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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone!

It's been a while since I came here (no pun intended).

My girlfriend and I are currently experimenting new things and, as we don't think we are ready for full on swinging yet, we are considering soft swap...

So, I would like some advice on where to find the right couples/places for that kind of experience.

Also, I'd like to know how to set the limits with the other people on what is alright and what is not?

Thanks in advance

PS: I know I message from a single guy account, but this is my old account (which is inactive since I met my significant other) and I thought the Fab forum would be the right place to get some info )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone!

It's been a while since I came here (no pun intended).

My girlfriend and I are currently experimenting new things and, as we don't think we are ready for full on swinging yet, we are considering soft swap...

So, I would like some advice on where to find the right couples/places for that kind of experience.

Also, I'd like to know how to set the limits with the other people on what is alright and what is not?

Thanks in advance

PS: I know I message from a single guy account, but this is my old account (which is inactive since I met my significant other) and I thought the Fab forum would be the right place to get some info ) "

I'd start by suggesting ... yes, you guessed it ... create a couple's account.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Create a couples account and show a few pics. Ask for soft swap and if like us you will have lots of interest. Just make the effort to arrange a meet. We loved it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To be fair, I haven't thought about it! Due to my own experience, I thought soft swap was not really sought after around here...

And how do you end up discussing boundaries with the other couple? As we are more into the idea of having sex next to another couple with just a tiny bit of touching than anything else

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"To be fair, I haven't thought about it! Due to my own experience, I thought soft swap was not really sought after around here...

And how do you end up discussing boundaries with the other couple? As we are more into the idea of having sex next to another couple with just a tiny bit of touching than anything else"

You discuss boundaries when you discuss meeting, either in person at a social meet or in messages. Sort out between yourselves where you boundaries lay in three categories...what you definitely will do, what you definitely won't do and what you might possibly try if the circumstances are right then communicate that to the people you want to meet. If they think on the same lines you are half way there. Also sort out with your partner a way to communicate that either of you wants things to stop.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And how do you end up discussing boundaries with the other couple? As we are more into the idea of having sex next to another couple with just a tiny bit of touching than anything else

You discuss boundaries when you discuss meeting, either in person at a social meet or in messages. Sort out between yourselves where you boundaries lay in three categories...what you definitely will do, what you definitely won't do and what you might possibly try if the circumstances are right then communicate that to the people you want to meet. If they think on the same lines you are half way there. Also sort out with your partner a way to communicate that either of you wants things to stop."

Thank you for all this: really helpful.

That's what we lacked of when we ended up in a swingers club: we didn't have a sign/code to see if the other one was alright with what is happening. Thankfully, the only approaches were made by single blokes who could have been our dads (not our thing, haha!)

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"And how do you end up discussing boundaries with the other couple? As we are more into the idea of having sex next to another couple with just a tiny bit of touching than anything else

You discuss boundaries when you discuss meeting, either in person at a social meet or in messages. Sort out between yourselves where you boundaries lay in three categories...what you definitely will do, what you definitely won't do and what you might possibly try if the circumstances are right then communicate that to the people you want to meet. If they think on the same lines you are half way there. Also sort out with your partner a way to communicate that either of you wants things to stop.

Thank you for all this: really helpful.

That's what we lacked of when we ended up in a swingers club: we didn't have a sign/code to see if the other one was alright with what is happening. Thankfully, the only approaches were made by single blokes who could have been our dads (not our thing, haha!)"

what, you mean about my age?

My advice...don't rely on signs just agree between you that either of you can say "stop" at any time, signs leave too much room for ambiguity.

Don't be shy to say what you do and don't want and never feel that you have to do anything because it's "expected of you".

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

There are couples on here looking for what you want... Not many but we are around. Dont get carried away and compromise your boundaries.... Unless you are BOTH sure. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone!

It's been a while since I came here (no pun intended).

My girlfriend and I are currently experimenting new things and, as we don't think we are ready for full on swinging yet, we are considering soft swap...

So, I would like some advice on where to find the right couples/places for that kind of experience.

Also, I'd like to know how to set the limits with the other people on what is alright and what is not?

Thanks in advance

PS: I know I message from a single guy account, but this is my old account (which is inactive since I met my significant other) and I thought the Fab forum would be the right place to get some info )

I'd start by suggesting ... yes, you guessed it ... create a couple's account."

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We are about us soft swap couples just read profiles and do what your comfy with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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what, you mean about my age?

My advice...don't rely on signs just agree between you that either of you can say "stop" at any time, signs leave too much room for ambiguity.

Don't be shy to say what you do and don't want and never feel that you have to do anything because it's "expected of you"."

No, no, our dads are over 60, you're fine

From what I can gather from everyone, making sure of what we want and not being afraid of saying stop are the key... Good to know!

I can only thank you all you lovely people again for your replies

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