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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just wondered if this has happened to anyone else.

I have met two single guys now who were unable to perform to completion is this common?

Or is it me ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its not you, ive had the same and in fact on one, alcohol played a huge part of the limp flaccid cock he had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet guys who are desperate to play with a couple, but twice now when it comes to playing cannot "perform". We always ask now when contacted by single guys who don't have verifications from playing with couples, as all night long we're trying to make them feel better and saying it happens, but feeling a bit naffed off that the night turns into a bit of a failure. One guy we revisited and that was OK but wouldn't bother again, just put it down to experience and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i was a single bi fem, i met quite a few guys off this site, it seems to me, that most are ok. however, alot of them are not getting any sex, and when they do, its a bit too exciting or overwhelming for them, and, i found that they were a bit of a let down! we dont meet single guys, im married now,so we are only really interested in couples, but i think we all have off days dont we? or get a bit over zealous!!

shaz x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wouldn't mind but I am completely honest about my body shape and always send a face pic or go on cam so that there is no misunderstanding about who they are meeting. I guess that must mean it is a performance failure.

As said above though it is a bit frustrating particularly when, as a single female, I spend a lot of time chatting to someone beforehand to make sure that I will be comfortable with them.

I am now thinking that I might do better meeting couples. What are people's thoughts on that option?

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

Couples have the same problem too!! if Big head for some reason or other takes over little head there is nothing a man can do!! lol sometimes the pressure just becomes too much for a guy no matter if he is single or part of a couple.. In a couples senario it can even be worse as your partner may be banging away for England with the other female but you are sat twiddling your thumbs because her man can not perform!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is more to sex than penetration alone IMHO, so it does not bother me if a gent fails to rise to the occassion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples have the same problem too!! if Big head for some reason or other takes over little head there is nothing a man can do!! lol sometimes the pressure just becomes too much for a guy no matter if he is single or part of a couple.. In a couples senario it can even be worse as your partner may be banging away for England with the other female but you are sat twiddling your thumbs because her man can not perform! "

That is absolutely spot on.

We have met with single guys and we have had this happen. It doesnt bother me at all because I have my guy there and the thought of us two being watched really turns us on, so from that point of _iew its always a great night. And the single guy can always pleasure me with his tongue (selfish cow that I am lol). But I do feel sorry for the guys because they feel very very awkward and stressed and once that happens its a no go. Its tough having to perform in front of a womans partner.

The couples thing, yes had that too. That is the worst situation because no matter how much your head tells you its just one of those things, you cannot help but feel left out which puts a damper on the evening. When this happens I will join in with the two of them, but have to be careful in case the other woman thinks im getting jealous and reclaiming my man etc - can be a stressful thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being "unable to perform to completion" is quite a common thing among most guys, even us married ones.

On my first swing experience I was unable to get hard, and I don't think I was able to cum until 4 or 5 meets later.

Even now, after 3yrs on the scene, I don't always cum. It's not down to the lady at all, I think it's because deep down, we realise that swinging sex isn't like husband/wife sex or boyfriend/girlfriend sex. There is a kind of pressure on the guy to perform, so some guys might see it as nothing more than an act, but at the same time you still want to ensure the lady has a good time.

Wish I could explain it better, but I don't think there is a simple way of doing so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think guys who have been married a while struggle with condoms as well. If they've not used them for a number of years it does tend to take a while to get used to using them again and can cause problems if you know what I mean!!!

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By *utzzCouple
over a year ago

wrexham

The brains a funny old thing! I find it much easier in a one on one situation than in a group but then I'm easily distracted by too much else going on around me. Also if for any reason I'm worried about mrs Nutzz it can go instantly again more likely in a big group but once I know she's ok then I'm good to go again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my guy treated me on valentines day to him and friend .....he promised me 400 lbs of south african beef !!!! unfortunately his 30 year old friend got stage fright !!,, we stiil had a fab time tho was a great beef sandwich !!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

only happened once.. with a couple who invited me over at short notice.

Only once we started to play did they mention their kids upstairs.. completely freaked me. My wee man went south and there was no chance he would head north again....

I left...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive always felt that the pressure is ALL on the guy so i never make abig deal of it ...i just tell him to use his hands that works for me !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think guys who have been married a while struggle with condoms as well. If they've not used them for a number of years it does tend to take a while to get used to using them again and can cause problems if you know what I mean!!! "

that always happens with Chris. Well he can get hard and put them on, but he hardly ever comes when hes wearing one. As long as he remains hard then hes not bothered. When we wants to come he comes back to me. Sounds bad doesnt it, having a long hard session with another woman but not coming and then coming over to me to finish him off. Its the cross I have to bear im afraid

Its definitely a head thing, once you get thoughts in your head there is nothing you can do. Chris thinks that he wont come with condoms so he never does. I have had one lady say to me, after he had played with her, "he didnt come did he". I didnt tell him (he will know now as he reads my posts lol) as it would put a certain stress on him for the next time, as the couple are people we attend a few parties with. But it was never the case of not being attracted enough to her, she is absolutely stunning and 26 years old to his 50. Its just a head thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just wondered if this has happened to anyone else.

I have met two single guys now who were unable to perform to completion is this common?

Or is it me ... "

I don't think it's you hun, if I had a cock i'm sure I wouldn't let you down lol X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my guy treated me on valentines day to him and friend .....he promised me 400 lbs of south african beef !!!! unfortunately his 30 year old friend got stage fright !!,, we stiil had a fab time tho was a great beef sandwich !!!"

Wow what a lovely Valentines gift, beats the card and chocolates doesnt it

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By *ominantPerv85Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

Because I am an honest person, I dont mind saying that I struggled on my first meet. Getting up wasn't the problem, I just couldnt finish. And I think the more that we all wanted me to finish, the more pressure it was and the harder it was......

I did feel a little embarrassed, and felt a bit guilty for letting them down, but I know that she enjoyed it, so I guess it's ok?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must be lucky then,never had a problem with any of my meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my guy treated me on valentines day to him and friend .....he promised me 400 lbs of south african beef !!!! unfortunately his 30 year old friend got stage fright !!,, we stiil had a fab time tho was a great beef sandwich !!!

Wow what a lovely Valentines gift, beats the card and chocolates doesnt it "

i dont get to see him much so i wasnt sure i wanted someone else in the mix but im so glad i did .......i tell u you have o be the filling in a beef sandwich at least once in your life .....

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I just wondered if this has happened to anyone else.

I have met two single guys now who were unable to perform to completion is this common?

Or is it me ... "

depends on what you mean by "to completion" because there is a difference between not getting it up.. and not cumming....

I have seen people in clubs where just the pressure of playing does strange things to people...

or the fact of playing in front of others...

or the whole condom thing...

I see normal people become very short stayers... a tad premature so to speak...

and i have seen people become very very long stayers.... probably a bit too long...

but as someone else said... the brain is a very funny instrument...

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow


"Because I am an honest person, I dont mind saying that I struggled on my first meet. Getting up wasn't the problem, I just couldnt finish. And I think the more that we all wanted me to finish, the more pressure it was and the harder it was......

I did feel a little embarrassed, and felt a bit guilty for letting them down, but I know that she enjoyed it, so I guess it's ok?!"

This isn't unusual. We put the pressure on ourselves to perform. I've found a few times having held off from coming in order to prolong penetration or playing, that when the time comes to finish, I can't quite get there.

When that happens the best thing to do is back off. The harder you try the more elusive the orgasm. If the situation allows, take a break and come back to it. It should go much better second time round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is more to sex than penetration alone IMHO, so it does not bother me if a gent fails to rise to the occassion. "

Got to agree with Pearl here.....it's happened to me on occasion but i've always had great fun by other means.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I just wondered if this has happened to anyone else.

I have met two single guys now who were unable to perform to completion is this common?

Or is it me ... "

Its happens and nerves can play a big part best thing is just try and get the guy relaxed having a good snog works wonders but if full of nerves it is not going to work and if the mind block steps in you had it stress and being tired are a killer for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only experienced it twice in three years, with two very different reactions.

The first, I got up to give him a moment to compose himself, the next thing I know he was running down the stairs, out the door, dressing as he ran down the garden path without a by your leave. The second, he couldn't maintain an erection but he was good with his tongue and fingers. It was ok, but not someone I wanted to see again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The image im getting Sassy is you standing in the doorway, flogger in hand, watching a half naked man running down your path

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

def happens all time in swinging dnt blame you self,but like others said there is other ways to play even use toys and am sure he will rise to occasion or satisfy you with his tongue .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just wondered if this has happened to anyone else.

I have met two single guys now who were unable to perform to completion is this common?

Or is it me ... "

Were they in a pantomime or something ? maybe it was stage fright

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The image im getting Sassy is you standing in the doorway, flogger in hand, watching a half naked man running down your path "

*Giggles* - it was a surreal experience I can tell you, standing their naked watching a half dressed man stumble down the stairs and out the door. The clear glass panel at the top of the door meant I had a clear _iew of him struggling into his jumper as he ran down the garden path - and I didn't even have my Goliath then.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"The image im getting Sassy is you standing in the doorway, flogger in hand, watching a half naked man running down your path

*Giggles* - it was a surreal experience I can tell you, standing their naked watching a half dressed man stumble down the stairs and out the door. The clear glass panel at the top of the door meant I had a clear _iew of him struggling into his jumper as he ran down the garden path - and I didn't even have my Goliath then. "

cheeks clenched..

ass on seat and pressed so far into the leather..it leaves a imprint

ok, dares to ask...

what is Goliath?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"… having a good snog works wonders …"

That’s a bloody good point. Everyone is different, of course, but for me a good snog always does the trick.

The only times I've ever had to take a pause because of being less than fully hard were in group sessions, where the girls haven't wanted to kiss the guys.

I don’t know how common that is, but every time I’ve been lucky enough to take part in a gangbang type affair (with one girl being spoiled by a group of guys), it’s always been a bit more mechanical than other meets - and the girl hasn’t wanted to kiss the guys, just be fucked by them … and since a good snog is the guaranteed magic method to bring back my hardon, that's a shame!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"… having a good snog works wonders …

That’s a bloody good point. Everyone is different, of course, but for me a good snog always does the trick.

The only times I've ever had to take a pause because of being less than fully hard were in group sessions, where the girls haven't wanted to kiss the guys.

I don’t know how common that is, but every time I’ve been lucky enough to take part in a gangbang type affair (with one girl being spoiled by a group of guys), it’s always been a bit more mechanical than other meets - and the girl hasn’t wanted to kiss the guys, just be fucked by them … and since a good snog is the guaranteed magic method to bring back my hardon, that's a shame!"

awww you ol romantic you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The image im getting Sassy is you standing in the doorway, flogger in hand, watching a half naked man running down your path

*Giggles* - it was a surreal experience I can tell you, standing their naked watching a half dressed man stumble down the stairs and out the door. The clear glass panel at the top of the door meant I had a clear _iew of him struggling into his jumper as he ran down the garden path - and I didn't even have my Goliath then.

cheeks clenched..

ass on seat and pressed so far into the leather..it leaves a imprint

ok, dares to ask...

what is Goliath?"

I say again: you crack me up View!

Goliath is an 18" dildo thick as a chubby baby's leg. Has to be used in conjunction with a gag oh...and plenty of lube.

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By *ooty and suuCouple
over a year ago

barnsley

we had one or two single guys who couldnt perform when it came down to it

it once happend to sooty

but we put it down tp exsperience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Goliath is an 18" dildo thick as a chubby baby's leg. Has to be used in conjunction with a gag oh...and plenty of lube. "

Sassy even I would run like Lynford Christie if you came at me with one of those

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