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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have you spoken to someone and seen who they have played with on there verifications and been put off? I've seen a few times someone has a verification and thought oh no she didn't so I didn't meet and same with couples if you see a couple with a verification off a couple you wouldn't play with would it put you off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you spoken to someone and seen who they have played with on there verifications and been put off? I've seen a few times someone has a verification and thought oh no she didn't so I didn't meet and same with couples if you see a couple with a verification off a couple you wouldn't play with would it put you off? "

No , not at all .

It's about fun and not judgement for us .

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Only puts me off if i see unprotected action..otherwise who am I to judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I have and I'm not bothered to admit it. There is 2 women in particular that I look out for on verifications..... If they've been there , they are branded a no go by me.

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

I've decided against meeting a guy whose only verification was a very explicit one, from a very beautiful woman 15 years younger than me. I felt I would be a 'let-down', after her - in age, beauty and sexual prowess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also look....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry yea two women on here seem to have been with nearly everybody so that puts me off .my choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we always look at verifications and if they have far too many or have played with certain people we know do bareback etc we don't meet . Have turned some people away because of too many verification excluding cam veris etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you spoken to someone and seen who they have played with on there verifications and been put off? I've seen a few times someone has a verification and thought oh no she didn't so I didn't meet and same with couples if you see a couple with a verification off a couple you wouldn't play with would it put you off?

No , not at all .

It's about fun and not judgement for us ."
so you would play with anyone no matter what they look like?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry yea two women on here seem to have been with nearly everybody so that puts me off .my choice"
so it's just not me then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been put off by verifies

Worse was a cpl we met who put us off two couples on our then public friends list ... They told us to avoid etc ... Eventually we have met both and both great meets .. Think was a bit of jealousy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you spoken to someone and seen who they have played with on there verifications and been put off? I've seen a few times someone has a verification and thought oh no she didn't so I didn't meet and same with couples if you see a couple with a verification off a couple you wouldn't play with would it put you off?

No , not at all .

It's about fun and not judgement for us . so you would play with anyone no matter what they look like? "

I don't think they are saying that,might be wrong but maybe they mean they'd meet them and judge for themselves before deciding to play rather than going just on verifications or pics

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Yes there are certain people I won't meet just because of that. My choice

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By *otblondewife hornyMrCouple
over a year ago

Cambuslang

Think it only be out off I the person had played with someone who looked unclean. You know the whole Russell brand/Katy Perry effect.

Mr

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

No not bothered, but a lady was put off by 1 of mine she said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah have to admit a verification from certain people put me off meeting those people

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Not really unless it shows unsafe sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think it only be out off I the person had played with someone who looked unclean. You know the whole Russell brand/Katy Perry effect.

Mr"
well this is it would you meet someone who has little or no standards I know I wouldn't so if they have it wouldn't happen for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The places people visit put me off more than the people they have met. There are a couple of events that make me wonder why men go to them.

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By *iss-PinkWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Yes - I'm put off by some people I see on veris, I admit

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I always look for 1 particular lady and if they have met her then it's a no go for me as she has been with just about everybody x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I always look for 1 particular lady and if they have met her then it's a no go for me as she has been with just about everybody x"
who's the lady???

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

some random guy sent me a nasty message out of the blue so when i saw that he'd met with a guy that wanted to meet me a few times i said no thanks ..didnt want to go anywhere near him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"some random guy sent me a nasty message out of the blue so when i saw that he'd met with a guy that wanted to meet me a few times i said no thanks ..didnt want to go anywhere near him "
don't blame you I'll be the same

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

for everyone put off by barebacking pics, there's a;ways someone else who is excited by it; there's someone for everyone. Just saying..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Known a potential meet pop up quite a few veris in a short period of time and it put me off. Not who, but the sheer quantity.

I believe each uses this site how they want, if they want to have 7 in 5 days fine. Just not for me is all.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Yes we always look at verifications and if they have far too many or have played with certain people we know do bareback etc we don't meet . Have turned some people away because of too many verification excluding cam veris etc "

Well what happens if the person your looking at doesn't do bareback but the meet does would you still turn them down

Also would you say no to social meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you spoken to someone and seen who they have played with on there verifications and been put off? I've seen a few times someone has a verification and thought oh no she didn't so I didn't meet and same with couples if you see a couple with a verification off a couple you wouldn't play with would it put you off?

No , not at all .

It's about fun and not judgement for us . so you would play with anyone no matter what they look like? "

Where did we say that ?

What a crazy thing to say !

We are just as picky as the next person , turning down countless meets because they aren't our preferred choice .

The question was whether we would turn down a meet based on a verification they showed . Nothing to do with how they look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not at all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've decided against meeting a guy whose only verification was a very explicit one, from a very beautiful woman 15 years younger than me. I felt I would be a 'let-down', after her - in age, beauty and sexual prowess. "

That I can understand. I would be the same in that position x

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading


"Known a potential meet pop up quite a few veris in a short period of time and it put me off. Not who, but the sheer quantity.

I believe each uses this site how they want, if they want to have 7 in 5 days fine. Just not for me is all."

Were they all play meets, socials or people catching up with on their verifications.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Known a potential meet pop up quite a few veris in a short period of time and it put me off. Not who, but the sheer quantity.

I believe each uses this site how they want, if they want to have 7 in 5 days fine. Just not for me is all.

Were they all play meets, socials or people catching up with on their verifications. "

Exactly my point - if after a social then I will have loads of veris

Even my club meets may not and most arnt play meets

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

I don't think in makes you a bad person for being put off, everything's there to help you make choices. I just don't think it a reason to put someone else down.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Yes the type of veri, sometimes the volume of them, the people can put me off, for different reasons.

Again it's about choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in general but there are a few ladies i look for and then avoid if they have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes we always look at verifications and if they have far too many or have played with certain people we know do bareback etc we don't meet . Have turned some people away because of too many verification excluding cam veris etc

Well what happens if the person your looking at doesn't do bareback but the meet does would you still turn them down

We can do social meets not really into social meets though as that is not really swinging is it . Maybe to get to know one another I suppose but not really into social too much . We don't do bareback at all !!

Also would you say no to social meets "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I was going to meet a guy when he put up a new veri. Girl was heavily pregnant that wasn't the put off although not for me. But she's stood there with a pint and a fag in one hand and giving the v sign with the other. Couldn't bring myself to go near him after that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not in general but there are a few ladies i look for and then avoid if they have"
names??

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

Yes. Not because I judge who that person has played with but there are a few women that I've had experience of them being possessive of their meets, so I don't bother getting involved.

Also, if they have played with one of my fem friends from the scene, I tend to avoid because it can be a bit complicated and I prefer things to be easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet with men that my real friends have meet with. Real friends that I no personally. But anyone else is game. I've had a few nasty comments of women over my veris. But hey ho that's thier jealously. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry yea two women on here seem to have been with nearly everybody so that puts me off .my choice so it's just not me then "
no deffo .I don't want a man that's been with them .as they can't be too fussy .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you spoken to someone and seen who they have played with on there verifications and been put off? I've seen a few times someone has a verification and thought oh no she didn't so I didn't meet and same with couples if you see a couple with a verification off a couple you wouldn't play with would it put you off? "

No in that sence no

I had a guy mail me a few days ago he had three verifications all from women 21 and under that put me off

I find it odd to not meet somebody because they have met somebody you don't fancy

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading


"Sorry yea two women on here seem to have been with nearly everybody so that puts me off .my choice so it's just not me then no deffo .I don't want a man that's been with them .as they can't be too fussy ."

What about the guys who haven't displayed and have played

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it before on old profile where women have seen that I have played with a couple that do bareback only and have said they won't with me... Pretty sad but understandable... Even though ladies yes I do wash and have been checked haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as vanilla meets,I dont know or particularly want to know their history. I want to know them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Known a potential meet pop up quite a few veris in a short period of time and it put me off. Not who, but the sheer quantity.

I believe each uses this site how they want, if they want to have 7 in 5 days fine. Just not for me is all.

Were they all play meets, socials or people catching up with on their verifications. "

Does it matter? I've gone months without having sex and also met 7 men in 9 days including a mmf 3 some and meeting two men separately on the same day. I'd rather not meet someone who thinks I have too much sex. Given the opportunity they might even do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry yea two women on here seem to have been with nearly everybody so that puts me off .my choice so it's just not me then no deffo .I don't want a man that's been with them .as they can't be too fussy .

What about the guys who haven't displayed and have played "

Play and display

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry yea two women on here seem to have been with nearly everybody so that puts me off .my choice so it's just not me then no deffo .I don't want a man that's been with them .as they can't be too fussy .

What about the guys who haven't displayed and have played "

What you don't know don't hurt you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry yea two women on here seem to have been with nearly everybody so that puts me off .my choice so it's just not me then no deffo .I don't want a man that's been with them .as they can't be too fussy .

What about the guys who haven't displayed and have played

What you don't know don't hurt you "
yea it's the knowing that puts me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I was going to meet a guy when he put up a new veri. Girl was heavily pregnant that wasn't the put off although not for me. But she's stood there with a pint and a fag in one hand and giving the v sign with the other. Couldn't bring myself to go near him after that "

Would definetely put me off too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I know why people hide their Verifactions.

They don't want to be judged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I was going to meet a guy when he put up a new veri. Girl was heavily pregnant that wasn't the put off although not for me. But she's stood there with a pint and a fag in one hand and giving the v sign with the other. Couldn't bring myself to go near him after that

Would definetely put me off too "

So pregnant women don't need sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I was going to meet a guy when he put up a new veri. Girl was heavily pregnant that wasn't the put off although not for me. But she's stood there with a pint and a fag in one hand and giving the v sign with the other. Couldn't bring myself to go near him after that

Would definetely put me off too

So pregnant women don't need sex "

No we are not saying that. Everyone has a right to their own opinion. Personally I don't think it is right to swing when you are pregnant . Different reasons personally I don't think it is safe and it just isn't right. But I know people will disagree with me. Being pregnant and having sex would be a personal thing and only with my partner .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I was going to meet a guy when he put up a new veri. Girl was heavily pregnant that wasn't the put off although not for me. But she's stood there with a pint and a fag in one hand and giving the v sign with the other. Couldn't bring myself to go near him after that

Would definetely put me off too

So pregnant women don't need sex "

They don't need a fag and drink I think that was more the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can some one email who this one lady is so I can stay away please ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Known a potential meet pop up quite a few veris in a short period of time and it put me off. Not who, but the sheer quantity.

I believe each uses this site how they want, if they want to have 7 in 5 days fine. Just not for me is all.

Were they all play meets, socials or people catching up with on their verifications. "

play meets. Like I say no judging at all, up to her how she plays and who with. The op asked if puts off and this was one instance where it did.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

yes a few times.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm probably the woman that puts other people off. Shame that people judge others for the type of people they meet.

I check there are verifications, I dont check who they're with. I'm meeting him, not his past meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to look at veri's as a way of determining whether I would genuinely be their type. If someone has lots of veri's from women who are young, slim and blonde then I wouldn't feel body confident enough to meet them to be honest. But that is my issue not theirs.

I don't really know the reputation of other women on here to not meet for those kind of reasons.

Otherwise I don't pay much attention to veri's, not all verifications are genuine anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to look at veri's as a way of determining whether I would genuinely be their type. If someone has lots of veri's from women who are young, slim and blonde then I wouldn't feel body confident enough to meet them to be honest. But that is my issue not theirs.

I don't really know the reputation of other women on here to not meet for those kind of reasons.

Otherwise I don't pay much attention to veri's, not all verifications are genuine anyway.

"

I'm the same

I've had loads of guys mail me and when I have looked at their verifications they are all from young women who are under a size 12

I just look and think they are the type of guys who fire off a message to all women working on the assumption that the more they send the more chance they have of getting a reply, probably haven't even seen what I look like so if I did reply they wouldn't be interested when they did see me so I just don't reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep my verifications hidden because of something that happened to me a while ago.. on a different profile but the same may still happen so I wont take any chances... a man was told by another woman that if he met me then she wouldn't meet him, and I had no idea why as id never met her and she was the total opposite to me

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

As some have said, if I know someone they have met is a barebacker,

Also if I know someone they have met is someone I know is quite objectionable that would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you spoken to someone and seen who they have played with on there verifications and been put off? "

Yes I won't meet anyone who had met with a local fem who is indiscreet and a gossip and delights on outing fabbers in rl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can some one email who this one lady is so I can stay away please ????"
I'm from dundee so probaly totaly diff persons from urs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you don't have their numbers ? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I was going to meet a guy when he put up a new veri. Girl was heavily pregnant that wasn't the put off although not for me. But she's stood there with a pint and a fag in one hand and giving the v sign with the other. Couldn't bring myself to go near him after that

Would definetely put me off too

So pregnant women don't need sex

They don't need a fag and drink I think that was more the point "

Hey hey no need to be homophobic. If a pregnant lady wants to be with a gay guy. It's her choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet anyone that a particular woman has met. I know exactly what she's like and some of the grim things she does and I wouldn't want to be associated with her in any way on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if its some Bare back gang bang kinda description lol.

Otherwise not really.

I'm not here to police who people fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you spoken to someone and seen who they have played with on there verifications and been put off? I've seen a few times someone has a verification and thought oh no she didn't so I didn't meet and same with couples if you see a couple with a verification off a couple you wouldn't play with would it put you off? "

Only once, but that was because the verifying couple were known to us as people who bareback exclusively and would fuck multiple men everytime we saw them at a venue. They had a very bad reputation that included multiple swinging related abortions.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Yes we always look at verifications and if they have far too many or have played with certain people we know do bareback etc we don't meet . Have turned some people away because of too many verification excluding cam veris etc "

Too many?

Is there a specific number?

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"for everyone put off by barebacking pics, there's a;ways someone else who is excited by it; there's someone for everyone. Just saying.."

I think we need to remember that some bareback pics could actually be partners. I have been with my fiance for 4 years and we dont use protection....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same as vanilla meets,I dont know or particularly want to know their history. I want to know them."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you spoken to someone and seen who they have played with on there verifications and been put off? I've seen a few times someone has a verification and thought oh no she didn't so I didn't meet and same with couples if you see a couple with a verification off a couple you wouldn't play with would it put you off?

Only once, but that was because the verifying couple were known to us as people who bareback exclusively and would fuck multiple men everytime we saw them at a venue. They had a very bad reputation that included multiple swinging related abortions. "

Who is this woman and this venue, you speak of?

I'm asking for a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only puts me off if i see unprotected action..otherwise who am I to judge "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you spoken to someone and seen who they have played with on there verifications and been put off? I've seen a few times someone has a verification and thought oh no she didn't so I didn't meet and same with couples if you see a couple with a verification off a couple you wouldn't play with would it put you off?

Only once, but that was because the verifying couple were known to us as people who bareback exclusively and would fuck multiple men everytime we saw them at a venue. They had a very bad reputation that included multiple swinging related abortions. "
wow now that's all wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to look at veri's as a way of determining whether I would genuinely be their type. If someone has lots of veri's from women who are young, slim and blonde then I wouldn't feel body confident enough to meet them to be honest. But that is my issue not theirs.

I don't really know the reputation of other women on here to not meet for those kind of reasons.

Otherwise I don't pay much attention to veri's, not all verifications are genuine anyway.

"

I tend to look on veris in the same manner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you spoken to someone and seen who they have played with on there verifications and been put off? I've seen a few times someone has a verification and thought oh no she didn't so I didn't meet and same with couples if you see a couple with a verification off a couple you wouldn't play with would it put you off?

Only once, but that was because the verifying couple were known to us as people who bareback exclusively and would fuck multiple men everytime we saw them at a venue. They had a very bad reputation that included multiple swinging related abortions. wow now that's all wrong "

And 99% most likley bollocks.

I find it funny when somone is spouting off all these rumours about somone to you when you know the person and know them to be bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"for everyone put off by barebacking pics, there's a;ways someone else who is excited by it; there's someone for everyone. Just saying..

I think we need to remember that some bareback pics could actually be partners. I have been with my fiance for 4 years and we dont use protection...."
and your here as a single woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry yea two women on here seem to have been with nearly everybody so that puts me off .my choice so it's just not me then "

Nope..same here, if its judgemental then so be it but I'd rather meet people I know have the same standards as myself, each to their own but I have no desire to meet someone who has played with certain people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry yea two women on here seem to have been with nearly everybody so that puts me off .my choice so it's just not me then no deffo .I don't want a man that's been with them .as they can't be too fussy .

What about the guys who haven't displayed and have played "

What you don't know you can't do much about but if you do know you have a choice, we all use fab differently. Some of these women bareback with 4 or 5 different guys a week ...no thanks!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use varies as a way of working out if the person is genuine or not or in some cases people who play rather than all their meets being socials.

Bareback pic don't bother me too much as they may be their partner, if it's obvious it's not then we'll avoid the couple not necessarily the who's vari it is unless they have multiple bareback varies and photos.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry yea two women on here seem to have been with nearly everybody so that puts me off .my choice so it's just not me then

Nope..same here, if its judgemental then so be it but I'd rather meet people I know have the same standards as myself, each to their own but I have no desire to meet someone who has played with certain people on here"
very true I only want to meet people on the same level and views on the scene if I've seen someone who's played with someone I don't like the look of I won't meet that person for whatever reason that maybe just my choice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We use varies as a way of working out if the person is genuine or not or in some cases people who play rather than all their meets being socials.

Bareback pic don't bother me too much as they may be their partner, if it's obvious it's not then we'll avoid the couple not necessarily the who's vari it is unless they have multiple bareback varies and photos. "
well it's like someone who has 10 veris by cam? I don't do cam I don't see the point in it tbh and how likely they actually meet in person? Literally never so why would I waste my time

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"Sorry yea two women on here seem to have been with nearly everybody so that puts me off .my choice so it's just not me then no deffo .I don't want a man that's been with them .as they can't be too fussy .

What about the guys who haven't displayed and have played

What you don't know you can't do much about but if you do know you have a choice, we all use fab differently. Some of these women bareback with 4 or 5 different guys a week ...no thanks!!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I always look for 1 particular lady and if they have met her then it's a no go for me as she has been with just about everybody x"

I think this is a bit old fashioned. Surely women can meet with as many people as they want? It's not the 1950's...

And-at least she's honest. I might have been a right yo-yo knickers but you'd never know eh..,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I always look for 1 particular lady and if they have met her then it's a no go for me as she has been with just about everybody x

I think this is a bit old fashioned. Surely women can meet with as many people as they want? It's not the 1950's...

And-at least she's honest. I might have been a right yo-yo knickers but you'd never know eh..,

"
I'll rather live in the 50s than now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pay no attention to veris, they are of no interest to me. Who someone else meets is up to them and I will make my own mind up about someone. For such a seemingly open minded past time, there are some very judgemental people on here but I guess that's human nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I always look for 1 particular lady and if they have met her then it's a no go for me as she has been with just about everybody x

I think this is a bit old fashioned. Surely women can meet with as many people as they want? It's not the 1950's...

And-at least she's honest. I might have been a right yo-yo knickers but you'd never know eh..,

I'll rather live in the 50s than now! "

Ha! Such pretty dresses.. Men in suits...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I pay no attention to veris, they are of no interest to me. Who someone else meets is up to them and I will make my own mind up about someone. For such a seemingly open minded past time, there are some very judgemental people on here but I guess that's human nature. "

This ^^^^^

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I always look for 1 particular lady and if they have met her then it's a no go for me as she has been with just about everybody x

I think this is a bit old fashioned. Surely women can meet with as many people as they want? It's not the 1950's...

And-at least she's honest. I might have been a right yo-yo knickers but you'd never know eh..,

I'll rather live in the 50s than now!

Ha! Such pretty dresses.. Men in suits... "
no traffic!! people had morals and respect,people took pride in where they lived and no immigration issues! Oh they joys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a thought on the subject veris mean the people are for real

We have veris from people we did not play with

As for the comments about some people have meet everyone on here . Maybe they meet a lot of them at a social .

Our off put is those who do bareback

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just a thought on the subject veris mean the people are for real

We have veris from people we did not play with

As for the comments about some people have meet everyone on here . Maybe they meet a lot of them at a social .

Our off put is those who do bareback "
well the fake people who have left you veris you can remove I just think it helps us to see more about the couple/person and just a little added info if it's genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I always look for 1 particular lady and if they have met her then it's a no go for me as she has been with just about everybody x

I think this is a bit old fashioned. Surely women can meet with as many people as they want? It's not the 1950's...

And-at least she's honest. I might have been a right yo-yo knickers but you'd never know eh..,

I'll rather live in the 50s than now!

Ha! Such pretty dresses.. Men in suits... no traffic!! people had morals and respect,people took pride in where they lived and no immigration issues! Oh they joys "

But also-women were treated very badly at times, expected not to work and pop out babies. Racism was rife. Gay people were routinely beaten up for daring to be in love with someone that happened to be the same sex..

There's positives and negatives for any time..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I always look for 1 particular lady and if they have met her then it's a no go for me as she has been with just about everybody x

I think this is a bit old fashioned. Surely women can meet with as many people as they want? It's not the 1950's...

And-at least she's honest. I might have been a right yo-yo knickers but you'd never know eh..,

I'll rather live in the 50s than now!

Ha! Such pretty dresses.. Men in suits... no traffic!! people had morals and respect,people took pride in where they lived and no immigration issues! Oh they joys

But also-women were treated very badly at times, expected not to work and pop out babies. Racism was rife. Gay people were routinely beaten up for daring to be in love with someone that happened to be the same sex..

There's positives and negatives for any time..

"
no comment

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

some people on here are dirtier than others, just the thought of it can put you off and better to be safe than sorry sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I always look for 1 particular lady and if they have met her then it's a no go for me as she has been with just about everybody x

I think this is a bit old fashioned. Surely women can meet with as many people as they want? It's not the 1950's...

And-at least she's honest. I might have been a right yo-yo knickers but you'd never know eh..,

I'll rather live in the 50s than now! "

See now i couldn't be arsed with all the frort to have to be racist to live in the 50s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Effort*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I always look for 1 particular lady and if they have met her then it's a no go for me as she has been with just about everybody x

I think this is a bit old fashioned. Surely women can meet with as many people as they want? It's not the 1950's...

And-at least she's honest. I might have been a right yo-yo knickers but you'd never know eh..,

I'll rather live in the 50s than now!

Ha! Such pretty dresses.. Men in suits... no traffic!! people had morals and respect,people took pride in where they lived and no immigration issues! Oh they joys "

Morals?

In the 50s?

Oh and rationing of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I was going to meet a guy when he put up a new veri. Girl was heavily pregnant that wasn't the put off although not for me. But she's stood there with a pint and a fag in one hand and giving the v sign with the other. Couldn't bring myself to go near him after that

Would definetely put me off too

So pregnant women don't need sex "

Pregnant women demand sex. It was the pint fag and v sign that put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I was going to meet a guy when he put up a new veri. Girl was heavily pregnant that wasn't the put off although not for me. But she's stood there with a pint and a fag in one hand and giving the v sign with the other. Couldn't bring myself to go near him after that

Would definetely put me off too

So pregnant women don't need sex

Pregnant women demand sex. It was the pint fag and v sign that put me off "

Sure she wasnt just fat?

I mean statistically on here that would be more likley

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By *ules2001Woman
over a year ago

wigan


"Known a potential meet pop up quite a few veris in a short period of time and it put me off. Not who, but the sheer quantity.

I believe each uses this site how they want, if they want to have 7 in 5 days fine. Just not for me is all."
i always thought this way but what if the ones with hardly any veris still meet loads but just dont publish !

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By *he Ant Hill MobMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I personally look and can be put off even contacting someone because I have read some of their verifications.

Reading the verifications can add to insecurities you may have about yourself age / body image etc.

However, I have met people and say to them I am not bothered about being verified.

I went to a social in February and had a great time met many couples and single people - I only got one verification - Am I bothered? not in the slightest.

Looking forward to the next one I can get too or is it to ?

Grammar police welcome to explain which is the correct too/to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very intreged to hear who these woman are who put others off meeting someone

I mean it hardly their fault if they meet someone you don't like the look of..and isn't it kinda petty if you think about it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep I was going to meet a guy when he put up a new veri. Girl was heavily pregnant that wasn't the put off although not for me. But she's stood there with a pint and a fag in one hand and giving the v sign with the other. Couldn't bring myself to go near him after that

Would definetely put me off too

So pregnant women don't need sex

Pregnant women demand sex. It was the pint fag and v sign that put me off

Sure she wasnt just fat?

I mean statistically on here that would be more likley "
are you saying that fat birds like a fag and a pint during sex? haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I always look for 1 particular lady and if they have met her then it's a no go for me as she has been with just about everybody x

I think this is a bit old fashioned. Surely women can meet with as many people as they want? It's not the 1950's...

And-at least she's honest. I might have been a right yo-yo knickers but you'd never know eh..,

I'll rather live in the 50s than now!

See now i couldn't be arsed with all the frort to have to be racist to live in the 50s"
*Shocking English grammar back to the 50s for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I was going to meet a guy when he put up a new veri. Girl was heavily pregnant that wasn't the put off although not for me. But she's stood there with a pint and a fag in one hand and giving the v sign with the other. Couldn't bring myself to go near him after that

Would definetely put me off too

So pregnant women don't need sex

Pregnant women demand sex. It was the pint fag and v sign that put me off

Sure she wasnt just fat?

I mean statistically on here that would be more likley are you saying that fat birds like a fag and a pint during sex? haha "

Mate I'd like a pint and an ice cream (i don't smoke) during sex.

I need a sex butler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very intreged to hear who these woman are who put others off meeting someone

I mean it hardly their fault if they meet someone you don't like the look of..and isn't it kinda petty if you think about it?"

Translation "tell me who the slags are who'll go with anyone!!!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Very intreged to hear who these woman are who put others off meeting someone

I mean it hardly their fault if they meet someone you don't like the look of..and isn't it kinda petty if you think about it?"
*intrigued

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep I was going to meet a guy when he put up a new veri. Girl was heavily pregnant that wasn't the put off although not for me. But she's stood there with a pint and a fag in one hand and giving the v sign with the other. Couldn't bring myself to go near him after that

Would definetely put me off too

So pregnant women don't need sex

Pregnant women demand sex. It was the pint fag and v sign that put me off

Sure she wasnt just fat?

I mean statistically on here that would be more likley are you saying that fat birds like a fag and a pint during sex? haha

Mate I'd like a pint and an ice cream (i don't smoke) during sex.

I need a sex butler "
I don't smoke I'll have a j20 and a bowl of Kellogg's cornflakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very intreged to hear who these woman are who put others off meeting someone

I mean it hardly their fault if they meet someone you don't like the look of..and isn't it kinda petty if you think about it?

Translation "tell me who the slags are who'll go with anyone!!!""

No, actually I'm interested to see why meeting these woman in particular, someone who more likely they have never and will never meet in real life puts them off meeting someone else

As I said before it sounds kinda petty

I know woman who say " if you have met this person I won't meet you because that's my sister or my best friend etc" and that I understand

But what I don't understand why if I meet random woman 1 then some of the woman here will read my veris and then not meet me based on that and that alone.

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

Me and Kim read the verifications to build a picture of the person/persons personality manners attitude friendliness etc.

One veri might be a bit bias but several saying similar gives you a correct picture of the type of person they are.

This is a swinging site not a dating site so if a women had 2 or 100 verifications why should it put me off as we are all here to have naughty fun with strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very intreged to hear who these woman are who put others off meeting someone

I mean it hardly their fault if they meet someone you don't like the look of..and isn't it kinda petty if you think about it?

Translation "tell me who the slags are who'll go with anyone!!!"

No, actually I'm interested to see why meeting these woman in particular, someone who more likely they have never and will never meet in real life puts them off meeting someone else

As I said before it sounds kinda petty

I know woman who say " if you have met this person I won't meet you because that's my sister or my best friend etc" and that I understand

But what I don't understand why if I meet random woman 1 then some of the woman here will read my veris and then not meet me based on that and that alone. "

Well they said why as they feel that women shags around too much/will sleep with anyone

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

What is the point of having verifications if you don't use them to make a judgement about the profile you're looking at. What that judgement might be depends entirely upon your own perspective, but it's only like checking TripAdvisor before booking a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What is the point of having verifications if you don't use them to make a judgement about the profile you're looking at. What that judgement might be depends entirely upon your own perspective, but it's only like checking TripAdvisor before booking a hotel. "
exactly why do fab use verifications if they have no use? Obviously they are there for a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But also , people can make their own mind up about people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is it they say

What Suzy says of sally says more of Suzy then sally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very intreged to hear who these woman are who put others off meeting someone

I mean it hardly their fault if they meet someone you don't like the look of..and isn't it kinda petty if you think about it?"

Sooo because you think it's petty we should lower our standards??? No!! If I know someone has bareback sex with 4 or 5 guys a week it is 100% my choice to not meet a guy I know has met them, yes we don't know everything about everyone but given the information we have we can make our own choices from that, I do for one and I'm not going to change my stance because someone may view it as petty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very intreged to hear who these woman are who put others off meeting someone

I mean it hardly their fault if they meet someone you don't like the look of..and isn't it kinda petty if you think about it? *intrigued"
it's more of the amount of men that they have been with .and some of the veries say filled both holes and shot all over her ..done this and that ect and it didn't sound like safe sex .so if he's been with her and she's had 60 odd meets that's 60 odd men and they have been with whoever so dosnt sound too good .for me personaly id rather not know .but as i said there choice and this is mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very intreged to hear who these woman are who put others off meeting someone

I mean it hardly their fault if they meet someone you don't like the look of..and isn't it kinda petty if you think about it?

Sooo because you think it's petty we should lower our standards??? No!! If I know someone has bareback sex with 4 or 5 guys a week it is 100% my choice to not meet a guy I know has met them, yes we don't know everything about everyone but given the information we have we can make our own choices from that, I do for one and I'm not going to change my stance because someone may view it as petty "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a feeling a lot of couples are put off me cause I'm verified by men. But I am yet to meet someone who has veries that put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it's just asw'ing..look at me..look at me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm probably the woman that puts other people off. Shame that people judge others for the type of people they meet.

I check there are verifications, I dont check who they're with. I'm meeting him, not his past meets."

Same here my dear, many people hide my veris, as other ladies won't meet them, if they know they have met me, I just find it funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is the point of having verifications if you don't use them to make a judgement about the profile you're looking at. What that judgement might be depends entirely upon your own perspective, but it's only like checking TripAdvisor before booking a hotel. exactly why do fab use verifications if they have no use? Obviously they are there for a reason "

They use them to show a person is who they claim to be in their profile. Somewhere along the line they seemed to turn into a sexual performance review or bigged the person up to get another meet or even bigged themselves up!

Just because someone had amazing sex with that person, its no guarantee you will. Ultimately, if you don't click then you probably won't. I never judge or expect great things so I won't ever be disappointed. I just keep an open mind and go with the flow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm probably the woman that puts other people off. Shame that people judge others for the type of people they meet.

I check there are verifications, I dont check who they're with. I'm meeting him, not his past meets.

Same here my dear, many people hide my veris, as other ladies won't meet them, if they know they have met me, I just find it funny. "

Exactly the same here , and like you we find it funny too .

It's even funnier when we get messages from those very people asking for another meet - I won't say what we say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is the point of having verifications if you don't use them to make a judgement about the profile you're looking at. What that judgement might be depends entirely upon your own perspective, but it's only like checking TripAdvisor before booking a hotel. exactly why do fab use verifications if they have no use? Obviously they are there for a reason "

We use them and display them in order to put judgemental people off meeting us .

Seriously , we do .

No way do we want to meet people who judge us by who we have played with !

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Yes we always look at verifications and if they have far too many or have played with certain people we know do bareback etc we don't meet . Have turned some people away because of too many verification excluding cam veris etc "

When you say too many you have to bear in mind how long someone has been on site for.

Right now it will say 'over a year' for someone that joined 1st June 2015 but will say the same for someone who joined 1st June 2008.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

I always read people's verifications. I'm quite judgemental I guess. I ask people to show theirs if they're hidden too!

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

I always read people's verifications. I'm quite judgemental I guess. I ask people to show theirs if they're hidden too!

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Most definately.

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By *tu1111Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

I only have one verication from years ago been off the scene for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I have and I'm not bothered to admit it. There is 2 women in particular that I look out for on verifications..... If they've been there , they are branded a no go by me. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry yea two women on here seem to have been with nearly everybody so that puts me off .my choice"

Couldn't agree more x

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

The OP didn't last long

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Op, I'm showing all mine so please don't l....

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Never bothers us, as we meet most via clubs and havnt played with several of our verifications. Some are folk we just got on with as friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP didn't last long "

Maybe a verification put the OP off

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