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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

bit of a rant now. Was meeting a guy (naming no names) he cancelled when i got there luckily was meeting someone else too. emailed him to ask why he text and said i wasnt his type when he wasnt bothered last time and he said i was too fat and he could find my 'hole' so emailed back saying how awful and he was arrogant back saying he didnt get a hard cock which he blatantly did. he even say my pics before! recent ones so he knew what he was getting.

why are some men such pigs? anyone else had an experience like this?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"bit of a rant now. Was meeting a guy (naming no names) he cancelled when i got there luckily was meeting someone else too. emailed him to ask why he text and said i wasnt his type when he wasnt bothered last time and he said i was too fat and he could find my 'hole' so emailed back saying how awful and he was arrogant back saying he didnt get a hard cock which he blatantly did. he even say my pics before! recent ones so he knew what he was getting.

why are some men such pigs? anyone else had an experience like this?"

1) He doesn't sound very nice but of course, we are only hearing one side.

2) If you were meeting him, why had you arranged another meet?

3)If that is his true colours you are better rid, block and move on. Plenty other nice guys out there for you.

good luck x

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By *ominantPerv85Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name. I may be old fashioned, but I believe in honour, honesty, and integrity, and it winds me up when I hear reports like this!

I am sorry to hear this, and certainly hope that it doesn't happen again.

But I have had similar whereby someone has been chatting for ages, and saying we will meet, then either cancelling on the day or just not responding to txts or calls.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"bit of a rant now. Was meeting a guy (naming no names) he cancelled when i got there luckily was meeting someone else too. emailed him to ask why he text and said i wasnt his type when he wasnt bothered last time and he said i was too fat and he could find my 'hole' so emailed back saying how awful and he was arrogant back saying he didnt get a hard cock which he blatantly did. he even say my pics before! recent ones so he knew what he was getting.

why are some men such pigs? anyone else had an experience like this?

1) He doesn't sound very nice but of course, we are only hearing one side.

2) If you were meeting him, why had you arranged another meet?

3)If that is his true colours you are better rid, block and move on. Plenty other nice guys out there for you.

good luck x"

i was meeting him with someone else 3sum lol not double meeting. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name. I may be old fashioned, but I believe in honour, honesty, and integrity, and it winds me up when I hear reports like this!

I am sorry to hear this, and certainly hope that it doesn't happen again.

But I have had similar whereby someone has been chatting for ages, and saying we will meet, then either cancelling on the day or just not responding to txts or calls. "

some people are arrogant and idiots though ive had loads of people cancel or not show up. thanks anyway xx

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"bit of a rant now. Was meeting a guy (naming no names) he cancelled when i got there luckily was meeting someone else too. emailed him to ask why he text and said i wasnt his type when he wasnt bothered last time and he said i was too fat and he could find my 'hole' so emailed back saying how awful and he was arrogant back saying he didnt get a hard cock which he blatantly did. he even say my pics before! recent ones so he knew what he was getting.

why are some men such pigs? anyone else had an experience like this?

1) He doesn't sound very nice but of course, we are only hearing one side.

2) If you were meeting him, why had you arranged another meet?

3)If that is his true colours you are better rid, block and move on. Plenty other nice guys out there for you.

good luck x

i was meeting him with someone else 3sum lol not double meeting. xx"

well put it behind you and don't waste another second of your life worrying about him..

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By *anderer2018Man
over a year ago

Bangkok

This is not cool! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

definately not thanks _iew!! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is not cool! Xx"

whats not kool?

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

some people are just low like tht hun. your just best to block (after giving him a bit of your mind) and moving on. thats the hard thing here ing out the idiots and time wasters. and people like that are probably all mouth and no action and he would probably be rabbit in headlights type anyway. his lose hun x

just another prick on the pile x

gen people are worth more ten fold x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"bit of a rant now. Was meeting a guy (naming no names) he cancelled when i got there luckily was meeting someone else too. emailed him to ask why he text and said i wasnt his type when he wasnt bothered last time and he said i was too fat and he could find my 'hole' so emailed back saying how awful and he was arrogant back saying he didnt get a hard cock which he blatantly did. he even say my pics before! recent ones so he knew what he was getting.

why are some men such pigs? anyone else had an experience like this?"

not all men r pigs as you say

the guy is one that for sure

hope it dose not put you off again meeting others his loss at the end of then day

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name.

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It DOESN'T give the rest of us a bad name! It gives him a bad name IF what the OP says is true - only one side to a story here to judge from so that's why I said IF!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"bit of a rant now. Was meeting a guy (naming no names) he cancelled when i got there luckily was meeting someone else too. emailed him to ask why he text and said i wasnt his type when he wasnt bothered last time and he said i was too fat and he could find my 'hole' so emailed back saying how awful and he was arrogant back saying he didnt get a hard cock which he blatantly did. he even say my pics before! recent ones so he knew what he was getting.

why are some men such pigs? anyone else had an experience like this?not all men r pigs as you say

the guy is one that for sure

hope it dose not put you off again meeting others his loss at the end of then day"

not nice what he said though. bring on next one i say lol

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay


"bit of a rant now. Was meeting a guy (naming no names) he cancelled when i got there luckily was meeting someone else too. emailed him to ask why he text and said i wasnt his type when he wasnt bothered last time and he said i was too fat and he could find my 'hole' so emailed back saying how awful and he was arrogant back saying he didnt get a hard cock which he blatantly did. he even say my pics before! recent ones so he knew what he was getting.

why are some men such pigs? anyone else had an experience like this?not all men r pigs as you say

the guy is one that for sure

hope it dose not put you off again meeting others his loss at the end of then day

not nice what he said though. bring on next one i say lol"

exacly. move on. head high. hormones high lol. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont worry about it love, ur verifications speak for them selves u seem like areally nice lass, but id feel same as you if it happened to me and being a woman we do love to rant it makes us feel better!!!

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"bit of a rant now. Was meeting a guy (naming no names) he cancelled when i got there luckily was meeting someone else too. emailed him to ask why he text and said i wasnt his type when he wasnt bothered last time and he said i was too fat and he could find my 'hole' so emailed back saying how awful and he was arrogant back saying he didnt get a hard cock which he blatantly did. he even say my pics before! recent ones so he knew what he was getting.

why are some men such pigs? anyone else had an experience like this?not all men r pigs as you say

the guy is one that for sure

hope it dose not put you off again meeting others his loss at the end of then day

not nice what he said though. bring on next one i say lol"

thats it girl put it behind you thats what i do ive had it happen to me more than once you move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never experienced anything like that!

I always meet socially, and the men have always turned up. Not every social meet leads to a play meet, but not once has a man ever insulted me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name.

It DOESN'T give the rest of us a bad name! It gives him a bad name IF what the OP says is true - only one side to a story here to judge from so that's why I said IF! "

Agreed 100% - it makes the individual look bad, not the whole of mankind - I don't get that or the "his loss" business. How can it be HIS loss when HE didn't want her?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"dont worry about it love, ur verifications speak for them selves u seem like areally nice lass, but id feel same as you if it happened to me and being a woman we do love to rant it makes us feel better!!! "

thanks x

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

well fortunatly you had someone else there to meet so wasnt a wash out of a meet plus now you know exactly what this guys like . i think thats valuable in its self so you no longer waste any further time and can find someone who does want to meet you for you .

lets face it there are men AND women who will just meet anyone for the sake of getting a meet and satifying their immediate urge. we also know if they get a better off er theyll be off like a shot .if they wish to do things that way then thats up to thm ,however their is no call for anyone being rude and making personal comments .if any memeber is making personal abusive comments youve done right thing by reporting and blocking and admin will deal.

no idea how long you had spoke to the guy before meting him pervious but may be worth while re_iewing your screening process to out people unsuitable for yourself .

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay


"That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name.

It DOESN'T give the rest of us a bad name! It gives him a bad name IF what the OP says is true - only one side to a story here to judge from so that's why I said IF!

Agreed 100% - it makes the individual look bad, not the whole of mankind - I don't get that or the "his loss" business. How can it be HIS loss when HE didn't want her? "

think its his lose cos he made an arse of himself and showed his true colours. he could of been respectful and cancelled with manners dont you think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah ive experienced this kind of behaviour before, its funny how they fancy you enough to want to meet but then all of a sudden your ugly and a bitch when you question them. These kind of people use attack as a pathetic form of defense, typical cowardly ,bully behaviour ,that is masking their own weaknesses and insecurities.

When this happened to me i must admit it left me a bit shaky, cos i felt my judgement was flawed, but there are people like this in any walk of life, and whatever doubts of my attractiveness or sexual behaviour it left me with were soon overcome by my natural horniness and the great people on here who see through usual human flaws to the sexy person beneath xx

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name.

It DOESN'T give the rest of us a bad name! It gives him a bad name IF what the OP says is true - only one side to a story here to judge from so that's why I said IF!

Agreed 100% - it makes the individual look bad, not the whole of mankind - I don't get that or the "his loss" business. How can it be HIS loss when HE didn't want her?

think its his lose cos he made an arse of himself and showed his true colours. he could of been respectful and cancelled with manners dont you think x"

Did he really make "an arse of himself and showed his true colours" though?

We don't know what actually happened as we have only 1 side to a story, and that's why I never believe threads like this 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name.

It DOESN'T give the rest of us a bad name! It gives him a bad name IF what the OP says is true - only one side to a story here to judge from so that's why I said IF!

Agreed 100% - it makes the individual look bad, not the whole of mankind - I don't get that or the "his loss" business. How can it be HIS loss when HE didn't want her? "

I'm sure she's glad you have reminded her of that fact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His loss babe you are gorgeous and he proberbly got cold feet with the threesome lol. Dont let this idiot put you off future meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name.

It DOESN'T give the rest of us a bad name! It gives him a bad name IF what the OP says is true - only one side to a story here to judge from so that's why I said IF!

Agreed 100% - it makes the individual look bad, not the whole of mankind - I don't get that or the "his loss" business. How can it be HIS loss when HE didn't want her?

think its his lose cos he made an arse of himself and showed his true colours. he could of been respectful and cancelled with manners dont you think x"

Manners has absolutely no correlation to loss: don't see your point!

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay


"That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name.

It DOESN'T give the rest of us a bad name! It gives him a bad name IF what the OP says is true - only one side to a story here to judge from so that's why I said IF!

Agreed 100% - it makes the individual look bad, not the whole of mankind - I don't get that or the "his loss" business. How can it be HIS loss when HE didn't want her?

think its his lose cos he made an arse of himself and showed his true colours. he could of been respectful and cancelled with manners dont you think x

Did he really make "an arse of himself and showed his true colours" though?

We don't know what actually happened as we have only 1 side to a story, and that's why I never believe threads like this 100% "

very good point. im just going on this being true as i have no reason to assume op would lie. but i know what your saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yeah ive experienced this kind of behaviour before, its funny how they fancy you enough to want to meet but then all of a sudden your ugly and a bitch when you question them. These kind of people use attack as a pathetic form of defense, typical cowardly ,bully behaviour ,that is masking their own weaknesses and insecurities.

When this happened to me i must admit it left me a bit shaky, cos i felt my judgement was flawed, but there are people like this in any walk of life, and whatever doubts of my attractiveness or sexual behaviour it left me with were soon overcome by my natural horniness and the great people on here who see through usual human flaws to the sexy person beneath xx"

it uis very cowardly i hate users who do this we took time arrange something etc just utter madness

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay


"That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name.

It DOESN'T give the rest of us a bad name! It gives him a bad name IF what the OP says is true - only one side to a story here to judge from so that's why I said IF!

Agreed 100% - it makes the individual look bad, not the whole of mankind - I don't get that or the "his loss" business. How can it be HIS loss when HE didn't want her?

think its his lose cos he made an arse of himself and showed his true colours. he could of been respectful and cancelled with manners dont you think x

Manners has absolutely no correlation to loss: don't see your point!"

ok looking back maybe im just tying to make op feel better and pay a compliment maybe

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name.

It DOESN'T give the rest of us a bad name! It gives him a bad name IF what the OP says is true - only one side to a story here to judge from so that's why I said IF!

Agreed 100% - it makes the individual look bad, not the whole of mankind - I don't get that or the "his loss" business. How can it be HIS loss when HE didn't want her?

think its his lose cos he made an arse of himself and showed his true colours. he could of been respectful and cancelled with manners dont you think x

Manners has absolutely no correlation to loss: don't see your point!

ok looking back maybe im just tying to make op feel better and pay a compliment maybe "

well thanks then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"His loss babe you are gorgeous and he proberbly got cold feet with the threesome lol. Dont let this idiot put you off future meets."

thanks xxx

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

message to the op i have guys do that to me as well, arrange meet then dont turn up or cancel at last min, what annoys me more is that i have rearranged my life to meet them and they cant even message to let know not happeneing, oh well plenty more good guys out there....... maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody coward!!! There was need for him to get nasty if that's what happened, is there?

I never understand why people do get nasty... especially when there is no call for it.

OP, brush yourself down... don't let it upset you and go shag the living daylights out of someone that makes you feel good lol!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder what the response would be if the OP was a guy posting the same thread? Wonder how many sucking up posts there would be?

Cynical? Me?

S.

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay


"I wonder what the response would be if the OP was a guy posting the same thread? Wonder how many sucking up posts there would be?

Cynical? Me?

S. "

yes very cynical. i would say the same. sex has nothing to do with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name.

It DOESN'T give the rest of us a bad name! It gives him a bad name IF what the OP says is true - only one side to a story here to judge from so that's why I said IF!

Agreed 100% - it makes the individual look bad, not the whole of mankind - I don't get that or the "his loss" business. How can it be HIS loss when HE didn't want her?

think its his lose cos he made an arse of himself and showed his true colours. he could of been respectful and cancelled with manners dont you think x

Manners has absolutely no correlation to loss: don't see your point!

ok looking back maybe im just tying to make op feel better and pay a compliment maybe "

well said ...theres no need to bloody make her feel bad for putting her feelings down in a open forum is there...its ok saying "its never happened to me". well it has to me when i was a single girl on here and beleive me its not nice...and its not nice to for it to be suggested that she may not be telling the truth..

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"I wonder what the response would be if the OP was a guy posting the same thread? Wonder how many sucking up posts there would be?

Cynical? Me?

S.

yes very cynical. i would say the same. sex has nothing to do with it"

Oh but it does, you only have to look at previous threads like this one, that have been started by males and what the replies have been, to see that the sex of the OP has a lot to do with how a the thread goes!

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name.

It DOESN'T give the rest of us a bad name! It gives him a bad name IF what the OP says is true - only one side to a story here to judge from so that's why I said IF!

Agreed 100% - it makes the individual look bad, not the whole of mankind - I don't get that or the "his loss" business. How can it be HIS loss when HE didn't want her?

think its his lose cos he made an arse of himself and showed his true colours. he could of been respectful and cancelled with manners dont you think x

Manners has absolutely no correlation to loss: don't see your point!

ok looking back maybe im just tying to make op feel better and pay a compliment maybe

well said ...theres no need to bloody make her feel bad for putting her feelings down in a open forum is there...its ok saying "its never happened to me". well it has to me when i was a single girl on here and beleive me its not nice...and its not nice to for it to be suggested that she may not be telling the truth.."

It's also not nice to put one side to a story in an open forum, when the other person is also a member on here.

None of us know what actually happened, so I will say again, I never believe these kind of posts 100% no matter what the sex of the OP is.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"I wonder what the response would be if the OP was a guy posting the same thread? Wonder how many sucking up posts there would be?

Cynical? Me?

S. "

if a guy stated a women he met before had made personal comments then why would it be ANY different ?? personal abuse is not tolerated from either gender .

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

anyway assuming its true then good luck on op. and lets be honest its not hard to believe a guy could be that way with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name.

It DOESN'T give the rest of us a bad name! It gives him a bad name IF what the OP says is true - only one side to a story here to judge from so that's why I said IF!

Agreed 100% - it makes the individual look bad, not the whole of mankind - I don't get that or the "his loss" business. How can it be HIS loss when HE didn't want her?

think its his lose cos he made an arse of himself and showed his true colours. he could of been respectful and cancelled with manners dont you think x

Manners has absolutely no correlation to loss: don't see your point!

ok looking back maybe im just tying to make op feel better and pay a compliment maybe

well said ...theres no need to bloody make her feel bad for putting her feelings down in a open forum is there...its ok saying "its never happened to me". well it has to me when i was a single girl on here and beleive me its not nice...and its not nice to for it to be suggested that she may not be telling the truth..

It's also not nice to put one side to a story in an open forum, when the other person is also a member on here.

None of us know what actually happened, so I will say again, I never believe these kind of posts 100% no matter what the sex of the OP is. "

she didnt name names?? so i cant see the problem ..lots of people but posts up about bad meets..but like was said earlier by anotha poster maybe its just me trying to give the young lass a bit of a confidnece boost....one woman to another...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever the truth from either side is, the feelings that is has engendered are very real in the individual, and this is a swingers advice forum. This has happened to me so i choose believe the OP, she didnt mention any names, i think she has a right to find support from people who might understand her situation x

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


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she didnt name names?? so i cant see the problem

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He will know who she is meaning though

Anyway, what other advice can anyone give apart from to block him and never meet him again IF that is what happened?

And if the "insults" were in messages on here then report them to Admin and let them deal with it in their way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Whatever the truth from either side is, the feelings that is has engendered are very real in the individual, and this is a swingers advice forum. This has happened to me so i choose believe the OP, she didnt mention any names, i think she has a right to find support from people who might understand her situation x"

Thank you xx i could of quite easily named and shamed but im not like that. why would i lie about it?? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That is disgraceful, and it is men like that, that give the rest of us a bad name.

It DOESN'T give the rest of us a bad name! It gives him a bad name IF what the OP says is true - only one side to a story here to judge from so that's why I said IF!

Agreed 100% - it makes the individual look bad, not the whole of mankind - I don't get that or the "his loss" business. How can it be HIS loss when HE didn't want her?

I'm sure she's glad you have reminded her of that fact "

The thread is a hour old: hardly reminding her of her post!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever the truth from either side is, the feelings that is has engendered are very real in the individual, and this is a swingers advice forum. This has happened to me so i choose believe the OP, she didnt mention any names, i think she has a right to find support from people who might understand her situation x"

exactly how i meant to put it, but im rubbish with words...yes she can block him etc...but she feels that getting it off her chest will help her ...and yes i beleive her as well..x

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

O o O oo

As is normal on here, someone complains about the treatment they recieved from another member and lots of people turn up to offer support by bad mouthing the member being talked about....even though you only have one side of the story.

To the OP, if you think the person needs reporting then do it from their profile.

As this is personal to another member I am shutting this.

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