FabSwingers.com forum: Being made to feel inadequate...

By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Hi everyone.

I don't usually do this, but something happened at the weekend that has really knocked my confidence on the scene.

Do any of you ladies ever feel "shunned" or disregarded? Or any of you guys for that matter?

I was singled out and people were told that they were not allowed to play with me because I was "off limits".... "out of bounds"....

I am not.

Is there something seriously wrong with me?

Is it because I am married?

Is it because I'm blonde?

I do get naked a lot .. is that why?

Is it because I don't have massive tits?

Am I a threat to people?

I feel so insecure now... I hope to God that I haven't been rude to anyone. I don't know what I did wrong..

I apologise... rant rant rant. Xxx

Help a girl out?

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Wasn't by someone that you had turned down by any chance? Trying to ruin your night or something? Can't see why you'd be shunned myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who told them you were out of bounds?

Where did this happen?

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By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

No, I hadn't turned them down. They weren't interested in being with a MF couple.

They brought their friend with them who was Bisexual... and we really hit it off.

It all seemed to get messy from there.

But to hear that I was "off limits"...why? Why am I off limits?

It's driving me mad!

My husband was very passive about it, but then again I am a sensitive lady. Maybe I took it too hard? X

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No, I hadn't turned them down. They weren't interested in being with a MF couple.

They brought their friend with them who was Bisexual... and we really hit it off.

It all seemed to get messy from there.

But to hear that I was "off limits"...why? Why am I off limits?

It's driving me mad!

My husband was very passive about it, but then again I am a sensitive lady. Maybe I took it too hard? X

You can't be "made" to feel inadequate by someone you don't know unless you already feel it.

Step back, realise that people have their own agendas which you will never understand and try and think Moore about it.

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By *igergirl31Couple
over a year ago

Leigh

I sometimes tell my fb that some women are out of bounds..it's because they are too gorgeous and I am intimidated and bit jealous so if anything I would take it as a compliment!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

*no more

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By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

thank you x

Maybe I should think more along the lines of.....

Fuck it! I had an amazing night regardless xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, I hadn't turned them down. They weren't interested in being with a MF couple.

They brought their friend with them who was Bisexual... and we really hit it off.

It all seemed to get messy from there.

But to hear that I was "off limits"...why? Why am I off limits?

It's driving me mad!

My husband was very passive about it, but then again I am a sensitive lady. Maybe I took it too hard? X

Sadly the only people who can give you the answers are the ones making the comments. Personally though id give it a big portion of 'fuck off!' They don't know you and their opinion doesn't matter. Just remember that no one can belittle you or make you feel less than you are without your tacit approval

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whoever told you that was out of order. Block them... To many idiots on here. Ignore them xx

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By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Tiger girl-

Really? But what if these women that you find attractive also find you attractive? And wanna have a piece?

you'd be missing out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe, it was because, that person who said it, wanted you for themselves....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which club?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

thank you x

Maybe I should think more along the lines of.....

Fuck it! I had an amazing night regardless xx

You should!

Ps use the reply+quote button we'll know who you're renting to then

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

thank you x

Maybe I should think more along the lines of.....

Fuck it! I had an amazing night regardless xx

You should!

Ps use the reply+quote button we'll know who you're renting to then

Relying to...darn autocorrect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, I hadn't turned them down. They weren't interested in being with a MF couple.

They brought their friend with them who was Bisexual... and we really hit it off.

It all seemed to get messy from there.

But to hear that I was "off limits"...why? Why am I off limits?

It's driving me mad!

My husband was very passive about it, but then again I am a sensitive lady. Maybe I took it too hard? X

A couple told their bisexual friend that you were off limits to her? Or was it that the couple didn't want to play with you?

Were the couple there specifically to play with the bi friend and would have been unhappy with her disappearing off when they'd arranged a night together, and didn't want you to join them?

If a couple don't want to play then they don't want to play? I don't think it's a reflection on you?

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By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Which club?"

It was a private party, absolutely amazing! (Apart from the drama)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately there are some morons on here and they enjoy making other people's lives a misery. I am sure if they had any reason to say you were out bounds they would have told you what it was. The fact they didn't say indicates they wanted to annoy you. Having looked at your pics you are gorgeous and you I sincerely hope you can put this episode behind you, it is their loss. T.

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By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

thank you x

Maybe I should think more along the lines of.....

Fuck it! I had an amazing night regardless xx

You should!

Ps use the reply+quote button we'll know who you're renting to then

Relying to...darn autocorrect"

Thanks love xx

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

It can take all sorts on here - try and shrug it off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was you at a club and if so was someone there that you'd met or turned down I for one think your gorgeous in my opinion probably jealous you'd turned them down

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By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Unfortunately there are some morons on here and they enjoy making other people's lives a misery. I am sure if they had any reason to say you were out bounds they would have told you what it was. The fact they didn't say indicates they wanted to annoy you. Having looked at your pics you are gorgeous and you I sincerely hope you can put this episode behind you, it is their loss. T. "

Thanks T,

I think I'm just wanting closure. How silly eh?!

I'm not fishing for compliments and stuff... just don't like rude people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You won't meet guys who are shorter than 5'7, or Asian or black.

Are you sort of projecting your feelings about guys you won't meet onto this situation? Are you now thinking other couples may judge you in a similar way?

I'm not criticising, just wondering if that's where this feeling has come from.

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By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

The couple went to the party to find lesbians to play with ( with them being a lesbian couple themselves). Their friend went along to find out about the world tbh.. not to be exclusive to anyone, just to have fun.

I totally understand if they didn't want me... I was there with my husband who they told to get out of the room. Or he could sit and watch (ermmmm, no thanks). Rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If these people were told you were off limits by their own partners then it would suggest they have confidence issues themselves and don't want their partner playing with anyone too attractive or that they perceive as a threat? That's the only reason I could think of to be honest.

Whatever their reasons, it's their issue, not yours. Brush it off, flick your hair and flip them the bird as you wiggle your pretty ass out of there

Mrs x

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By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"You won't meet guys who are shorter than 5'7, or Asian or black.

Are you sort of projecting your feelings about guys you won't meet onto this situation? Are you now thinking other couples may judge you in a similar way?

I'm not criticising, just wondering if that's where this feeling has come from."

I totally understand people have their own likes and dislikes.

I am not one to judge, I have my preferences and I know everyone else does.

I just don't like when people are rude.

Me and my husband are very social and we will chat and socialise with anyone. I love diversity and conversation. But when it comes down to it, there's certain things I don't find attractive.

If people don't want me around, then that is totally fine. I'll gladly fuck off, but manners just don't exist sometimes... ya know? Or am I ranting again?

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By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"If these people were told you were off limits by their own partners then it would suggest they have confidence issues themselves and don't want their partner playing with anyone too attractive or that they perceive as a threat? That's the only reason I could think of to be honest.

Whatever their reasons, it's their issue, not yours. Brush it off, flick your hair and flip them the bird as you wiggle your pretty ass out of there

Mrs x"

I like that idea

*flicks hair like a diva!*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These people sound like cunts. You're confused because, Clearly you're not.

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By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"These people sound like cunts. You're confused because, Clearly you're not."

Lovely use of the word x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking at your photos I tend agree with a couple of comments on here. I think its because they wanted you all to themselves. Youre bloody gorgeous!

You guys certainly wouldnt be "off limits" to us.

- Mr x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally don't understand any of what you said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did you know other people weren't allowed to play with you? Was it everyone there or just some people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was off limits to the men my man would have been off limits to the women,so we would have gone home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were there. Feel free to message us hun xx

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By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Was lovely to chat with you. That hot tub was awesome. Shame the night had drama but it ended well. As you were there do you see where we're coming from?xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was lovely to chat with you. That hot tub was awesome. Shame the night had drama but it ended well. As you were there do you see where we're coming from?xx"

I think i know what happened. Yea i see your point. Yea there was drama unfortunately. Xx

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By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Hubby is now in on the chat. Last message was from Mr Faysal xx

I feel a bit better now... maybe hearing people's opinions help with this stuff after all?

Thank you everyone for your opinions etc. Means a lot that you took your time to read this xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, I hadn't turned them down. They weren't interested in being with a MF couple.

They brought their friend with them who was Bisexual... and we really hit it off.

It all seemed to get messy from there.

But to hear that I was "off limits"...why? Why am I off limits?

It's driving me mad!

My husband was very passive about it, but then again I am a sensitive lady. Maybe I took it too hard? X

I think this is a good way to look at it

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