FabSwingers.com forum: Starting over

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, I was on here before with my partner, who sadly passed away last year. I am now looking ahead to the future, after a lot of heart ache. And I am not looking for any sympathy here, but would appreciate any advise on how to get back on to the scene. I am a nice genuine guy and help would be appreciated. Thanks

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Wow mate iam sorry to hear and hope your ok and well getting back in to it just go slow and take it step by step until your ready for it again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wow mate iam sorry to hear and hope your ok and well getting back in to it just go slow and take it step by step until your ready for it again"

Cheers mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry for your loss. Take things slow and ease back into it, take it at your own pace and make sure it feels right for you.

Take care

Emma x

"Wow mate iam sorry to hear and hope your ok and well getting back in to it just go slow and take it step by step until your ready for it again

Cheers mate "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So sorry for your loss. Take things slow and ease back into it, take it at your own pace and make sure it feels right for you.

Take care

Emma x

Thank you xx

Wow mate iam sorry to hear and hope your ok and well getting back in to it just go slow and take it step by step until your ready for it again

Cheers mate "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am getting strong again, music helps me

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtfvyBoYEiw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I was on here before with my partner, who sadly passed away last year. I am now looking ahead to the future, after a lot of heart ache. And I am not looking for any sympathy here, but would appreciate any advise on how to get back on to the scene. I am a nice genuine guy and help would be appreciated. Thanks"

Life on here as a single guy is brutal compared to as a couple.

First off sort out some decent picture the semi erect in panties close up isnt great.

Phone camera and a timer, get a good bum shot, some torso shots , if you can get a helper the lying in bed shot is a good one.

5 seconds with the black and white/other filters quickly and dramatically pretties up most pictures.

Profile text you'll need to expand a bit.

Try some fun/lighthearted little facts about you that people can use to make conversation with and break the ice.

People will not message a single guy to ask for pics or more info, unlike couples and women theres another 1000 guys behind you who will take less efrort so they wont bother.

Basicaly make yourself the big juicy low hanging fruit not the hard to reach little apple hakf way up the tree

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Life on here as a single guy is brutal compared to as a couple.

First off sort out some decent picture the semi erect in panties close up isnt great.

Phone camera and a timer, get a good bum shot, some torso shots , if you can get a helper the lying in bed shot is a good one.

5 seconds with the black and white/other filters quickly and dramatically pretties up most pictures.

Profile text you'll need to expand a bit.

Try some fun/lighthearted little facts about you that people can use to make conversation with and break the ice.

People will not message a single guy to ask for pics or more info, unlike couples and women theres another 1000 guys behind you who will take less efrort so they wont bother.

Basicaly make yourself the big juicy low hanging fruit not the hard to reach little apple hakf way up the tree"

Cheers, appreciate your comments, have changed my profile text and hidden pics. I will need to get a friend to take some new ones of me. Graham x

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Life on here as a single guy is brutal compared to as a couple.

First off sort out some decent picture the semi erect in panties close up isnt great.

Phone camera and a timer, get a good bum shot, some torso shots , if you can get a helper the lying in bed shot is a good one.

5 seconds with the black and white/other filters quickly and dramatically pretties up most pictures.

Profile text you'll need to expand a bit.

Try some fun/lighthearted little facts about you that people can use to make conversation with and break the ice.

People will not message a single guy to ask for pics or more info, unlike couples and women theres another 1000 guys behind you who will take less efrort so they wont bother.

Basicaly make yourself the big juicy low hanging fruit not the hard to reach little apple hakf way up the tree

Cheers, appreciate your comments, have changed my profile text and hidden pics. I will need to get a friend to take some new ones of me. Graham x"

You seem to have removed a pic from your profile that he said was nice, I don't get why as more than 1 on view is always better.

Your profile reads like that of a dating site so will be passed by by many women. Keep that as it is good to know but add something that may be on your fuckit list to help get interest.

Good luck on your new path

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Life on here as a single guy is brutal compared to as a couple.

First off sort out some decent picture the semi erect in panties close up isnt great.

Phone camera and a timer, get a good bum shot, some torso shots , if you can get a helper the lying in bed shot is a good one.

5 seconds with the black and white/other filters quickly and dramatically pretties up most pictures.

Profile text you'll need to expand a bit.

Try some fun/lighthearted little facts about you that people can use to make conversation with and break the ice.

People will not message a single guy to ask for pics or more info, unlike couples and women theres another 1000 guys behind you who will take less efrort so they wont bother.

Basicaly make yourself the big juicy low hanging fruit not the hard to reach little apple hakf way up the tree

Cheers, appreciate your comments, have changed my profile text and hidden pics. I will need to get a friend to take some new ones of me. Graham x

You seem to have removed a pic from your profile that he said was nice, I don't get why as more than 1 on view is always better.

Your profile reads like that of a dating site so will be passed by by many women. Keep that as it is good to know but add something that may be on your fuckit list to help get interest.

Good luck on your new path"

Thanks for your feedback, I have updated my profile. Hopefully it fits more with this site now. I have amended it to try and express myself sexually without being crude x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life on here as a single guy is brutal compared to as a couple.

First off sort out some decent picture the semi erect in panties close up isnt great.

Phone camera and a timer, get a good bum shot, some torso shots , if you can get a helper the lying in bed shot is a good one.

5 seconds with the black and white/other filters quickly and dramatically pretties up most pictures.

Profile text you'll need to expand a bit.

Try some fun/lighthearted little facts about you that people can use to make conversation with and break the ice.

People will not message a single guy to ask for pics or more info, unlike couples and women theres another 1000 guys behind you who will take less efrort so they wont bother.

Basicaly make yourself the big juicy low hanging fruit not the hard to reach little apple hakf way up the tree

Cheers, appreciate your comments, have changed my profile text and hidden pics. I will need to get a friend to take some new ones of me. Graham x

You seem to have removed a pic from your profile that he said was nice, I don't get why as more than 1 on view is always better.

Your profile reads like that of a dating site so will be passed by by many women. Keep that as it is good to know but add something that may be on your fuckit list to help get interest.

Good luck on your new path

Thanks for your feedback, I have updated my profile. Hopefully it fits more with this site now. I have amended it to try and express myself sexually without being crude x"

That my friend is rhe hard part being sexually suggestive enough to spark the minds desire without being crude/blatent rnough to trigget the social conditioning against sexual conversation.

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

If you know the people you met on yur old profile well enough, they might be able to give you a veri to get you started?

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"If you know the people you met on yur old profile well enough, they might be able to give you a veri to get you started?"

*your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not try a social, I know there are a couple around your area, and Birmingham isn't too far away. That would be a nice relaxed way of easing yourself back into things and getting to know people.

We are sorry for your loss and wish you all the best xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you know the people you met on yur old profile well enough, they might be able to give you a veri to get you started?

*your profile."

Thanks, my partner had all the contacts as we found it best for the women to talk to each other. I know the couples by name, but not by there ID on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make contact with people you previously played with as a couple. Maybe not all...but some, I'm sure would be happy to meet you again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not try a social, I know there are a couple around your area, and Birmingham isn't too far away. That would be a nice relaxed way of easing yourself back into things and getting to know people.

We are sorry for your loss and wish you all the best xx"

Thank you, make sure that you two love each other every day and just enjoy life together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i lost a partner who told me to carry on playing as i was too sexy to waste (his words) - we had been on a similar site to this and made a lot of friends socially and online but never actually played with others - best thing i ever did was to start over - not easy at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not try a social, I know there are a couple around your area, and Birmingham isn't too far away. That would be a nice relaxed way of easing yourself back into things and getting to know people.

We are sorry for your loss and wish you all the best xx

Thank you, make sure that you two love each other every day and just enjoy life together

We shall, thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i lost a partner who told me to carry on playing as i was too sexy to waste (his words) - we had been on a similar site to this and made a lot of friends socially and online but never actually played with others - best thing i ever did was to start over - not easy at all "

Thanks it is nice to hear from someone who has experienced this before. I know that my partner wanted me to carry on as well. Small steps each day can take you on a long new journey x

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