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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't, but I don't like talking on the phone lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't. If someone insisted, I'd tell them to get lost. Contact via Fab is good enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't, but I don't like talking on the phone lol"

Nor me

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

I think for me it depends how they respond to a message..if it's a one word answer from a couple then I insist as it's probably just the male getting his kicks..if it's a single female I'll hold off for a bit as I know she'd be swamped by males. But again if the profile looks suspect I would insist from the get go as we all know time is precious

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

Yes we do x

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't do phonecalls before a meet. If someone insisted then we just wouldn't meet. Simple.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think if something is important to you and to someone else not doing it is important you aren't compatible and shouldn't meet.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Yes I usually have a quick chat on the phone first. If they refuse then I would be thinking that they weren't going to turn up. Mind you I chatted to a 'nice' guy a couple of times on the phone and the bastard still stood me up!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "

I point blank refuse phone chat. If people can't make their mind up from my profile and veris (on my single profile) and insist on a phone chat the meet won't happen. Enough people know me on the NW scene to know I'm genuine. Don't see why I have to prove who I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "

If meeting my wife she'd refuse.

I don't mind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I usually have a quick chat on the phone first. If they refuse then I would be thinking that they weren't going to turn up. Mind you I chatted to a 'nice' guy a couple of times on the phone and the bastard still stood me up!!! "
language miss lick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we do everything via the site no phones or emails works for us

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

If I were a man I think I probably would, I would also understand if someone wanted to speak to me first as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I were a man I think I probably would, I would also understand if someone wanted to speak to me first as well "
common sense and if you have nothing to hide its common decency just to say hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate speaking on the phone x but will happily kik where u can send live pics x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've never done this and also don't like chatting over the phone unless it's with someone i know really well so that rules out everyone on fab pretty much.

i don't think many guys care about it either, i've been asked once and that's only recently and tbh he only texts me once a day so i cba to put in any effort now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i've never done this and also don't like chatting over the phone unless it's with someone i know really well so that rules out everyone on fab pretty much.

i don't think many guys care about it either, i've been asked once and that's only recently and tbh he only texts me once a day so i cba to put in any effort now."
sounds like he's not keen either lol

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"Yes I usually have a quick chat on the phone first. If they refuse then I would be thinking that they weren't going to turn up. Mind you I chatted to a 'nice' guy a couple of times on the phone and the bastard still stood me up!!! language miss lick "

Sorry Mr S

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I usually have a quick chat on the phone first. If they refuse then I would be thinking that they weren't going to turn up. Mind you I chatted to a 'nice' guy a couple of times on the phone and the bastard still stood me up!!! language miss lick

Sorry Mr S "
that's okay I'll let you off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've never done this and also don't like chatting over the phone unless it's with someone i know really well so that rules out everyone on fab pretty much.

i don't think many guys care about it either, i've been asked once and that's only recently and tbh he only texts me once a day so i cba to put in any effort now.

sounds like he's not keen either lol "

all he talks about is sex i think he stuggles with any other kind of conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's my preference but I still had a bloody awful meet with a guy who sounded ok on the phone. So it doesn't out all the oddballs.

So I've gone to phone call plus social. May seem OTT to some but as a single female I want to be safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't. If someone insisted, I'd tell them to get lost. Contact via Fab is good enough for me. "

Totally agree with this we never do phone chats,fab is how we organise meets if people aren't happy with that tough although respect that's how they do things

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We always insist that the ladies have a quick chat with each other before arranging a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "

We don't .

We won't .

Like it or lump it , no skin off our nose

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

I have never phone chatted prior to a meet, for one I dont like giving my number out (thats why I installed kik) and I can also be really quiet with people I dont know - so its pretty pointless to me unless you want a one way conversation. Youll get more talk over message or face to face

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i've never done this and also don't like chatting over the phone unless it's with someone i know really well so that rules out everyone on fab pretty much.

i don't think many guys care about it either, i've been asked once and that's only recently and tbh he only texts me once a day so i cba to put in any effort now.

sounds like he's not keen either lol

all he talks about is sex i think he stuggles with any other kind of conversation. "
yes that must be hard work lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't insist on anything. I take each potential meet as a completely different thing to the last. Sometimes there is a need for a chat beforehand sometimes there is the desire for a chat beforehand sometimes there is neither. It really is individual scenario dependent. I'm flexible like that

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"I don't do phonecalls before a meet. If someone insisted then we just wouldn't meet. Simple."

This for me too

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "

I don't insist on anything... But if it's a 1-2-1 then most people I know want to match a voice to a face...

I do always say they will be getting a call from my voice guy though...

As I look nothing like I sound... If that makes sense...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have never phone chatted prior to a meet, for one I dont like giving my number out (thats why I installed kik) and I can also be really quiet with people I dont know - so its pretty pointless to me unless you want a one way conversation. Youll get more talk over message or face to face "
I suppose everyone is different and you have to come to a compromise sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've never done this and also don't like chatting over the phone unless it's with someone i know really well so that rules out everyone on fab pretty much.

i don't think many guys care about it either, i've been asked once and that's only recently and tbh he only texts me once a day so i cba to put in any effort now.

sounds like he's not keen either lol

all he talks about is sex i think he stuggles with any other kind of conversation. "

He just likes phone text sex. I'd block his number.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

For me it's fabs then either phone or whatsapp for the few days leading up to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like phone calls either. I would meet in a pub beforehand or in a swinging club if they are members.

I don't do anything I don't want to, so if anyone insisted I would simply say no. If it was important to them and they wouldn't meet unless this phone call happened then we don't meet. It's only a hobby, it's not overly that important to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?

We don't .

We won't .

Like it or lump it , no skin off our nose "
yeah there queuing up down the road on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite like a chat first but it's not a deal breaker .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone insisting on a phone call would put me right off, we're easily contactable on here, happy to use Kik, have a few veris, and I don't really see what a phone call establishes. If they really wanted to talk might agree to a brief Skype if it was someone we'd really wanted to meet. But then I'm not a fan of chatting on the phone generally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a social meet first . plenty of coffee shops in public places. I might even buy you a nice cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've never done this and also don't like chatting over the phone unless it's with someone i know really well so that rules out everyone on fab pretty much.

i don't think many guys care about it either, i've been asked once and that's only recently and tbh he only texts me once a day so i cba to put in any effort now.

sounds like he's not keen either lol

all he talks about is sex i think he stuggles with any other kind of conversation.

yes that must be hard work lol "

it's crap mainly because he's supposed to be wanting a relationship with me but it's obvious he only wants sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer a social meet first . plenty of coffee shops in public places. I might even buy you a nice cake."

Lemon drizzle ?

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire


"I have never phone chatted prior to a meet, for one I dont like giving my number out (thats why I installed kik) and I can also be really quiet with people I dont know - so its pretty pointless to me unless you want a one way conversation. Youll get more talk over message or face to face

I suppose everyone is different and you have to come to a compromise sometimes "

Thats why I meet socially beforehand. At least that way you get to meet potential people rather than a voice

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "

i would not meet them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand a man might want to if meeting a couple (to make sure it is a couple! ) but I don't like to speak on the phone. Kik is better for us, we send pics and videos on there to show we're real.

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

If I was a man I think I would ask for a phonecall. I see so many messages on the forums where guys seem to get involved with time wasters or fake profiles and the advice to them is always to do more to make sure they are dealing with someone genuine. Seems like the OP is trying to do that and yet there are replies that seem a bit indignant about it.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "

It's a tough one, if the woman or couple are genuine I guess they would feel like you don't trust them but I've had a situation where I've been messaging and let's say become suspicious that something's not right so I've asked to chat to the lady or even that the lady leaves a voice message if she is shy(you don't tend to hear again)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always offer to go on cam here if they want my number. can prove i'm genuine that way.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"If I was a man I think I would ask for a phonecall. I see so many messages on the forums where guys seem to get involved with time wasters or fake profiles and the advice to them is always to do more to make sure they are dealing with someone genuine. Seems like the OP is trying to do that and yet there are replies that seem a bit indignant about it."

Totally agree

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We always like woman-to-woman phone calls before meeting new couples, sorts out the single men who pretend to be a couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I was a man I think I would ask for a phonecall. I see so many messages on the forums where guys seem to get involved with time wasters or fake profiles and the advice to them is always to do more to make sure they are dealing with someone genuine. Seems like the OP is trying to do that and yet there are replies that seem a bit indignant about it."
agreed genuine people are hard to find these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer a social meet first . plenty of coffee shops in public places. I might even buy you a nice cake.

Lemon drizzle ? "

Why not let's throw caution to the wind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never spoken on the phone to anybody I have met off here

I get asked for my number all the time but I never give it out

I does not seem to make a difference I still manage to get meets, some guys are put off by the fact I won't give them my number but if they decide to not meet me because of this as they say there are plenty more fish in the sea and easily replaced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't. If someone insisted, I'd tell them to get lost. Contact via Fab is good enough for me. "

I feel the same

When I'm off fab I'm off fab, I don't want people from here contacting me when I'm doing my every day things, guys texting me while I'm at work would irritate me enormously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "

I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?

I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else."
agreed so some people will have no phone conversation meet up don't get on and what a waste of time that is or will they just fuck them anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?

I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else. agreed so some people will have no phone conversation meet up don't get on and what a waste of time that is or will they just fuck them anyway? "

Good Lord what an assumption! I've met plenty i haven't spoken to beforehand and fucked them because I'm very very good at making that judgement ....i appreciate that not everyone is capable of doing that without meeting someone first or actually speaking to them, but i seem to be able to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?

I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else. agreed so some people will have no phone conversation meet up don't get on and what a waste of time that is or will they just fuck them anyway?

Good Lord what an assumption! I've met plenty i haven't spoken to beforehand and fucked them because I'm very very good at making that judgement ....i appreciate that not everyone is capable of doing that without meeting someone first or actually speaking to them, but i seem to be able to"
so what happens if you meet up and they cannot string a sentence together and they have a bad personality or attitude? Wouldn't that be a waste of your own time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?

I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else. agreed so some people will have no phone conversation meet up don't get on and what a waste of time that is or will they just fuck them anyway?

Good Lord what an assumption! I've met plenty i haven't spoken to beforehand and fucked them because I'm very very good at making that judgement ....i appreciate that not everyone is capable of doing that without meeting someone first or actually speaking to them, but i seem to be able to so what happens if you meet up and they cannot string a sentence together and they have a bad personality or attitude? Wouldn't that be a waste of your own time? "

It's never happened. It takes a hell of a lot for me to agree a meet in the first place....In the highly unlikely event that would happen then of course i would walk away. I only meet locally so all I've lost is half an hour of my time.

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By *itnkatCouple
over a year ago

in lincs between lincoln grantham boston

Always try to see ppl on cam in the Fab room first you tell a lot from body language why give a private no or Skype? Till after a meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?

I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else. agreed so some people will have no phone conversation meet up don't get on and what a waste of time that is or will they just fuck them anyway?

Good Lord what an assumption! I've met plenty i haven't spoken to beforehand and fucked them because I'm very very good at making that judgement ....i appreciate that not everyone is capable of doing that without meeting someone first or actually speaking to them, but i seem to be able to so what happens if you meet up and they cannot string a sentence together and they have a bad personality or attitude? Wouldn't that be a waste of your own time?

It's never happened. It takes a hell of a lot for me to agree a meet in the first place....In the highly unlikely event that would happen then of course i would walk away. I only meet locally so all I've lost is half an hour of my time. "
well if you don't meet much it isn't a issue I wouldn't mind wasting 30 mins every 6 months if that's the ratio but I think it works better if you do your homework

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?

I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else. agreed so some people will have no phone conversation meet up don't get on and what a waste of time that is or will they just fuck them anyway?

Good Lord what an assumption! I've met plenty i haven't spoken to beforehand and fucked them because I'm very very good at making that judgement ....i appreciate that not everyone is capable of doing that without meeting someone first or actually speaking to them, but i seem to be able to so what happens if you meet up and they cannot string a sentence together and they have a bad personality or attitude? Wouldn't that be a waste of your own time?

It's never happened. It takes a hell of a lot for me to agree a meet in the first place....In the highly unlikely event that would happen then of course i would walk away. I only meet locally so all I've lost is half an hour of my time. well if you don't meet much it isn't a issue I wouldn't mind wasting 30 mins every 6 months if that's the ratio but I think it works better if you do your homework "

I do my homework...just differently to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?

I do. If u can't hold a convo over the phone ur not going to hold my attention anywhere else. agreed so some people will have no phone conversation meet up don't get on and what a waste of time that is or will they just fuck them anyway?

Good Lord what an assumption! I've met plenty i haven't spoken to beforehand and fucked them because I'm very very good at making that judgement ....i appreciate that not everyone is capable of doing that without meeting someone first or actually speaking to them, but i seem to be able to so what happens if you meet up and they cannot string a sentence together and they have a bad personality or attitude? Wouldn't that be a waste of your own time?

It's never happened. It takes a hell of a lot for me to agree a meet in the first place....In the highly unlikely event that would happen then of course i would walk away. I only meet locally so all I've lost is half an hour of my time. well if you don't meet much it isn't a issue I wouldn't mind wasting 30 mins every 6 months if that's the ratio but I think it works better if you do your homework

I do my homework...just differently to you. how do you do yours out of curiosity? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Some women have heard my voice before we've met though....!

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

yes always just to say hi and if they are too quiet it puts me off as some people are more easy to talk to than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I do my homework...just differently to you. how do you do yours out of curiosity? "

I think that the thing that is important here is that I've found a way that works for me...and you have a different way that works for you.....proof that there is no single formula for getting things right on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. Some women have heard my voice before we've met though....!"

Do you do voices for sat navs?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I do my homework...just differently to you. how do you do yours out of curiosity?

I think that the thing that is important here is that I've found a way that works for me...and you have a different way that works for you.....proof that there is no single formula for getting things right on here. "
what is the way that works for you? We need to know your winning formula

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I do my homework...just differently to you. how do you do yours out of curiosity?

I think that the thing that is important here is that I've found a way that works for me...and you have a different way that works for you.....proof that there is no single formula for getting things right on here. what is the way that works for you? We need to know your winning formula "

There is no winning formula....I simply trust my judgement through messaging - and i message quite extensively both on here and occasionally kik/whatsapp before even agreeing to meeting. If there's anything that makes me think i shouldn't meet them or they irritate me at all, then i won't meet them. I know i probably miss out on loads of great guys that way, but i can't afford to take the chance. It wouldn't work if you want to arrange a quick meet and wouldn't work if you want to meet someone new every week...but it suits me perfectly. I'm in no rush to meet new people...i have plenty tried and tested in reserve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. Some women have heard my voice before we've met though....!

Do you do voices for sat navs? "

Funny you say that. I do. Well I have done in the past!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. Some women have heard my voice before we've met though....!

Do you do voices for sat navs?

Funny you say that. I do. Well I have done in the past!!! "

Really?! Wow! Do you do different voices?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I do my homework...just differently to you. how do you do yours out of curiosity?

I think that the thing that is important here is that I've found a way that works for me...and you have a different way that works for you.....proof that there is no single formula for getting things right on here. what is the way that works for you? We need to know your winning formula

There is no winning formula....I simply trust my judgement through messaging - and i message quite extensively both on here and occasionally kik/whatsapp before even agreeing to meeting. If there's anything that makes me think i shouldn't meet them or they irritate me at all, then i won't meet them. I know i probably miss out on loads of great guys that way, but i can't afford to take the chance. It wouldn't work if you want to arrange a quick meet and wouldn't work if you want to meet someone new every week...but it suits me perfectly. I'm in no rush to meet new people...i have plenty tried and tested in reserve "
yeah I think most guys would get bored of ping pong texting tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I do my homework...just differently to you. how do you do yours out of curiosity?

I think that the thing that is important here is that I've found a way that works for me...and you have a different way that works for you.....proof that there is no single formula for getting things right on here. what is the way that works for you? We need to know your winning formula

There is no winning formula....I simply trust my judgement through messaging - and i message quite extensively both on here and occasionally kik/whatsapp before even agreeing to meeting. If there's anything that makes me think i shouldn't meet them or they irritate me at all, then i won't meet them. I know i probably miss out on loads of great guys that way, but i can't afford to take the chance. It wouldn't work if you want to arrange a quick meet and wouldn't work if you want to meet someone new every week...but it suits me perfectly. I'm in no rush to meet new people...i have plenty tried and tested in reserve yeah I think most guys would get bored of ping pong texting tbh "

Exactly. The guys i meet don't see it like that at all....those are the gems I'm interested in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can understand why people don't phone chat... There are plenty of other ways to verify who people are without giving out personal info.

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over a year ago


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I do my homework...just differently to you. how do you do yours out of curiosity?

I think that the thing that is important here is that I've found a way that works for me...and you have a different way that works for you.....proof that there is no single formula for getting things right on here. what is the way that works for you? We need to know your winning formula

There is no winning formula....I simply trust my judgement through messaging - and i message quite extensively both on here and occasionally kik/whatsapp before even agreeing to meeting. If there's anything that makes me think i shouldn't meet them or they irritate me at all, then i won't meet them. I know i probably miss out on loads of great guys that way, but i can't afford to take the chance. It wouldn't work if you want to arrange a quick meet and wouldn't work if you want to meet someone new every week...but it suits me perfectly. I'm in no rush to meet new people...i have plenty tried and tested in reserve yeah I think most guys would get bored of ping pong texting tbh

Exactly. The guys i meet don't see it like that at all....those are the gems I'm interested in. "
so you could ping pong messages back and forth and never meet? What's the point in that? Surely there's better things to do in life?

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over a year ago


" so you could ping pong messages back and forth and never meet? What's the point in that? Surely there's better things to do in life? "

I don't really see why my way of doing things is coming under such scrutiny. Like i said, it clearly doesn't fit the way you do things so it isn't something you need to worry your head over.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago


" so you could ping pong messages back and forth and never meet? What's the point in that? Surely there's better things to do in life?

I don't really see why my way of doing things is coming under such scrutiny. Like i said, it clearly doesn't fit the way you do things so it isn't something you need to worry your head over."
I'm not worried there's no scrutiny just think there's things in real life that need doing rather than spending months texting a stranger I might not even meet or even get along with,there not gems just holding out thinking there going to get a piece of ass by playing by your rules that's the fact of it

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over a year ago


" so you could ping pong messages back and forth and never meet? What's the point in that? Surely there's better things to do in life?

I don't really see why my way of doing things is coming under such scrutiny. Like i said, it clearly doesn't fit the way you do things so it isn't something you need to worry your head over. I'm not worried there's no scrutiny just think there's things in real life that need doing rather than spending months texting a stranger I might not even meet or even get along with,there not gems just holding out thinking there going to get a piece of ass by playing by your rules that's the fact of it "

As I've already explained...I'm not rushing to meet new people. Anyone that messages me is made aware of the fact that i probably won't meet them from the Off. Its up to them If they want to continue chatting or not. You may see that as a waste of time. I see it as having someone to chat to when i log on. I don't think any man is desperate enough to "waste time" chatting to someone who has already told them they won't meet them.....and if your time on here is taking the place of real life things you need a rethink.

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By *andp01Couple
over a year ago

here n there


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat? "

We only meet cpl's and always insist on a G/G phone chat, strangely 99% go silent, don't refuse but just don't chat any more. If someone refused we wouldn't meet them. There's way too many fakes on here to keep going out to meet and risk them not turning up

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over a year ago


"I insist on a quick phone call before a meet to make sure they are genuine and to break the ice do most people do this? What would you do if they refused the phone chat?

We only meet cpl's and always insist on a G/G phone chat, strangely 99% go silent, don't refuse but just don't chat any more. If someone refused we wouldn't meet them. There's way too many fakes on here to keep going out to meet and risk them not turning up"
agreed

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

If someone insisted we phone before we meet I'd move on as simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate talking on the phone. Would rather a face to face chat.

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

If its something you feel so strongly about and the other party/parties opposed.....maybe you not the right people to meet

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over a year ago


"I hate talking on the phone. Would rather a face to face chat. "
well obviously don't that happen after you've spoke on the phone or made some brief form of contact?

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over a year ago


"If its something you feel so strongly about and the other party/parties opposed.....maybe you not the right people to meet"
well that's why you have to comprise as I've said to you personally I will wait till you have got yourself sorted it's just my PREFERENCE to have a phone chat as some use what'sapp Skype kik but what'sapp and kik are only the same as here

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over a year ago


"I hate talking on the phone. Would rather a face to face chat. well obviously don't that happen after you've spoke on the phone or made some brief form of contact? "

Skype. Still face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kik isn't the same as WhatsApp....kik is anonymous. No personal info need be exchanged...

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over a year ago


"Kik isn't the same as WhatsApp....kik is anonymous. No personal info need be exchanged... "
so is what'sapp you can change your number on there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh....that's me told. Didn't realise that. Just find kik a bit more discreet I suppose.

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