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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Serious about meeting someone on this site and actually going through with it?

I know that there are those on here who genuinely do have the swinging lifestyle but there must be so many out there, both men and women who like to play the game; love the chase but will never go through with it.

I won't necessarily call these people time wasters as I'm sure they have the right intentions..

There is a reason why I am asking and it's something that got me thinking last night.

I've been on this site for a few months now, getting onto nearly a year and have yet to find a fuck buddy. I kinda get the feeling that the novelty is wearing a little thin for me and the longer things go on for, the less likely I am to actually go through with anything should it arise.

Does anyone else feel the same, has it crossed your mind or am I alone on this?

Thanks

Pete xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess or answer is in our veri,s

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Given that your are in the highest percentage fab members in terms of your sex yes it will be more difficult. X

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It takes time

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I do meet but I'm always honest and upfront that because I'm not looking for numbers there has to be a connection . Sometimes guysaren't prepared to do that they want a first time guarantee ... Their perogative but could be their loss as I would love someone to see on a regular basis.

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By *angbang junkieCouple
over a year ago

Ilkeston

We would never meet someone from this site. Ever.

(sarcasm)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious about meeting someone on this site and actually going through with it?

I know that there are those on here who genuinely do have the swinging lifestyle but there must be so many out there, both men and women who like to play the game; love the chase but will never go through with it.

I won't necessarily call these people time wasters as I'm sure they have the right intentions..

There is a reason why I am asking and it's something that got me thinking last night.

I've been on this site for a few months now, getting onto nearly a year and have yet to find a fuck buddy. I kinda get the feeling that the novelty is wearing a little thin for me and the longer things go on for, the less likely I am to actually go through with anything should it arise.

Does anyone else feel the same, has it crossed your mind or am I alone on this?

Thanks

Pete xx

"

Is that a "I can't get anyone to shag" moan?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

We meet, we also meet separately. Your photos are yummy

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Well, we meet. From here.

And in fact I winked you a few months ago with no response, so I guess we're not your cup of tea

In order to have more chance of meeting, building up connection through initial chat is a good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not meeting. It says on my profile not meeting.

When I am meeting though, a lot of guys seem reluctant to meet. Either they aren't serious, they've realised I am actually batshit crazy and slightly annoying, or aren't really single and it was a fantasy. Or they can't be arsed to do a social meet without the guarantee of play straight away.

And a lot who I want to meet are too far away for a social first, which is a bit frustrating!

Oh and I'm ridiculously picky which doesn't help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many time wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We caught some good fish in this sea here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we meet but being a couple it is an extra bit of fun in our lives so not looking to meet all the time. When we say we will meet we always do. Appreciate that real life can throw up problems but when we have been let down, only a couple of times, it was by single men who seemed to be keen and then have a can't be assed attitude. Instant block lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on here for nearly 3 years & I've yet to find a FB, so I've given up on that idea & just meet when I want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only been here a short time but find most messages to be one-liners so no opportunity to build up a rapport.

I also wonder how the new girls get a verification within 30mins of joining and I can't get a meet no matter how hard I try!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious about meeting someone on this site and actually going through with it?

I know that there are those on here who genuinely do have the swinging lifestyle but there must be so many out there, both men and women who like to play the game; love the chase but will never go through with it.

I won't necessarily call these people time wasters as I'm sure they have the right intentions..

There is a reason why I am asking and it's something that got me thinking last night.

I've been on this site for a few months now, getting onto nearly a year and have yet to find a fuck buddy. I kinda get the feeling that the novelty is wearing a little thin for me and the longer things go on for, the less likely I am to actually go through with anything should it arise.

Does anyone else feel the same, has it crossed your mind or am I alone on this?

Thanks

Pete xx

Is that a "I can't get anyone to shag" moan?"
Yes it looks like it lol

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Errmmm...

Is this a trick question?

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By *ndysuzukiMan
over a year ago

Newquay

You look the bizz mate and saying the right things on your profi i reckon it will click soon

Yep we all get hacked off with it sometime sure it will come

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home


"I'm not meeting. It says on my profile not meeting.

When I am meeting though, a lot of guys seem reluctant to meet. Either they aren't serious, they've realised I am actually batshit crazy and slightly annoying, or aren't really single and it was a fantasy. Or they can't be arsed to do a social meet without the guarantee of play straight away.

And a lot who I want to meet are too far away for a social first, which is a bit frustrating!

Oh and I'm ridiculously picky which doesn't help."

That's exactly what happens to us when we try to meet women

Mrs SB

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Fb..do they actually exist??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expecting someone to be a fuck buddy after just a few months is a very high expectation.

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home


"Fb..do they actually exist?? "

We would be your fb in a heart beat

MrsSB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet when i find someone worth meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been using a Fab for a year and a half. In addition to party meets, we have met a grand total of 6 guys privately. So when months and months go by with no new meets, maybe it is questioned whether we actually meet. I guess for us, the few that we have met has, by and large, been enough to keep us going.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I wouldnt meet anyone from here i just like to lead them on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never come on here looking for anything, i find if you have no expectations you don't get disappointed

I can go months without a meet and that's fine but if i do get talking to somebody and we get along i'm more than happy to meet

i've been on here 8 years and never had a fuck buddie

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Plus i dont call people fbs no matter how many years ive known them i just say gentleman friends

Fb sounds like your laying some kind of claim on someone to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plus i dont call people fbs no matter how many years ive known them i just say gentleman friends

Fb sounds like your laying some kind of claim on someone to me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot of timewasters on here and on dating sites,all about getting there kicks and the feel of being wanted and attention seeking but the reason for attention is fake it's just for that person to get off and what makes them happy,vicious circle of attention seekers and timewasters mixed in with people are out for personal gain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup that's what I'm here for ..meets .but if it's too far .I can't acomidate all the time then meets sometimes can't happen .

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By *rand Central CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

we meet ... and haven't come across any timewasters... If you'll pardon the pun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet and quite often , I love getting to know new men, along with the excitement of a first meet .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Expecting someone to be a fuck buddy after just a few months is a very high expectation. "

Let me rephrase that to....

Find someone who I find attractive to have sex with a

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I'm very honest about the fact I've no intention of meeting. However I have in the past. And I don't lead anyone on. I'm here doing my own thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm thinking about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met guys from here and will continue to do so

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I'm thinking about it "

Is 'Hell' code for 'Hove'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Takes a lot to get my attention and meet! Most meets don't go anywhere. I do meet when I sat I will, though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet people on a regular basis. Some from here, some from clubs. Our veris tell some of the story, but not everyone we meet has a fab account, but we always ask and try and encourage people to join.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I meet guy's. It's difficult finding people though that are the right kind of guys for me, if you know what I mean. If I wanted cold, one off sexual encounters it wouldn't be so much of an issue but I'm looking for a little more than that. I've been lucky and met some great guys but I have to say the majority of messages I get seem to be from guys who think mostly with their cocks. This is a sex site though so it is to be expected!!

OP I think your profile is great and your pics are phwoaaaaarrrr. If you were closer to me you would definitely be on my fabdar

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL


"Serious about meeting someone on this site and actually going through with it?

I know that there are those on here who genuinely do have the swinging lifestyle but there must be so many out there, both men and women who like to play the game; love the chase but will never go through with it.

I won't necessarily call these people time wasters as I'm sure they have the right intentions..

There is a reason why I am asking and it's something that got me thinking last night.

I've been on this site for a few months now, getting onto nearly a year and have yet to find a fuck buddy. I kinda get the feeling that the novelty is wearing a little thin for me and the longer things go on for, the less likely I am to actually go through with anything should it arise.

Does anyone else feel the same, has it crossed your mind or am I alone on this?

Thanks

Pete xx

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Is this a survey???

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Feel for you OP! 10 months and not one meet is a bad deal. Can't give you any advice other than maybe change your tact. I have been on here ages and calmed right down on both meeting and messaging. I have not received a new veri in two years or something but if you meet and are decent people will want to meet you again and things develop from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm thinking about it

Is 'Hell' code for 'Hove'? "

No ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do meet but rarely as its hard to find someone close by and who I click with!

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By *VBethTV/TS
over a year ago

Chester

Some of us love to meet. Depends on the individual though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious about meeting someone on this site and actually going through with it?

I know that there are those on here who genuinely do have the swinging lifestyle but there must be so many out there, both men and women who like to play the game; love the chase but will never go through with it.

I won't necessarily call these people time wasters as I'm sure they have the right intentions..

There is a reason why I am asking and it's something that got me thinking last night.

I've been on this site for a few months now, getting onto nearly a year and have yet to find a fuck buddy. I kinda get the feeling that the novelty is wearing a little thin for me and the longer things go on for, the less likely I am to actually go through with anything should it arise.

Does anyone else feel the same, has it crossed your mind or am I alone on this?

Thanks

Pete xx

Is that a "I can't get anyone to shag" moan?"

Sounds like it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Serious about meeting someone on this site and actually going through with it?

I know that there are those on here who genuinely do have the swinging lifestyle but there must be so many out there, both men and women who like to play the game; love the chase but will never go through with it.

I won't necessarily call these people time wasters as I'm sure they have the right intentions..

There is a reason why I am asking and it's something that got me thinking last night.

I've been on this site for a few months now, getting onto nearly a year and have yet to find a fuck buddy. I kinda get the feeling that the novelty is wearing a little thin for me and the longer things go on for, the less likely I am to actually go through with anything should it arise.

Does anyone else feel the same, has it crossed your mind or am I alone on this?

Thanks

Pete xx

Is that a "I can't get anyone to shag" moan?

Sounds like it "

It's not a Moan. I'm not in the mood for moaning. Wanted a sensible discussion for once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious about meeting someone on this site and actually going through with it?

I know that there are those on here who genuinely do have the swinging lifestyle but there must be so many out there, both men and women who like to play the game; love the chase but will never go through with it.

I won't necessarily call these people time wasters as I'm sure they have the right intentions..

There is a reason why I am asking and it's something that got me thinking last night.

I've been on this site for a few months now, getting onto nearly a year and have yet to find a fuck buddy. I kinda get the feeling that the novelty is wearing a little thin for me and the longer things go on for, the less likely I am to actually go through with anything should it arise.

Does anyone else feel the same, has it crossed your mind or am I alone on this?

Thanks

Pete xx

Is that a "I can't get anyone to shag" moan?

Sounds like it

It's not a Moan. I'm not in the mood for moaning. Wanted a sensible discussion for once "

Some have joined in the discussion & given their viewpoint.

Unfortunately we can't wave a wand & make magic happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm serious. I've found men I've met regularly but most don't want that or pootle off to do something more important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't just rely on Fab. Try a few different avenues and you might find what you are seeking.

And within Fab have you gone to organised socials to meet others too? It can be a good way for single men especially to meet lots of people.

Sarah

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

We met through the site / forums

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

We have and do meet people off here.

However, clubs are our thing, so we tell people where we are going and if they want to meet us they can.

We know clubs aren't for everyone so that puts a few off.

So fab generally gets used for keeping in touch with people we have met at a club and those that are happy to meet at a club...

Maybe we will change and fab will be used more for arranging meets...

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By *ave_diamondMan
over a year ago

Rhyd-y-foel

its about quality not quantity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious about meeting someone on this site and actually going through with it?

I know that there are those on here who genuinely do have the swinging lifestyle but there must be so many out there, both men and women who like to play the game; love the chase but will never go through with it.

I won't necessarily call these people time wasters as I'm sure they have the right intentions..

There is a reason why I am asking and it's something that got me thinking last night.

I've been on this site for a few months now, getting onto nearly a year and have yet to find a fuck buddy. I kinda get the feeling that the novelty is wearing a little thin for me and the longer things go on for, the less likely I am to actually go through with anything should it arise.

Does anyone else feel the same, has it crossed your mind or am I alone on this?

Thanks

Pete xx

"

you must either be extraordinarily fussy, or you don't come on here very often?

if you are neither, then maybe you are also one of those who 'love the thrill of the chase but will never go through with it?'

to be fair your profile says nothing about wanting to meet a fuck buddy so maybe others percieve you as a time waster? maybe you need an update

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By *uvesmuffinCouple
over a year ago

Barking


"There are a lot of timewasters on here and on dating sites,all about getting there kicks and the feel of being wanted and attention seeking but the reason for attention is fake it's just for that person to get off and what makes them happy,vicious circle of attention seekers and timewasters mixed in with people are out for personal gain. "

You Charmer

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious about meeting someone on this site and actually going through with it?

I know that there are those on here who genuinely do have the swinging lifestyle but there must be so many out there, both men and women who like to play the game; love the chase but will never go through with it.

I won't necessarily call these people time wasters as I'm sure they have the right intentions..

There is a reason why I am asking and it's something that got me thinking last night.

I've been on this site for a few months now, getting onto nearly a year and have yet to find a fuck buddy. I kinda get the feeling that the novelty is wearing a little thin for me and the longer things go on for, the less likely I am to actually go through with anything should it arise.

Does anyone else feel the same, has it crossed your mind or am I alone on this?

Thanks

Pete xx

"

There are plenty on here that are keen to meet and there are lots that are not.I find that I can usually distinguish between the two.

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I meet guy's. It's difficult finding people though that are the right kind of guys for me, if you know what I mean. If I wanted cold, one off sexual encounters it wouldn't be so much of an issue but I'm looking for a little more than that. I've been lucky and met some great guys but I have to say the majority of messages I get seem to be from guys who think mostly with their cocks.

OP I think your profile is great and your pics are phwoaaaaarrrr. If you were closer to me you would definitely be on my fabdar "

This

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By *rinceCorwinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

....in a land far far away

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I've been on here 8 month and only one social meet (she's since left fab - no, not my doing). But despite my lack of meeting success I've made a few friends and love the forums; I never think of leaving - totally love it and i know that in tine, I'll find what I'm looking for.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We're serious, and love doing it.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"So many time wasters "

My block list is getting more action than I am

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I do meet but rarely as its hard to find someone close by and who I click with! "

I'm with you on that one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do meet

though i dont want or intend to meet numerous guys

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By *xxxMan
over a year ago

Bedford & Chester

Some people don't realise the difference between a swingers site and a sex site. This site is the former and so couples have, and rightly so, the control over all (the many) single guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people who are on here and also the free dating sites arn't really on them for the swinging or dating etc.

They join because they are free sites and they use them more as another social media site to chat and have a bit of flirting and banter etc.

You would probably see a lot of those types of people drop off the free sites if the sites started charging for membership.

I for one wouldn't be on most of the free sites if they started charging membership.

Just the way it is and I don't see anything wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For married couples there is not the urgency that there is for single men. So we are happy to wait until we're very sure we've found the right man to be part of our sex life. Doesn't mean we won't meet. I think most couples (that are couples!) are on here to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do meet

though i dont want or intend to meet numerous guys"

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By *xxxMan
over a year ago

Bedford & Chester


"For married couples there is not the urgency that there is for single men. So we are happy to wait until we're very sure we've found the right man to be part of our sex life. Doesn't mean we won't meet. I think most couples (that are couples!) are on here to meet. "

Far more eloquently put than i tried before!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people don't realise the difference between a swingers site and a sex site. This site is the former and so couples have, and rightly so, the control over all (the many) single guys! "

Control? No one has control over me! Certainly not couples, it's that kind of thought that leads to entitlement and desperation. I meet people where there is mutual attraction and a connection.

In regards to the OP I do feel for you but patience is key. It took me over a year to make any real connection on here and even longer before I found someone that I wanted to meet repeatedly. It's all a question of what you want and how much effort you're willing to put in for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet anymore for my own reasons, but I think that it's very clear on my profile that I don't so think that it's the guys problem if they message for a meet still. I use fab mainly to chat these days, but must get 30 guys a day call me a time waster because I don't meet. Doesn't bother me though, I know there's no fab law saying that I HAVE to meet if I want to use fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one! It's works brilliantly & I think the key is that I don't fancy him madly. Haha!

He's fit, intelligent & VWE, but just not my 'type' - somehow it works!

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

It's reassuring in a funny way that when I message people I know the odds are stacked against me so I can concentrate on which club nights I fancy instead

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By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago

Lancaster area

Up until our hiatus, my wife and I were totally serious about meeting people on this site, and we did meet a handful.

Now, it's much more of a Social kind of thing. We are still open to something happening, but the urgency is no longer there. It's like going to a particular Chinese restaurant and trying the buffet, but time after time, it just doesn't work out. Eventually, you say to yourself "Why in the heck are we still coming here?"

So, there's a chance of something still happening, but we aren't really out searching like we used to. If it happens, that's cool....but if not? No problem.

But I do understand that most single men on here would be incredibly serious about meeting. Why would they be on here if not?

-JD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I guess or answer is in our veri,s"

I know a guy that would do the chasing.. chat online for ages snd then never meet the woman.

Why??

Such a waste of everyones time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious about meeting someone on this site and actually going through with it?

I know that there are those on here who genuinely do have the swinging lifestyle but there must be so many out there, both men and women who like to play the game; love the chase but will never go through with it.

I won't necessarily call these people time wasters as I'm sure they have the right intentions..

There is a reason why I am asking and it's something that got me thinking last night.

I've been on this site for a few months now, getting onto nearly a year and have yet to find a fuck buddy. I kinda get the feeling that the novelty is wearing a little thin for me and the longer things go on for, the less likely I am to actually go through with anything should it arise.

Does anyone else feel the same, has it crossed your mind or am I alone on this?

Thanks

Pete xx

"

Can't beat a good cock teaser. And there are a few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For married couples there is not the urgency that there is for single men. So we are happy to wait until we're very sure we've found the right man to be part of our sex life. Doesn't mean we won't meet. I think most couples (that are couples!) are on here to meet. "

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

im here to meet up for real ..people that dont want to meet shouldnt be on here.

the ones that just talk about it for ages then go and have a wank ruin the site for me and waste a lot of my time.

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By *tephenBunChowMan
over a year ago

Haywards heath/Waterlooville

Prefer to meet rather than all the pointless message ping pong.

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

We've been patiently chasing down a sexy little minx for the last three months.

Hoping to meet this weekend if all goes well

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By *plinirelandCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

We find single males a nightmare. Hit rate less thn 1 in 10. They like the idea but no real expectation of following through. Given your pics, its hard.... sorry drifted there, hard to imagine you are not getting meets regular

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm here to meet. I even meet in London!

The OP has been posting on the same subject constantly. He's an intelligent guy so he must know all the rote responses he's going to get. I know he gets offers so I suspect he is looking for someone specific, in which case his likelihood of success is reduced even further.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


" I guess or answer is in our veri,s

I know a guy that would do the chasing.. chat online for ages snd then never meet the woman.

Why??

Such a waste of everyones time."

Oh there are people who do that just for their own satisfaction - I think they are sad and lonely and just want to string them along to talk to sometimes.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Expecting someone to be a fuck buddy after just a few months is a very high expectation.

Let me rephrase that to....

Find someone who I find attractive to have sex with a "

That's the point - everyone else is meeting and it's you who isn't going through with anything - because no one measures up to the girlfriend you have lost I suspect. This site is brimming with stunning women who would meet you but you're looking for someone who isn't on here.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"Serious about meeting someone on this site and actually going through with it?

I know that there are those on here who genuinely do have the swinging lifestyle but there must be so many out there, both men and women who like to play the game; love the chase but will never go through with it.

I won't necessarily call these people time wasters as I'm sure they have the right intentions..

There is a reason why I am asking and it's something that got me thinking last night.

I've been on this site for a few months now, getting onto nearly a year and have yet to find a fuck buddy. I kinda get the feeling that the novelty is wearing a little thin for me and the longer things go on for, the less likely I am to actually go through with anything should it arise.

Does anyone else feel the same, has it crossed your mind or am I alone on this?

Thanks

Pete xx

"

I have had meets, just read my summery and although I'm not meeting at the moment due to personal reasons, I do plan on meeting again in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are a lot of timewasters on here and on dating sites,all about getting there kicks and the feel of being wanted and attention seeking but the reason for attention is fake it's just for that person to get off and what makes them happy,vicious circle of attention seekers and timewasters mixed in with people are out for personal gain.

You Charmer

Mr"
oh I do try but if I want a social chat I'll go the pub or to my nans for a cuppa and a piece of cake and read the complementary times newspaper

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)


"There is a reason why I am asking and it's something that got me thinking last night.

I've been on this site for a few months now, getting onto nearly a year and have yet to find a fuck buddy. I kinda get the feeling that the novelty is wearing a little thin for me and the longer things go on for, the less likely I am to actually go through with anything should it arise."

Now are you looking for a FB or just a meeting? The two are inexorably linked, but are in fact two different aims.

Just give it time and, balanced effort! In other words, don't sit back and await the droves of sex-hungry folk to come hammering at your door, whilst at the same time not becoming an irritating pest with constant messaging to the person that has attracted your attention.

Hope that helos?

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area


"I meet when i find someone worth meeting "

This ..... im very choosy ... I like articulate gentlemen ... no riff raff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious about meeting someone on this site and actually going through with it?

I know that there are those on here who genuinely do have the swinging lifestyle but there must be so many out there, both men and women who like to play the game; love the chase but will never go through with it.

I won't necessarily call these people time wasters as I'm sure they have the right intentions..

There is a reason why I am asking and it's something that got me thinking last night.

I've been on this site for a few months now, getting onto nearly a year and have yet to find a fuck buddy. I kinda get the feeling that the novelty is wearing a little thin for me and the longer things go on for, the less likely I am to actually go through with anything should it arise.

Does anyone else feel the same, has it crossed your mind or am I alone on this?

Thanks

Pete xx

Can't beat a good cock teaser. And there are a few "
well with cockteasers it's karma they will tease but if you notice they never have a good man in there lives and go from one man to a another,slagging men off just getting older and more bitter if they was a good catch they would of already been in a stable relationship by now so hence teasing cocks is the only way of getting attention because they have nothing else to offer! Wow and it's not even 8am lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

I'm genuine and love meeting new people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious about meeting someone on this site and actually going through with it?

"

We know at least 2

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)


"I've been on here 8 month and only one social meet (she's since left fab - no, not my doing). But despite my lack of meeting success I've made a few friends and love the forums; I never think of leaving - totally love it and i know that in tine, I'll find what I'm looking for."

Now that is a nice response to read! Good for you! xx

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I'm here to meet. I even meet in London!

The OP has been posting on the same subject constantly. He's an intelligent guy so he must know all the rote responses he's going to get. I know he gets offers so I suspect he is looking for someone specific, in which case his likelihood of success is reduced even further."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You seem to often allude to not being happy about your meets / situation, but I'm sure you could change that.

If people get what they want from the site it's all that matters. Good luck with your search and any new adventures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people don't realise the difference between a swingers site and a sex site. This site is the former and so couples have, and rightly so, the control over all (the many) single guys! "

Really?!

That's the kind of thought process that leads to men jumping through hoops & resentment.

Anyone can be 'equal' on here, they just have to believe they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were certain we wanted to but not so sure now.. more to do with the attitude of a lot of the people on here..its just fucking seems to be the general attitude but to us no it isnt..we will see what the future brings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very new to the site and have been chatting to a few lovely ladies, one of whom I have met already.

So there are genuine meeting people, you just need to find the connection. Enjoying my time here so thank you to those who have talked to me.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You can see from people's verifications that people do meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we meet - we have to turn down some these days as we would need more days in the week - dont show all our veris though as some folk get weird about who you met

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Yes we do meet. Just not at the moment due to illness but as some as I'm better

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

I have not met any one off fab but been to clubs and met others that use fab so not sure if that counts lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do meet both as a single male and as part of a couple with my partner but we never have any expectations of anything happening, to me/us we like to have socials first to see if there is a mutual attraction and chemistry unfortunate we both work awkward shifts so finding time can be a big issue

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By *uvesmuffinCouple
over a year ago

Barking


"I do meet both as a single male and as part of a couple with my partner but we never have any expectations of anything happening, to me/us we like to have socials first to see if there is a mutual attraction and chemistry unfortunate we both work awkward shifts so finding time can be a big issue"

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london


"Expecting someone to be a fuck buddy after just a few months is a very high expectation.

Let me rephrase that to....

Find someone who I find attractive to have sex with a "

I am of a similar mindset, one offs don't do it for me anymore so when looking for people to meet I ask myself if I would enjoy meeting them a second and third time etc. If the answer to that question is no then I back off.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Expecting someone to be a fuck buddy after just a few months is a very high expectation.

Let me rephrase that to....

Find someone who I find attractive to have sex with a

I am of a similar mindset, one offs don't do it for me anymore so when looking for people to meet I ask myself if I would enjoy meeting them a second and third time etc. If the answer to that question is no then I back off."

Exactly so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nobody much holds my interest on the site right now, but i used to meet regularly.

if i am interested in meeting someone i let them know. if i'm not interested i won't bother talking to them at all usually, although there are some people i like talking to as friends but i make it clear if i don't want the same things they do.

i probably have messed some people about unintentionally, especially guys who don't keep in contact much so i forget who they are or cba to meet them again as i've lost interest. but most guys who interact with me regularly i won't forget them or our chats and that makes it easier to not mes them about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet from here. But find just walking into a club,playing with them that take our fancy....far easier in the long run.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Expecting someone to be a fuck buddy after just a few months is a very high expectation.

Let me rephrase that to....

Find someone who I find attractive to have sex with a

That's the point - everyone else is meeting and it's you who isn't going through with anything - because no one measures up to the girlfriend you have lost I suspect. This site is brimming with stunning women who would meet you but you're looking for someone who isn't on here. "

I think some areas of the UK may be 'brimming with stunning women who would meet', but it's not the case everywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm serious about meeting but I'm not so deluded to think it's going to happen. For every hot sexy dude like me there are 100 others and 5 women interested in meeting someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trying desperately but no one ever looks at our couples profile

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Fab is full of all kinds of people with all kinds of reasons for being here.

As long as one knows what one's motives are then that's all that matters. That's how I see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm serious about wanting a friend with benefits but I also want that person to be exclusive to me so I don't think I'll find someone like that on here. I probably want more than a fwb if I'm honest.

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By *uvesmuffinCouple
over a year ago

Barking


"Trying desperately but no one ever looks at our couples profile "

But do people know of your Couples profile ?

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trying desperately but no one ever looks at our couples profile

But do people know of your Couples profile ?

Gimp"

I expect it has as much chance of being looked at as any other.....I'm going fishing later

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is a reason why I am asking and it's something that got me thinking last night.

I've been on this site for a few months now, getting onto nearly a year and have yet to find a fuck buddy. I kinda get the feeling that the novelty is wearing a little thin for me and the longer things go on for, the less likely I am to actually go through with anything should it arise.

Now are you looking for a FB or just a meeting? The two are inexorably linked, but are in fact two different aims.

Just give it time and, balanced effort! In other words, don't sit back and await the droves of sex-hungry folk to come hammering at your door, whilst at the same time not becoming an irritating pest with constant messaging to the person that has attracted your attention.

Hope that helos? "

I've got more chance of winning the lottery than finding a fuck buddy. On a serious note, meeting someone who I find attractive for meets is something I'd like to experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is full of all kinds of people with all kinds of reasons for being here.

As long as one knows what one's motives are then that's all that matters. That's how I see it."

Me too

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london


"Trying desperately but no one ever looks at our couples profile "

Whats your couples profile again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We turn turn more offers to meet than we actually meet.. Various reasons for this, the timing being the main one.we have a young family and a business that takes up huge amount of time, friends and family to see, and most importantly time for just us.

This does not mean that we don't meet, we just meet when it is convenient for us...

Annoyingly we have been let down a couple of times by single guys on 2 of the rare opportunities we got to play...This now makes our getting procedure much more thorough. Our profile does say that patience is a virtue with us.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

the more you get out and about the more people you meet and that logically dictates that you have higher chance of meeting someone you connect with.

i meet. ive met off of the forums and i go to clubs. im prepared to go out there, with no expectations just to meet people on the swinger and fet scene. its all about patience and effort and being seen and getting to be known for who you are, thats where attraction lies..so make it a summer of social fun and who knows who youll have in the duvet months of winter xx

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

South

I'm here to meet but no doubt a lot of people on here are not. If they state that on their profile then it makes it easier for you to know what their intentions are.

However a lot of people are simply here for the fantasy and will make the gullible believe they are into meeting up when that is not the case.

There are things you can check to see or ask if you wanna know how serious they are.

Recent pics or verifications

Checking the profile to see if they have a busy life outside fab

Does it state that they are not here to meet

Do they attend socials or clubs etc...

Hope this helps as there are genuine people on here who do want to meet.

Just gotta be patient.

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london


"the more you get out and about the more people you meet and that logically dictates that you have higher chance of meeting someone you connect with.

i meet. ive met off of the forums and i go to clubs. im prepared to go out there, with no expectations just to meet people on the swinger and fet scene. its all about patience and effort and being seen and getting to be known for who you are, thats where attraction lies..so make it a summer of social fun and who knows who youll have in the duvet months of winter xx"

I am of a similar mindset although I don't think I have met anyone as a result of chatting on the forums yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even ask for veris anymore.

I meet. Lots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't even ask for veris anymore.

I meet. Lots. "

Harlot

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