasoning.

The final answer is ... some will, some won't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to think I wouldn't, but sometimes I think with my dick

Same like I'm straight but if I'm a horny enough, I would properly like a guy suck my dick. "

But that is definitely NOT straight....!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You won't have sex with a woman in a partnership who has children. Would you have sex with a woman in a partnership without children?

Yes if the partner knows. And I am currently sleeping with a women with a child but she is single.

In your previous OP you said you wouldn't sleep with a married woman whether a child was involved or not.

Later you said you would sleep with a married woman so long as she didn't have kids.

Later still, even that last bit went 'if she was hot enough'.

That's why I suspect this is more about stirring than a serious discussion.

Sorry"

Yeah the married women let is fine as long as her partner knows. But my dick doesn't the thinking some times and could have a laps of judgement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to think I wouldn't, but sometimes I think with my dick

Same like I'm straight but if I'm a horny enough, I would properly like a guy suck my dick.

But that is definitely NOT straight....!"

It's FAB straight

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd like to think I wouldn't, but sometimes I think with my dick

Same like I'm straight but if I'm a horny enough, I would properly like a guy suck my dick.

But that is definitely NOT straight....!"

Yeah I had a bi curious phase which found men didn't do it for me. But I still like the feeling of my dick being sucked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd like to think I wouldn't, but sometimes I think with my dick

Same like I'm straight but if I'm a horny enough, I would properly like a guy suck my dick.

But that is definitely NOT straight....!

It's FAB straight"

Yeah I agree. Like a mouth is a mouth at the end of the day. But with my last experience my dick didn't get hard. But in my last experience since I had yet I sleep with a women it got hard. So all I know is women get me hard l the time.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

You won't have sex with a woman in a partnership who has children. Would you have sex with a woman in a partnership without children?

Yes if the partner knows. And I am currently sleeping with a women with a child but she is single.

In your previous OP you said you wouldn't sleep with a married woman whether a child was involved or not.

Later you said you would sleep with a married woman so long as she didn't have kids.

Later still, even that last bit went 'if she was hot enough'.

That's why I suspect this is more about stirring than a serious discussion.

Sorry

Yeah the married women let is fine as long as her partner knows. But my dick doesn't the thinking some times and could have a laps of judgement. "

What you actually said, in a number of posts, was:

"I don't care if they are married or have kids it's when both are together. X"

There was no mention of the husband. You even felt that you were so good at sex, the woman would leave her husband for you. Not something many husbands would agree to.

Still, hats off for your last sentence, I think that's very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you start a thread with a "moral" basis then retract from it. What do you expect people to say?

All I can say is that you are very inconsistent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, you start a thread with a "moral" basis then retract from it. What do you expect people to say?

All I can say is that you are very inconsistent."

No the post was to find people's opinions on the subject. I'm not judging people for there choices etc. I have my morals and stick to them. 99% of them time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As regards to me doing other thing with my fab besides sleeping with her. I would do this for any women I slept with because I believe they deserve to be treated with respect etc even if I'm just sleeping with them. Because everyone deserves to be treated like a human being and not like a fleshlight(couldn't think of something better to say)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also as regards to the child, I'm the only person she has slept with that has met him at this current moment in time. And I believe she doesn't want her child to meet any of the men she is meeting due to the confusion reason. So she normally meets then after his bed time.

I'm not picking holes, but if you're the only man she's currently introduced her son to, if he's of a certain age he'll get used to you. What happens if he walks in on his mum in a compromising position? That's going to confuse the little man.

Compromising position with another man, even.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Compromising position with another man, even."

This is a question I have asked her. And the kid says to his room once he has gone to bed, because this question has also came across my mind. But that's my fuck buddies choice at what time she invites me round and not mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say no thanks.

Anyone who's been cheated on will know it's a horrible feeling when it all comes out and it rips families apart and I personally couldn't be a part of that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As regards to my fb and me situation I believe I have discussed enough into it. If you bring a question about it that regards it and I believe it deserves a reply I will respond privately then on the forums that are public.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd say no thanks.

Anyone who's been cheated on will know it's a horrible feeling when it all comes out and it rips families apart and I personally couldn't be a part of that."

Yeah I agree as one of my parents cheated inthe past and this tore my family a part but as for what happen. I do not wish to discuss on the forums. I may have in a previous thread though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Compromising position with another man, even.

I know that. It's just my personal insight as a woman."

I agree but for me I would like our relationship to go further even if we ain't exclusive but she is not ready for a relationship. But I don't want to post to much about it on the forums because it's between me and her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always of the opinion that people who occupy the moral high ground should be very sure they have the right to a tenancy there.

This feels like white Knighting on a whole other level...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm always of the opinion that people who occupy the moral high ground should be very sure they have the right to a tenancy there.

This feels like white Knighting on a whole other level..."

Yeah I have good morals(believe) but won't judge someone with bad morals ethier. Because people in life make there choices and have to live them and the consequences.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I believe we all enable destructive behaviour in other people to some extent. For instance I've seen ill advised threads kept going when they really should be left to lie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I believe we all enable destructive behaviour in other people to some extent. For instance I've seen ill advised threads kept going when they really should be left to lie."

I agree. Even with having your the purest intent with someone. It could still end up bad. Just the way life works.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Thanks for the pm OP, unfortunately the vagaries of Fab's filter system means I can't reply by pm (The shields were only down because Mr Sulu pressed the wrong button

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I hear what you're saying, and (assuming you're for real) I wish you well, but I really do wonder whether your true happiness doesn't lie somewhere within those things you don't wish to discuss.

Good luck

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for the pm OP, unfortunately the vagaries of Fab's filter system means I can't reply by pm (The shields were only down because Mr Sulu pressed the wrong button

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I hear what you're saying, and (assuming you're for real) I wish you well, but I really do wonder whether your true happiness doesn't lie somewhere within those things you don't wish to discuss.

Good luck

Mr ddc"

Maybe but I've been hurt in the past. Why I tried swinging.

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By *rincesscaracoupleCouple
over a year ago

Saltburn

Had sex with 5 men last night, all were married and cheating. It is their problem not mine

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Thanks for the pm OP, unfortunately the vagaries of Fab's filter system means I can't reply by pm (The shields were only down because Mr Sulu pressed the wrong button

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I hear what you're saying, and (assuming you're for real) I wish you well, but I really do wonder whether your true happiness doesn't lie somewhere within those things you don't wish to discuss.

Good luck

Mr ddc

Maybe but I've been hurt in the past. Why I tried swinging. "

I was too. But in life we either choose to ride the rollercoaster, with its downs as well as its ups, or the roundabout, where you just end up going round in circles. Sure the swings can be fun, but I'll always be a rollercoaster type of guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had sex with 5 men last night, all were married and cheating. It is their problem not mine

Yeah just lets hope you kept your real name a Serect and they never find out.

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By *rincesscaracoupleCouple
over a year ago

Saltburn

"Had sex with 5 men last night, all were married and cheating. It is their problem not mine

Yeah just lets hope you kept your real name a Serect and they never find out."

Wouldn't make a lot of difference we always meet at home.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had sex with 5 men last night, all were married and cheating. It is their problem not mine

Yeah just lets hope you kept your real name a Serect and they never find out.

Wouldn't make a lot of difference we always meet at home."

Ah ok. A club meet might be better then. If you don't want drama. I know it's the cheating guys people but his wife might not see it that way or the husband may always spin it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was thinking about this the other day and personally i don't think I would enable someone to cheat if I knew there partner didn't know they swing.

However if the person wasn't truthful honest about being a relationship or that there partner does know. Then I wouldn't of know I was enabling them to cheat.

So would you guys sleep with someone knowing there partner doesnt know or would you say no thank you?

Each to there own in this discussion, I have wanted to sleep with some people in a relationship but never had due to moral reasoning.

Surely they are an adult and able to accept responsibility for their own actions. So long as they are honest about their intentions I would not turn them away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Was thinking about this the other day and personally i don't think I would enable someone to cheat if I knew there partner didn't know they swing.

However if the person wasn't truthful honest about being a relationship or that there partner does know. Then I wouldn't of know I was enabling them to cheat.

So would you guys sleep with someone knowing there partner doesnt know or would you say no thank you?

Each to there own in this discussion, I have wanted to sleep with some people in a relationship but never had due to moral reasoning.

Surely they are an adult and able to accept responsibility for their own actions. So long as they are honest about their intentions I would not turn them away."

True but I am also an my action would be to say no.

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